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Tenrack:
You ducked my question ma.

Can't say I saw a question from you.

Can you repeat it please?

Kobojunkie:
Seems more like many more consider divorce the logical escape from a regretful situation in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

I wouldn't myself call divorce the first or obvious solution.

How about marriage counseling first? They'd teach both parties to communicate their issues to each other and they just might find an amicable solution.

jaszplus12:
Go ask those who have left their marriages, there's a lot to contemplate...

Or better still, ask the children who suffer from the divorce.

Youarenotmad:
Ive gotten laptop for myself but i need more criticism from people like you to break me. Crucify me since im the problem

If other people are the cause of my problems, then they are the solutions to my problems, but there's no guarantee they will care so much that solving the problems they caused me would be their top priority. So I choose to own and be responsible for all problems I may have, because that way I am empowered to find my own solutions for my own problems.

Now, if the above makes sense to you, you will crucify yourself so that you can resurrect, because what you sow will not come to life unless it dies.

My apologies for Bible if it's not your inclination.

Youarenotmad:
i dropped out of school,

He did not talk about continuing school or helping secure money for laptop

Since you are getting lots of sympathy from everyone else, let me help you.

You dropped out of school, so you are not learning, but you want someone to invest their money in you so you can buy laptop? Do you know you are not serious at all?

What happened to you going to learn mechanic (for instance)? Do you know that if you wake up 6am and sweep mechanic yard, your oga will at least buy you breakfast? And if you hustle well for your oga, he would even let you sleep in the cars he's fixing?

After one single year, you'd have at the very least learnt to change oil and do full service, a side hustle you can save up from to buy your own laptop.

Yes, I said harsh. When I was kicked out at 15 years old, I sold eggs for others and eventually canned coke at the Lagos end of Ibadan Expressway and saved up my money and bought ticket to return home to UK where I worked in a chicken and chips shop for £1.10 an hour to pay my way through Uni, so I hope you see why my sympathy for you who's parents hide food from in the toilet is almost non-existent.

You want laptop, lol. And no, you are not mad!

Makelele004:
This understanding matters. It shifts focus from blame to action. Marriage survives through awareness, effort, and honest repair.

If men know this, perhaps they, men, wouldn't be asking Why does she feel distant. What happened to the connection we had.

After all, its not only wives who ask the questions you posed, since women too distance themselves from men who lack awareness, and don't put effort in, and who don't honestly repair their relationship with their wives.

musicwriter:
The story is meant to baby-walk an individual into independence in everything we do- it's actually meant to achieve detachment from the God of religion into a higher understanding that God is within ourselves

Unfortunately, many are not grown up yet. But time is fortunately on our side, as there will be a next generation, and many more after that who will seek understanding instead of merely believing baby stories about fictional mythical made up beings.

musicwriter:
You're right, except that there was no Jesus.

My research on this is inconclusive, I confess, though it's not likely that the stories we hear about a Jesus could possibly be true, and are therefore invented. It's like the stories about Buddha, where research shows there wasn't only one, and most stories about them are fiction.

My attitude is that there was no actual tortoise who's name was "All of Us", except from the imaginary one that Chinua Achebe invented a story about in Things Fall Apart. But that story still teaches a lesson worth learning, just as those about a Jesus and the Fables of Aesop also do.

MightySparrow:
Ok

Beautiful, I am from Ekiti State. Islam does not have appreciable presence as there are more towns and villages without mosques and Muslims are there are. However, the current trend of Sharia demand and awareness is becoming a thing of particular concern. Many social media influencers, opinion leaders, even among Muslims and others religious leanings are springing up to resist, create and awareness. Osun state has sizeable Muslim community, and you possibly could be one.
Those you said have become Yorubas, know their roots and are proud of them. I see SW in religious wars in the near future if the trend is not checked now.

I never knew Islam does not have an appreciable presence in Ekiti like we have in Osun State. I wouldn't however agree that there is a "trend of Sharia demand" in Osun State however, nor do I think we can have religious wars, though that's not to say there might not be any at all.

