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Kobojunkie:
Let me let you in on the biggest secret no one has probably ever told you before now. No matter how good you pretend you are at something, you will still find those who are more cunning and able to prove that you are not as good as you think yourself to be.
Understanding what communication is there for from what it is not there for is essential here.

2. OP is here because his fears and anxieties have gotten the better of him. He is already afraid that his girlfriend knows to cover her tracks and that even if he searches her phone, he will not find concluding evidence there, but he would have damaged the relationship enough for it to not survive should he still have feelings for her afterward. So what is OP to do? Try to play detective or focus first on resolving his emotional state to ready himself for what may come.

By the way, no amount of sleuthing will stop a person from cheating on you or having the intention to. The best anyone can do in a relationship is guard their own heart and emotions and know when it is best to abandon ship without regrets or bitterness.

Well spoken…but I still stand in the fact that he needs to gather evidence and while trying to he should act as if all is well. That’s way if his suspicions are confirmed he can end it. If it turns out to be nothing he continues as normal and both are happy. But communicating with her about his fears? Never. And yes you rightly said no one can stop a cheat who wants to tow that path but you can at least guard your heart.

Kobojunkie:
Stop this nonsense reasoning abeg!

Communicating with your partner isn't in order that they admit a fault. Rather it is to help you realize earlier on when things are changing in your relationship. According to OP, everything was fine in the relationship up until he returned from his trip. If she has indeed been cheating on him then that clearly couldn't have been the case.

Op needs to communicate his fears and troubles to his partner to at least relieve his mind of his anxieties. If his partner responds with lies then OP can at least use that to appease himself when he eventually cuts off from her after discovering it.
Effective Communication in relationship is there to help sure you against regret and bitterness even after a relationship abeg.

Communication? At this point? So that if he finds out she’s lying later he will cut it off? And when will that later be? After he has married her?
So you can’t reason that if he communicates with her he has given her a chance to cover her tracks better? How a grown man can reason like this baffles me. You need to wake up. All he needs to do is pretend like all is well and seek evidence. Communicate my foot. That’s how a girl will be cheating on you and you will sit her down to talk about it. I pity you.

jumper524:
satin you find go sokoto dey shokoto.
its easier to make it in Nigeria than Abroad.
except you want to work through to your old age..

And multinational companies are folding up while still thriving in other countries. Don’t you have common sense or apc is paying you to think without your brain?

Anyway on the brighter side there is no place like home 😊

Oyindidi:
Hello insecurity!

Sure. As always you females just support females without thinking with both sides of the brain. While it is possible that she isn’t cheating isn’t there also a possibility that she is? So every man who complains of his woman being secretive about her phone is a case of insecurity according to your small brain?
Anyway I understand where you are coming from. With the number of unmarried and desperate women out there you females will do anything to protect another one’s marriage even if she is a LovePeddler

Tymk:
i donr know why some of una no fit get sense

Can you imagine? I was shocked to see that too o

Kobojunkie:
Lack of communication is the root of many marital issues. You came here to tell us your fears but you forgot to communicate the exact same to the one who is right beside you. We have no way of reading her mind for you on this so if you want to get answers to either allay or lend support to your fears, the best person to approach for just that is your partner.

You people need to think about both sides before dropping solutions.

Assume she isn’t cheating. it would then be a good idea to do as you have said. But if you think with both sides of the @&($(& and assume she is cheating do you think she will willingly admit it and ask for forgiveness so they can move on?

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davillian:
You don't need to be a cultist before they kill you......
Surviving in that school takes the grace of God
Make we leave am like that

Look at the brighter side…being a cultist gives you a higher chance of being killed which might be a good thing for society.

imagrg:
I just smiled when I saw two ladies quarrel and one of them called the other a mobile borehole!
What do you think she meant by this statement?

Well she might be resident in the brothel while the other is more mobile with her services.

On the brighter side he’s cutting 72 hymens by now. Some of us have not even had up to 6.
Truly this life no balance.

