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BTT:
I am interested in working for anybody as a songwriter.

Try me.

Please note that I am not hungry.

Waiting still...

Telling a lie to cover his tracks.

They must be a thieving duo. Who calls someone he's just met to accompany him to seize a debtor's car by 12 midnight.

Alhaji and his team, game over joor.

When your colleagues hear you drove your V8 suv to the office this morning carrying no one.

This opinion iin itself reeks of bitterness and insensitivity.

I am sure if the opinionist has a close relative placed on dialesisi in any hospital in Nigeria atm, his opinion will vary.

Like Ubah noted, two wrongs don't make a right. Need we also be reminded that the interest of the people should always come first.

Anyone who has superior opinion and or solution to Ubah's should please out with it. As for me, this is not it.

Note: I am pro-APC, Yoruba and anti-TAN, but I am with Mr Ubah on this one.

Macelliot:
Ifeanyi Ubah, not Andy Ubah...
Andy is the elder brother of Ifeanyi Ubah....
They are three brothers, Andy Ubah, Chris Ubah and Ifeanyi Ubah....

Oh sorry. Thanks for the correction. It is now edited.

billy01:
Jonathan is making sure Buhari starts on a clean sheet, no fuel, no light, no security, no foreign reserve.

I can't agree with you any less.

Ah! Na Psalm 90 we dey take curse people wey put us for this gbege o.

I keep wondering why NLC wouldn't call for a strike so people can stay in their homes and stop going through troubles trying to get to work and others getting punished for 'failing' to make it to work.

It is the ztone age, babe.

We deserve this and more.

Kayendy:
No matter wat u guys believe, subsidy is real and so if Ubah has nth to hide... he did Biz with govt and in every Biz dia must be profit. maybe his profit is too much but dat is biz and so if he has decided to do good with d excess profit he has made, it is still biz made to open d way for him for d coming govt. It is either d coming govt agrees or not but every biz man follows only d way to profit making... everyone writing nonsense abt him, lemme ask u "if any of u had d opportunity Ubah has wouldn't u have done same tin or even worse?

I am pro-APC and dislikes everything TAN represented, but I am 100 percent pro-Ifeanyi Ubah on this one.

Need I mention that I am also Yoruba.

Edited

QuotaSystem:
There is actually some research done by a colleague at the University of Northampton which proves without reasonable doubt that the landing cost of imported petrol in Nigeria taking consideration of the fact that we have crude to exchange (containing more fuels like kerosene and bitumen) is just N35 proving the whole subsidy is a scam. Will make it available as soon as possible.

Truth is, Nigerians know that much, we simply can't confront our government and demand justice.

Nothing new my bro. We are too laid back.

ryusufu:
N120 - N135 per litre here in Kano. but i managed to get 30litres @ N87 from a friend's petrol station

Bros, I beg you fit use dhl send fuel come Lagos for me? Na beg I dey o.

JudismphD:
just fill my tank at yaba now for 120 per lit

Yaba Lagos?

Chairman I beg, where?

Chivasex:
To say the truth, Okonjo Iweala is not at all deserving of any honorary award because she in herself is not honarary.
Have you ever paused to ask why she was fired by the obasanjo's admistration as the mister of finance, the fraud that characterised the so call paris club debt relieve we paid our way out of.
She was involved in muti-million dollar fraud where she enrished herself that Obasanjo got angry and kicked her out.
Please lets face facts here and not tribal sentiments afterall she is not even Ibo she is my from my state Delta.
If we really want to rise above mediocruty as a nationm we should always see things the way they are and forget about tribe or religion

Anyone who reads this thread and wonders why Nigeria is where it is should hurriedly see a psychiatrist,

Page after page, comments have evaded the issue but the cultural background of the actors and posters here.

We are indeed tribesmen.

Waoh...

This is very commendable.

God bless Andy Ubah and all of his household.

Na how we laymen wan' take know naw?

ebubey:
Superstition is the belief in supernatural
causality that one event causes another
without any natural process linking the two
events.
Here is a list of 10 superstitions chosen based
on how ridiculous, widespread and comical
they are:
1. Hitting your left leg on a stone is seen as
an evil omen or warning to turn back from
where ever the person might be going. This
omen is taken seriously and the journey is
usually forfeited for the future. Failure to
heed the warning could lead to possibly loss
of life.

2. Don’t drink the water from a coconut else
you automatically become an olodo.

3. It is not a good idea to whistle at night.
There is this belief that such whistling
attracts snakes to the whistler.

4. Don’t allow people to crossover your hand
or leg,else you will give birth to a child with
one hand or leg.

5. Owls hooting on a rooftop or on a nearby
tree is a bad omen as it is believed that
someone in that house will soon die.