In Ifon Osun for instance, we have a culture of many gods, so it's not unusual for families to have Christians and Muslims and traditional god worshippers in the same household and families, nor is it odd that a person may worship more than two. We after all have traditionally gone to church and or mosque and sacrifice a dog to Ogun and a goat to Owala, so the idea of "one god" is relatively new. I even have cousins, my aunties daughters, of three born again Christians and three head covering Muslims who grew up in the same room and love each other as siblings, so you might imagine what a religious war might be like.

As for your "possibly could be one", buda was born an atheist to Christian parents who converted many generations back on the fathers side from paganism, and on the mother's side from paganism to Islam to Christianity. Basically, they seem to have followed the latest religion when superior knowledge and a book was introduced to them, just as I too have done where I live.

Obiedun:
In a nutshell what I am saying here is that Hausa tribe is going to extinction but the language remains. Call about ten northerners and ask about their tribes , you will be shocked to hear that though they speak Hausa but claim to be from other tribes.

I do agree with the "going to extinction". It's exactly what this thread is about too, that the Fulani are committing genocide against Hausas so they are going extinct. (The word choice in italics is not agreed yet, I know, and I am throwing it in to provoke thought, note). Some are however resisting that extinction, so they are obviously not extinct yet.

And yes, a lot of Hausa speakers you come across may not be indigenous, but that seems similar, I reckon, to Igbos speaking fluent Yoruba in my own Osun State, or Nigerians speaking English. They are still Igbos and Nigerians respectively, regardless of speaking the languages or not.

There's also the fact that Hausa is not the only language of Northerners, and nor are all Northerners are either Fulani or Hausa. But I think our Southern ignorance of our Northern neighbours makes us lump them all as one. In fact, when I first came across Nigeria in the 70s, Fulani was not a group of people I or those around me knew existed, and all Northerners were Hausa. It was only later that one became conscious of Hausa-Fulani, thinking they were one, while we are now finding they are as different as Yorubas are to Igbos.

Its like we used to call all Southeasterners Igbos, I think, or call all Yorubas, despite their being numerous separate tribes and languages amongst both.

MightySparrow:
You are very right, I lived in Nasarawa State . The official language seems to be Hausa. I now discovered that there were some elderly ones that didn't understand Hausa language at all.

But this does not mean they are not Hausa people, surely?

But perhaps I reason as I do because of where I live. Here in UK, Nigerian parents are giving birth to children who wouldn't deny their Nigerianess just because they don't speak any Nigerian language and despite being British.

As I said, we have Hausa people in Ifon Osun who don't speak Hausa anymore, and are even intermarrying the Yorubas, but they still are Hausa people, just as much as some children of Yoruba parents even in Nigeria who don't speak Yoruba are still Yorubas.

MightySparrow:
I understand you. Fúlànís have been persistent in enshrining what they did in the North in Yorubaland for 400 years. Yoruba Muslims are divided on this enslavement agenda and people are being educated about another war as it happened in the battle of o Oṣogbo in 1840.

The North, non - Fúlànís are waking up to take back their heritage. For now, the Middle Belt is not having it easy with Fúlànís.

Something is about to happen. I am afraid, the Hausa and other tribes may empower their youths with guns as Fúlànís. These people would want to fight rather than silent annihilation.

Yoruba Muslims are divided on this enslavement agenda, perhaps because Fulanis do not dominate Islam in Yorubaland. I'm from Osun State myself, and less than 10 miles from Osogbo, and I can't say I see Fulani influence amongst our Muslims. We even have a large Muslim community that has been in my Ifon Osun for many generations now, and a lot of them have become Yoruba speakers, with many not even understanding Hausa. We don't have a Fulani community however.

"The Hausa and other tribes empowering their youths with guns", is the logical outcome, unless a Nigerian government does something about their enslaved conditions and frees them from oppression. Thankfully, more awareness amongst all us Nigerians might force a different outcome, though I wouldn't count out a war since I do not expect the Fulani to peacefully give up their dominance.

