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CSoul:
(Created this new account to post for a sister)



Please help advice a sister in confusion.....


Background:


"I reconnected with my old school toaster who always spoke marriage and love.
Got serious in 5 months.
I've met a lot of people from his end within this period.
He shows me off.
Introduction was done and wedding date fixed."

Issues:
Traditional is barely a week away; yet she's bleeding and scared of the future because of her discoveries:

1. The husband to be has anger issues. Ok, he's all nice and good when in good mood. But once something triggers him, all hell is let loose. The trigger can be a simple missing his call(while at work/meeting). No amount of sweet talk or explanations calms him down.

2. The shocker is that he cheats/has a fuckmate living nearby. She discovered this with evidence from their chats and hasn't been herself. The chat is detailed description of their exploits right up to the present and future plans how they'll continue after he's married. (From same chat, the other lady is aware he's getting married.
He tried denying it; when it didn't work he started making excuses/begging he'll change.

3. He doesn't want any third party intervention in their affairs, not even counseling.

She's scared of the future and yet feels stuck as court marriage is done already, most preparations have been done(publicity and most of other physical arrangements), both for the traditional and wedding.


Kindly give your mature advice; she'll be reading every bit of it.
(Admin kindly push to front page)

God as showed her what to expect when she marries that guy, now, will she still like to go on with getting married to that type of man ? Let her follow her heart. That's all I can say.

Officialgarri:
I hope he performs better here.

Handing Tottenham to Mourinho is similar to handing an already PDP bastardized Nigeria to President Buhari and expect a miracle in 5 years

Even if we give buhari 10 years. Nigeria will only be worst than Afghanistan.

Preciousjewel01:
There's a friend of mine who doesn't get enough attention from her man in her relationship. she's always complained but he gives her same excuse "he's hustling". This time things went outta hand,after series of complaint he gave her the most savage replies. Telling her " oh,you're an ingrate, you're mad, since its attention you want, you have lots of wooers, you can chat them up when I'm offline to keep you company, go and look for your Mr perfect". It ended that way, the guy asked for a break up. My friend came running to me explaining that she only complained that he's not giving her attention. But yet its break up he wants. I told my girl,this guy doesn't deserve you. or are you blind? There are things a guy can and cannot say to his loved ones even when angry. Forget the guy.

my girl didn't listen. she came to me again saying they've settled. That he's apologised.
how did he apologise? by saying "oya,I'll send you money in the morning" pls isn't that insult? But no,my girl was smiling when she received the msg. she also said, he wants to get her a new phone that's why he's been acting that way. Tried explaining to her that self respect isn't pride. Did I advice my friend wrongly ? she sees me like I hate her rn.

Your friend is broke and hungry. That's why she needs a man in her life that will be providing her needs. You better advice her to get financial freedom for herself before she get married to avoid see finish by her future husband. Thank you.

OP be honest with yourself, how many Nigerians can afford to patronise these place ?

GodHatesBigots:
Even if I live in a council house, it is better than 95% of the crap you called houses in Nigeria ; and we have running water, constant gas, back garden, beautiful environment , good roads and PEACE of mind. You can't beat that. Oh, I forgot to add, beautful sleep with no fear of robbers.

Banana Island is average here are some rich houses from the UK. Now this is what we call rich.

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etc etc

Go and sleep pal.

Please educate these backward Nigerians with small money. Their mentality no be here.

helinues:


Eedris Abdulkareem should focus on his dead career...

He has been singing Nigeria jaga jaga for decades , what has he contributed towards the development of Nigeria?

If you ask me, I will say he as contributed to the development of Nigeria to some extent. He used his music platform to sing to the world wide audience about bad governance and leadership in Nigeria. I guess you weren't born then. The questions now is, how have you contributed to the development of Nigeria ?

samwriter:
I fought with one thug guy that normally insult my mother. I was beating really bad. he use iron to hit me on my face and my face is swollen. I have been pressing it since morning the face is still swollen. Is there any drug I can take to return my face to normal and how can I fight like a thug somebody help because I need to revenge

You can still do something.

You can pay soldier money to help you beat that guy.

Nobody will know that it was you who paid the soldiers Just take that swollen face to a soldier and show to him. Na your money dey talk.

Max24:
They claimed 14 but how are we sure they are not telling a lie. They initially said it was rape. Does that look like rape? Is there violence? This is a case of molestation and not rape. It was a setup and the guy fell for it.

How old do you think the little girl is ?
Even if it was a set up, should a grown up adult like that molest a child ?

