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Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 12:11pm On May 22, 2016
Zceesneh:
so am insane? angry
Judge for yourself, what you don't want to reap, don't sow.
Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 12:08pm On May 22, 2016
Gloria3389:
I am not supporting the guy at all....I'm only saying parents should pay more attention to their children upbringing especially the female ones...irrespective of their age they should be taught about sex.
This would helped the girl in question a long way. .she won't be running after boys up and down or yielding to any guy's enticement.....
parents need to pay more attention now cos what I can't even do...I'm surprised 12yrs old kids are doing it these days
Exactly, you are totally right on that. Our adults too need to act like adults and not help these little ones derail. They should be builders and not destroyers.
Family › Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 12:02pm On May 22, 2016
Ewuro4:
grin grin madam don vex
I tire, what some women go through in the name of this marriage sef. Can't die in silence, I will take my chances at speaking, heaven will not fall. With my first I made Google my friend because I wasn't ready to be that whimpering help needing new mum jare. Everything I know about child care, I learnt online. For child bathing I watched them do it in the hospital, so I picked from there.


I don't understand why some MIL enjoy frustrating their kids wives angry.
Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 11:47am On May 22, 2016
Zceesneh:
the girl wasn't forced, she agreed to do the koko
She is a child and any sane adult should know better.
Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 11:46am On May 22, 2016
Gloria3389:
he should av taught his daughter well....which one be cutlass for this matter. .if the guy con die nko....the law will overlook it abi. ..some parents no go teach their children they go con dey vex for pple wey dey take advantage of their children mumunity ( art of being a mumu)
Whether the parents taught the child well or not, it is not the duty of another adult to help damage her any further. The girl's father was just too angry and I know what I will feel if an adult will do this kind of nonsense with my child. If he dies, well, the bible already told us that the wages of sin is death. Good he lived to change his ways, he should go mess around with his mates and let kids grow.
Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 11:41am On May 22, 2016
Zceesneh:
he should have warned the man, or called police for him, and not this evil
He didn't warn the man before sleeping with his daughter, he damaged a child and that is as evil as it gets.
Romance › Re: How My Friend Was Butchered By His Girlfriend's Dad (Pictures) by byvan03: 11:31am On May 22, 2016
No father will give you a handshake for damaging her little girl, she is just 16! Tufiakwa for some people undecided.
Family › Re: Pre-marriage Counselling by byvan03: 8:55am On May 22, 2016
bukatyne:
You ehn!

Frank as Franklin kiss

As posters above me has said, most churches organize a compulsory pre-marriagr counselling.

Attended during my time & knew almost all we were taught already.
Yesooo, my church too. I had no time and energy for it at the time when they told me how long it's going to take. Seriously if those unnecessary delays are effective we won't be hearing of divorce here and there.
Family › Re: Pre-marriage Counselling by byvan03: 8:36am On May 22, 2016
Jamean:
@ Byvan03

Apostle Paul wasn't married but he wrote quite a lot about marriage and how the Christian family should be. This he could do by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

Pastor Poju Oyemade of Covenant Christian Centre is married for not more than a year but he had powerful ministrations on marriage.

Same applies for your Reverend Fathers and Sisters. God can use anyone to pass his message to us. His ways are higher than our ways.

BTW, I don't support your sister representing you. You deceived the counselor and church institutions. I also consider some things too sensitive to delegate, I just believe there are spiritual implications to it.

As a teenager I heard of a true life story of a lady that was few weeks pregnant before her wedding, so with the intention of deceiving the church asked her friend to take the pregnancy test which of course came out negative and presented to the church.

Wedding ceremony was done and everyone went their way. In due time she had a baby. The friend got married and had no child for 11years. Tests results showed that she and her husband were very fit for childbearing. Not until they went for spiritual enquiry and learnt that it was what she did for her friend 11years ago. They deceived the church.

