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Deepspirituals:
Irrespective of the Narration
Well by and Large ,If I were to be the Girl , Naturally it would be a very Hard one for me to Accept the Reality of the Strange man I never knew from Birth .

I would go for the man that took care of me from Birth till Adulthood.

And this is what I would think most children in this situation would do.

In the very old days, a woman who did not get pregnant for her husband will test her virility with another man to see if the problem was from her. And the man will take another wife to check if he were the problem.

My own paternal grandmother was taken from her infertile husband, my granduncle, and was given to his brother, my paternal grandfather, after years of not conceiving. My grandfather was not happy of course, because he wanted to marry a younger beautiful girl but had to wait till he got his brother's, or rather, his now first wife, pregnant, but he never did like her. Thankfully, we've evolved and can now do dna.

The cuckooed man (that's what they used to be called, by the way, though it now means something else), in your narrative should not lament since this is the only child he has, and wouldn't have a child otherwise. It's one thing to donate the liquid men produce (I'm evading Seun's spambot here), and another to be a father.

TruthHurts1:
Notably, both children currently reside abroad.

I guess this is the reason some should not let their children japa.

Because once they free themselves from the religious oppression of Nigeria and experience the freedom of thought in the West, there's no coming back. Or rather, that thing Nigerians call satan, gets them.

SPIRITUALIST, I have a question for you.

Who do you think the daughter would consider to be her real father out of the two men?

Do you think it would be the one "She Loved Him so Much as Her Father who took care of Her from Birth till she Graduated", or "The Original father wanted Her Daughter back during her 400 Levels?"

And to those reading. If you were this child, which of the two men would you consider to be your father?

This, "wall not required" policy, reminds me of London Mayor Ken Livingstone's congestion charge.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z684nMeKR5c?si=5GR17kzeAJYja8P_

Evilthoughts:
Stop comparing your lazy sister to the rest of us. There is nowhere on this earth Nigerians haven't dominated because we can thrive under any situation. Your sister is lazy. What about the Nigerian doctors, care workers ,nurses and professionals in the same UK? 🗑

Why is that you mention the hard working Nigerians in UK like my sister and not those in Nigeria?

Do Nigerians become unlazy when they arrive in UK like my sister found out, or is the work culture just different and that's why even you recognise Nigerians work hard in UK?

One more question. A trick one if you may.

How do Nigerians dominate in Nigeria?

I don't sleep well at night. Never did. My pre-teens was sticking my book out the window at night so I could read it with the light from the neighbour's better than us. No, not my school books, which was study 7pm-11, but novels, which my parents weren't keen on me reading because my favourite for a while had pictures on the front they disapproved of. They were by a guy who Chased H. James, if you get my drift, and 110 of them too, so I read when every one slept.

The noise from the better than me neighbour didn't help much with sleep neither, but my non-night sleep might have began in ma's womb. She was a nurse when I was conceived. Worked nights. And I think her not sleeping kept me awake too.

My first regular job didn't help. It was shifts, with lots of night, which was when my body was most awake, and I worked it for like 10 years.

Its all me though. I kind of rolled with me instead of reprogramming, and now I'm set in sleepless rocks. And since I now do my own earning when I want, there's been little incentive to change. Had to while studying though, and when I had a day job, but I do always, when I can, go back to non-night sleeping.

I'm saying all this because its night and I'm sleepless, and you might have been programmed like I am, and might just need to reprogramme yourself if you do want to sleep at night.

feedthenation:
---FBI Deputy Director Dan Bongino says that he plans to leave the job next month in January---

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=718c9dE7Vqs?si=C4LbP3OwVNYx1FwQ

ExudeLoveToAll:
Opinions should be left for the rich isn't it? Make una dey use una critical thinking skills small na abeg.

No, Opinions should not be left for the rich. Opinions should however be considered with a functioning brain though.

I apologise for wanting to jump down your throat on reading the thread title until I read the following:

SpiritualWealth:
Fix The Financial Direction Of The Educational System Of Nigeria,

Our education system is designed to program us to work naked in a Garden of Eden instead of empowering us to rule and subdue and multiply and be blessed. But we will hopefully eventually learn to educate ourselves to be the one we prefer to be.

Ref: https://www.nairaland.com/7351620/story-adam-eve-makes-sense#117003826

.....if the report is accurate....

And that's the key point.

Is it accurate? And if it is, will they come and arrest me when I elope to Benin?

DeepSight:
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Developing country, it's a process that will take time.

Not arguing that. We are currently very behind though. And I think its because we are so blessed (or perhaps our feeding is subsidised).

