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M00N:
Times have changed? TBH I don't think I can love a non-virgin woman like a virgin woman, I won't be able to give them the Same type of love/commitment/respect cause I see non-virgin women( except those who were raped) as loose women. But if am to change with the times she better not expect total commitment from me.

Are you a virgin?

merahki:
If you read all I submitted to your wondering and still came up with the bolded above, then I give up. The argument is not worth having at all. The very random “random guy” bit of yours also threw you off your own argument tangent, so lemme leave you with the strayed argument .

How many sperm banks do you know? A bank is more common than a married man’s phallu.s eh? . Not only are they very available, they are also cheaper...then they are definitely more culturally acceptable, your sperm banks, in our society....So common, available, convenient and culturally acceptable that almost every unmarried woman with a child has gotten their baby from a bank

Your first sentence is unnecessary and has little bearing with the topic. I never knew that when one goes into a sperm shop to buy sperm, that the sperm would come with a father for the child- “buy spermatozoa and get a father for the baby” ?

There is a certain affected tone to your posts shaa. It makes “talking” to you rather hard.

This is the thread of a woman with a real life situation (let's assume so).

Forgive me if I am exhausted discussing theories while we have practical examples playing out there.

@Bold: I don't get you.

Eulalia:
Lol...you just made me laugh so hard.

See these days at youth forums, the youth are being taught how to look good and dress well. Forget o. That is why I like my denomination cos we have youth pastors that will yab some bro and sis telling them to step up and be interesting to look at.
But in all, we should not get carried away. Temperance must be observed.

Even as couples, you should be interesting to each other. Even if the bro is a holy holy type, as long as hes my husband, ha.... I must make our marriage fun and interesting o. I'm not a dull Christian.
Christianity doesn't mean couples cannot be playmates or have fun with each other.

Good thing they are.

Very true. I honestly wonder where such was derived from.

Eulalia:
Yes, it goes both ways dear.

I have experienced it first hand and today I look back and I'm grateful to God for not letting it work.

I was still young in the faith and was still under heavy sanctification process then.

So a swaggalicious bro was on standby, and an SU ( both graduates and well read)
But because the other was funky, more posh, all the choir girls choice.. I said "we die here" and with I being a bit on the flashy side, he too was feeling fly with a cute chorister. But my other bro, was always on my "papas" kind of trousers and hes just there but very devoted but I didn't give a hoot about him. In the end, my funky guy wasn't forth coming ( God had a hand) cos the more i was praying, the more he was exhibiting some ungodly behavior. Though I wanted to close my eyes to it, God didn't let it work. I cried for years but it didn't work. Even while at it, the Christian bro kept coming and I told him off ( childish) because of his dressing and not so funky lifestyle.

Now the funky guy is married but still sleeps around. In fact, he chatted me recently, inviting me over to come spend sometime with at a friends place.
After the chat, a voice told me, that's how he would have been sleeping with women at a friends place if he married you then.
And I began to thank God cos now I why God didn't let it work.

I thank God today, I'm wiser and more mature in Christ. Hence have learnt to work with God in all I do.
Physical appearance is not always the ultimate.

Good for you.

I have seen how wrong turn in marriages can wreck lives and destines which is why I am very very vocal about the choices of young women.

I laugh when young ladies of today tell you they want to put their jobs/careers/businesses first without a thought to whom they get married to.

Like they say, Giving your life to Christ is the most important decision; whom you marry is the second most important.

tabithababy:
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Mrs marital rape ..... You no dey tire

Today is Easter so in the spirit of Easter, let me advise you.

You need wisdom. Loads and loads of it.

First, in the earlier scuffle on this thread that got some of us banned, you were goading a guy to release the supposed sex chats he had with a lady here in public. That was very unwise

Secondly, in another thread, someone said something about a female and you quoted it laughing. You were not in the foray and should have kept to the sidelines and not add to the raging fire except one of the monikers in the scruffle was your alternate.