I hope you get my point.
My dear as far as marriage is concerned no one has it fixed enough to pass any message to me, that's just the truth. I believe in go and develop your own formula that works. No need listening to text book theories or do as as I say but don't do as I do kind of preaching. My first point of call towards a successful marriage was to unlearn everything marriage related I have heard or been taught, then start a new course of learning right inside it. The story you added is interesting but not really related to my point. I don't even believe in all those talk to someone he trusts or someone he respects kind of advise jare, just get fixed how it works for you. God and our initiative will always guide us in navigating through these corners.


Deceiving the counsel? Actually if there are no rules, then none can be broken. No one said you can't be represented or were you told so? There surely will be spiritual implications for anyone that relates everything to spirituality. As a matter of fact they didn't sign my card to completion because even my sister couldn't go till the end , the Reverend refused to give me whatever I was supposed to be given. I forgot about him, eventually there was no need for the card. I wedded without being asked about it, doesn't this tell you that God is for the wedding no matter what the earthly judges say? wink.
Family › Re: Pre-marriage Counselling by byvan03: 10:22pm On May 21, 2016
bukatyne:
You ehn!

Frank as Franklin kiss

As posters above me has said, most churches organize a compulsory pre-marriagr counselling.

Attended during my time & knew almost all we were taught already.
Ours was organised by the church too and very compulsory , my sister was attending on my behalf. I really don't know wetin people that are not married and never will be married planned to teach me. Nah priests and Reverend sisters dey conduct our own . Even the people teaching don't have it intact, so it's better I develop my own formula jare.
Family › Re: Pre-marriage Counselling by byvan03: 9:42pm On May 21, 2016
I attended twice and had my sister represent me for the rest. I don't know what people who are never married plan to teach me. Marriage has no formula, you go in their and create yours. I never wished I spent my time attending.
Family › Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 5:07pm On May 21, 2016
Chai! OP you should have listened to your husband, any relation am warned about, I quickly build a higher fence. Some people just enjoy torturing others, she obviously never enjoyed her marriage so she is trying to spread the misery.
Family › Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 5:03pm On May 21, 2016
cococandy:
That's true though.

But it's a kind of hard advice to give someone because they may not know how to do it expertly in order to both call the bullshit and at the same time avoid insulting the other person.
True, I don't need to try here because my impatience towards bullshi*t won't t let me nurture mamas mistreatment for long before I give her a run for her money. People actually are very different, I can't resist for long if I get this evil type. Sometimes there will never be real peace, without a good war.
Family › Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 4:39pm On May 21, 2016
Kaira333:
My dear nobi today ooo. I don de shine teeth since but it's not working out. What made me to create dis thread happened just today. Ok, After several disturbances dat her son is too dark (which no body is complaining na only her oo) dat I should go to d market and change his cream. I told hubby since am fair maybe let's be using my own cream together. He accepted only for her mum to come out today again to tell me to my face dat upon everything her son is doing for me dat I don't take care of him. My hrt is so heavy dis morning. Honestly I need to put an end to this.
To be honest with you I personally will explode right in front her and spill exactly how I feel about her bulls*hit with no sugar coating, I don't know how to tiptoe. So personally I did handle it the best way I know how to which is for the heaven to fall today or forever remain still method. My initial advise was based on the fact that sugar coating seems to be how most people roll. Make sure is in front of her son so she won't add jara and say you pushed her while twisting every thing you said. If you have the guts, this method will seal the lips permanently if you utilise it well.
Family › Re: A Step Mother Allegedly Did This To Her Two Year Old Step Son. Graphic Pix by byvan03: 1:22pm On May 21, 2016
Why can't these men leave these kids for their mothers!! Poor child cry cry.
Family › Re: How Can I Tame My Mother In-law by byvan03: 1:17pm On May 21, 2016
Solution, be courteous and always maintain a healthy distance. Be yourself and don't try too hard.
Family › Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 1:12pm On May 21, 2016
Jokingly tell her" mama e be like sey nah only you go sabi marry your son, if you keep talking like this he no go fit live with womanooo". Dey talk am dey shine teeth undecided. If she vex" dey laugh dey talk sorry and keep saying " but mama you know sey nah truth" undecided. Terrible MIL!
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 12:39pm On May 20, 2016
Chillisauce:
cheesy cheesy cheesy
I ate cucumber grin
grin grin
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 8:59pm On May 19, 2016
Chillisauce:
I have retired from the bikini contest. Now Nne mama CWO that I'm preparing for.