6. If your hands are itching without reason, it
is believed that some kind of fortune is about
to come your way.

7.Eating in the dark is forbidden. It is believed
that such act could give room to the dead to
eat with you and this could lead to your death
or grave ailments.

8. If you spit on the floor and someone
steps on it you will have sore throat.

9. Don’t bend over and look through your legs
in public, you may see witches.

10. Hitting a man with a broom would make
him impotent. It is believed that if a man is
hit with a broom he becomes impotent until
he retaliates by hitting the person back with a
broom seven times.
Cc: lalasticlala

A pregnant woman must attach a pin to her clothing when going out in the afternoon to avoid birthing an Ogbanje...

Lol

Osama10:
Its a pity we have labour leaders/union who are only concerned about what would enter their pockets, NLC is a joke.

The road is very very long.

The road, my brother, is indeed sad and long.

viazi:
Its called Kazeeming the AC.

Lol. You made my day!

Would have been happier had they arrived on the 29th.

Well done, Nihi. A very good job. You have achieved what is to be forever mentioned in Nigeria history.

Forget haters. You are a star. And yes, kudos to your wife.

Caveat: I am an APC supporter.

vislabraye:
Nice point. On the other hand, where does discipline come in ?
I also believe this is part of training too.

Well, these in themselves are discipline of some sort.

Only if my broad understanding of discipline as we know it is too meagre to emphasise the 'corporal' type. I am not sure that is what you mean.

Again, remember we are talking of building self esteem; not destroying it.

mdbissalla:
Ops i can see you like research about parenting. i really learnt alot from dis post.

Oh good to know.

I was actually reading up stuff for my near-4-year-old when I fell on this.

I am a father 2 times and proud.

By Sarah Henry
Inspiring your preschooler's self-esteem may seem like a hefty responsibility. After all, a feeling of self-worth lays the foundation for your preschooler's future as he sets out to try new things on his own.

"Self-esteem comes from having a sense of belonging, believing that we're capable, and knowing our contributions are valued and worthwhile," says California family therapist Jane Nelsen, co-author of the Positive Discipline series.

"As any parent knows, self-esteem is a fleeting experience," says Nelsen. "Sometimes we feel good about ourselves and sometimes we don't. What we're really trying to teach our kids are life skills like resiliency."

Your goal as a parent is to ensure that your child develops pride and self-respect — in himself and in his cultural roots — as well as faith in his ability to handle life's challenges (for a preschooler that may mean copying capital letters accurately). Here are ten simple strategies to help boost your child's self-esteem:

Give unconditional love. A child's self-esteem flourishes with the kind of no-strings-attached devotion that says, "I love you, no matter who you are or what you do." Your child benefits the most when you accept him for who he is regardless of his strengths, difficulties, temperament, or abilities.

So lavish him with love. Give him plenty of cuddles, kisses, and pats on the shoulder. And don't forget to tell him how much you love him.

When you do have to correct your child, make it clear that it's his behavior — not him — that's unacceptable. For instance, instead of saying, "You're a naughty boy! Why can't you be good?" say, "Pushing Gabriel isn't nice. It can hurt. Please don't push."

Pay attention. Carve out time to give your preschooler your undivided attention. That does wonders for your child's self-worth because it sends the message that you think he's important and valuable.

It doesn't have to take a lot of time. It means taking a moment to stop flicking through the mail if he's trying to talk with you or turning off the TV long enough to answer a question. Make eye contact so it's clear that you're really listening to what he's saying.

When you're strapped for time, let your child know it without ignoring his needs. Say, "Tell me all about the picture you drew, and then when you're finished, I'll need to make our dinner."

Teach limits. Establish a few reasonable rules for your preschooler. For instance, if you tell your child he has to eat his snack in the kitchen, don't let him wander around the family room with his crackers and fruit the next day.

Knowing that certain family rules are set in stone will help him feel more secure. It may take constant repetition on your part, but he'll start to live by your expectations soon enough. Just be clear and consistent.

Support healthy risks. Encourage your child to explore something new, such as trying a different food, finding a new pal, or riding a trike. Though there's always the possibility of failure, without risk there's little opportunity for success.

So let your child safely experiment, and resist the urge to intervene. For instance, try not to "rescue" him if he's showing mild frustration at figuring out a new toy. Even jumping in to say, "I'll do it" can foster dependence and diminish your child's confidence.

Build his self-esteem by balancing your need to protect him with his need to tackle new tasks.

Let mistakes happen. The flip side, of course, of having choices and taking risks is that sometimes your child is bound to make mistakes. These are valuable lessons to build your child's confidence.

So if your child puts his plate too close to the edge of the table and it tips, encourage him to think about what he might do differently next time. That way his self-esteem won't sag and he'll understand that it's okay to make mistakes sometimes.

