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I am pissed. Man, have you lost your mind?

You know what? Pay the rent. Then watch her breakup with you.

Biafrans: Lehgos is no man's land...

Ambode: [Gives them a nice upper cut]

Biafrans: They are marginalising us o!. Help! UN! Donald Okechukwu Trump! Heeeelllp eh!

It is because of statements like this that ladies think they "give" us their bodies.

We have sex. Period. Both parties chop each other.

Like someone said, go and see a marriage counsellor.

Stuff like this happens after proposals or when a relationship is about to culminate in marriage.

Usually it is caused by the laxity of one party as regards the little things that spice up a relationship.

When "good morning" begins to sound like a chore to you and you act like it is, there will be complaints from the person who cares more.

Well, she had it coming. The wife had no right to assault the lady in the car. She intended to cause a scene and she got what she asked for. You can see why the man is looking for companionship outside his marriage.

How do you cope with such an impulsive, violent woman?

It is hard to live with such a wife.

Bro do not settle for less. If she doesn't meet up, don't settle. We don't want a situation where you would complain after marrying her. Move your ministry to the next site abeg.

Why does she shave her head sef? That's odd to me.

amani63:
This man is lying

How can him invest $350M while by his net worth is $250M

How do he take do that,I beg who has EFCC contact I have proof that this man is a Financial culprit.

His company's market value is different from his personal net worth.

This is damaging. The woman had better not be lying.

Rape is unforgivable and every bit as devilish as false accusation.

deanxy:
yeah I know but that the girl never asked doesn't mean I don't do anything. I buy gifts even for her younger ones and the mother knows about this. I just feel it's not okay she asking.

A glance at the thread reveals the subtle conditioning of men to bow to financial pressure exerted by their girlfriends. Now, it is a thing of pride to pay your girlfriend for love. It is also shameful to refuse to give. If you love a girl, you will buy heaven and earth for her. Pay for her every whim because she is your girlfriend.

Well, I think that's bollocks.

Do not be browbeaten by these conditioned young men and these manipulative nairaland ladies. What the hell does the duration of a relationship have to do with financial obligation? Are you paying her for staying with you? Are you such a terrible person that you must compensate your girlfriend for being with you? This is amusing.

It is wrong, on every level, for your girlfriend's mother to ask you (directly) for that money. This is classic manipulation and there is no pride in being asked. Some people use the term "borrow" when they intend to obtain large sums that they cannot ask you to dash them. Now that you have turned her down, I hope you realise that she is no longer your number one fan. Get a sweater cos she's going to be cold with you from now on.

Don't let anyone manipulate you with guilt. I see you try to vindicate yourself by telling us how you bought her expensive gifts and other stuff for her siblings. That is nice but not obligatory.

This is a relationship not tax.

I know someone who ended up paying rent and school fees for their in laws. It began with one simple request that led to another and another. When the brother started complaining about the frequent requests, the same "nice mother" shipped her daughter off to marry a new guy. No time.

There are other similar cases where in-laws manipulate the "lover boy" so that he is ashamed to turn down their requests then he ends up trapped in a financial quagmire.

Do not be ashamed to say "no" when "yes" seems forced upon you.

To you ladies screaming "stingy", you should be ashamed of yourselves. This sense of entitlement is nauseating. Have you no dignity?

Women actually have bigger egos than men but they make it out to be a man thing.

45 million. No wonder the buzz is this crazy.

Impressive response.

If Obj had been spoiling for a fight, well, sorry. No show. This is how to respond to criticism.

NoToPile:


Don't mind my pokenosing, but why are you terrified? Besides it really is not 'manipulating' in the real sense of it.

Lol. Cos she collected her money back (probably with interest) and her husband doesn't realise it. No stress, no argument but she has made her profit. Simple. I respect that.

I think this is one of the very few people (on this thread) qualified to advice the OP not to divorce his wife.

Also, madam, I am impressed yet terrified by your manipulative skills. I mean this in a positive way.

GrammarCheck:
You should be more supportive. I married in 2009, I had multiple cysts, no ovulation as well. I ran from pillar to post. Did all sorts of treatment. Finally, after 5 years my husband said STOP! Let's just STOP and enjoy our lives. My mother in law said STOP, let go and let God. I had a support system that made me feel not having a baby is not the end of the world. Doctors said I should come for IVF, they saw one blocked tube. Hubby said no. Infact, he took me abroad for a long awaited honeymoon, after 5yrs. I came back pregnant, even he wasnt expecting it. He said it was too sudden. Can you imagine After delivery, got pregnant with another baby the following month. My two deliveries were 10months interval. With no ovulation.