I used to sit on my balcony on Enoma reading while watching (some) people walk up and down Ago Palace Road every day and I'd wonder where some of them got their daily bread. I could see right into the oloshohouse opposite though, and watch the 'resident' hustle day and night.

Tax (and subsidy removal) is what government is using to increase productivity. We are going to groan big when they take more and more of our earnings so we'd need to hustle more to meet ends.

Kaczynski:
Woke ism typa of

Seems le racism gibberish.

This must be the reason Nigerians don't learn history, because it just might awaken you.

True story incidentally, and shows how some treated some.

Lionessza6:
What many call hard work across much of the continent is actually time lost to chaos. Long commutes because systems don’t work. Long days because nothing runs on schedule. Presence without productivity. Survival dressed up as virtue.

I'm avoiding the South African comparison, but the above rings true. My sister would leave Ikotun at 5am to get to Eric Moore by 7 or not get there till after 10, and that's not part of work but would definitely drain her considerably.

DeepSight:
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Let your sisters experience speak for her alone as this is not the experience of everyone. Sounds like she worked in one of the laid back govt offices in Nigeria. In the private sector things are tasking, fast-paced and demanding, and no one gets by via pottering around or wasting time.

Actually, First Registrars. But I'm not basing my opinion on her alone, nor is it my claim that everyone doesn't work hard in Nigeria.

I worked at my uncle's sawmill in my teens, and I and his own children slaved for our dinner. I also worked for myself and wouldn't say I was lazy. And Nigerians who worked for me in my early days in UK found the pace rather hard going.

I was home ten years ago and struggled to get workers for my farm despite paying double the going rate. People would rather go sit outside Kami, the state rep's, house and collect than come work for me.

Fact is, a nation where many go night vigils instead of resting at night can not be as productive as where most get a good nights sleep. And if we can't clean our streets or generate constant electricity, we are either not hardworking or unknowledgeable.

But all that's anecdotal. Check were we are on a productivity by country list and tell me we are as productive as some.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_labour_productivity

Even our Gross national income is not to boast about.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gross_national_income

We were never created to compete, but to complete. What we seek is equity, a balance that allows both strengths to thrive side by side.

Here's to strong women.

May we know them and be them and raise them!

IronGalaxy:
The myth that other Africans are more "hardworking" is self-flattery at best.. Look at your countries, nothing screams "hard work" ..

Funny this.

My sister, an accountant with like 20 years work experience in Nigeria, recently completed her masters in UK and got a job.

"Damn, they make you work for every penny here", she told me.

She'd arrive at work in Lagos at 7am, she said, because leaving for 8am when her office opened meant she wouldn't get there by ten. She'd do about an hours work, and by noon its break time, during which she'd go shopping at market and arrive back by 2 and potter around till 5 and be done and home by 7. Whereas, in UK she gets a 45 minutes break, and despite working from home three days, its work every single minute.

"How can we expect to develop as a nation working like we do back home when the competition here is draining every minute for the money they pay", she laments, glad she finally came over saying she's learnt more about work in a year in UK than she did in 20 years in Nigeria.

Hard working my toe, says I, but most wouldn't know of it unless they travel out of Nigeria.

SpencerForbes:
She’s definitely heading in the right direction. Chess is easily the best strategy game out there, but I’ve always struggled to find a version with a clean interface. GameKnot feels a bit dated with its color scheme—it looks old-school and most of the options on the iOS App Store look way too much like cartoons.

Honestly, I haven’t found anything that beats the look of the old Symbian versions—I'm still looking for one that actually looks sleek.

Gameknot is old-school, lol. It says I joined in Mar-2013, but I've been there since it came live in 2010 and have a lifetime sub. I guess I'm not fussy, having started playing on 9in squares with about 12 pieces. It does have other themes too though.

https://m.gameknot.com/layout-settings.pl?g=5

I like it because it primarily specialized in correspondence (turn-based) chess, where players take several days to make each move, which is a test of patience in itself since I move much sooner (almost immediately) than my opponents and then have to wait days. Beats correspondence though, which I did play for years. You just imagine waiting in Nigeria for a single move in a letter from Dusseldorf in return to your move sent by post there. Roundtrip took 4 months at times and a single game took years!

joseph1832:
So, aside my immaturity, what else do you find amusing? Because I have a whole lot of ways to amuse you, trust me.

I'm not looking to be amused by you, Joseph, as I've no time for clowns.

As for what might interest me however, go through my threads and pick one.

joseph1832:
Can't you just say the word?

I think this is amongst the reason I find you interesting - your use of euphemism... You use it so well. While I on the other hand.

With Seun spam botting all over the place, I'm forced to be circumspect at times, but a pity you "on the other hand", for I'm certain you can be interesting if you tried much less.

