craigkoel1989: Anytime my wife makes me angry I destroy things, the first day she made me angry I destroyed the television remote, another day was the dining table and yesterday I smashed her Android Samsung phone even though I later became remorse and bought her a new one.
I am afraid I might beat her one day.
What is wrong with me and what can i do to stop it?
Icedplane: A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.
She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.
Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.
Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.
What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.
Now she's begging my mum to beg me. Am done
Hello Op, you did the right thing. Don't let anybody's word get at you because you'll be the one to feel the pain alone when she starts misbehaving as a wife. Let her go and move on with your life.
Don't try to play love love and end up regretting it.
If you mumu, you'll share that girl with another man. BE WISE.
CastingCrowns: Change really is constant.. I recall those days when I couldn't stay a day without reading a book but nowadays just looking at one exhausts me.. I've also lost interest in watching movies, they annoy me immensely..
Let's share what we have lost interest in nowadays.
I have lost interest in Christmas celebrations, festivities & Nigeria.
UmuEri: My brother, I never knew Buhari will do so very well. I once opposed him but looking at the indices now, both security and economically, Buhari has even surpassed expectations
UmuEri: Opinion: It is a fact that Constitution is ment for the people and not the other way round, so the national Assembly has every right to amend the Constitution.
The truth is that Buhari is doing very well in all sectors of the economy, don't mind some IPOBs trying to paint him bad.
The level of infrastructural development embarked so far by Mr President is unprecedented. He is fixing all our roads simultaneously and revolutionizing the agric sector.
It is those who don't like his work in the agric sector that are empowering bandits to attack farmers
And all these news you hear about insecurity is a massive conspiracy to bring the President down. The media is exaggerating it
We that didn't support him before have now seen the light. We never knew he could perform this wonderfully and that is why we are now advocating for third term for Mr President.
It's obvious UmuEri is not in his right senses, the hardship don reset him brain may Amadioha heal you bro
Biodun556: Goodluck Jonathan spent days denying the chibok girls were kidnapped.
There were conspiracy theories that opponents wanted to use the news to spare Jonathan government. This allowed Boko haram to take the girls across borders before Buhari came and rescue some of them.
Buhari is more of action not talk talk.
Timely action of Buhari rescued the Kankara boys successfully.
Cyberterror: Appeal Court Justice Stephen Adah is just flexing PDP bribe money. Even he knows that his decisions on Metuh and Dasuki will be overturned when EFCC goes to the Supreme Court for them to maintain the course of Justice. They just allowed Metuh to celebrate Christmas with his family. He is going to return to jail next year.
Katlyst: I expected much from Aisha as first lady but she didn't surprise me just like her husband.
She and Turai will likely rank lowest amongst past first ladies in Nigeria.
Despite her grammatical errors, Patience performed better than Aisha in that position.
Aisha knows Buhari is dead that's why she has gone into hiding. She knows she's no longer the first lady but is just playing the script she has been asked to play
Studio247: I leave in a compound with about 13 separate flats all in same place
The pumping machine used by the entire compound is connected to my meter which 3 flats are using the meter including myself
Note that: if myself and the other 2 flats did not pay for NEPA bill and they cut the light the entire compound will not have water as the machine is connected to my light directly.
The big problem is Each time NEPA brings bill my flat alone sometimes pay as high as 9k or 10 we share the bill into 3
What are mine using ? just TV n fridge and bulbs.
The worst is other tenants have their lights connected to the landlords own and they pay just 1k monthly.
The landlord have a mini production factory in the house which he also use the pumping machine to pump his water.
I feel the pumping machine is responsible for the high bill I keep paying Which I complained to the landlord and he told me that pumping machine does not consume light that I should go to NEPA office and complain.
My question now is does pumping machine consume light? Could it be responsible for the high bill?
please if you use one or you have an idea please tell so I know what to do.
