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Anneka101:
Jack took the right decision I must confess!

He should've done this instead of creating stickers when it was Nigeria's turn. Way more lives were lost by his endorsement.

salford1:
He thinks he is in Nigeria where hatred is rife. This FFK is educated but thinks like an illiterate.

And what would you say is rife in Nancy pelosi, bonafide American citizen of America?

vickertony:
Yes I had a major illness around July last year, went for test, they said Typhoid.
But the illness took a very long time to go away, I kept taking numerous drugs, I Lost my taste and sense of smell.
I suspect it was Corona virus that caused the whole problem.
I never had an ear infection or any infections at all, that I didn't treat.
I even read a journal where a woman suffered from covid and had severe vertigo afterwards.

Exact same thing the person said. They had a very serious illness in which they treated typhoid, I visited left and returned , they were still treating typhoid. The test never showed typhoid tho. I helped them do two.The typhoid never cleared, but the sickness mysteriously vanished. Then the next time it struck was with the strange illness. This person was sick so sick and no real diagnoses.

I think you're onto something. Could this be COVID-19? This should be investigated thoroughly.

lexy2014:
What has a man committing serial rape got to do with this:

"They will call women sluts and whores if they commit a crime. They will say fear women. They will say after the devil is women. But look at one of their future forms raping so many teenagers.

He must be innocent. They are trying to bring him down after years of hard work. They are ashawo. Don't believe a thing and woman says. We must hear his side of the story"

What is d correlation between what u said and d thread? Is there any information on d thread that suggests d above?

Your male companions will come with that when a woman commits a crime. Now a male has, let us see the rationalization for it. Don't we need to hear his side of the story? No sexist abuses for the man? No accusations for the girls?

Let's watch and see if there won't be a comment on materialism. Or wise little girls. Or prostitution.

Let men live up to it.

lexy2014:
Am yet to read anything on this thread that correlates with ur comment

Of course not. It's A man that committed serial rape. You won't see or say anything against him.

They will call women sluts and whores if they commit a crime. They will say fear women. They will say after the devil is women. But look at one of their future forms raping so many teenagers.

He must be innocent. They are trying to bring him down after years of hard work. They are ashawo. Don't believe a thing and woman says. We must hear his side of the story

vickertony:
Hi....I have improved but occasional feeling of Imbalance and dizziness.

I can relate because I couldn't walk also but can walk now.
I wanted to ask, did the person ever suffer illness with covid-19 symptoms.
Did they ever lose their sense of taste and smell before this?

I never experienced hearing loss Shas just occasional ear clicks radiating between both ears.

Actually you have a point. Visited this person when they had a really bad catarrh and couldn't get out of bed. They stopped eating because according to them, they can't taste the food anyway. Some 3 months later this strange illness came up.

Wait. Do you think you had Covid19 or its symptoms at any point in time? Did you have any major illness last year ending? Because that's how the person says they began theirs.

BluntTheApostle:
This question is not a follow-up on the batch of four questions you asked earlier. Would I be right to say you wasted my time asking those four earlier questions?




I have always been neutral, irrespective of the gender of those involved in whatever allegations that grace the social media.




It doesn't matter how or where it began. This is not a blame game. If we want to address this issue, we must do so sincerely. By reinforcing bad behaviors, we are making sure that they continue to repeat themselves.




Please, be sincere.

You yourself know that everything that you put up there is not popular, at least not anymore. In churches and even in the law, women now enjoy far more privileges than men. There is a law that protects women against domestic violence, but none for men.

Men and women now condemn wife beating with so much anger. Anyone who makes excuses for the man is immediately condemned and equally dragged.

But you see women supporting killer wives very openly, even on popular outlets like Linda Ikeji blog.

I don't think men will openly support a killer husband so brazenly, and still get much support.

This is not a gender war. But I think that by giving women more privileges and reinforcement at the expense of men, you will be creating more new problems.

This is not a gender war, but the result is still men getting away with a lot, and shouting loudly when a woman does it. Why the double standards?

There are men who openly support wife killers, and if you don't believe it(or want to pretend they aren't there) there is a nairalander who said he killed is girlfriend by poisoning her. All the male monikers came to support him. Not one person condemned him. Is that not brazen support? Or is it neutrality?