Thirdly, since I said there can be no rape in marriage since the vows give automatic consent to both parties, don't you think Mrs no martial rape would be better suited?

James 1 vs 5: If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. (NLT)

LewsTherin:
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Ti waju o ba se lo, eyin lan pada si.

Happy birthday.

Ire o!

matrix199:
I'll reveal the answers to pix 1 and pix 2 and acknowledge those who got it right later on.







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Modified: I'm a very discreet person. The term 'acknowledge' means more than you might think. You never can tell!

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Eulalia:
Do you know that the emotional trauma can make him lose focus? Especially as she is a social Media personality? Whenever she misbehaves online, he'll be tagged in the disgrace?

I Don't pray for anyone to experience such, cos it will not be easy to move on.

Very very true.

Eulalia:
Amen.
We the church also needs to stop deceiving ourselves.
I've seen this sort of thing happen in my very eyes.

I remember a long time ago, was still very small then. There was this pastor that came to our parish. So the senior pastors tried to guide him in chosing a sister. The sister they chose was a born again to the core but not the flashy type. I think they already started the courtship. Before we knew it the story changed. He has switched to one hot girl in the choir. Hm...
Tongues began to wag. In no time he married this hot girl.
After marriage, the only thing he enjoyed that period was flaunting her around for a short while.
This thing happened in 2008 and up till now, no child. Someone close to the family told us the sister is a party party type and she's giving the man a hell of a time.
The last time I saw this pastor at a wedding, he was a shadow of himself. Hes now looking pale and weak from stress. The girl was not with him.

The sister he rejected is now married with kids and still waxing stronger in the Lord.
So many like that.

Its high time we stopped deceiving ourselves and begin to do according to God's will if we must live a fulfilled life.

Shalom.

I also think that over-religiousity of stiffness of some Christians can also be scary.

Like the saying goes: If marriages are made in heaven, they are maintained on earth.

They need to learn how to be interesting spouses; Christianity is not a religion, it is a way of life.

One can have fun without sinning.

Eulalia:

I'm not surprised the pastor's wife turned into a runs girl. Sometimes, some Christian bro are the architect of their own downfall. I'll tell you why and how.

You will see a true Christian bro, who has been set apart for God's work looking in the wrong direction for a spouse or obviously going for a runs or wayward girl due to her physical appearance/attraction. And then he tries to change her by telling her to stop wearing this, stop doing that just to make her look perfect and suitable for him. The runs girl too, happy she's seen a permanent mugu, will adjust ( not genuinely born again) and then begin to play along until they.get married. But you know what they say about a leopard that doesn't change its skin, a runs girl will always be a run girl and later in life, she'll easily go back to her old ways because she was never really regenerated in the first place.

It you're truly a born again bro or sis, don't ever make the mistake of pampering sinners into marriage.
Dont try to convert someone because you want to marry them. Let them get converted first of their own accord through God. Then go through sanctification by the Holy spirit ( which is a huge process on it own) before you can say for certain this one will make a good wife and help me actualize my God given purpose in life or help in my ministry.

A lot of young christian bro are deceiving themselves these days but they always reap it in the future. Imagine what that man and his ministry will be going through right now? This could destroy his ministry and even make him lose his life or even eternity.
He probably forced his lifestyle on her but now she's back to what she's good at. Hmm...
A word is enough for the wise. Except if you as a bro or sis was never really born again.

Shalom

Well said.

Unfortunately, same applies to the sisters: marrying 'happening', 'swaggalicious' brothers who suddenly wonders why the wife has to go to church every Sunday a month into the wedding.

Jullima:
The OP says she needs time away for her sanity so she can deal with her emotional pain and you’re telling her not to. What is wrong with you? If the husband is remorseful, I am sure he can wait a month or two for his wife to get herself. After all he cheated on her for years. You don’t care for her emotional health at all. She just got a huge bomb dropped on her can you at least let her have some time to figure out what to do before pressuring her to start having a baby as if it’s competition.

OP, I love where your head is at, take the time you need. If he truly loves you and he’s really remorseful, he will wait and do all he can to make sure you’re fine physically, mentally and emotionally. It is well.