Saintbossman: 2023; OPEN LETTER TO FORMER PRESIDENT, GOODLUCK JONATHAN BY PRINCE ERONDU UCHE PEU, PANPIEC DIRECTOR OF MEDIA & PUBLICITY.
Prince Erondu Uche PEU, the Director of Media and Publicity of PAN NIGERIA PRESIDENCY OF IGBO EXTRACTION COALITION PANPIEC, the umbrella body of all the groups championing for Igbo to become the next President in 2023 has written an open letter to Nigerian former President, His Excellency, Dr Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. In the letter, he advised the former President not to allow his good reputation to be dragged to the mud, by yielding to the pressure currently being mounted upon him by those he referred to as the enemies of Ndigbo to contest for the office of the President in 2023. He told the former President not to allow himself to be used against the Igbo nation. He further advised him to maintain his honour till death.
Read the full text below:
Dear Former President and Dr. Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, OPEN LETTER TO FORMER PRESIDENT DR. GOODLUCK EBELE JONATHAN.
I am constrained to write you this open letter. I decided to make it an open letter in order for this message to get to you, and to have witnesses, that i wrote to you on this subject. The contents of this letter, therefore should be made available to all interest groups and individuals.
There have been wide speculations that you are under pressure to run for the office of the President in 2023, a position you lost to the incumbent, President Mohammad Buhari in 2015. Your visits to the Presidential villa, hosting of APC members, body languages of some PDP stalwarts, your silence over this issue, amongst others have raised concerns from many quarters. People like us who love, respect and learn from you as a great leader don't know what to believe.
Your Excellency, you are one of the top Politicians who have enjoyed the full support of the Igbo nation. During your two presidential elections, you won massively in all the Igbo states and got the vote of majority of Igbos living outside Igbo land. Many believe that the sudden attachment of "Azikiwe and Ebele" to your name during your Presidential campaigns was to get the support of the Igbos. This claim, whether true or false does not stop the fact that you are well loved, respected and supported in Igbo land. Please, do not take these gestures for granted.
If you yield to this alleged pressure being mounted on you by enemies of Ndigbo to contest the 2023 Presidential election, which is targeted at jeopardizing the chances of the Igbo nation producing the next President, you will have the following results;
1. You will fail 2023 Presidential election. Igbos and those who have sympathy for them will not vote for you. 2. You will loose your longstanding relationship and respect in Igbo land, Nigeria and the world at large. 3. You will enter the black list of Ndigbo. This generation and unborn generations will write and read your story as the man who betrayed Ndigbo. 4. All you stand for as a good man will be rubbished.
My dear former President, I advice you to reject this alleged offer being presented to you. It will only downgrade you. Those forces that made you fail 2015 election, those who fought your government tirelessly, including new ones will emerge to make sure that they put you to shame. 2023 quest for you will only end in shame and regret. Your Excellency, having attained the highest positions in the land - Deputy Governor, Governor, Vice President, President and President again and having written your name in gold in the annals of history, it is there honourable that you end well. "Great men exit this world leaving behind good memories of themselves". Don't drag your good reputation to the mud because of the advice of enemies of Ndigbo. Maintain your honour till death.
Finally, I urge you to reciprocate the love and support you enjoy from the Igbos by supporting a Nigerian President of Igbo extraction in 2023. Prevail on PDP to zone the Presidential slot to Igbo land in 2023. I pray that the Almighty God Who blessed and elevated you so high that people now use you as a point of contact in prayer like the biblical JABEZ, will not allow you to run like a man and fall like a woman. Like we say in Ngwa Land, "Chineke ekwela ngwere gbaa aji" (may God never allow lizard to grow pubic hairs)
Prince Erondu Uche PEU PANPIEC Director of Media & Publicity. December 12, 2020.
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The infamous Prince wasting his time. Who told him jonathan wants to contest?
The Leader of the Indigenous People Of Biafra, IPOB, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu, has launched Eastern Security Network to tackle insecurity, Igbere TV reports.