My husband refused to touch me after the 2nd pregnancy. Said I was a magnet. Took counselling for him to finally come close. He has been begging me not to get pregnant again, but I want twins
With no ovulation.

As I am, I get a period once in 6mths, without intervention. I only know I'm pregnant because I start vomiting. Because there is no period to say 'I missed my period'.

My point is... Be patient, and work with your woman. Who said God cannot turn around a situation? You have given up on your wife, and that is not Godly.

Can two work together except they agree? You need to put away the strange woman and work with your wife. You have only been married 6 years. There is a lifetime ahead of you. These are just bumps along the way.

If I tell you the one my husband did to me. I asked him to inspect a property. He said it was good, he liked the area, it is something he has been looking for. As a the doting wife, I gave him the money to help me buy it. He bought it in his name. The world has not ended. I was angry, but he has my mumu button.

As we are, I have used sense to collect back the money over time. I never said, give me back my money. But for everything I send a budget for, I inflate the cost. Even money for the schoolchool fees, diapers and food. I am shopping for another property which I will buy in my name. I will tell him, for info purposes only. This life is wisdom. So I should have divorced him because he played a fast one on me?

When I confronted him, he said I am a woman, I should be submissive. Ok, in submission, no problem, we will meet on the bed at night, where he cannot say no to my demands.

Just look at these ibos rushing here to comment. I don laugh tire.

On a serious note. If you can't face the judgment then don't peddle drugs. These countries have their own laws and we must respect them. You guys are not the only Nigerians who need money badly. Others are out on the streets hustling legally. You have no excuse to traffic drugs.

RIP to those who will be executed.

PDJT:
I’d take that as a compliment. I bet you’re a Nigerian graduate.

You just lost that "bet". Now go back to your sand box.

PDJT:
You guys better retain Buhari so he can finish what he started.

Young man, go and play with sand. My political leaning is too much for your mind to handle.

GEJ vs Buhari? Buhari all the way. Why? At that time, any one, tested or not, was a better option than GEJ.

It is a lesson to all presidents that incumbency is not invincibility.

Let the cycle continue. You mess up, you get lost.

"It is done".

That part got me

usba:
Fayose only impresses fools, pigs and idiots

Fact!

Wike will do worse next year during the general elections. When violent people elect a violent politician, they must endure things like this.

At the slightest provocation, the average native threatens to kill the offender. Their governor is not left out. He cannot make a simple statement against his political opponents without using words like "kill" or "die".

Funny enough, an overwhelming majority claim to be born again christians. What tasteless irony. If Christians had an extremist arm, Rivers state natives among some others will fit the description easily.

Watching the news about pre and post election violence in the state in 2015, was a horrific experience. Gory images everywhere. 2019 is loading and Wike will not be opposed to depopulating his state again with avoidable violence. It's a jungle out there.

You people need to calm down and address conflict with reason and not weapons.

TrueSenator:
Misplaced energy........always mistiming

Childish comment.

You have no idea how many lives have been spared by this simple directive from the President.

We don't support blindly unlike those who would rather drink mud than reason with their brains.

Buhari got the grudging support of the prof but that doesn't absolve him from criticism.

Those igbos waiting for the 83 year old man to carry placards for them are just mischievous cowards. This man has done more for the entire biafran race than you ipob youths have in your lives.

Ungrateful as usual. Well what do you expect from people united by their hatred for others and their baseless victim mentality?

I blame the prof for casting his pearls before swine. Now they have trampled upon those pearls and turned against him.

Probably false. Take him to court.

So many odd comments here. A lot of strong emotions flying around.

He and Fayose said worse when Buhari was sick. They said he wouldn't return to Nigeria alive. We all know how that went.

Made in China. These guys have all grades of everything. Whether na original or "china", dem get am.

Just order the grade you want. Smart country.

lebete3000:
Pls do they allow one take a laptop into the airplane? Cos if not make I just kuku dey travel by road jejely, can't command be hearing stories that touch. Naija too difficult nowadays abeg.....

Yes. Always pack your laptop with hand luggage.

This is the fear of every Nigerian coming home. You would wait at the baggage carousel with prayer. When one hour passes and you haven't seen your bags then you begin to panic.

Sometimes you find your zips damaged.

I'm certain there are cctv cameras watching every corner but no thief has been caught and punished publicly. How then can this menace stop? Nigerians condone a lot of nonsense.

Quite an embarrassing argument.