But continue...I'm always here to support
Lol, why retire so early? Abi you don chop beans cheesy.
Family › Re: Loosed Vagina by byvan03: 8:30pm On May 19, 2016
That doctor must be very silly! He should have stitched you up, little or not. Please see another gyno, your baby daddy no well.
Celebrities › Re: Wizkid Shops For Our Son - Shola Ogudu Writes by byvan03: 6:09am On May 18, 2016
Ellixlimswag:
you don see solid star own
No, I haven't.
Family › Re: My Husband Is/was Cheating And I Am At Point Of Cheating On Him by byvan03: 8:16pm On May 17, 2016
There is no happily ever after with a cheating man, as for change, hardly. Does it ever happen? Only you can decide how to live through your pain. Adultery can be quite messy, use your head. In cases like this there is always a choice to make. If this ex of yours is married, am begging you not to ruin another woman's marriage.
Celebrities › Re: Wizkid Shops For Our Son - Shola Ogudu Writes by byvan03: 6:49pm On May 17, 2016
I want to see flavour 's baby mamas only!! All these ones dey scratch me for eyes.
Family › Re: My Husband Is/was Cheating And I Am At Point Of Cheating On Him by byvan03: 4:53pm On May 17, 2016
cococandy:
As long as both them are still in the relationship by fire by force. Lol
True.
Family › Re: Am I Overthinking Things by byvan03: 3:46pm On May 17, 2016
Better put a proper family planning method in place before you ruin your life being a babymama of 2.
Family › Re: My Husband Is/was Cheating And I Am At Point Of Cheating On Him by byvan03: 3:42pm On May 17, 2016
cococandy:
Whatever helps you sleep better.
Thank you!! grin
Romance › Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by byvan03: 2:43pm On May 17, 2016
Skrim:
Yes. I have decided to deny his proposal.

But NOT that I never loved him enough. He wasn't in support of me continuing my project. All what I offered as alternative for us he rejected them so it's his loss not mine.
You have every right to pursue your dream if that's what you desire most. May the project be a success!
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 7:58pm On May 16, 2016
Kimoni:
Old monicker lipsrsealed wink

I know...we they have all rebranded
grin
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 7:40pm On May 16, 2016
edwife:
No we were talking about those my friends na.lol

Byvan don't be unprofessional, go see your boss and tell him. You might need the job as soon as the kids are in school. grin
grin grin grin When I don get better offer? Nah to enroll gym start prepare for the bikini contest wey me and Chillisauce start plan since the days of the old cheesy.
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 7:37pm On May 16, 2016
Kimoni:
grin grin grin grin another badt woman

SLAYING!!!!!! shocked shocked
I don't know your old monicker, it used to be very fun here, if you weren't on this section then grin. Now everybody don become good geh, seems the boys brawl more nowadays.
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 7:33pm On May 16, 2016
edwife:
Well you will be surprised to find that some do get jobs alright. I read job section on BellaNaija, many people talk about their experiences .

What i advice many ladies who ask me for advices is to try do something by the side. Open university, online short courses,exams many things to enrich your cv. You don't have to go for a paying job, you can be your own boss too. We have a lot of lawyers, bankers turn business tycoon.
Very negligible number of them do,mostly on special arrangements. Only a few passed through normal protocols.
Family › Re: Husband doesn't want wife to work by byvan03: 7:30pm On May 16, 2016
edwife:
You and money! That's why it's good to do your thing without making anyone feel like your ideas or situation is better. Just like you think it's abnormal for me to stay at home, just like i think it's abnormal for me to go to work everyday without an improvement. You are happy, i am happy.Being fulfilled is what matters here.
Who said is abnormal to stay at home? Do you read the part that I mentioned that I will resign via text message if a salary is put in place and am paid 1year upfront? cheesy


Who likes stress? I certainly don't biko.

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