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bukatyne:
I just imagined it and honestly, it is easier to accept and attributed to the work of the devil

My sister I totally agree, devil has to take the blame, whether he was slumbering at the time of action or not is certainly irrelevant .

pet4ril:
huhhhh? Do you know the type /extent of the tear that makes the doctor to say so? Please stop insulting him. I believe he knows his job

Is the doctor your husband? See what she caused the young lady, I can see how much he knows his job. Turning someone into a damn well .

With another man? Lol!! I will find that very silly, it's easier to forgive that because I will view it as an ailment. With a woman, forget it, just move in with the woman right away because I won't be available.

" Being faithful has always been a problem to you", nawaooh!!! She don enter one chance.

You are ridiculous, all women know is " I want to make my hair, I want to make my hair" and this didn't sound dumb to you? Is that all your wife knows? You succeeded in making your wife to look like a widow because you don't want to pay for the hair, won't you at least leave others wives to make theirs? Post the pictures of your wife's beautiful low cut, so we can see the beautiful hair and maybe reconsider . If simplicity to you is a woman looking bald, I nwego serious problem .

The only problem with marriage is the people in it.

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lastpage:
And please, dont do it in an "aggressive, today-na-die" tone.

men generally dont like being cornered, which is exactly what you have done .....and rightly so!

If l were you, l will say it with a smile on my face (he knows you are fuming),.... but he will respect you going forward, for not trying to rub it in.

Tell him, its not worth it and if there are areas he wants improvement in the marriage, he should feel free to air them.

Finally, ask him to show and prove to you that he will and is, discharging those "Olosho women" ina very unfriendly manner.

Sit down together and reply them on Whatsupp!
Like: Sorry dear, l am married and my wife is reading all your advances, Let me give it to her to respond to you.

Wife writes: Phuck-off or else, you may loose your front teeth next time l catch you trying to sneak-up to my husband!

Make a joke out of it, be on the look-out but please dont nag or react about it unnecessarily. It will further drive him into the hands of these "dangerous women" who cant find husband of their own but like to snatch that of others.

Women seff! Wetin, leave the man alone and stop tempting him naw?




Lastpage!

Make a joke out of a possible infidelity, read your own advice. You erroneously believed that life revolves around what men want and don't. Please channel that ridiculous advice to OP not me. Say it with a smile indeed,hope you can take your own advice when the time comes.

Odunharry:
This is true.. I wonder why people will keep crying when they saw the sign during courtship/relationship and will still go ahead without solving the issue thinking the other person will change.

Honestly, I see no reason why couples should hide their Fones from each other..
attitude lik this breed suspicion and before we know it..

I really don't get what people take this marriage for, if they aren't ready to be married, why marry? Those that hide phone know they are shady, so they will prefer to keep things discreet. This marriage thing no be by force oo.



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As Onegai stated, make it clear that you won't accept such bullshi*t but only if you truly have the guts to go all the way through if he calls your bluff. You can't afford to be an empty barrel and end up doing nothing when he continues.

Saddenedsoul:
Not at all, I was the extrovert in the relationship, so I had my way with him.

Wow!! Only you can tell for sure what went wrong here. Just try talking without the tantrums.

Saddenedsoul:
We dated all through Uni, and he was the quintessential nice guy; nerd, zero social life, good grades and all. I saw as a nice guy, my nice guy , there were no signs at all

Nawaooh!! He wasn't secretive with his phone and all then?

Saddenedsoul:
He doesn't give out his phone, and his job requires he travels at least once every quarter

You can't pick his phone right in front of him? Well am sure you are aware of the deal before you married him. These things don't start in a day, it has always been there .

Why some couples torment their marriages with these worthless chats from the opposite gender is what I don't get. Well, lack of respect for their union I guess.

Saddenedsoul:
I tried , but only ended up throwing tantrums and putting up an awful drama;

Do you think he understood what you were vexed about? I understand the urge to throw tantrums but one need to remember she is no longer a child. Can you communicate better through watsapp or any chat meduim ? Why not use it?

How some women endure all sorts of humiliation is puzzling.

Lack of communication is the surest way to ruin any marriage. Sit your husband down and communicate. Learn how to discuss your fears because you can only mess things up with your new unfriendly disposition. Go have a chat with your man.

lovinam:
Kai babe! As you take run for this Thread eh! E no good o. Tbaby de come na, she don born again sef. Some old mamas don preg again o! I know say u de run but you don build gate na. Abeg de show face small de ansa question. You get plenty experience as mother of 6. Rotfl

;DMother of 6, I for don run leave house for them. Wow!!! Tbaby I am waving my bra for you oo, Congratulations dear. No mind me, I go dey show.

lovinam:
Hey! I'm looking for an old time mama. I remember she resides in Uyo. She taught us how to make coated peanuts etc. I've forgotten her moniker.

