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whizqueen:
1. A commenter advises that ladies should rather focus on getting married before a career. I beg to differ that perspective is just lame to me.
2. It depends on what they want for themselves. If you want a family then find a partner, if you want just a child get a donor or adopt one
3. I don’t like d1ldos

Godbpraised:
you actually did not need to respond this way, you should have responsed on the on the orginal thread, the tone in your response depicts you are proud and have an issue of submitting to a man. If you are confident of yourself then find a white man.

whizqueen: Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them.
1. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement.

2. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress.

3. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.

Nwachi22:
Interesting thread. I’ve been considering relocating to either US or Canada to further my education and acquire more job experience. Now I’m beginning to have a second thought.

LordShiva97:
How and why is a single guy better off migrating than a single lady?

Avalancheman:
Mark 10:12
And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Avalancheman:
My daughter won't have to condone a cheating husband because she won't marry one by God's grace...

Biancah:
I saw a post on where Ajimobi wife said she caught him cheating two times and forgave him and men are hailing her saying she is a good and wise wife.
Men can you also forgive your wife that cheated on you ?
Or is forgiveness of spouses only applicable to women ?

Avalancheman:
I NEVER said it is okay for men to cheat.

What I said is that a woman must condone it while putting in place mechanisms to stop it such as Mrs Ajimobi alluded...

Avalancheman:
How can a genuine born again cheat, again and again

Avalancheman:
Where was it stated that a wife can divorce a cheating husband like it was stated in Matthew 5:32

Avalancheman:
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Most likely they didn't. They didn't perform all the necessary checks.
They are supposed to marry genuine born again Christians...

Avalancheman:
Exactly! A woman is not allowed to divorce her husband on any ground whatsoever...

It means, the husband is cheating, they must condone it. Where it becomes dangerous to their health, they can avoid sexxxx him altogether...

The scripture below addresses cheating husbands:

Malachi 2:13-16
Mal:2:13: And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.
Mal:2:14: Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
Mal:2:15: And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
Mal:2:16: For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Avalancheman:
Sure, she will be come one by God's grace.

When the time comes, God will give a man like me who won't cheat... I have already started praying about it...

Avalancheman:
Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Only a man is allowed to enjoy this privilege...

Mavis3:
Thanks a lot Bukatyne. You are a sister.

Thanks for the advice and counsel.

I will take your suggestions into consideration.

My sister, it has been a rough three night o.Mind calculating like the computer and plenty tears.

I met him when I was 19. He was 23. I just got admission into the university then after my diploma program, and he was in his final year. I didn't have that space in school cos he was like a shadow following everywhere.


He even went ahead to defy the rule on
no male visitors for the girls in my home, to come and introduce himself to my elder brother.

My eldest brother insisted I graduate form school, Serve and enroll for a Masters before getting married.
So we married six years after we met.

I had to share on this platform cos I wanted different views from different people and thoughts and not family because that was the only way sentiments will not be involved.

And i am happy I did.
Una thank you.



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Avalancheman:
The Bible doesn't advise us to condone cheating wives. That's why it is only ground on which our LORD Jesus permits divorce...

payloader:
Marriage is honorable, if the bed is undefiled, but adulterers and whoremongers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4. Adultery is iinexcusable for both sexes.

Avalancheman:
I love this woman.

Ladies should learn from this.

But I woouldn't want any man to cheat on my daughter, though...

Femeto:
Ajimobi wey dey make mouth for 1 wedding wey I go say him never cheat on him wife for once.

dre11:
https://punchng.com/why-i-forgave-my-husband-when-he-cheated-twice-ajimobis-wife/

leaculpa:
I thought she was an enlightened person. A mixed Lebanese woman with rich parents saying all these.
Women that openly preach this nonsense have suffered much emotional abuse from their husbands & have accepted being a doormat as a coping mechanism. Sad. You deserve better.

Belafonte:
By keeping the children away from him? Wonderful

jaxxy:
Beyounce home isn't broken. because they cud work it out and both agreed to. Cheating doesn't automatically destroy a home. The modern day family has done well to improve many things from our older marriages bt they have failed to make it last.

Modern Marriages now don't last because both party don't know how to handle issues.

gargoylern:
Dey there! A lot of single girls from Nigeria are in Canada. These are girls with good education (masters) who left good jobs to go to Canada. Them plenty from kmpg. And some of the banks.

ednut1:
visit the Canadian visa thread on nairaland or join a telegram group. They are migrating enmasse. I am those groups too. The opportunity is there so they should not take it What if they stay back and not still guy nko. Lose lose. Canada pali is important. This corona era govt ia playing them 800 canada dollars per child and 2000 per person. U say make dem stay nigeria dey earn 100k salary. Shior

egopersonified:
ok, I am thinking, can't they become lesbians?

Cocao:
And I am telling you that you cannot be sure about that. Times are fast changing. Many ladies no longer want to wait for their men to shine first before they do ( not like it is a bad thing) but to each his own. If you have the resources and it is your desire as a woman, why the hell not?
And the marriage thing is subtly overrated. What are the chances that if you stay back and get married that you would be living your best life? Marriages in Nigeria are not even the model.

So please, allow ladies to make whatever decisions they want to biko.

princetaiwo:
I live in Canada, I married my wife in Nigeria, now she as the custody of our 3 children,
She determines when and if I can see our children.
I pay her child support every month which is not a problem to me because I will still spend the money on my children if we are all still living together.
She takes all the child benefit(money) the government gives our children.
She almost destroyed me here.
I don't know my children day care.
The truth is that she caught me..........and I apologized but the freedom, independence and money make most of Nigerian women to brake their Home and later live a lonely life.
I NEVER slap or abuse my wife, that is what God use to save me.
If I may ask, do you think I will ever think of marrying a Nigerian woman here in Canada or come to Nigeria to pick a woman? NEVER

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT, THERE ARE LOT OF HOOD WOMEN, NO MATTER WHAT; THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THEIR ROOT AND HOW THINGS ARE DONE

Cocao:
Yes they do all the time. Nothing is cast in stone. Why won't single girls migrate? Abi na only men dey find greener pastures? Suffer dey tire everybody please

gargoylern:
A couple of reasons. They don't know how to approach, since they have never approached a man all their life. Na una Naija guys dey rush them na, lol.
Two, the white guys don't really find them attractive. Some asian men do though. Some Nigerian men also do. But because most Nigerian guys are not stable (i..e they are still working survival jobs), they are not ready to marry.
Trust me , these Nigerian girls are in serious dilemma.

Again, if you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada. Think twice about it. Be sure that's what you really want.

sisisioge:
This is a different story, she's still very much with her husband. Her problems is with her husband's relatives which may eventually affect her marriage too. A very simple case made complex, hers is.

May God help us all.