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zandora:
No, didn't have either.

Nice one Zandora
thanks for helping out.
r u in canada already? what province?

Akposy:
Happy Birthday to me

happy birthday to my fan.
love your humility.
always smiling everytime i read ur posts.
i wish you greater heights in life.
you will fufill Gods purpose for your life.
loads of hug.

pioneer195:
Hello,
please i am here for guidiance. if you are a good cook or you know how to prepare banga soup, please be kind enough to list down the steps here and also what it requires or the ingredients.
thank you.

lets give it a shot
i do not know the names of the various ingredients except a few
dry pepper
little egusi
plenty onions
fresh fish, beef, dried cat fish(what ever appeals to you)
however, the women that sells soup ingredients at any market will sell banga ingredients to you.
just ask they will gladly help you.
i usually buy the blended mixture(makes life easy and saves me from grinding them)

processing
boil your beef untill soft and set aside
boil ur banga untill soft
pour the banga into a small mortal and pound with a pestle
add a little bit of water after about 10 mins of pounding
and use ur hand to wash the banga oil extract and sieve into a pot
and Boil.(The same way you process palm oil)
blend ur dried pepper, dried crayfish, egusi and onions along side other ingredients sold to you
and add to the oil extract you are cooking.
the egusi is usually a little just to lighten the color
after a while about 30 mins add your beef or chicken, perinwinkle, smoked cat fish ,etc
your fresh fish goes in last.
add salt and maggi to taste.
leave for a while to cook( about 5-10 mins)
banga soup is ready.

banga soup goes very well with starch. i believe you know how to prepare that
if not:
dissolve your starch in a little quantity of water
grease ur pot with red palm oil,all around not just the bottom of the pot
pour your dissolved starch into the pot
place on your cooker and begin to stir with ur turnstick (omorogun) untill it totally solidifies.
the mixture color gradually changes from white mixed with oil to yellowish at the end when its well cooked.
you starch is ready to be served.

banga and starch is my best meal ever.
Goodluck. i ope it turns out well.

Finally,the 2015 presidential electoral result has been signed and sealed by JEGA.
Thank you good people of Nigeria for voting change.
hopefully, Buhari shall exceed superior performance,
build a new and better Nigeria.
God bless Jega,
God bless Buhari.
God bless Nigeria!!!
#nigeriadecides2015#

bushdoc9919:
No of voters....31 746 490

AA: 42125

ACPN: 40311

AD: 30673

ADC: 39666

APA: 53537

APC: 15,424,921

CPP: 36,300

HOPE: 7,435

KOWA: 13,076

NCP: 24,455

PDP: 12,853,162

PPN: 24,475

UDP: 9208

UPP:18,220

Total 28,587,564.

rejected votes : 844,519.

Total cast: 29,432,083

this result reminds me of 7up advert.

7up, the difference is clear!!!
thank God for the victory.

emiye:
The AA agent with his agbada lace can be mistaken for the winners agent

lol

goryorhal:
E b like say this JEGA of a thing no get sense sha ...
Shey e no no say work dey today ni? Abi na Wetin e dey count since ? I sleep so tay I dey under pressure to wake up make I no hear dem don rob us ...
SAI baba
SAI yoruba ,ibo, Hausa
SAI nigeria

God bless us all

how dare u call JEGA '' a thing with any sense sha"
i do not think there are as much sensible and dedicated pple like him.
despite your pressure, watch what you say about him.
he deserves some respect please.

This manual compilation is really bad.
Jega should have pronounced this result
thank God Jonathan has accepted the result,hence calmness in all camps.
else there would have being a great casualty by now

Not surprised, though disgraceful to the nation.
Most MOPOLS assigned to banks usually have too much to drink.their hobby includes womanizing and drinking.no serious thing.idleness is bad.

[quote author=esere826 post=31602758]Anonymous donors should not be recognized
they forsook this privilege when they chose to become anonymous -maybe for spiritual/humility reasons.
They'll definitely understand.
too many cooks spoil the broth
it is difficult for those who have no investment in something to make a sensible and acceptable suggestion regarding that thing.
I am sure you must have noticed the low level suggestions from none-givers here.