What of all the threads on men beating women -- and for pages and pages there is rationalization and support for it? This forum is a microcosm of how men think and what they will permit. Somehow it is now wrong for the woman to have killed him in "self defense"? Because it is a man lying dead?



This particular topic, if you look at it without sentiment, has been filled with so many hateful posts for several pages about the alleged rape victim. By who? Male monikers. It went on for pages and you did not seem to notice that.

So many other threads have come up with the same trend. It's getting clearer that most Nigerian men are sadistic, entitled and disturbed.

If the lady killed him in self defense, nobody is applauding her. It was her life or the deceaseds life, and she's lucky she came out alive. If he had killed her you know that your male companions would've called her a prostitute, slut, bitch, hoe and everything under the sun because she would be dead, and they only quantify women as sex objects. We would have had so many questions to ask her.


Nobody is supporting murder, but when men come online to act like the man is utterly innocent once it involves a woman, then it is a gender war.


PS:

You see, because online, people are faceless, they post the most disgusting things they ordinarily wouldn't say for fear. And it is online we see a lot of disgusting comments. It is a true reflection of men in Nigeria, that for 5 pages they ran riot rubbishing allegations that they cannot oppose with any form of evidence themselves. You probably didn't see all the abuses and hypocrisy leveled against her. It must be part of the double standards. In fact, all these pages of traffic are to discredit the allegations. But a man said his wife in a hospital with their molested son was because he asked for a DNA test, and all men rushed to believe his story for pages and pages.

You can't blame some women for feeling good when they see it happen to men, because men get away with a lot, just because they are men. Some have been victims who were rubbished.

Anyway, there are better things to debate on because we know that men must support men no matter how evil or wicked they have been. It's the bro code.

BluntTheApostle:
I was neutral each time.

You won't find my comments in the original post for each of these allegations

But in the post about the commissioner of health, I did make a post when someone said he trusted that the commissioner could not have driven the aggrieved woman out of her office.

In line with your neutrality, why do you feel there is hypocrisy in domestic violence reportage?

Have you been neutral when cases involving women come up? Have you stood at the true side? Because neutrality permits great evil to go unchecked.

Hypocrisy in domestic violence began from men, but now with equalling rights, some ground has shifted.

When a woman is battered, it's her mouth, she talks too much, what could she have done/said to make a man a beast? She should apologize to him. She pushed him.

When she's cheated on, she must have been hoarding sex, she deserved it, all women are cheats and hypergamous.

When he's not caring, she should go and pray, she must've killed his emotions.

When he offends and abuses her, she should go on her knees and apologize to him, no matter what, even if he's absolutely wrong.

When she reports her son was raped and demands compensation, they knew it! Women are always after money.

When she's raped, she must be a prostitute in a soured transaction.

When he kills her, she must have pushed him, some women can turn a gentle man into a beast. We need to hear his side of the story, this is not normal! But you see, fear women!

When he draws her blood, that's a lesson to all other women to behave themselves.

When she pours acid on her husband, she's a devil, fear women, evil women.

The above is not hypocrisy, but some of the responses men give. Why is it that women cannot give excuses the way men have done for centuries?

I'll come to edit this when I can.

But above are some instances we see commonly and a perusal of comments shows it's the general sentiment.

I've seen a real life case a woman was forced to kneel to apologize to a man with her face swollen black and blue from battery. She never touched him. And he was feeling good at the hypocrisy since it favored him. The men presiding the settlement saw nothing wrong. But flip the coin and see what commentary and demonization would follow a woman who does the same.

Men only want to hear the other side of the story when it's a man involved in an evil act. And even then, they will rationalize it with the above scenarios.

BluntTheApostle:
Your conclusion is misleading.

The rape culture in Nigeria is driven by multifaceted factors under the umbrella of MOTIVE, not necessarily gender.

In the matter of Don Davis, the commissioner of education who wanted to silence the case is a woman, not a man. Her motive is perhaps to keep her job.

Some women are against Don Davis's mother perhaps because Kumuyi is their "spiritual daddy" or a man they adore.

Every time there is a case of rape in Nigeria, the hyprocrisy it generates is never driven by gender per se, but by selfishness.

For example, when Biodun Fatoyinbo was accused of raping Busola Dakolo, there were women here who called Busola all sort of names, simply because their pastor was the accused.