Obiedun:
I disagree with you. Who are the Hausa? We now have only Hausa language no more Hausa people. Most of the people we call Hausa will even tell you they are not. Again, people you claim are fighting for freedom are not. Just go against any of their Fulani leaders now and you will see their reactions.

How can you possibly claim [most] people who speak the Hausa language are not Hausa people? Is that not like claiming the indigenous Igbo or Yoruba people speaking Igbo or Yoruba today are not Igbo and Yoruba people?

You also seem to be suggesting that the Hausas and the Fulani are the same people, despite them having different languages of Fulfude and Hausa.

Then you say "people you claim are fighting for freedom are not", as if you have not bothered to watch the videos that MightySparrow posted that clearly show that people who call themselves Hausa are very clearly fighting for freedom from Fulani.

All this makes me wonder if you've actually bothered to educate yourself and learn, and if I should bother engaging with you further or not unless you provide evidence which I am prepared to patiently await to back up your claims.

musicwriter:
The whole concept of "a savior loving others so much that he gave up his life for them" comes from that picture.

I most definitely should have waited till you are done, and likely still should. But excitement at your thread overcomes me.

The concept you mention does not only come from that picture, but is also from the ancient knowledge that has now become mystical, and is only available to those who ask and knock and seek for knowledge and the wisdom to discern.

It is even stated in the act of the serpent (consciousness of the human mind), freeing Adam and Eve from naked slavery. For it is called a serpent in the Bible, but it really was Eve thinking and wondering and deciding with her own brain and mind.

"Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made, and it said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?” they wrote for us to read. “You will not certainly die,” “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

So Eve "saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, and she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings".

Now some say they did die, but we read that the God only kicked them out of his garden where they were naked ignorant slaves so they could go and become self employed working for their own food, and they went on to populate the entire earth, with Adam eventually dying at 930 years old, which was 800 years after eating the supposed poison that he was told "in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die".

So what's the point of all this, you might wonder. I put it to you that on this Christmas day in remembrance of Jesus, that Jesus himself wouldn't have told them not to eat any fruit in the first place just as those in God's Image before Adam and Eve were not told to eat the supposed poisonous fruit. He would most likely have plucked the poisonous fruit and fed it to Adam and Eve himself, because without eating fruits of knowledge, they wouldn't have been able to rule the earth and subdue it and multiply and rule over everything and be blessed to do greater things than Christ is written to have done. He would have even fed them the Fruit of the Tree of Life too so that they may live eternal life.

They call it a serpent (snake), but I hope you wonder.

Merry Christmas everyone, and a Happy New Year of rebirth to you all.

My partner slept last night while studying, and the laptop being used fell to the ground because they dosed off. It now works no more.

My laptop decided to take a bath last month after I passed out on getting out the bath to pee, and also works no more. I was saving up to replace it at £2000, but now have to postpone because mine is a gaming laptop and we have to buy my partners laptop first because their's is a study laptop.

Christmas is effectively financially semi-cancelled, though we plan to make the best of it, as I personally could have had my laptop join me in the bath and fry my ass with electricity which would have made me somewhat incapable of seeing in the new year. But here am I on Christmas day looking forward to the new year with gratitude for being alive.

So, Merry Christmas everybody. May 2026 be much better than 2025. Insha'Allah God wills in Jesus mighty name, Amen.

P. S. budaatum is an atheist. (Just so no one thinks otherwise from the above).

This is rather drastic!

It should be recognised that not all parents are hindering their children's progress, and some parents are rearing their children to be successful. They after all feed us and educate us and nurture us, though many are doing the opposite.

What this sort of thread must teach us is that we should not become parents that hinder the progress of our own children.

The below is about girls, but for this thread please read it as applying to your sons and boys too.

How about you buy your own ingredients and cook your own food so you know you haven't cooked yourself poison?

I was agreeing with you Mighty, and know "Hausa themselves are crying for freedom from Fúlàní domination", and that's why I said "when" as in When Will Northern Nigeria Know Peace, since it's a matter of time.

What I'm now finding is we on Nairaland are becoming more aware that we shouldn't consider Hausa and Fulani as one people, and that pleases me immensely.

P.s. You might find me posting this invaluable resource you've educated me with. Note, and thanks.

