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hell no , i wount o except for health reasons

i think u should tell him too

simple, i think d first lady is a temptation to ur mariage go ahead with d 2nd one since u ve already done d introduction and she is also pregnant, but na wa 4 u how come u sleep with ladies in this age and time without condom. anyway i dont think there is much 4 u decide u gave d first lady her chance but she bleeped up, except u still love her and u say u dont so wat are u then talkin about.
dont even think of marrying 2 wives it will be hell on earth 4 u. just continue ur wedding arrangement with this 2nd lady. left to me there is no issue here except there is somethin u re not sayin here

its not any easy decision but first of all narrow them to like 3 or 4 first then physically then. pray about it and put them to same test. and know how each react to it

its possible but dats not spiritual it was her choice

true most mother in laws are terrible but not all of them. some can be really unfriendly esp when they see u get more attention than them

this is just a devils trick playing on u guys mind , haba wat a reason to sin and decieve urselves

girl i dont think u did wrong, since he calls u only when he has a request to make. dats not good. its not bad to assist him but not all d time am sure he has a family let him go meet them. i ve said so becos is ur boy friend and not ur husband.

i dont necessary agree with thoniaslim, d relationship she is leaving might not ve been necessary working fine, but if u see proof she really loves u and u can tell by her character wat kind of person she is, then u can trust her. so its 50 -50 whether she will do d same or not to u.
i left someone i was dating then for my husband now why becos i had reasons 2 and i was damn glad i did.

yeah u ofcourse u can marry her height difference is no big deal, moreover u re d one who is too tall for her if u ask me.

exactly go get ur head examined, are u so desporate or damn rite stupid. so u think d first wife will fold her hands watch u destroy her happiness , go get ur own girl

thank u posakosa, olanajim nd d others.i appreaciate ur advices

i think she is being blinded by love cos as at yesternite she has made up her mind 2 continue with d guy and just as u all ve said it was her own decision, and all i can do is just be there for her and continue to pray for her becos its beginning to look as if i dont want her 2 get married becos i am married.
the guy has also been callin me tellin me he is being sincere dat he has changed and dat he takes all d blame nd pls i should help them pray. that he is ready to go to any lenght to make things right.

but how she is goin to persuade her family i dont know, but i ve begged her not to disappear with d guy. i told her may d will of God be done in her life dats my prayer and she shouldnt be in a rush.

at weddings i mean classy weddings nd pool parties

no- two wrongs dont make a right, its wrong too hit ur wife no matter wat

my God there is nothin one wount read in narialand.

IN hell if he his not married o

its not a crime, but in naija u ve stained ur image for life.

d reason why am involved is becos she has actually been there 4 me when i was in my own crisis, we ve been friends 4 a very long time over 10 yrs, and i know she still listens 2 me, moreover i nd my husband are d only one who knows they re seeing each other again and her mum ask specificaly asked me to be there 4 her.
dats why am askin narialanders just incase am ill advising her, becos i ve actually spoken to d guy myself and he seems really sober ,repentant, and i know my friend is really in love, if he is really lieing wat does he stand to gain now.  my hussy thinks its spiritual nd sorts.

i said d same thing, but actually d guy didnt know she loosed it untill he insisted he saw her, am also confused myself becos i ve actually seen d guy several times and if not am very close to my friend i wouldnt ve believed it myself. and talkin to her is been in vain she has even refused to pick my call for like 3 days now

thats right so get married then, just as people ve said ve a heart 2 heart talk to her, tell her u mind and let her tell u hers maybe she wants all d fun after marriage.
from my experience i did hide all my fantasies in dat area untill after marriage. so it depends on her view so ask her but do it in a romantic way.

go rite ahead and tell her b4 its too late, start anyhow talk about d past as in when u were in school or with a jist about one of ur teachers then. be bold guy

i have a friend she is been dating this guy for 2 years now and and d guy actually proposed around march this year. before then its been wonderful almost a perfect relationship, but since they both decide 2 get married its been one issue or the other, it got to d level they decided to fix a date in july becos she was pregnant, but it didnt hold, dis guy started fucking up, his drinkin became excessive, she found out he was also cheatin didnt pay her attention anymore despite been pregnant, he wouldnt pick her calls would only reply her with a text message dat would say he is busy and would call her later or see her but he wouldnt, and dis was d same person who had already done some traditional rites, everybody knew about it and d two families were in support except few from d guys side, becos of d shame dat was coming to d girl, my friend's family decided to pay d guy an unexpested visit since all this while he is been dodging, but d meeting didnt go well it ended up with physical fights and argument. as a result of all d emotional stress my friend loosed d pregnancy, as a result her family made her swear never to have anything to do with d guy if he came begging, which he did.
now the annoying part to me is dat dis guy has come begging with excuses dat he cant explain wat came over him and dat he still loves my friend and still wants to proceed with d wedding, he confessed all d things he did as in cheating on her nd d rest and my friend is buying d shit.

narialanders correct me if am wrong i told my friend not too give him another chance, because they ve actually being seeing each other now for almost 3 weeks knowing dat d two families are enemies now. how will it work out i know her family is quite inflentual and could mean doing has they ve threathend, but my friend doesnt care she tells me she still loves him very much but she is still confused becos she is also afraid d whole scenerio might happen again and also in trusting him.
i am concerned about dis my friend becos she is actually an intelligent, beautiful and caring lady and dont want her wasting her time with d guy. even though i know d guy to be ok too. but he has bleeped up really bad and i know her family would never accept him.

wats ur intake on this? should she really give him another chance despite all odds

a man is at his best to a lady b4 he marries her, he is almost 100% so likewise a lady, but after d marriage it remains dat way if he wasnt pretending or gets worst. so watever u see now b4 marriage dont expect any better after marriage except God really intervenes.

lol i cant help laughin

it doesnt mean she is cheating she might be flirting dats all. or approach and see her response

wat a ques, anywere is ok, dont think its d church cos u might be wrong

i think u should return it

@Dr Kitaun and frank3.16
   do u think this poster needs your pity, or do u know her personally, wats u guys stress. she shared her story and only needs your encouragement, sometimes this things go beyond ordinary eyes, i ve experienced somethin similar to her story but  mine didnt travel out and we still ended up gettin married, but i can tell u my fiance then bleeped up bad but God with his infinite mercies turn my story around, now am happy but i can tell u i passed thru hell i mean hell and i was pregnant too.

pregnant woman and emotional stress is bad it could kill or lead her to misscarriage.
please poster just take heart, God has not forgoten u. he is with u always, take heart your joy will most definately come.

abi o. she needs advice not yabs, narialanders self

damn