Nnamdi Kanu made this known in a live broadcast monitored by IGBERE TV.
Announcing the security outfit, Nnamdi Kanu who referenced Amotekun and Miyetti Allah security outfits, said, it becomes important following the incessant killings across the country, stating that the newly launched security outfit will safeguard the forest and neighborhood in the old eastern region.
Recounting the recent killings by Fulani Herdsmen and bandits across the Northern states, including Benue (Middle Belt), Mazi Nnamdi Kanu, warned that on no account should any sitting governor or any Nigerian government official doubt the resolve of IPOB to secure the entirety of South East and South South against the invading Fulani Herdsmen.
According to him, “any attempt to jeopardize the lives of Biafrans will be resisted “We have come to die for what we believe in, we have come that we may be free,” Mazi Nnamdi Kanu added.
The founder Radio Biafra also dispelled the assertion that the security network are Biafran Army. He said; “the aim of launching Eastern Security Network (ESN) is to protect lives and properties and to further ensure terrorists who had made their way into Nigeria, doesn’t have liberty to dwell in Biafra land.
Vote for us, we will end insecurity, we will bring back the chibok girls, boko haram will be a thing of the past, 1 naira will be equal to 1 dollar una don win now things don worst, nobody is talking anymore.
Friend22: This is the sick mentality I am talking about. The man clearly said "those of you in marriageable age.". Some of you are prepared to be sleeping with girls every other week but you don't want to get married and you expect God not to curse or punish you and those girls who open their legs for you.
This excuse of not being ready isn't tenable. Nigeria no really hold you. Plan yiur life well and thihga will happen. People are getting married every week with little they have and God is blessing them through that.
Stop telling people what they want to hear... tell them the truth?
Go to the North 19years old Aboki that is driving Keke has 6 wives
Is marriage an achievement?
I HOPE I MADE SENSE
Yes you did. Everytime marriage marriage marriage they won't say something else just pushing young men and women into things they are not ready for at the end of the day you see some commit suicide because they ventured into something they are not ready for. There are lots of things to address in this nation than marriage, Nigeria has turned into something else and only God can help us
Anthony Joshua will defend his IBF, WBA and WBO world heavyweight titles against Kubrat Pulev in what is the biggest fight to take place on these shores during the remainder of 2020.
Joshua (23-1) is hoping to move a step closer to that dream unification showdown with fellow British heavyweight king Tyson Fury next summer, while for the veteran Pulev (28-1) this could be the last chance of victory at the very highest level.
While Joshua will start as a hot favourite to retain his titles and close in on that huge Fury showdown, heavyweight boxing is a dangerous game. And ‘The Gypsy King’ may well be sat behind his sofa in Morecambe. Lancashire with his eyes closed hoping nothing goes wrong for his big rival.
If Joshua does prevail, it will be full steam ahead for next summer and the biggest fight in British boxing history.
Joshua vs Pulev date, time, venue and tickets:
Joshua vs Pulev will take place at the SSE Arena, Wembley (moved from the O2 Arena) in London on Saturday December 12, 2020.
After the recent relaxation of COVID-19 restrictions for UK sporting events, a crowd of 1000 fans will be allowed into the arena. Tickets went on sale on Friday December 4 and unsurprisingly they sold out in double-quick time.
The fight had initially been due to take place at at the Tottenham Hotspur Stadium on June 20, but that date was scuppered by the onset of the global COVID-19 pandemic.
With the bout taking place in the UK, ring walk times for Joshua vs Pulev are likely to be between 2200 GMT (1700 ET) and 2300 GMT (1800 ET).
Joshua vs Pulev TV channel, live stream and PPV price:
Joshua is a huge box-office draw and his last bout – that revenge victory over Andy Ruiz Jr in their rematch in Saudi Arabia last December – drew a domestic record 1.6million pay-per-view buys on Sky Sports Box Office. Each paid £24.95 for the privilege.