MightySparrow:
Are you a stranger in Nigeria? Hausa themselves are crying for freedom from Fúlàní domination.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k_rQTwovpSg?si=herMdnuRYuM0d_mS


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k_rQTwovpSg?si=2h58EJNwQ9VyaG7s


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AWYo9PpxMwI?si=U9e5-flrsTeYDbaG


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3k-fQHtJZc?si=W_444tM--mljvixL

MightySparrow:
Why Northern Nigeria May Not Know Peace After the Jihad of Uthman dan Fodio

No, Mighty, not "may not", but when. And because people like you are beginning to educate the rest of us that Fulani the coloniser, is not Hausa the colonised.

In fact, Sparrows like you will eventually educate the rest of us to stop saying Fulani-Hausa, since it's as oxymoronic as saying Igbo-Yoruba.

budaatum:
When Nigerian gained independence from the British, no one considered the North was colonised by Fulanis and needed independence too.

We are hopefully now realising the North needs freeing from Fulani colonisation, and would start working towards it.

brain54:
The chief land grabbers...


But what do you expect? Isreal itself was built on stolen land. They keep widening and expanding their theft!

It sounds like some people don't mind israel stealing, which makes me think they like thieves stealing from them in Nigeria too.

Sulemohammed01:
It is very infelicitous to come up with this idea at this moment of our history. Making voting compulsory now is like adding petrol to fire and salt to injury 🩸. Nigeria is not yet ripe to adopt compulsory voting. It can do that as soon as practicable.

Actually, making voting compulsory and fining those who don't vote is what will reduce voters apathy.

Sulemohammed01:
At the moment, Nigeria is not well and political apathy is not the cause of the problems;

Voters apathy is the cause of Nigeria not being well!

Voting apathy even allows those who will make Nigeria more unwell to get elected by the few who are not apathetic to voting, which is why Tinubu presides over us today after having been elected by a mere 10m voters, while the majority were apathetic and did not bother to get off their asses and vote.

Sulemohammed01:
You don't expect citizens to participate fully in Nigerian election when there is Electoral fraud,false declaration of election results and what have you.

Yes, I do "expect citizens to participate fully in Nigerian election", and because "there is Electoral fraud, false declaration of election results and what have you".

If more people vote and monitor their voting so it is accurately counted, there'd be less "Electoral fraud, false declaration of election results and what have you".

Sulemohammed01:
Nigerians are beginning to know that PresidentAsiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinububu is not their problem but their law makers at the Federal level and Governors.

The "law makers at the Federal level and Governors" that we voted for, or rather didn't vote for due to our voting apathy, which is why we should be forced to vote, I say.

Sulemohammed01:
WHAT MUST BE DONE TO END POLITICAL APATHY IN NIGERIA

Be forced to vote, and be fined if we don't vote, obviously.

Sulemohammed01:
2. Make a law that will make votes count In Nigeria. If this is not put in place, then get ready to arrest and jail many Nigerians but don't forget to build plenty prisons

What, pray tell, is the point of "making a law that will make votes count In Nigeria" when we don't vote in Nigeria due to our voting apathy?

What votes will your law count if we don't vote?

Sulemohammed01:
CONCLUSION
Voting apathy in Nigeria grows year by year especially among the youths. Making it compulsory at this moment of our history is not the best.

I think you are funny, and at the same time I very much appreciate your post.

If voting apathy is growing year by year, will a law that forces you to not be apathetic to voting not stop that voting apathy?

That all said, the law can not force anyone to actually vote since I can just spoil my ballot so it registers that I voted. But I should not then complain if the elected person does not rule as I'd want.

The below says "affairs", but I'm claiming it means vote!

RaptorX:
Those people were arrested before signing up for the deportation, the money was meant for migrants who on their own sign up to leave the country.

Either ways, I don't trust the current USA government, and would like to have my hands on the $3k before I leave their country because I don't think I'd find it easy to get paid after I've left.

But that's just me. Others might want to do different. And besides, I wouldn't put my feet on dump's US soil even if they paid me the $3k to go there.

