I was prepared for it, I already have it at the back of my mind that things could go wrong, cos I legit insulted my roommate then with his attitude when he experienced it, and I have been involved in married people cases even as a teenager when they brought their case to my dad for advice or to settle any animosity, he calls me to sit and listen when he is advising them. When it finally happened, I was more concerned about the money I loaned her... The only heartbreak I think I suffered were the genuine one or two friends I never got to date due to one reason or another.

Quality20:
Many ppl in big and semi big cities always wish to get married to city girls who are very educated or at least enlightened and speak good English
Guy, you are about to cheat yourself. Many city girls are already prostitutes without knowing. Its far better u go to a nice decent village and marry those girls whom you see as uneducated than to settle for those coded prostitutes parading themselves all over the city speaking English even more than the oyimbo ppl themselves. Yes, agreed, some of the village girls maybe corrupt, but then they still won't be as deceptive as many of these highly educated, wise jet age girls who may even be lesbians, bisexuals,multiplesexual etc. Many men who are married to these so-called modern ladies find it so difficult to kowthe real character,personality and lifestyle of these ladies for many months or years as against village brought up ladies who lead simple lives

It's certain you have never been to the villages, where I Wan even start from, the ones that sleep with their teachers from secondary school, those with poor hygiene, their reasoning capacity and mindset, the ones with no ambition and won't even see reason with you when taking important decisions/actions, their views about life generally and many more, if they are learned and schooled in a town or city and have some decency in them is still okay but seeing them as village girls and SSCE holder, oga, you will be at a LOST big time.

22o62021:
Culture difference

In igbo land, you don't give an elder something with a left hand
But where I live
I saw a boy of about 20 using left hand to pass food to a man of 80 years.

I tried to correct him but they said it doesn't mean anything.

That year in the late 90's
Students of UNN will us message, you born you to say no

Them go beat you in front of your parents

Those students of UNN that beat you in front of your parents those days are now parents of the said children been talked about on this thread... They only know how to create fear in children that are not theirs and not train children, they are two different things..

gabmanuel:


I think if people should just be behaving the way they were during Dating/courtship, there won't be much issues.


NB: There can be 1% exception.

This line of yours, I have always thought about it, what exactly is special about the word marriage if not it been an official recognition of intimate friendship, for me it's just a word especially for those who cohabit and tolerate one another for many years even with one or two children involved suddenly starts having issues the moment it is now termed marriage officially. Seen many cases and I still can't wrap my head around it.

LetsDestroyAPC:


Did he need to go to university and come back to sell palm oil?

What is the big deal there, my mum sold lots of things including palmoil, groundnut oil, cement, provisions, Garri, beans, rice and lots more both in wholesales and retail at one point in time, she has her own building and still earns from her business till now but on a smaller scale cos of age, while my dad who is now retired only earns from his pension and his tenants sef don't pay regularly, my point is him going to school and going into that business should give him an edge, before you lambast me, I worked for about three and half years, lost my job,saved up and I am into the business my mum is doing but on a smaller scale, I can only grow from there with time.

Bobloco:


This is pure propaganda

How is these products finding their way to those countries. No one have been sacked for not doing his job in securing our borders or arrested by the security agencies for smuggling



Instead of tackling the issues, they keep running around

There is no propaganda here, the fact remains, whoever is/were sent to disrupt the status quo of illegal exportation will in no time join them be cause of the huge money involved, you have to be there and witness it to know how far, yes govt does not want it but who the govt will send there for strict monitoring also wants to live large and in no time blends in and joins the rest.

Exmilitant:
They stop sending me on such errand when I came back home two days later. Dem no see money, dem no see sugar.

I masturbate with that Joy soap like mad. Joy, Lux and Imperial leather soap was so creamy.

My father likes Imperial leather soap maybe because of the scent but, when he calculated the amount he spent on the soap every week, he switched to Tura soap.

Gold old days, one thing that I still remember about imperial leather is the way that sticker on the soap remains till the last days without falling off.

[quote author=Epositive post=123392932]Na drugs own worse


Especially that Tetracycline

On your way to the shop, you were so assured you will get it right after repeating it. But immediately you greeted the chemist, you're in trouble.

Chemist: what do you need my boy?

Me his boy:
Was never a victim cos mum sold most things that we needed at home, we just enter shop and pick, but this tetracycline and Flagyl came to my mind when I first saw this on Facebook, because my elder sister will always forget whenever she was sent to buy it, me I just stick with capsule 💊red and yellow when my turn reach.

Klass99:


Yeah right @ the text in bold . You will want it and you will make it happen because;

1. We can't allow your biceps go to waste na. You'll need a woman to hold you in her arms and run her hands all over your body and those biceps from time to time.

2. What most men and women truly crave is companionship and a companion to do life with. Every other thing we say or claim is just noise making. Know when to simp and when to be an unrelenting hard ass, no wife or in-laws will dare mess with you.

3. I don't even know what I am saying sef because this nairaland married folks make singlehood feel like pure bliss .

No regrets following you either I have enjoyed your posts/stories. Nigerian Info FM is a vibe too, especially on Saturday mornings, I like tuning in.