If one is patient enough, you people will drop comments that shows you don't have sense.

Who is she supposedly competing with by trying to have her kids after 9 years in marriage? If she is truly in 'competition, it is not obvious that the baby mama has won since she has the first son?'

Or you just read others talk competing and decided to jump on the bandwagon?

merahki:
This has to be rhetorical, no?
Not every woman wants to be in a permanent relationship with a man. This is pure fact.
A single woman (concerned about menopause)who wants a child, especially if she has a good job and can take care of kids?
A lesbian (or bisexual) who wants a child?
A woman in love with a married man who loves her back but will/can not hurt his family and leave them?
The one in a scenario like the one above but who does not want the man to leave his family because she does not want marriage which “could spoil things”?
That lady who fell in love with a married man’s pocket, or bank account, and got pregnant, and doesn’t want to get an abortion?
That woman who wants a revenge because her husband has a love child, could want to become pregnant for her married lover and get her own child?
The commitmentphobe that wants a child but not a husband, who feels a married lover would hassle her less over the ensuing child?
I can go and on but I am sure my drift has been caught?

Taking morals out (because the best setting for a child is still father, mother + child/children).

All the women you listed up there would likely go to sperm banks or get random men to knock them up especially if they do not want 'permanent' relationships with them.

A sidechic who gets pregnant for her married lover wants a permanent place in his life. As second wife, only wife or baby mama.

Last I remembered, a child binds a couple for life.

D1987:
I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

OK, Alternate Moniker which places you at 33yrs.

Confirm the child is yours. It is either she did not do an abortion (and lied to exhort you) or she did and got pregnant for someone else (unlikely) as you don't seem like her dream man.

While at it, also tell her to warn her friend and sister NOT to insult you any more. If they engage you again, just ignore and move on. Stop trading words with them... the saying 'silence is the best answer for a fool' rings true in this case.

And I will still say it: Re-take GST 101; Use of English .

MrBrownJay1:
useless woman
useless sister
useless friends
useless family

...and if you play into their useless tricks, they will turn you into a useless man!

forget about these people since they believe that you should go and rob banks to satisfy their nonsense. you can never win with useless people like that.

Hahahahahahaha!

Let me go and read the OP.

I read two lines and wanted to advise the OP to re-take his Use of English class.

@Topic:

Nice points.

hoperebecca:
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5 Ways to Look Attractive Years after Marriage

Either you are a newly-wed bride or a woman with the 30th anniversary coming up, looking attractive and appealing is essential for a happy married life. Women who often get reluctant about their appearance after giving birth to a baby have a hard time figuring out why their relationship lost the spark. They go into depression believing that it is because of the change in their body. However, that is not true in most cases. The actual problem lies in your attitude towards life that changes.

Being motherly and working hard to raise your kids is definitely appreciable, but losing yourself and not taking time out for your self-care is not if you are aiming at creating a happy married life. If you want to live a healthy and happy married life with a husband who cares the same way as the day one of your relationship, working on yourself and making yourself look attractive is the key.

Here are some of the easy and thoughtful ways you can maintain your attractiveness years after marriage too. So, read through for leaning to maintaining a healthy marriage and a super-attractive you!

Extra facial care: Your face is the most visible part of your body and taking extra care of it is essential. Nobody finds pigmented and acne-prone skin or yellow teeth. Skin and dental care stays of high importance no matter what age you are. Therefore, give your dentist and dermatologist regular visits to resolve such problems. If you need an acne treatment for your skin, do not delay it. Also, get your facial hair removed and make sure your face looks clean at all times.

Good hygiene is attractive: Would you ever like to cuddle a person who smells bad? I am sure you wouldn’t. Taking care of personal hygiene is the key to be more appealing to your partner. If your hair smells like coconuts and your skin looks clean, that is definitely the most attractive to any partner. Therefore, keep a scrub in your bathroom and exfoliate your entire body whenever you take bath. Also, make sure you shave regularly and wear new clothes on a daily basis.