According to you, it's molestation, is that an excuse for bad behaviour ?

pekisdgee:
the bible says train up a child the way he should grow... base on what i saw baba ijesha never rape her... the girl was even ready for it... The girl needs to be flog she even went closer to him....the girl don dey shine congo bfr... baba ijesha never force her... No case on this matter.

How old is the said lady ?

zoghys:
Your father in the house, because am sure he hasn't done a good job training you. Lucky you this is a faceless forum, so continue to act smart.

I'm sure you don't even know who your real father is. Ask your Devilish mom for the truth. Bastard.

zoghys:
Nope, including your father

You see how foolish you are ?

Rosement:
I'm a virgin, I don't want to have sex until my wedding night. I'm a Nigerian but my bf is a white guy, he told me he loves and he wants to marry me but he wants us to start having sex while we are dating. I tired of breaking up for this same reason. What do I do?

Why can't girls date without asking for money ?

zoghys:
Because we are the one without the brain

Including you, right ?

Microwhy:
If your grandfather both paternal or maternal are not polygamist then your great grandparents are...
Polygamy has nothing to do with money. We're just been brainwashed by Western countries about polygamy.

Everything we're been brainwashed by Western countries. Why are we always the one Brainwashed ?

tfelicityk:
She werd MC come resemble self...

She fine pass your linage.

Lajet:
Wicked Wike always ready to punish Rivers state people. Any small thing he will impose a curfew. power-drunk Dictator

Still more proactive that your dead brain president.

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

Brother man, you did the right thing. You are the real GOAT

chatinent:
There was not a time Nigeria was good. It has always grown from bad to worse.

This Buhari own is bad than worst.

LikeAking:
Him think say the USA na God.

This man thinks USA govt are dump like Nigeria Govt.

paulolee:
ur captain dey near you and u still de find am...wetin u tink say musa come pillars come do? to come do charity or Wetin?
musa is in town to keep playing n stay fit for eagles games in d future....he is just 28 and the captain of eagles in the future..
a 28 yr old player still get like 10 more years left to play na..

So for your mind, Musa is 28 ?

acedsportsng:
Samsung s9+ @ #50,000

Blurry screen
6gb Ram
128gb Storage

Location: Lagos

Slightly negotiable

You know sell for 10K ?

rotimioluwamuyi:
I really need help and strategies to handle this matter. My wife sister came three weeks ago to live with us. She is 22 yrs. My problems now is her dressing mode which my wife is not careful about.

This lady always wear see-through singlets and night gowns. She has big breasts and always displaying them. I don't know how I will tell my wife to talk her sister to cover herself. She may feel bad that I'm attracted to her sister.

During the sallah holiday, I was with her alone because my wife don't holiday in her place of work, I have to leave the house and stay in the accommodation given to me in my place of work.

This morning, I carried my undies to wash, she crossed me and told me to give it to her to wash, the towel she tied because she was going to bathroom before was removing and showing her full breasts and she never worry about that.

Our marriage is just one year and I never cheated on my wife and she trusted me but her sister is really giving me emotional trauma. Can you imagine, yester night, my wife went to a programme, I was with her. So I called her around 8 pm that we should pray and go to bed. This lady came with a see-through night gown with a push up bra that put all breasts outside. Even her pant color was visible. I tried to control myself....

Even this morning, she came for prayer with the same gown and my wife did not caution her.....
How can I handle this matter?
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Give me her number let me talk to her.

pepperdemzombie:
How many people Dem Don kill for Imo, we all need to know too.

Ask Buhari and Pantani. Na them know the record of dead people in Nigeria.

pepperdemzombie:
Fearless but fled to USA?
Na brave, no be fearless!

You want your Fulani brothers to kill her ?
She's better off in Canada.

sweetshisha:
Subsidised health, electricity, petrol, education , foriegn imported luxury goods

If you have stayed a week abroad and paid bill, then you might understand how your taxes are helping in reducing utility bills

Nigeria is not abroad. Get out

AsomughaChuks05:
The Nigerian army is a fulani militia.

What about the Fulani's that go around killing Nigerian Citizens ? I guess citizens life don't matter

Is Nigeria not Jagajaga ?

BeautyO:
The moment you ask a woman for sex you're a rapist

You never went to school. What's the definition of rapist ?

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

You don't have a matured mind.

Incandescent:
Ode. Next time think before you type nonsense

Do your findings son

Reex12:
lol it might lack meaningful lyrics but it has that partyvibe

Party style that can't get Grammy nomination.

Reex12:
most of burna songs dont have rhythm I prefer olamide songs over burna

Is it Davido songs that have rhythm ?