These same women may be supporting this killer Corps member today, perhaps because they feel it would be an excuse to use should they find themselves in the same situation in the future.

If you say men support rape to protect their interests, should we also say that women who support killer wives do so to protect their interest or future intentions (to kill their husbands)?

What I know is that women are now becoming much better at defending their folks than men.

When a man beats his wife, and pictures of her battered face go online, you will see fury from everywhere, men and women alike. The man will be called names, dragged up and down, and some people will even threaten him with legal actions. You will find men among this mob, doing their best to bring the wife beater to justice. No one would want to hear his own side of the story. As far as everyone is concerned, a man should not raise his hand to any woman no matter what she might have done.

But when a woman kills her husband, excuses will start flying by. Hypocrites (men and women alike) will start saying, "there must be a reason why she did it. Maybe the husband was cheating on her. No woman will just wake up and kill her husband just like that. He must have hurt her badly."

All this nonsense needs to stop if we want to end some certain societal ills such as domestic violence.

If a killer woman is given an opportunity to say her own side of the story, then why do we shut wife beaters up with the words never put your hands on a woman no matter what

We can't use hypocrisy to end domestic violence.

Nor can we use it to reduce other societal vice.

Only 4 questions for you:

1. When the woman reported that her husband raped his 9 month old son, what was your response?

2. When Don Davis mother reported that he was molested, what was your response?

3. When the doctor was accused of rape, what was your response?

4. When this lady accused the deceased of rape, what is your response?

Missssii:
I have stopped being shocked about how some men on nairaland reason. For my sanity I just shake my head, scroll and vow to lay a proper foundation of empathy and respect for my children. Cannot dare birth boys that will come online to act a fool.

They're becoming rape mindset capital of the world. You'll wonder if they even reason. Worst are some women who follow them because it's never happened to them before.

agathaamoses:
I would not be surprised if it’s actually self defence against rape. Dia are so many rapists amongst us. Especially d under 30s. Below are posts by a rapist on nairaland few days ago

That person you quoted is a typical entitled rape apologist on this forum. All the men you see shooting down any rape allegation are all rapists.

Just listen to what someone will type. You force a person into sex, force her to claim she liked it, then later stand and say all women are sluts.

ruffhandu:
I don't know, but somehow, I am strongly convinced by this story. Some people asking why didn't the girl speak up since, let me ask you. How many rape victims have shared their story? The ones bold enough to come forward constitute less than 1% of cases. Did you read that she shared it only with her sister? Did you also read that he started threatening the sister when he heard she had known about the matter?

A country where policemen rape citizens in police stations, prison wardens impregnate female prisoners, rape victims are not bold enough to come forward, because those who should enforce laws, include many rapists parading the streets, will make jest of you.

Let's even consider this. Did the girl go there with the machete? I think the man had wielded it as this girl claimed, and as soon as she had the opportunity, she used it. That could happen so swiftly that the man won't have any chance of defending himself.

Rapists deserve worse than the law metes out to them in this country. Sometimes the police just collects money and frees them. How many rapists have been jailed in Nigeria? An for how long? Rape is evil and can destroy a life.

The first woman to be executed after a long time in USA, by Trump's administration, killed a pregnant woman, ripped her and took out the baby. History shows that she was a victim of so much abuse from her step father, starting from when she was 8.

With the way Nigerian men reason about rape, it would not be surprising most of them are rapists who want to protect their interests.

They didn't ask why Don Davis didn't report his molesters. They didn't ask why it took him time to report it. Instead they were angry that his mother was following up the case. The anger was diverted to the women. The male is always innocent. They called get a gold digger, a woman looking for justice. Imagine if she was the one who said she was molested, can you imagine what they would say?

Beremx:
So because the girl is lying, she should be called olosho, hoe, slut etc? You don’t know the trauma rape victims go through. Pray your sisters will never fall victim because there are potential rapists everywhere.

Do you mind the breed of women haters on this forum? Just look at them quick to label, blind to see facts and very eager to exert their wrong ideas all over the place.

Any thing said against a man must be a lie. They will rationalize it to somehow make out the woman to be a devil. No wonder they are always arrested abroad. They think anyone will care that they feel entitled to do anything they want to women.

UDUJ:
Lumi too many idiots on this forum. I gave up on them a long long time ago.