The Pulev fight will again be a Sky Sports PPV at a price of £24.95 with Joshua continuing his highly successful association with the UK’s biggest pay-TV broadcaster.
Joshua vs Pulev will be showed by streaming platform DAZN ($19.99 per month or $99 for an annual subscription) in the United States, along with its other eight markets (Canada, Germany, Japan, Italy, Spain, Brazil, Switzerland and Austria).
DAZN has also announced that Joshua vs Pulev will air in more than 200 markets as part of its December global launch. But not in the UK of course due to AJ’s contract with Sky Sports.
Joshua vs Pulev odds Not surprisingly Joshua is a heavy favourite to improve his record to 24-1 and retain his world heavyweight titles. He is a best-priced 1/8 to come out victorious and as short as 1/10 in places. Pulev meanwhile is generally a 5/1 or 11/2 shot with the Draw a 33/1 or 40/1 chance.
For those punters looking for a little better in terms of return for their money, Joshua is 3/1 to win by decision or technical decision.
Joshua vs Pulev weights:
The weigh-in for Joshua vs Pulev will be held 24 hours before the fight takes place – on Friday December 11.
Joshua weighed in at 237lbs (16st 13lbs) for his last bout, that points defeat of Ruiz Jr in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia in December 2019, That was some 10 pounds lighter than he had been for the first meeting.
Pulev weighed in at 248lbs (17st 10lbs) for his last ring outing, a unanimous decision over Rydell Booker in Fresno, California last November.
Anthony Joshua record and profile: Anthony Oluwafemi Olaseni Joshua, or ‘AJ’, was born on October 15, 1989 and is now 31 years old.
Joshua, born in Watford, stands 6ft 6ins tall with a reach of 82ins. His current CV as a professional stands at 23-1 with 21 wins inside distance.
The only blot is that upset loss to Andy Ruiz Jr at Madison Square Garden in June 2019. It was quickly avenged with a points victory in Saudi Arabia in December 2019.
Before that, Joshua had looked invincible. He transitioned effortlessly from 2012 Olympic gold to world-title glory.
His first major test as a pro came against fellow Briton Dillian Whyte in December 2015. AJ prevailed via a seventh-round TKO.
Joshua would claim his first world title in his very next fight, demolishing Charles Martin inside two rounds in April 2016.
The next big moment came at Wembley Stadium in April 2017 when AJ fought an unforgettable duel with Wladimir Klitschko.
Joshua was down and almost out before winning via a sensational stoppage in Round 11. The win saw Joshua add the WBA world heavyweight title to his IBF belt.
Victories over Carlos Takam, WBO champion Joseph Parker and Alexander Povetkin followed before that disastrous night against Ruiz Jr. The 30/1 underdog shocked the world with a seventh-round stoppage.
Joshua immediately forced that Saudi Arabia rematch. He regained his titles by boxing smartly against an opponent who appeared to have already lost to the refrigerator.
Kubrat Pulev record and profile:
Kubrat Pulev was born on May 4, 1981 in Sofia, Bulgaria and is now 39 years old. He has a professional record of 28-1. Fourteen of those wins came inside distance.
Pulev, known as ‘The Cobra’, turned professional in 2009. He stands 6ft 4½ins tall with a reach of 79½ins. Pulev won his first 20 fights to earn a shot at Wladimir Klitschko’s world heavyweight titles.
Klitschko vs Pulev took place in Altona, Germany in November 2014. For the Bulgarian it was a rude awakening.
‘Dr Steelhammer’ wasn’t always the most exciting world champion to watch. But in his 17th title defence he was clearly confident of an early night.
Pulev was down twice in the opening round, and only real heart took it any further. The end was highlight-reel stuff as Klitschko closed the show with a crushing left hook in round 5.
It has taken six long years for Pulev to get back to world-title level. He has rebuilt his career with some decent victories over the likes of British pair Dereck Chisora and Hughie Fury. But there is a big difference between that and truly elite level.