On the brighter side this is good to hear.
I’ve told my friends that the over 3,000 bombs sent to Israel were a friendly treat

SamPeeLamen:
What is the best way to die? Please enlighten me

Maybe peacefully in your sleep

swaggerjack:
CC
RenaissanceGuy
helinues
Monogamy
LegendHero
NGpatriot
TonyeBarcanista
yarimo
seunmsg
Simplyleo
Racoon
Seun
NgeneUkwenu
tmksouth
irongalaxy
zhike
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Omenka
Nlpolicewoman
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Seun
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CodeTemplar
iammo
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Slawormir
itsme01
Rostikol
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They usually avoid threads like these

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Not a good way to die at all. I hope they are brought to book.

No brighter side to this.
Chichi cannot buy pepper soup and malt for herself. If she reads this thread I will have only 4 women left in my life. Some pieces of advice should be kept away from the public.

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taylor88:
This one thinks UberFacts is owned by Enugu man who was the first person to drive Uber in Nigeria


UberFacts that has been in existence before them born you


A professional international body is who you’re calling bigotry lies and hate abi you think say na Anambra man get am


Who says Tinubu won’t complete his tenure? But I’m happy the whole world has seen Tinubus nyash


You’re here consoling yourself while Tinubu himself dey on panic mode knowing the damage it’s going to do him

Are you minding that guy. That one has sold his brain to defend Tinubu even with the obvious facts.

Higherthan:
We already knows who will dish out the death threats 😆…. It’ll be the same ppl who will insult you for not supporting their candidate, those who refuse to give their parents feeding money for supporting BAT, those who uses kick to wake their father from sleep it can only be them.
And they’re called THE HEADLESS MOB


So those headless mob knows who they are hahaha 🤣
My mentions is getting filled.
So you know yourselves as a headless mob?

Don’t mind them. I don’t see the big deal in supporting a man who is begging fbi and his schools not to release his results and files. Not to mention a man who graduated from a school that didn’t exist in Nigeria. I’m tired of this useless headless mob.

FreeStuffsNG:
This is so obvious but cyberbullies and hate-filled mob will not still get it that AMCON is after the payment of the debt. The criminal angle is the job of EFCC.
The banks being owed money are owned by ordinary Nigerians and they will be happy to collect their money immediately and leave FG to face any criminal charges. Check my signature for free stuffs!

Yes you are right. It must be a coincidence that he joined apc and the chargers were dropped.

God1000:
Prophecy or not, Innocent Palestinians are dying every minute and it should be stopped.

I've seen a lot of insensitive, sadistic, degrading and dehumanizing comments towards the Palestinians, I don't know why anybody will rejoice and celebrate the death of another human being.

What Hamas did was bad but punishing the entire population is unacceptable

What was hamas expecting after sending thousands of bombs?

Good one

Xxxxtentacion2:
Tinubu also needs to make fuel 2k per litre before december after all nobody is protesting nigerians are happy with him.. God Bless Tinubu :
Who else has noticed that nairaland is censoring MANNABBQGRILL$ from mentions...
Rumour has it that he is them most hated and mentioned nairalander ever...

Yes you are right. He turns away from the evil of his party and says nothing about it even when corruption is glaring.

ecolime:
ATIKU ABUBAKAR IS THE MOST CORRUPT POLITICIAN IN AFRICA

Some of the facts that proves that Atiku Abubakar is highly corrupt are:

1. The US Congress in a report titled "KEEPING FOREIGN CORRUPTION OUT OF THE UNITED STATES" USING FOUR CASE HISTORIES: featured Atiku Abubakar as one of the four most notorious cases of money laundering in the world.

2. During the Obasanjo Administration from 1999 to 2008, Atiku Abubakar was then Vice President of Nigeria. During this period he used his fourth wife, Jennifer Douglas, a US citizen to transfer and launder more than $79.7 million dollars of stolen public fund and bribe monies to the USA including:

A. $40 million dollars shared to him from the money embezzled in the N121 billion naira national ID card fraud,

B. $1.7 million dollars bribe money paid to him by Siemens AG, a German company, for contracts in the Telecoms, Oil and Gas, and Computer/ICT sectors and

C. over $38 million dollars paid to him by companies around the world for miscellaneous services including bribery for contracts, import tax evasion, given help to drugs traffickers using customs officers and weapons smuggling for millitary men through the Nigerian ports.