Go on. Find a topic we can discuss above the chin that makes use of what's above the eyes and I might learn something from you.

Meantime, I'm off to treat myself to a coffee and buy some shelves.

joseph1832:
You should be interested in what I do, especially when it concerns you. Lol

Maybe I should, but I really am not interested in what you do or what you say, especially concerning me.

Just listening to you boasting about your whatevers is like watching a toddler try to catch the moon, but I confess the immaturity is amusing.

Sounds like you are willing to pay 10% of your six month's salary to whoever helps you find a job.

Confirm please.

And perhaps state your skills so we know how much you might earn and what the effort might be worth.

Bigsin:
Hello everyone! I am giving out 10% of my salary for 6 months to anyone who will introduce me to a remote job employer as a sign of gratitude 🙂

DaddyJapan:
Source: https://www.premiumtimesng.com/business/business-news/843642-nmdpras-ceo-disowns-response-to-dangote-allegations-clarifies-position.html

I wish Nigeria's youth would learn to pick and fight the right battles.

If Dangote's allegations against Farouk are false, Farouk should sue him for defamation!

And I must say, my god Dangote is behaving like an opposite of god, and I'm very displeased.

joseph1832:
In response to the pic below.

I'll have you know.......

Joseph. I'm not particularly interested in what you do or don't do, though I am very interested when you have something interesting and relevant to say to me. So why don't you do you and enjoy it and ignore me doing me?

There's after all no obligation that you should do me on Nairaland.

Lifestone:
He's at the ICPC and he should there defend himself.

I agree. Though the ICPC is not a court but the prosecuting agency who would need to present their case before a judge and he defend himself.

If ICPC find any evidence of his wrong doing they can charge him to court. And if a judge finds him to be guilty, I will gladly join the condemning parade and hope he rots in jail.

SpencerForbes:
It’s wild, honestly. The AI messes up sometimes, and I have to step in and fix things. It’s still pretty interesting, though—it can take a solid day or two just to wrap up a single game.

Sounds like blind chess. There's no way I'd remember where all my pieces were if I wasn't watching them on a board. Might be because some of my online games can take a month though, as I do often continue otb games in my dreams.

Incidentally, the reason I opened this thread as a religion is there isn't a philosophy section. I'll stress how it don't matter what I choose to believe in my head that Farouk might play, I still must wait for it to be played to see if I'm right or not, and then respond appropriately.

You should hear 9 year old Tara though.

"I want to be a psychiatrist. I want to be able to read people's minds so I can find out my opponent's next move," she says.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0r9jyxpp5jo

SmartyPants:
Really not sure where you're going with this...Did I ask you to lynch anyone? I said, in simpler words, Dangote has made a petition and has provided evidence. Let Farouk counter it rather than you jumping through hoops to counter on his behalf. Rather logical.

You don't need to be sure where I'm going with anything, but asking me to find Farouk guilty on Dangote's allegations that don't include any evidence is asking me to lynch, in my book

Dangote has not provided any evidence. And my opinion is not a defence of Farouk nor a counter on his behalf, and nor am I jumping through any hoops since I'm not his lawyer, and nor is Nairaland a court!

And yes, that was for you. It's an example of the non habeas corpus 'tyre petrol fire' justice without evidence that some here expect me to endorse and which I categorically refuse to endorse, while being amused that my opinion seems to matter so much to some like I'm the judge in this matter.

For your information, I've been on the receiving end allegations that lacked proof or evidence, and attempted lynching right here on Nairaland, and I'm very delighted that most did not treat me like Farouk is being. The experience might be what tames my reluctance to find guilty on mere allegations, though I'd claim I've always been less hasty to judge without seeing evidence.

You sir, do not need to see this as I do, do note.

SpencerForbes:
I’m currently exploring the art of playing chess without a board or pieces in front of me. It’s a rigorous test of brainpower and visualization. Of all the 'brainy' games out there, I think that might be the most difficult to master.

I can't even work out the coordinates without a board in front of me, lol!

wirinet:
My 14year old son is obsessed with chess. His ELO is about 900.

How old is he? Does he have a tutor? Do you buy him chess books to practice? If not, do please.

I began playing at 8, having found 5 white pieces and 7 black in a trash heap while scavenging. My 'board' was the about 9inch black and white tiles on our living room floor. It might not have just been a game if I'd had parental support and structured learning at the early age.

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SmartyPants:
Do you realize ......

Here's conjecture for you. Or is it proof?

https://www.nairaland.com/8582155/us-soldiers-attacked-3-more#137814537

You are just being unnecessary annoying now!

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