Surprise them with a change: Change is always attractive and charming. It is a great way to add excitement and long-lost spark to your relationship. Now, how can you do that? You can do it by changing the way your hair looks. You can get your hair dyed to a color that your partner likes or you can get some hair transformation. Start making new hairstyles or change your style of wearing clothes. Add more colors to your wardrobe that are appealing to your partner. Bringing a new change in yourself will definitely draw your partner’s attention towards you and even promote better physical intimacy between you and your partner.

Buy the cologne you wore on your wedding day: If you want your partner to restore the memories of your wedding day and the spark that was there, get your hands on the cologne that you wore that day. Get dressed up, wear the cologne, prepare a nice meal for them and surprise them. The atmosphere, the scent and everything will make your partner go back into the old days and he will begin to feel the same electricity and attraction towards you for sure. Keep that perfume with you and spray it on whenever you are with him.

Smile more often with love towards them: Giving your partner a warm smile is more attractive than anything in the world. They instantly get a message that you are very happy and satisfied with them. When they see you happy and smiling at them, they feel relieved because years after marriage both partners have a slight insecurity about the satisfaction of their other-halves. Giving them reassurance with a smile is the best thing you can do to make their day instantly. Plus, as we all know, happy women are the most beautiful!



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Rapmoney:
It is no news that many people in this part of the world would readily blame anything for their personal problems if presented with the slightest opportunity. People are ready to blame the buckets in their bathroom or the mortar and pestle in their kitchen for personal problems they face if they can.

Many Nigerians, especially those who live in the cities possess a warped belief that majority of the troubles they face in life are directly or indirectly caused by the 'sins' of their ancestors/forefathers. They are easily carried away by the deceptive words of self acclaimed religious leaders who dish out different big titles to themselves. "Your ancestors did a lot of evil many years ago and that is what is affecting your progress in life. We need to deliver you from every ancestral spirit and bla bla bla bla". That is the common statement. It is a very popular one for that matter. The irony here is that the same person who says this to you and who claims to know what about hundreds of years ago will not be able to foresee his or her death/misfortune. I mean, how can one tell you what your ancestors did hundreds of years ago but cannot predict his or her own future? If my ancestors were evil, it means yours were probably evil too. Now, who delivered you from the sins of yours?

In Nigeria, there is a strange feeling that surrounds the name 'ancestor'. A feeling of evil, a feeling of atrocities, a feeling of taboo, a feeling of felonies and crime, a feeling of blood shed, a feeling of...I can go on and on with this. This name, 'ancestor' carries the same evil tag as the word 'village people' in the minds of many, if not worse.

Adolf Hitler of Germany, with his troops killed millions of Jews unjustly in and out of concentration camps during World War II. Poisonous gased were even used to kill innocent folks. These same set of men who carried these evil acts are ancestors to successful people living in Germany today. I am talking about people who live in a sane society where the system works and human life is respected and valued.

Some centuries ago, a good number of people across Europe practised witchcraft and wizardry. Sorceries were the order of the day and courses of people and things were altered. These same set of men and women are ancestors to flourishing people across Europe. So what did our ancestors do that ancestors from other parts of the world did not do and even worse?

My brothers and sisters, stop living in fear and wallowing in unnecessary self induced torture. Go out there and unleash your potentials. Anyone can be successful; it all lies in your beliefs. You did not come to this world to be tormented for the 'sins' of someone who died in 1722! Mentality is one of the most powerful phenomenon in our lives on the journey to achieve our dreams. Remember, it will either make you or destroy you.


Cc: Seun, Lalasticlala, Mynd44

Are you religious?
Do you believe in the Spirituality?

If no, this would not make sense to you.

The statue looks masculine close up.

Very funny

I stumbled on this video on IG and one of her kids is a grown up man.

While the video shows her desperation, I am just wondering what her kids are doing that sustenance is left to their aged mother.

May they find helpers.