I wasn't surprised to see this lady come out and say the dude raped her sometime back. This is their usual modus operandi. Always using the rape card. Rubbish. The Precious lady is a runs girl with well known evil psychotic tendencies and also takes crack. A hardcore olosho with aggressive tendencies. She butchered that dude like a Christmas goat just because a pre arranged sexual agreement was breached or something like that. Too many dumb fvcks on this forum.

Happy new year bro. May success remain with us all through the year. Cheers

What if after all your aspersions she actually is telling the truth?

Even a prostitute has a right to say when and when not she wants to have sex with her client. If you can't understand that aspect of consent, women will always be lying about rapes to you.

If men are always so innocent of rape allegations as you erroneously believe, why are they always in the news for raping women and other men, too?

Same thing with the sex for grades scandal that was exposed. Illogical men here still said it's a false allegation, yet all the men with intent to do it were sacked.

Everything is a false rape accusation, there are a lot of rape apologists on this forum. Even a man who raped his son is innocent.

What do we expect? Same men who touch women without their permission in markets and can't stop when they say no and always feel entitled to a woman's body. Because to them all women are olosgoes, bitches and sluts.

In a foreign country, some of the posts you nairaland men make will land you in a cell. Most of you are in cells for that reasoning of yours.

byrron:
Breaking News For You

My vote counted in electing the president elect (BIDEN) and I don't use PVC

You are the one that should leave US alone since You sound more like someone from Somalia with your nihilistic and frustrated responses over the impeachment of a president that is not even your country's president.

You voted an outspoken racist whose corrupt son will destroy the country? And you are proud of it.

byrron:
Not surprised at all, even his niece did wrote a book about how her family created the world's most dangerous man.

What would his niece know about him? Seems she was paid to write sentimental things. Anything anti-Trump sells. Black people will buy and believe it, and the other half will tout it everywhere. Recent politics is all about labeling and cancelling.

byrron:
Resigning now is meaningless, he should have done that earlier on to avoid being the first president to be impeached twice and subsequently banned from holding any political office ever again in United States if convicted in the Senate.

Nancy is quite insubordinate and vindictive. What will the old woman gain from her hatred of Trump? Does she really have their Nations best interests at heart? Or is this her personal squabble? Since she tore up those papers, it seems she has other deeper issues and things are more personal than they should be. She shouldn't be taken serious.

vickertony:
Boss..... Happy New year
How's this person you talked about....is the person able to talk and Walk now?
Any improvements?

Happy New year to you, and thanks for asking. I trust you are in excellent shape now.

Yes, big improvements.

They don't wash their ears any more. I don't know if it's what helped them. They can walk and talk today, but occasionally experience dizzy spells, complaining of veering to the right when walking. But the person is bubbling everywhere now, lol. I Will call it a miracle, because if you see this person before...

PS: I forgot to add concerning your previous post about hearing loss, yes. One of their initial complaint was the ear just blocking off suddenly then opening again.

Chisaedhor:
Really don't know the section to post this.

My 3 year old son loves cartoon especially PJ Mask so much to the extend he could watch it from 7pm to 3a.m in the morning

If you take him to the bed room he won't sleep, he cries and if not this cartoon no body watches any other program anymore.

He use to be very very intelligent before now, its seem this PJ Mask has entered his head.

Please help me, how can I stop him or distract him from this??

Modern Nigerians are simply breeding spoilt children.

Before you take offense, everyone claims they want their children to have a better life than they did. Some don't even cane their children anymore. You began switching on the TV, because you felt it was posh to do so, so you know exactly how to stop it. Stop it the way you started it.

This is how children watch too much TV, eat too much sugar, run around aimlessly too much, don't greet their elders in a society that thrives on such norms, don't clean up after themselves because there are so many house maids, don't have basic manners because they are being brought up to stand up for themselves and they don't want them to have "low self esteem". All those are simply social experiments on parenting that will go wrong. You are not pampering a child by allowing it excesses, or teaching it to become a strong kid (baby goat) by feeling it shouldn't greet people if it doesn't want to (who wants to?), you are simply spoiling it for the future society. Some will come out to tell you how they enjoyed growing up without rules and claim to be well balanced, but they won't tell you the losses they have in other aspects of their lives.

