when I was a child, there was a girl in my class who, unprovoked, constantly told me that I was ugly. I'd be sitting, minding my own business, and out of the blue, there she would go about how ugly I was (and I wasn't ugly by the way) This really upset me, and when I told my Mom, you know what she said? "That's just because she thinks she's ugly - and she's scared you might notice."

I am not sure why certain people want to come on this forum to spit venom.  talk about inferiority complex. Why would anyone exhaust himself to convince someone else of his own superiority (assuming he genuinely believed it), if not as an attempt to outrun a pathological inferiority complex himself? And not just inferiority to us, but probably to everyone. This type of behavior is a form of neurosis: when you despise yourself (because those immediately around you despise you), you project those emotions onto others, and act out your self-hatred on them. This behavior develops easily with people who have no real lives; or who are perhaps outcasts of their own class. Think about it: if they had some love or friends or family in their lives, could they even be bothered to come on this forum to chat TOSH? Something's wrong with that picture. And if they really believed in their own superiority, they would not give this or any other predominant black site the time of day.

when they see a black man loving or leading they were unable to master, suddenly the burden becomes to difficult to bear. Their mind snaps, logic and reasonableness are lost. These may just be too blinded by their lack of self-esteem to focus on theirs.  It's unfortunate to see a person allow self-hatred to infect his relationships with others, let alone a single woman.

LMAO - Poor YT.

anyone of you can kick this off as i am not going to be around till later.  sorry 

i really like this

Peace

a poem with a funny twist. Nice!!

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ariblaze:

.have you seen this movie . . . . .not without my daughter. . . ?
think again

@ariblaze

Sorry, I no longer want to post in that thread hence why i open this.

Regarding your question on "Not without my daughter" - the answer is NO.

I googled it and read the synopsis (see below).  SCARY Yikes!!!  I think i know what you are implying - but why would you suggest this movie to me.  I am no where close to that character.  Trust me, I am not easily fooled. Enlighten me some more please.

Thanks
Plot
After many years of marriage to an Iranian doctor named Moody (Alfred Molina), Alpena, Michigan-bred Betty (Sally Field) is convinced by him to visit his family in Tehran for the first time. Although she has a lot of trepidation about traveling to the Middle East, her fear of violence is overcome by sympathy for her husband, who misses his family. After Moody swears on the Qu'ran that everything will be fine, Betty agrees to go. The happy couple set out with their young daughter, Mahtob (played by Sheila Rosenthal, who won the Best Actress Young Artist Award for this role), on a planned two week family vacation.

Upon arrival, Betty is immediately required to wear the traditional black veil, and is nearly arrested for inadvertently exposing some of her hair. Contrary to everything Betty had previously been led to believe, her husband's family turns out to be fanatically devout and conservative Muslims, who are very unhappy with how Americanized Moody has become. Towards the end of their scheduled holiday, her husband reveals that he has been fired from his job in Michigan and has decided the family will stay in Iran, where they are desperate for doctors. Suddenly, she sees a completely different side of him. When she objects to staying, he beats her and takes her credit cards, money and identification. She soon realizes that she and her daughter have become prisoners in her sister-in-law's home. She manages to speak with her own mother in the US., who provides her with an Embassy contact, before her husband cuts off her access to the telephone.

Betty sneaks out of the house and gets to the Swiss Embassy, where she learns that under Iranian law women have no legal rights concerning their children; she and her daughter are automatically considered Iranian citizens because Betty married a legal Iranian, and neither can leave the country without Moody's signed permission. To make matters worse, if Betty were to get a divorce, she could leave Iran but Mahtob would have to stay since Moody would get sole custody. Her husband becomes increasingly violent toward her and she is watched around the clock by his unsympathetic relatives. Realizing that her opportunities to escape are limited, she plays the part of a devout Muslim wife. She attempts to mend the relationship with her husband and expresses an interest in converting to Islam. Eventually, her husband loosens his tight reign, moving the family into his brother's home. Her traumatized daughter is enrolled in a Muslim school, where Betty is allowed to accompany her. In a class about the Qu'ran, Betty meets Ellen, an American woman who is also married to an Iranian man. Their friendship between the two ends when Ellen is caught by her husband trying to mail a letter for Betty.

Over time, Moody trusts Betty to make short, timed trips to the market, without her daughter. In the marketplace she meets a man who is part of an underground network that assists Western women in her position and she begins to plan her escape. When her father falls ill, Moody makes plans for her to return to the US. for a visit. Her initial happiness fades when he informs her that her daughter will remain in Iran with him, while she liquidates all their assets in the US. and sends the money back to Iran. When she objects to leaving Mahtob behind, he slams his fists on the table and walks away from the table yelling, "It's my money and I want it!" Fearing that she will never see her daughter again if she leaves her in Iran, she accelerates her escape plan. The day before Betty is due to leave for the US. to see her father, Moody is called back to the hospital for an emergency. Betty takes advantage of this occasion to fake going out for a stroll with Mahtob. In a harrowing journey through the desert and mountains she and Mahtob escape Iran through Turkey, after eighteen months of living in Iran.

The movie was released a few days before the Persian Gulf War started. Some scenes of Not Without My Daughter have been repeatedly shown by IRIB in Iran.[citation needed]

nope - just let your soul flow