3. Atiku's co-conspirators in the bribery scandal Williams Jefferson and Siemens AG of Germany were both tried and convicted in the USA and Williams Jefferson went to jail. Atiku intends to get immunity from prosecution by running for the post of president of Nigeria.

4. Both the BBC, VOA and many other international media reported that in a probe ordered by the Nigerian President Olusegun Obasanjo Atiku Abubakar was indicted of diverting $125 million dollars from a public trust fund into his private businesses.

5. A senate subcommittee investigating the PTDF indicted Atiku Abubakar of diverting $145 million naira of public fund as loans to his friends. The senate committee reffered the fraud to the EFCC for prosecution. The case is still pending.

6. Atiku was involved in Drug trafficking through the nation ports.

7. Atiku was involved in weapon smuggling through the nations ports.

8. Atiku masterminded the national ID card fraud that cost Nigeria N121 billion naira.

9. Atiku is involved in the stealing of import tax. Atiku connived with the Vaswani brothers of India to steal more than $400 million dollars of import tax on rice importation over a period of 3 years.

10. Atiku and his company INTELS were involved in most of the fuel subsidy frauds that cost Nigeria $35 billion dollars.

11. Atiku owns a private university, A set of luxury hotels, a Radio station and many other business. He also owns a private jet.

12. Atiku has a harem of six wives and a village of 26 children. The cost of maintaining Atikus wives and children is more than the annual budget of an average state in Nigeria.

With these few points of mine I hope I have been able to convince you that Atiku Abubakar is the most corrupt pollitician in Africa.

Credit: Computergenius.

I wish people can see this. Tinubu is equally a thief and fraud but atiku is at the top. How I wish Tinubu can go after him the way he is going after Tinubu. It will be a sweet battle of two thieves. Anybody who thinks any of these two politicians is a saint or is clean needs to have his skull examined. He must be a big fool.

Ola9ja23:
This might end up as Ukraine and Russia war.

It might takes more than 6 months


One thing the IPOBidients don't realize is that the number of Christians in Gaza is X 900% of Israel own.

My own is that they should not turn this to world war.

Then why are Muslims the one crying the most about Gaza?

.i didn’t see where it stated that it will begin operations asides that it has been handed over to the fg

OkCornel:
Not my headache. Just pointing out the catch 22 situation with taking sides in a war.

Good and bad people suffer the repercussions of war irrespective of their religious background.

While the weapon manufacturers and merchants keep on making their blood money.

Who are the leading manufacturer/sellers of weapons in the world today?

Is it in their interest to ensure peace and stability in the Middle East?

Connect the dots. If there are no wars/conflicts, weapons cannot be sold.

This is the sad reality.

OkCornel:
Ok, and the Christians in Palestine can go to hell right?


Just do a little research and check out who has more Christians between Israel and Palestine.

So why re Muslims all over the world crying for Palestine? Even Nigerian Muslims held a peaceful protest in Ijesha, Lagos

motayoayinde:
It's not normal with Israel.
Of all its numerous wars, other countries have never had to fear for the safety of their citizens.

Israel in no longer safe and may never be again.

So you have enough sense to reason this? Why then did you open this thread? You are not as dumb as I thought

motayoayinde:
If your IQ wasn't a single-digit IQ, you'd understand the undertone to my question.

When was the last time Europe evacuated it's citizens from Israel over the numerous wars that your darling IDF thugs has launched against Hamas?

Where they all insane to leave them there at those times?

Didn't they stand with Israel and offer reassuring words like in this situation?

Didn't they all affirm Israel's right to defend itself and that it was capable of doing so effortlessly given it's "military superiority" in the middle east?

Why haven't they left their citizens now as they always did?

It's a different ball game this time around.
They're only goading Israel to its end.

I hope you've learnt something now.

Again childish gibberish. That Europe doesn’t evacuate its citizens doesnt oppose what I said.

Again evacuating non-combatants is a norm in any war. And evacuating citizens is not the same as running away as you have seen US send warships and ask supply arms and personnel to Israel. But you will be too blind to see that just so you can drive your ridiculous point.

guass:
It's normal for countries that have interest of their citizens to always lift them from war zones. As it stands, Israel and Palestine are at war.

He’s probably a kid so he doesn’t know this or he wants to show his support for Palestine by sounding rather absurd.