So this is the way it should work
the givers would read all you non-givers suggestions
then weed out the unsensible ones and use it to make a sensible decision
Tehn then implements


[/quote
your analogy is quack.
Tehn, needed suggestions, that's why the question was thrown to d house. Its none of your
Business whether someone contributed or not.
Cos you av funds doesn't make you smarter than
Your counterpart that has nothing today.

esere826:
@r231

Only those who donated money through your organisation should be the ones to make decisions on the money
and the weight of individual donation should be the weight of their authority in this matter

this might sound harsh, but
the donors provided money for Djola and not to religion, clerics or any relative whether poor or rich
they also trusted that TeHn would use the money sensibly for Djola

so it falls back to the donors to decide,
and for TeHn to step in and exert closure if the donors are not able to decide

So how do u recognize the Anonymous donors suggestions?
Because someone didn't contribute cash doesn't mean he/ she can't make a sensible suggestion as to how to handle d funds.

Honesty
Success
Experience

To be rich is not what you have in your bank
Account, but what you have in your heart.

RIP uncle Charles. May God console u.
Whoa,what a vivid narration.
Its nice seeing another side of u
All I knew about was yuzedo of banana Iceland
And his mansions.

zed24:
I ve bin praying for a baby

God will grant you your heart desire.
Children are the heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Behold he's doing a new thing in your life...
You will rejoice.

These parents are dumb than dumber.
This is cluelessness at its peak.
Useless and undeserving beings.
Ohh myyy....dis is Africa.
They dare not try this in d western world.
Nigerians, pls let's say NO to CHILD ABUSE!!!

kemnareal:
Wicked parents,even d woman hee na wa o

They are both frustrated lazy bones blaming their
Fate on an innocent child.

I just can't fathom what is becoming of pple.
See d degree of injury on d child's butt. 11 months old
I Ope they don't return d child to dis evil parents.
May God judge them! Witches calling an innocent child witch.

OP, if you decide to go ahead with the lady
please, do not hestitate to register her with a good gynecologist immediately she gets pregnant.
A renowned one in Lagos is DR Abosede Afolabi of PAELON MEMORIAL CLINIC.
Shes a specialized gynecologist for siclke cell patients, she was trained abroad.
(she was on CNN africa some time ago.)

And if you are boxed up , when its time for delivery , your wife could go to Grady Health systems in Atlanta Georgia
they are affiliated with Emory Hospital. They have a sickle cell clinic there and her pregnancy will be well managed.With God, prayers and taking care of herself judiciously she will overcome.

photographer:
@op I want to believe you went to school, secondly I want to believe you are grownup too? the truth is Nl is the last place you bring such issues for advice. but since you are here already let me put mouth.

ask her how her health issues is,how serious? then make up your mind from what she tells you truth is that SS carriers are warrior's that fight health battles that you cant. Am 25 and have had crisis only 4 times my whole life. am a survivor dont be deprived of the best thing that can happen to you go for her and you know what? since she lives each day at a time she will love you more than any other woman would. you are AA doesnt mean you cant be hit by a car and die people will always die from one course or the other it might be an ailment or unforseen means anyway round we shall all die someday.


peace.

shallom. well said! God will continue to sustain you. you will live to fulfill your purpose on earth. IJN amen
doc namzy , true life experience.
OP, follow your heart, we wont be there when she has crisis. But you know what,? life itself is full of Ups and Downs,
May God lead you right...

Namzy:
And if you don't overcome? Sorry just had to point it out since your so called life experience was based on some comments. Dont believe me? Open up a thread on nairaland.com for people with relations and friends with heart retching stories about sickle cell disease and eventual deaths and you'd will know the struggle is real even in so called america or you think they randomly come out with life expectancy figures. But like i said i know its comforting to be hopeful. Just like our some nigerian pastors have mastered telling you what you want to hear

im ashamed you are a doctor. the comment was from someone whose sis is an SS. i also wrote about my best friend thats an SS. why cant you

see the bright sides of things? I repeat, they shall overcome with God, prayers and taking good care of themselves.

every man born on earth shall die some day, young, old, man or woman.

life expectancy or not!

girlyly:
From a direct experience. I have a sister who is SS, she had her baby just 3weeks ago, a healthy handsome baby boy. All through her pregnacy, she had no crisis till 2wks before delivery (2days crisis) and was discharged and in 5days doctor recommend 3pants of blood else the uncertainty might happen during childbirth. Her hubby donated and had to buy the rest after 3days she went into labour buh baby grew weak as baby was too big so she under go a CS...., story short, her hubby panicked that I cried for not being around my sister. She's good buh tempered ( tempered cos she wants to feel normal and not looked upon to be weak) honestly she poses much strenght than I do and do things I run away from. She's 25+ this year. I love her and I have watched her suffering all these years. Even after this baby she had, she still in pains do all house chores, cool and take care of her baby cos her mom inlaw wasn't doing what she ought to do. We are peaceful in my family and promote peace.