LordReed:
LoLz. Its almost as if they can't help but expose themselves.

Not "almost", my Lord. They can't help but expose themself to those who have eyes to see them.

And that's because they don't look at themself and can not see themselves even if they tried to look at themself. And they think everyone is blind like they are and can not see their self that they expose.

Sulemohammed01:
THE SHENANIGANS OF NIGERIAN POLITICIANS: WHEN WILL IT END?

Politics itself is not a dirty game. But our politicians have made it look dirty.

I think it is we the voters who reward the dirty practitioners of politics by electing them.

We should stop electing dirty politicians and elect clean politicians instead if we want our politics to be clean and THE SHENANIGANS OF NIGERIAN POLITICIANS to END.

Sadly, some, like obiekunie01, don't think their votes count and don't even bother to vote, so we have a very long way to go before the shenanigans start to be ended by us the voters who are responsible for ending it.

Some parents purely ignorant, is much closer to the truth. And they damage their children with their ignorance.

"Women get bored of having just one sexual partner in marriage" who is boring.

If either partner in marriage is bored, they should work together to unbore each other by adding spice to their boring sex.

joseph1832:
Anita Wise isn't very wise. Seeing how she jumped to make hasty generalization and non sequitur comment.

I think Anita Wise has very wisely accurately described joseph1832.

Edplug:
What Do You Think?

Do you believe consciousness is purely biological, or is there a spiritual component that science cannot measure? How does the idea of "Split-Brain" affect your view of the soul?

I think there are far too many ifs, but that's the beauty of the writeup, as it makes one explore ones own consciousness.

My own uniqueness abhors "belief", because I would rather know, which involves me consciously seeking. But that same consciousness of mine makes me aware (conscious), that I'm not unique at all in this regard, since I can not be the only person on this huge earth who seeks to know.

That said, the deliberate utilisation of "the ability to introspect and take decisions with intent" is what I would say makes me conscious.

Basically, I do not descarteanically "think, therefore exist", but exist, therefore I think.

As for split-brain, I'm more like 'split in personality'. There is a me, and there is a 'mind me' that I often refer to as buda. And it's not unusual for the 'mind me' to tell the 'me' me to stop talking crap when I do talk crap. The battle is in deciding which is the "I" that talks the crap. And the determinant is often a third aspect of myself, though that then hits the conundrum of whom myself is that is deciding between the 'me' me and the 'mind me' and the 'I' that is me as well.

It's the problem of understand oneself as a trinity, or in my case, a quarternity, since there's another conscious aspect of trinity me that introspects and overlooks the me, and the mind me, and I me.

In effect, to your question, What Exactly Is Consciousness?

My answer is, I wish I knew. And because I do not know yet, I'm still seeking. And I would not be surprised to eventually find a fifth aspect of who I might also be, and a sixth and a seventh and a .......

FarmilyFinance:
IN THE VILLAGE

Just this alone shows smarts, though I'm certain some will yell, "village people".

In my opinion, a person old enough to retire should have acquired the juju, as in know how, to protect themselves, but I guess that's why smart people should get in touch so you can ensmarten them further.

Thanks tons.

Senior police officers said Olajide sourced the cocaine from a male associate in Mumbai and was instructed to personally deliver it to another Nigerian national in Bengaluru.

“She was directed to carry the drug herself and hand it over to another Nigerian national residing in Bengaluru. This was done to minimise suspicion and avoid courier-based interception,” an investigating officer revealed.

https://punchng.com/indian-police-arrest-nigerian-student-for-hiding-cocaine-in-bread-loaves/

Some reportings can annoy

If she "sourced", implying by herself, how can she have been "instructed", which implies, by someone else?

I know your thread is about Arabs, but I'm adding Biodun556 thread about Fulani so both can be considered.

https://www.nairaland.com/8450217/katsina-emir-rejects-hausa-governorship#135736852

budaatum:
When Nigerian gained independence from the British, no one considered the North was colonised by Fulanis and needed independence too.

We are hopefully now realising the North needs freeing from Fulani colonisation, and would start working towards it.