Pulev’s co-promoter Arum is convinced his man can shock the world. But he’s a promoter, he would say that, wouldn’t he?
Joshua vs Pulev undercard Lawrence Okolie (14-0, 11 KOs) takes on Krzysztof Glowacki (31-2, 19 KOs) for the vacant WBO Cruiserweight World Title on the Joshua vs Pulev undercard on December 12.
Meanwhile two exciting Heavyweight matchups have been added to the supporting line-up.
Hughie Fury (24-3, 14 KOs) takes on Poland’s Mariusz Wach (36-6, 19 KOs), a former opponent of Wladimir Klitschko, Alexander Povetkin and Dillian Whyte.
“I’m very excited to be back in action again on December 12,” said Fury. “It’s been a while and I’m ready to show what I’m all about. I’ve been in the gym working on a lot of different aspects of my game, perfecting what I needed to do.”
Meanwhile Martin Bakole and Sergey Kuzmin clash for the vacant WBC International Heavyweight Title after their proposed fight earlier in the year was rescheduled. Both men share respective 15-1 records and will be looking to gatecrash the world rankings.
“I’m really looking forward to fighting for the WBC International Title on such a big night of boxing, said Bakole. “A victory over Kuzmin is another step to making my dreams come true.”
“This fight with Bakole is very important for me, I need to bounce back from my defeat to Michael Hunter last time and get back on track towards a World Title,” revealed Kuzmin. “Martin is big, tall and comes forward, we know his strengths. I come only to win on December 12.”
Ekundayo7574: The race of 2023 presidential election is getting intense. In the light of the recent happenings in the political arena, where politicians are changing alliances, rumors of new alliances to emerge before the 2023 presidential election. With the Nigerian youths also clamoring for change in governance and demanding for a new set of leadership, if the current administration cannot guarantee the restructuring and reforming of the country. With the second phase of ENDSARS being in motion now after the casualties that occurred in the first phase, especially the events that took place at Lekki Toll Gate on October 20, the pressure it will definitely have on existing political parties, especially the two major ones, APC and PDP will be immense. Both of them will surely be careful who they will choose as their parties flag bearers in 2023. Their candidates must surely appeal to the youth, if they want their supports.
We've seen so many twists and surprises over the last few months. 2020 is indeed a year that gave us a lot of shocking revelation. From Godwin Obaseki showing us the possibilities of not having a godfather's blessing, and still win an election. His victory has indeed inspired so many people, especially the young generation who are not ready to be anyone dub. Obaseki's victory is indeed a temporary setback for APC Chieftain, Bola Tinubu and it might affect him indefinitely in 2023 election if the care is not taking. Though Ebonyi State Governor defection to APC has been seen as a big catch for the party, but what many failed to understand is that, Governor Wike is actually the big fish as far as the South East is concern, compare to David Umahi.
The impact of Bola Tinubu in the political sphere can never be over emphasised and history will surely be kind to him, especially with the mastermind plan he set in motion when he was the Governor of Lagos State, to restructure and reform the state, most especially "ECONOMICALLY." Over the years, rumors has it that Tinubu has plan to succeed General Muhammad Buhari in 2023. Even though the APC Chieftain has kept distance from such notion. But the Tinubu we all know thrive on secrecy, he's very discreet in his plans and it is very difficult to predict his move sometimes. But peradventure if the rumors are true, and Tinubu has the intention of running for Presidency in 2023, there are three men he must make sure stays with APC or else, he can kiss his presidential ambition goodbye in 2023.
Yes, I agree that Tinubu is influential, powerful and has a great network across the states he can leverage on, but you need to understand that our natural conception and birth is a result of human cooperation. We all are a sum total of all the contributions made to our lives by the people in our circle. There are three men who are going to be strategic for APC and Tinubu in 2023 election, especially in the North and South. They are going to be key if APC will experience landslide victory in the presidential election.