In your question dear, the only hope they have to be fully happy in marital life falls on AA genes. They are strong ladies and very pretty they mostly appear to be. They never brought themselves to this world and the are good buh naturally tempered as they hate having crisis. Once they don't stress out and eat healthy they can go a year without having crisis. Mind you am advicing from experience. I fear too that she dies buh it's far from it. They want a normal life too. All my sister wants is to be loved. It's about being educated on sickle and having the person take care of herself. I communicate my sister everyday and she's doing really good. She's so strong and very intelligent that's what I love about her. If you truly love this girl, go for her buh not out of pity. They are normal human whose only fault differ is that their gene ain't as strong as ours. She's not infective. Be happy she told you she's a sickler. She's already being sincere. My parents barely know when my sister gets sick as they will panic, she contacts me and we pray over it as she takes care of herself and comes out of her crisis. You guys will be fine.

nice! congrats to your sister. May she live to see her grand children IJN.
this is it. true life experience.
what people lack in the Nigerian community is information. the fear of the disease has eaten so deep into their hearts and what most pple do is avoid the carriers like a plague.
information is soo cheap but pple dont get it enough.
less level of stress, eat well veggies, fruits,lots of fluids, (water), use folic acid and they would be good.
im looking forward to that time when sicklers wont die again cos they can manage their health conditions properly.
shout out to all sicklers out there. i love them cos they are exceptionally brilliant. we cant blame God, no human being is perfect
not even d AA's . With God, prayers and taking good care of urselves you will overcome!!!
shalom.

femmy2010:
Sickle Cell,Car crash,natural death,voodoo, drowning at sea,plane crash etc something must kill a man in the end. When? no one knows .
My advise is if you very much love her stick to her.

God bless you. My point exactly!

Namzy:
PS dying from a sickle cell related cause is differ from dying from other unknown or even known causes. Please stop this notion of everybody must die. Because its the same mentality that made my father's friends who are learned and both AS to marry each other . Their's was even better because there's actually hope but alas only one kid out of 4 is free. But noe people are wiser and have stopped playing God

doc, this OPS case is to totally different. hes AA, shes SS.
the worst genotype the kids could have is AS.
This is common sense!

Midehi:
nobody is telling him not to...its jus d consequences we tellin him..so he shud prepare for it

definitely, i totally agree. he must be aware of the consequences and be prepared.
i was just shocked at the docs post spewing dooms of being a sickler not seeing any reason why the should live.
he was so negative saying hes a realist.

Midehi:
Guy av u ever seen wer a sickler is sick, if u had seen,vry close...u wil know wat we are talkin abt here...forget all this talks here ooo..der sicknes is terrible,sometimes u see them bending specially der legs....
let me jus stop cos am jus rememberin those i know dat av died cos of sickle cell

you cant feel the pain as much as someone that has being in that shoe.
NEVER! you can only imagine what pains they are going through. and show as much love as possible.
ive taken care of my best friend severally when shes in crises, though it doesnt come often again.
that still does not deprive them of a good life or getting married.
sickle cell pains are of various degrees.
we dont even know ow often this OP girl falls sick or gets transfused.
some are so healthy you cant know except you are told.
so pls give them a chance. Op, follow your heart!

Midehi:
it is the main truth dear....everybody saying go ahead,can they marry an SS girl.

my sister is married to an SS guy.
because hes SS does not make him less of a human being.
God forbid, if you had an SS as family member, would you wish him/her does not live a normal life or get married?
its all about choices, the OP is left to follow his heart.

Laredojohn:
Dats not a point, it's only God. Have a cousin who died @40 plus, only God sustains those with SS, because this cousin of mine has the. Best medical care living in the UK, age isn't a factor to survival, only God

Tell me who wouldnt die? who is it on earth that is not sustained by God?
dont you have people who are not up to 40 and are nomal and die?
every man, young or old, an or woman will die at one time or another whether SS or not.
ops wife to be can live beyond 25 even with child delivery.
The problem is the fear pple inhabit about the disease.