Cc Modath, dahbeautyjas, tchiwinnie, byvan03, lyndaroyce, beckytunde, cococandy, donatee.

Nne kedu? Ok dey don tell you,Tbaby dey come around?

EfemenaXY:
The responses on this thread!

Now this is exactly the sort of scenario I had in mind regarding stay at home mothers in Naija, 100% reliant on the man who go cap in hand begging for handouts while waiting meekly (and patiently) for him as he reluctantly counts the pennies / kobos for her to buy her sanitary pads.

A supposed "graduate" with nothing to show for after 14 years of marriage. Mtcheeew.

Cc: Edwife. Kimoni. Byvan03. Mindfulness.

Your views pls.

Edwife is right oo, I didn't beg, not when am the accountant general. I think she is married to a stingy man and failed to use her brain. I also don't believe she knows anything about the course she studied, maybe she didn't even graduate. Some beg cap in hand but many run that department so no need to beg.


Some women never worked in their life but do much to show for not working, why many work but could barely buy a decent pair of shoes. It truly depends on the dynamics of the marriage. This woman is married to a mad man, she should know better.

I have no advise for women that have sold their brain for a pair of scrotum. I feel nothing for her type, she should go ahead and bring back the house help to save her already dead and buried marriage.

I won't see this and keep quiet.

Bukatyne has said all, leave this little boy to grow and consider other things she pointed out too.

luccicouture:
my dear the only reason am still here is for fear of the unknown, will it be better out there

Staying is a certain death, it's just a matter of time. Which unknown is scarier than the fear of being beaten to death?

She looks great!!! totally love this new figure .

EfemenaXY, Nne your last lengthy paragraph nah die, the adjectives and adverbs worry me badly . How did she wait? She waited meekly . How did she beg? She begged cap in hand .

My dear you are an unserious individual. Better start a fresh life or keep wallowing in this mess. You should be giving testimony that there is no child to partake in this doomsday. This time around don't be like the leaves that get blown by every passing wind. Have a direction in life and let anyone that can't share in that direction bounce. How can you choose poverty as a criteria for marriage? What happens to the content of a man's character? I tire for you. Just start all over, you have your chance now. How can you let someone mess you up like this? It's not late!

chillbabe:
And this is the problem with Nigerians why shouldn't she fight for her birth right? The brother does not have the right to squander the propertsy and money. The mom should stay in her house why they employ someone to look after her. We have laws in this country u know.

I don't know how you see it, it's a problem choosing not fight over properties that you didn't keep or help acquire ? So the woman that left her house and was nearly murdered by her brothers because she came fighting for properties made sense to you right(it made front page here)? I don't know where you come from, where I come from it takes an usual kind of woman to come fighting for properties in her father's house. It's not everyone that has the time to fight for leftovers, you can't count that as a problem with Nigerians. Know that native laws don't favour women in terms of inheritance. Is better to spend time trying to acquire yours than spend it scrambling for a dead man's leftover. People are different, not everyone is interested in spending a fraction of their life in court because of properties. Some do have different priorities in life. It's always better to give your own suggestions and not criticise another 's because we all can't see through your lens.

raumdeuter:
All these people know the truth in their mind

Thank you!

bukatyne:
Dude said he wanted a wife @ 20+ and he engaged his senior colleagues, both families (excluding the parents sha ) and fellowship leaders knew about the relationship.

He proposed after school and again when we started working

He came to my parents immediately after service that say his intentions and he was going to get a job so we can get married. Interestingly, my younger bro looks up to him like an elder brother and did same to the parents (our pastor ) of the lady he wants to marry.

Very focused young man

I no follow do relationship without direction, we were just waiting to make money to fend for ourselves and marwi

Very cool, I never had strength for the dating game. So one have to be choosy and wait for readiness and compatibility. Anything indefinite will tamper with my sense of timing.

bukatyne:
You will bring up very strong amazons if you have daughters. Don't see it another way

Must definitely train my daughters to be amazons too. No time for whimpy girls o!

Better chop small small I foresee beautiful girl ejimmas for you

Twins with this 100 - 150naira per tomatoes abi ? E go make sense wella . I discovered my true calling, heading to convent so no more chopping.

bukatyne:
100L - 1+ years post working experience

We were already married and the wedding ceremony was just formalities and legalization of Ikiriwowo

Ewooo!!! I doubt if I can trust enough to wait for that long. I no need tales by moonlight after person don wait for years.