1. Nasir Ahmad el-Rufai
He is a Nigerian politician who is the Governor of Kaduna State, in office since 2015. He was previously the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory from 2003 to 2007; and the director of the Bureau of Public Enterprises. He is a founding member of the ruling All Progressives Congress. In 2013, el-Rufai was appointed deputy national secretary of the newly formed All Progressives Congress (APC). Rumors has it that El-Rufai also has want to run for the presidency, even if Tinubu will keep sacrificing his presidential ambition for others as his custom was, don't forget the craving of the South East for presidency in 2023, coupled with David Umahi defection might pose a big threat to El-Rufai presidential ambition, which might eventually pushed him away to PDP.
2. Babatunde Raji Fashola
On 25 November 2020, Nigeria’s Minister of Works and Housing, Babatunde Raji Fashola, has told the All Progressives Congress to respect the zoning agreement at the formation of the party for the 2023 elections. Fashola’s statement is coming amidst reports that some APC members are plotting to thwart the arrangement for power shift between North and South, intending to retain the presidency in the North on the expiration of President Muhammadu Buhari’s second term.
The APC was forged out of three main opposition parties and a faction of the former ruling Peoples Democratic Party in 2013, creating a platform that successfully wrested power at the ballot a year later with Buhari as its candidate. The merger involved the Action Congress of Nigeria, led by Nigeria’s former anti-corruption chief Nuhu Ribadu, the Congress for Progressive Change (CPC), headed by Buhari, as well as the All Nigeria People’s Party (ANPP) and All Progressive Grand Alliance (APGA). The parties said they had formed the APC because the need for radical change had never been more urgent. However, the party structure is already being faced with concerns of the which zone will produce the party flagbearer for 2023 presidential election. It will be good if APC honor their initial agreement, which Fashola has already raised the alarm or else, they will risk losing him to PDP.
3. Yahaya Adoza Bello
He is a Nigerian politician, businessman and the current Governor of Kogi State. The people are calling on him to run for president but he has not come out clearly to tell us, whether he is accepting that clarion call or not. Bello, who is currently serving his second tenure in office, became one of Nigeria’s youngest governors at the age of 40 in 2015
AMAECHI VANGUARD 2023
RT.HON. CHIBUIKE ROTIMI AMAECHI IS THE NEXT PRESIDENT OF NAJAIRA
Reeberry: Imagine after 5 years, they are bringing up someone jaw problem. Of what use is this thread again, to the op? They will see someone needs help urgently, but will ignore, then bring it to front page after many years that it isn't necessary again.
Useless mods.
Don't mind the useless mod. Nairaland is gradually losing its glory. So wicked. They will be pushing nonsense posts to front-page but won't post sensible ones even when someones life is involved
15years already. I still remember that day, it was on a Sunday, Pastor Bimbo Odukoya was meant to minister in a church in Port Harcourt, I came home from a Sunday service and was astonished as to what I saw on RSTV. It was indeed painful, a family lost their 3 kids, one of the worst plane crashes in Nigeria.
'( author=Zzor post=96755377]Yes I kill such men with stares, that type of stares you garnished with yeye expression, only stingy men goes to the market[/quote]Sense is far from this one. Oh I weep for you oh
This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.
My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.
After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.
5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.
Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.
So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.
He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.
Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.
Yours opinions are very much needed.
Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
Your cousin should do a mini wedding with her, like going to the marriage Registry before relocating and once he's settled, he should come and take her along
Jceeee: Hello everybody , I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short. I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .
I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.
My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.
I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .
I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.
I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .
Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.
Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.
I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.
Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .
please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do
If I were that man, I will put a bullet in your head and make it look like an accident. You are indeed wicked and evil
Politics › Re: Sanwo-Olu Wins The Nation And Leadership Newspappers Governor Of The Year by BREYZ: 2:53pm On Dec 21, 2020