Namzy:
Lol maybe people get me wrong. This is exactly reasoning behind "i have seen mentality" bros visit any tertiary medical facilities and see a sickler in crisis then maybe you'd change your mind and know that you've been seeing miracles(although i highly doubt your 75 grandma story seeing that medical advances weren't available then) but lets say its possible. Its a miracle if a pastor heals one because he/she has faith but you won't inquire about the thousands of failed healings but you'd be singing that one praise. See all it takes is one crisis and you'd be a believe. I didnt say that some don't survive above their life expectancy but that life expectancy is there for a reason. But like I said some like living dangerously behind love conquers all and hope. Who am i to tell you what to do with your life. Am even sure the OP parents will advice him further. If hes up to the challenge then good luck but you people shouldn't come here and make it look like a walk in the park

im shocked a doctor is talking like this.
failed healing accepted. we have pple that dont belive in God and they are SS and well alive.
if i may ask, whats the average life expectancy of a Nigerian?
pls its doctors like you that kills their patient with news of a disease before the said disease manifests itself.
sicklers have crisis no doubt, but when educated as to how to handle their situations their survival chances increases.
you sound so much like a doctor that told my SS friend that shes pregnant and the chance is high she might not come out of it alive.
"even if" there are better ways of saying such. the news alone is enough to kill.
OP, follow ur heart, not an apprentice doctor.smhhh...

Namzy:
Sorry but like I said earlier what would you have told the op if the question was "my girl is AS same as me should I marry her?" its good you see the HOPE side but am a realist and i don't want to sound pessimistic but living your life based on hope is not living. Pls help me check highest number of kids from a sickler recorded

MR DOCTOR,Ive seen a grandma of 75 that had 5 kids. Grandma is SS.
what sort of a doctor are you? realist my foot!!!
so sicklers are not entitled to live a good life?
whats ur challenge in this? if the ops question was as stated in ur post above,i wouldnt advise him to go ahead . cos definitely they would have ss as kids
but for goodness sake, hes AA and marrying an SS does not make them liable to aving SS kids.
wake up doc!!! you cant even create a human, so why condemmn one? God has only given u the technical/biological know how to manage their situations so please be judicious in doing dat. dont complicate matters by writting them off. if you dont live your life based on HOPE then what else.?
pray that God sustains you. reality without God takes you no where. with hope, God and taking good care of themselves SS would outlive normal so-called AAs.

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

Op , you are in no fix as far as im concerned. Love conquers all. we will all die someday whether AA AS SS SC AB or what you have.
Being a SS carrier isnt an automatic death sentence it is an health condition that could be managed. presently, my closest friend is a sickler, lives in CAnada where the temperature goes beyond -40 at times. shes 35 years old.
guess what , her husband developed a cold feet when he was about to make same decision as you todaay, asking people for advice. but thank God he went ahead. he confesses shes the best thing that has ever happened to her. Truth be told, she might have some crises, but she will pull through and you must be ready to show love and be tolerant.
As long as ur wife to be adheres to her health rules she would be fine. These include: Reducing her stress level, taking lots of water, veggies, fruits. using her folic acid judiciously and avoids extreme heat or cold temperatures.
Lets not forget the place of God, hes the giver of life. Prayers are never too much.
"Scared of her not living up till 70?" forget it, what gives an AA the assurance he would live to see the next day?
God is the giver of life and he has promised us that he would satisfy us with long life, if you believe.
my friend has 2 kids, normal delivery, no CS, drives around, goes skating a financial analyst with a top bank,stronger than most AA or what you have. when she was in Nigeria her doctor aged 70 was an SS.
Let no sickness take away ur LOVE and JOY. no sentiments attached, prayerfully make your decision.
and by the way your kids can never be SS.

hmmn, the heart of man is deep and desperately wicked!!!
how on earth could a woman do this to a two years old girl.
ohh.. i really do wish i could just lay a finger on this lady...so she could have a feeling of how my heart bleeds at this moment
she is mentally sick. not fit to be called a mother. is it by force to get married and take care of a step child?
ive not being able to take my mind of this article since i read it.
i cant just imagine someone whipping a baby for soiling herself.
my 3 yrs old daughter comes back from childcare with her extra clothings soiled occassionally and tells me, mama, i peepeed on my clothes. and with LOVE i hug, peck and tell her not to peepee on herself again. not to talk of a two yr old.
shes wicked and shouldnt be left free, she must be made to pay for this! shes in no way meant to transfer her anger and aggression to the innocent child.
what women do to get attention. i really do wish she was barren.
but i leave her to that same God she claims to be serving,
evil woman surrounded by evil friends.
smh at the man and all dis social media relationships.
Men, pray that the Lord direct s your path to ladies that will love you and all of urs. Not DEVIL INCARNATEs.
im sorry for the names calling, but i really do feel sick at this article...
BTW, doesnt lovelyns mum have family members that could take care of the baby?