NobleAngell:
That kind of upbringing is the reason for the violence these days. Lack of empathy. Everyone is just so cold. How can I sit and watch my dad fetching water while I'm there?
I kuku know the parents I have. If I say I don't have sense, they will install it for me. Just one slap from my mom and I'm restored back to factory settings.

MariaAngeles:
@bukatyne, you see ( bolded) what I was trying to make you understand earlier? Instead, you came at me like it was a debate contest in which you must win at all cost.

Next time, try to put yourself in the victim's shoes before dishing out insensitive advice.
Thank you.

You want to use me to shine after I begged you not to quote me with foolishness abi?

Just continue

ublight:
Hello all...

There is this babe I have been crushing on since last year.

We finally got chatting around December, and I sincerely like her. I feel she likes me too.

I wanted to finally ask her out last month, but she travelled to Lagos to visit her parents. She was supposed to return a week after, but the corona lock down came up.

I really want to ask her out, so should I do it over the phone? Or wait for her return?

Nope.

Go and watch Bobby Valetino's 'Slow Down'.

Ryabcool:
oga relax. A divorce is the proper way to handle cheating that can't be forgiven. Any other thing after that is pure and vile wickedness. Imagine your husband keeping your kids from you because you cheated on him. You will scream on all social media about it. Make we no dey talk wetin we no fit take.

I agree

LewsTherin:
I think in a bid to keep his hypocrisy, he has butchered this story so much there is little sense in it.



Or I am just being extra cynical today than usual. Just had a run in with one of my staff who seems to think that if you pretend a problem isn't there, the problem will go away. The OP may have been working with the same principle too. But heck, what do I know.

I also can't seem to grasp his exact concern.

Sorry Oga, it is not easy running a business this period. It is really tough.

On a lighter note, I am seeking employment in your organization and my terms are simple.

1. Work from 10am - 2pm
2. Work Eight Months a year
3. Monthly numeration of N2m only (NET)

Thank you sir.

Yours faithfully,
Bukatyne.

mosesbola:
She no Sabi Bible Ni...

She no sabi Bible but she sabi wetin dey inside

jess2019:
At OP.
I just finished reading the whole 5 pages. I have a 9month old baby and I can understand from op's point of view leaving her child out of her sight for so long. It feels like I've left my baby for eternity when I step out for just an hr.
For the issue at hand. I dont get how her inlaws can suggest OP gives her child to her SIL. Dont they know what bonding is? The bond between the mother and child. OP carried this baby for 9months and then cared for her for 7months. Haba. I'm beginning to think that the sister inlaw must have staged her pregnancy and loss just to plan about taking op's 5th child after she saw OP pregnant with her 5th.

[b]Follow this
Sit your sister inlaw down. Explain to her you understand her predicament and that you are willing to give ur child to her but they should allow ur child to reach one yr. Reason that you have bonded with baby during pregnancy and birth, therefore it will not be that easy for u to just handover ur baby like that. While they are waiting for ur baby to be 1yr old. You and ur hubby should use that 5months to look for a place of your own.

Before you pack out, sit ur SIL down again. Explain to her that your baby is passing separation anxiety and that u cannot afford to give ur baby up. That her cries touches you and because of that you are willing to pack out if she can't bear to see ur child not with her. Babies begin to feel separation anxiety from 8months. They cry when their care giver is not around.
This reason will give u time to plan and also to avoid trouble with your in laws at hand. Atleast everyone will give u a breathing space for now. Time takes care of situations. [/b]

@bold

A very good suggestion.

LewsTherin:
Exactly. This seems to be his only concern. "Let them not know I am a fornicator. Let them not know I am a liar and hypocrite"

How did he plan to do that if the wedding was 25th and she put to bed on the 9th of same month?

Or was he the one conned?