You are supposed to be a parent, not a friend or slave. No child will appreciate when you are to have guided them and didn't because you were too busy trying to play friendship with them.

Even the colonials caned their children, deprived then of TV, and they didn't become a terrible society because of that. It's too much relaxation in parenting that makes society evil.

The sort of relaxation modern Nigerian parents want.
Your kids will never be like white kids, no matter how posh it seems to you, because you have completely different values.

Miracle1991:
Op. This is doya da kwai. Not kwia

I thought it's only me who noticed the spelling errors.

kennywagz:
yes I know

So, you hate your mother?

If only she could have a chance to defend herself as you've brought her out for your fellow men to rubbish her. What else do you want us to say to you? Honor your mother and your father. Your mother is not the source of your problems.

If you were looking for advice, you wouldn't have typed all that. You came to make others join you to hate her.

phorget:
You will make a very bad judge should you be one. You can't be a judge in your own case and since the op has decided to become a judge in her own case then my hands are off.
I only asked to hear from the other person whom the op had crucified in absentia so how come you are here tackling my judgement.
Have you ever heard of anybody who takes blame even when he/she is at fault? It is in human nature bro and I guess you haven't experienced much in life.
Me as a man why should I be mad at my wife or fiancee progress and achievements? Don't you know how women behaves? Even with the long statements the op made what stops her from just saying "my dear it's ok, I know you'll do more for me someday".
Until you hear from all the parties involved please learn never to pass a judgement. Even in a lawsuit the judge will still hear from the accused so why are you making it look all difficult?

1. Work with evidence. Any judge will work with evidence and not his imagination. You are the kind of judge who conjures situations to suit his fancy and judges amiss (sorry if that sounds harsh).

2. You expect her to fall over for the guy with your, "my dear it's ok, I know you'll do more for me someday".

Must she say what you want her to say before she is right? Was he right to shout at her abusively on the phone, and she must take it because she's in a relationship? That's verbal abuse and it is not something to pamper. Everyone has their tempers, nobody was born to be at the receiving end of another persons own.

She must not accept verbal abuse unless she wants to. And clearly, she doesn't want to.

3. Because you will not be angry doesn't mean he will not be angry. He has exhibited manipulative behaviors and all you can come up with is that she didn't soothe his ego. That you are understanding doesn't mean this man is. Many evil people exist.

Whene'er a relationship goes wrong it is always the woman's fault, going by majority of comments here. As a good judge you claim to be, with testimony she's given, you will still work with it -- not in absentia persons.

You've passed judgement without knowing the truth, too. Forget his side, because he could lie to exonerate himself.

phorget:
Were you there when he was shouting?
Are you just passing a judgement base on what the op wrote up there?

were you there when he was not shouting?

So you would rather imagine what did not happen, simply because you don't believe the only evidence you have in front of you and it doesn't sound like what you want to hear?

Are you passing judgement on the testimony that the man has never given? Or you would rather logically use the one at hand to draw your conclusion?

roGF22:
Lol...Well, I actually didn't say anything was wrong with the woman,..just looking for what might have triggered the "fight" and offer my advice..that's y I used the word "Probably"... The " tone" I put there, I don't actually think its a gender specific things so I'm not actually using it as a "marker put up for women"..I just used it generally

Why are you looking for triggers when the guy is obviously out of place? Would you sit and listen to someone abuse you over something you bought with your own money for yourself? You would surely have hung up, no matter what.

Nothing justifies him screaming and abusing her over her own property and then expecting her to be meek about it. He provoked her.

cardoctor:
Of all the oyibo wey dey this world na dis one.......

Team foreign women.

Team foreign women.

This guy punishing this woman must be one of those guys who scream team foreign women and claim they are so desired by white women.

What a wicked dirtbag scammer to put his benefactor in such a terrible place and then run out to spend her money.

phorget:
Your side of the story,
How about us hearing his own side of the story please!

His side will surely justify him shouting at her about a car she bought without one naira from him, right?

roGF22:
Let me qoute this " I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it"

He was feeling guilty that he was unable to financially assist u in getting the car, then u made those quoted statement and that was when he got angry!..probably the tone that u used in saying that...if u had told him that in a subtle way, I don't think he would have gotten angry,..probably u said it in a way that to him it sounds like u meant the opposite...like "u don't owe me an apology,..we weren't married so I'm not expecting more than moral support...".. Meaning- " u've not been assisting me financially b4, so u need not apologise,.. I can't blame u anyways, we r not married, so suit urself"..lols..anyways, that's just my tot.