When you goof up yourself, admit it, says Daniel Meier, assistant professor of elementary education at San Francisco State University. Acknowledging and recovering from your mistakes sends a powerful message to your child — it makes it easier for your child to accept his own shortcomings.

Celebrate the positive. Everyone responds well to encouragement, so make an effort to acknowledge the good things your child does every day within his earshot. For instance, tell his dad, "Joshua washed all the vegetables for dinner." He'll get to bask in the glow of your praise and his dad's heartening response.

And be specific. Instead of saying "Good job," say, "Thank you for waiting so patiently in line." This will enhance his sense of accomplishment and self-worth and let him know exactly what he did right.

Listen well. If your child is trying to tell you something, stop and listen to what he has to say, even if you don't understand all his words. He needs to know that his thoughts and feelings matter.

Help him get comfortable with his emotions by labeling them. Say, "I understand you're sad because you have to say bye to your playmates."

By accepting his emotions without judgment, you validate his feelings and show that you value what he has to say. If you share your own feelings ("I'm excited about going to the zoo", he'll gain confidence expressing his own.

Resist comparisons. Comments such as ""Why can't you be nice like Peter?" will just make your preschooler feel bad about himself. Even positive comparisons, such as "You're the best player" are potentially damaging because a child can find it hard to live up to this image.

If you let your child know you appreciate him for the unique individual he is rather than how he compares with others, he'll be more likely to value himself too.

Offer empathy. If your child gets frustrated because he can't do things his peers can ("I can't catch a ball like Sophia!", show him empathy and then emphasize one of his strengths. For instance, say, "Sophia is good at catching a ball. And you're good at painting pictures."

This can help your child learn that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that he doesn't have to be perfect to feel good about himself.

Provide encouragement. Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, "I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!" Encouragement means acknowledging progress — not just rewarding achievement. So if your preschooler is struggling to fasten his snaps, say, "You're trying very hard and you almost have it!" instead of "Not like that. Let me do it."

There's a difference between praise and encouragement. One rewards the task while the other rewards the person ("You did it!" rather than "I'm proud of you!". Praise can make a child feel that he's only "good" if he does something perfectly.

Encouragement, on the other hand, acknowledges the effort. "Tell me about your drawing. I see that you like purple" is more helpful than saying, "That's the most beautiful picture I've ever seen." Too much praise can sap self-esteem because it can create pressure to perform and set up a continual need for approval from others.

So dole out the praise judiciously and offer encouragement liberally: Doing that will help your child grow up to feel good about himself.

Source: BabyCenter.com

Daniel058:
why waste your precious energy and MB MAN, at the end of the post, he wrote "GUYS DO YOU AGREE

I was going to throw bombs at the op in respect of my doubts over his 'maturity' and relationship status, but when I read your words of wisdom here, I just calmed.

Blessed are the peacemakers; for they shall be called the children of God.

All I see is...

Side attraction

EgusiSoup:
What is fiancee?

It is an Egusi soup.

There's trully no big deal about the gig. I personally really like it.

But then the future of your relationship should not depend on you doing things against your conviction. It is a relationship and not slavery.

China o! No be here.

midolian:
Ekiti State governor, Ayodele Fayose, has described the resignation of British Labour Party (LP) leader, Ed Miliband, and Liberal Democrats...

“Shouldn’t our party National Chairman also take a queue from this and allow for fresh minds to steer the ship of the party at this difficult time?

“Methinks leaders in this country should learn from their counterparts in other climes because like I said, when a war commander leads his troop to an embarrassing defeat, such commander does not need anyone to tell him that he needs to leave the war front.”


http://dailyindependentnig.com/2015/05/fayose-muazu-resign-emulate-british-lp-democrats-leaders/

Like your boss, and your boss' boss, don't be glued to cluelessness.

You take a 'cue' and not a 'queue' sir.

Enegod:
Cheaters cheat because of their own core values, not because someone didn't pay them attention or didn't treat them right,or any other reason.

They do it because that's who they are. A person who would not cheat can have all the opportunities and all the reasons
in the world to cheat, but they won't..

I truly hope that I will lbs able to say this statement with pride in my old age.

Word.

AndreRose:
Bringing back old memories. I did it very well.
Am always the child during the play.
#goodolddays.

Ahaha! Too many things obviously eluded you. Ah! They've been scamming you since from long. So you didn't take note that the same set of people always wanted to play 'mummy and daddy'?

Ahahahhaj

bobbyluis:
if u have one female cousin or any female close that can fit into ur bridal train,tell her to invite her friends over(if she has any),that way u can make and tell them abt ur wedding
Or
get ur male cousins to bring their girlfriends 4 u

Omo, see idea!

God bless you more and more.