Onojasteve:
Before you criticize me, please endeavour to read to the end. I have condemned myself already, I have punished myself already, and even criticised my ownself already, so Keep it cool.
I met this young lady in bible school in year 2017, then I was jobless.I was searching for another before a friend invited me to come attend a bible school at winners chapel.then I was heartbroken, hoping the lord will answer my prayers.
I met this charming and hairy young lady on the second day of the registration on a queue, fortunately we were merge together to sort for change because there was no change with the registration officer.
We became friends throughout the 3 weeks training and graduated together. Weeks after the graduation we started visiting each other, I visited her first, where I met her parents and she introduced me as brother John.luckily for me the parents welcomed me.Four months into our relationship she lost her dad, the burial date was scheduled for October same year, I made up my mind to follow her to her village in abia state which I did.
During the burial ceremony I was introduced as her finance by her mum to other elderly women in the village, elders already asking for colanut.
We came back to Lagos still no job, so I slow the whole thing down considering the fact that I was jobless. I went to learn photography and open a studio I have been managing.The business always make it difficult for me to see her as I used to even to visit her becomes an issue as the business is very demanding, she started complaining, I will try to explain the reason was the business, but she won't understand.
I invited her on my birthday, she refused to show up and asked me series of questions I could not answer, as in when did I call her last?when did I see her last? when did I send her money last?.the questions was just too much so I drop the call hoping to call back.
I actually didn't call back till may 2019, after a lady mess me up for the story I will tell you guys another time.
I returned begging and luckily for me, nobody has taken over my territory, I was forgiven and we started our relationship again. This time I want to be there always for her, I took her to my pastor we were told to start a marriage class.
I actually started the class around July 2019, did introduction by November. By December, she start avoiding me again, this time I followed up to ascertain the cause.so she open up to me that she don't want to disgrace me in the church I want to wed (winners) where I worship that we will do the wedding at her mother's church.i agreed, we went to Shiloh to pray, I notice during Shiloh that she was very weak, and always feeling dizzy, I thought maybe because of the nature of the programme but it continues to a point I suggest we conduct a test at the medicals.we actually conducted the test and lo and behold it was positive.she is pregnant.the funny thing I asked how long she refused telling me, now we got to rush things up for the wedding as that seems to be inky options as she is an igbo lady.we picked April 25th 2020 for the wedding, surprisingly my phone rag last weekend, it was her mother on the phone calling me to meet them up at a name hospital that my fiancee is in labour. I actually rush there because I was so afraid knowing the pregnancy isn't due.
Guys, I was shocked when the Dr came to congratulates me that my fiancee has given birth to a baby girl...I have 3 weeks to the wedding.
My question now is what do I do.i hide everything from my family as I already plan to use d wedding to cover secondly, in her tradition, if you impregnate a lady before marriage you pay damages, the amount will be decided by the family. Thirdly we already announce the date with friends n church. Should I go ahead with the wedding or schedule a new date. This lockdown in Lagos is another issue of serious concern.
Please guys be nice.

What exactly are your concerns because:
1. The Church must have known she was heavily pregnant if you are to wed 25th April and she birthed 9th April. Except you are saying your church is fine with pregnancy before marriage however not fine with children before marriage which will be strange.

2. Her family knows wedding was in the pipeline so I expect them to tamper 'justice' with 'mercy'

3. This lockdown is to your favour. Do the trad in your palour and call your pastor & wife to do the marriage blessings thereafter and eat your pounded yam. And please don't upload pictures and videos like Funke Akindele's husband or Halima Abubakar.

4. You need to work on communication in your marriage. Your wife should be able to emphasize with you while busy and look for ways to ease your stress and reach out to you; I also don't believe you are so busy that you can't text a simple 'I love you' or 'I miss you' to her or one minute call to her before you sleep each day.

It is well with both you of you.

Congratulations on the new born.

Goodluck.

Let this couple rest.

They have learnt their lessons.

Haba!

MizMyColi:
This is one reason I dislike putting my life out there.
Too much negative energy.

Some people just project their negative lives to you. They are so desperate for it to become your reality as well.

However, the less they know about you, the easier you can live your life and be truly happy.

I get that privacy and publicity has its perks, however, I'd favor a private life any and every time.

Madame, where have you been?