For the sake of love u have for him, still call him to sort things out,..

Oh, it's her tone now, is it.

You've seen a productive woman who isn't a liability and what else can you say is wrong with her , if not another impossible marker put up for women. What do men want? Robots or women?

pocohantas:
She read on Nairaland that alfa males are looking for women with money that can buy cars- na im she go implement am for reality.

They don't know that it's a way men manipulate women to give them everything they own, including cheese, by claiming they are liabilities, meanwhile they can't match up themselves and later use emotional blackmail. Check out the inferiority complex.

koyyes:
That's why no female should take the words of a negroe serious.

They are confused elements. They rant about urgent 2k females and independent females at the same time.

What your boyfriend is suffering from is inferiority complex. You got a new car and he is pissed. He prefers you sell the car and enter keke to work. He prefers you even quit your job and wait for his peanuts at the end of the month.

You have done your best by trying to reach out. But you should also have it in mind that your boyfriend is suffering from crab mentality and bad belle. People who deal with such don't usually progress in life. I think you are dating yourself.

What has buying a car got to do with being submissive? Negroes who use that word always end up being mentally unstable.

Unfortunately she bought into the lie that women should give men gifts. Now she's the only one giving him money, but he's giving her nothing. He sounds like a broke one, despite what she says.

Give it a minute for the men to look for some fault in her, since they need to protect an emotional manipulator of their kind.

Habby222:
Advice needed pls.

I've been with this guy for close to four years now and its not really been a perfect relationship. Lots of ups and downs due to what I can term insecurity. At some point we're cool and the next minute issues arises just like every other relationship.

He's a good guy to some extent as he showers me with love ( my thoughts)and a lot of times he gives gifts not money though. I've had to give financial assistance to him alot of times, he returns some if he deemed it necessary and doesn't return if he so wishes. I've never complained about this and still always willing to help him out whenever he is in need. Pls note that we're both financially ok.

This gesture of me offering him financial help stopped when I realise he doesn't do same to me. I've had to test him on serval occasions that I needed financial help and he has never for once helped out on those request despite knowing he has. I never needed the money though, I made those request to know if I could actually fall back to him if I'm in need.

Last year October, I told him about my plans of getting a new car as I got tired of the one I was using. Pls note that I did not request him to buy for me neither did I ask for any support whatsoever. I contacted my source in the US with my budget and spec, was able to find one in a short time and I paid for it. All of this moves were known to him. By December, the car arrived and cleared accordingly with every expenses incurred payed by me. He gave some moral support though.

A week after getting the car, he called me one morning and started apologising for not supporting financially in getting the car which I told him I had no issues with that. I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it. The next I heard was him ranting on phone that he doesn't expect less from me, said I'm a proud and that he knew I wasn't going to be a good wife. He said he has always known I wasn't going to be a submissive wife and a whole lot of other derogatory words despite not having issues whatsoever prior to that time. I ended the call as I was so surprised he could say those mean words to me.

All through that day he didn't call back and I did not as well cos I was expecting him to realise I was hurt by his actions. A week pass and still no call from him so I decided to call him and he didn't pick. I'd sent a lot of of messages to him and has not replied to any. I'd gone to his house to check up on him and not met him too. Its been three weeks now and we haven't spoken and seen despite all of my effort to talk to him and or see.

Guys please I'm confused and do not know how to handle the issue. Pls advice.

Classic red pill manipulation he's using on you.

You even give him money, though he never gives you any. Did you never wonder why? You really believe the lie that most men tell, that women should give them money?

From dating him, you should know how broke men reason. He's gold digging you. And you seem to want to return to it. If he's financially ok, why are you giving him money? Why did he get angry? He's broke, and you're trying to cover it up. He's just manipulating you. You're trying too hard to please him.

You think he showers you with love, you don't know it. He loves you yet you're the one making some sort of sacrifice for him. Always.

Madam, you are hell-bent on an emotionally manipulative man. What do you want us to tell you? Go on your knees and pray for him, because his heart isn't in it at all.