Seriously, I can't deal with so many things that just require one having to do what is within your means while working hard to improve your finance and live the dream life we all wanted. I sell things and sometimes humans can be annoying, both young and old, male and female especially when it comes to money. All these, when I think of it I just can't deal most times and wonder if I will ever want to live with someone as husband and wife. Then some in-law wahala, and one thing I can guarantee is I won't give anyone trouble, and my parents won't either. But can I get that guarantee? For how long will I form Macho, I only had that strength to cope with my parent cos they fed and accommodate me, don't think I can take that from anyone else, but in all I am taking my time and be in a good place financially.
Even my Landlady don dey disturb me, and I know my mum told her about it, but I am not one to fall for such pressure.
My abs are almost gone, no more hard work and I have been lazy to do exercises cos I am not use to it, it was work and daily lifting of heavy things that made me had them which I don't do again.
Do have a great day...

Berrityga:
please pump water out of that sukerway you call a head. Of a woma stops giving you sex it's cause she is banging another guy.

The problem with you is that you have decided to run with a narrative when people have marital issues, there are one thousand and one reasons for it depending on the individuals involved at least the husband has shared his part, it can't always be cheating.

Carcholce:
Una don turn Nairaland family section to season film.

Later your husband will come out with another story. No matter how you guys are painting this marriage thing. It cannot stop me from marrying 3 wives. 2 on the same day and a third one when the first two are getting older.

The season film part got me laughing out loud in the middle of the night.
When I finally get married (still doubtful about the possibility), if wife, in-laws, bring any kind of trouble I don't like that will stress me out, I will just back out, in fact I will have special savings to that effect so that I won't be wasting time and suffering mental health issues, the peace I have been experiencing for the last few months of staying alone now cannot be compared to anything else for now.

@klass99,I don't even have a TV to start with for me to view African magic, and no regrets following you because you surely know how to get this sort of threads.
@OP, please do what is best for yourself, I personally don't even like the smell of Alcohol or smoke of any kind not to talk of coming close to another who stinks of it for sex and still waste the family resources on it. Try listen to Naija Info on Saturdays 7am and you will get to know more on how to navigate issues like this.

My only fall back plan for now is to keep saving, stay away from woman make mistake no go happen because my parents dey pray everyday make their only son marry,minimise my spending and if worst comes to worst I will swallow my pride and ask my mum for loan to expand my business.
Above all, I am taking things one step at a time and not considering my age(that is where the main pressure is, especially from folks who will compare you with your peers) because the truth of the matter is that with the current economic situation, even back up can vanish within the twinkle of an eye.

xpressionx:
I have already detected a lie in this story.

Lemme observe and you others who will


Was POS popular six years ago?

OP suffery dey lie

The fact that POS was not popular does not mean that he is not one of the very few people who knew about it then.

Oyindamolah:
My Landlord is a stark illiterate, but has business acumen, a man that has been in business for over 4 decades Baba Agbala gba, none of his children are working for any organisation or company

MISTAICEY02288:


Chai! While we were going to school to learn how to be graduates and work in the corporate world, these people are there learning businesses and making big money moves

One thing I have realized is that, school education makes us to understand English and give us ability to read, write and comprehend things easily but not necessarily to make business decisions at a go and be a success at it instantly especially for those of us that did not study professional courses, even those who do still have to learn on the job. Business is another ball game entirely as mistakes will be made and your education will not save you in many instances than it will save you in some.

A teacher once told us in secondary school that you are only literate in the language you are taught, the moment you get to a place where your known languages are not spoken you automatically become an illiterate and same applies to business, and funny enough most teachers are teaching because it's a plan Z for them and are not actually equipped with the actual knowledge to make students business savvy in the future.

macphilip:
Ma'am, you saw the red flags when you were dating him, but chose to ignore.

Anyway, which of these 4 vices below is the worst for a man?

Drinking
Smoking
Gambling
Womanizing

Most cases, it only becomes bad when it drains one beyond one's financial capacity. If you engage in any one of these and you are close to me but you no come bill me to rescue you from important things you could have used that money for, you are good to go even if I will not in any way support it. Whoever indulges in it will know with time if it's bad or not when there is health complications as a result of the choice of their vices.

mukthar2000:
And u think you are doing that woman favour with all this ur discouragements articles, can't u just stop judging and stop talking As if u are a God that create the guy and stop discourage that good wife if u can't console her with what she was passing through right.

I read that write up and I can't just believe someone will still blame a woman in that situation for not doing enough, when the man is not even using the little money he gets for himself but to give it all out to the bet company. He comes back home expecting food meaning he could not even spare himself small ₦300 to load his belly with bread and beans.

@dearlove2me.. He is already deep into it, and I doubt prayer will solve this aspect of him coupled with him been jobless, which means what ever freebies he gets or small runz job he does he gambles the money away without thinking of the home front including a baby. You know what to do and whatever your family or his says/do/want will only be to save themselves of the embarrassment of having a family member divorced.
Give him a timeline (it's not necessary he knows about it), speak calmly with him, ask him of his plans going forward, do all within your capacity as expected of a good woman/human while documenting them and also saving for any eventualities, at the end of the timeline if you are comfortable with the outcome you take your decision without considering anybody outside you and your baby. This I have always done when dealing with people who pose a threat to my peace of mind. Never married though.

Goddyrichie:
see u so u think yahoo go finish abi as long as they is life scam continue till life will end arm robbers kidnappers will never end that’s how fraud will b just that different format and style

It can never finish that I know, but with witnessing what befalls those before them, there will likely be one or two persons with a change of mind.

Rickmann:


I feel for him.
That's why I tell people it pays to make an honest living no matter how small it is, so far you can feed urself and pay ur bills.

Peace of mind is everything.

And not be in debt... Peace of mind is highly underrated..

Sucre6:
Lols, there is nothing I don't know about dark web, ranging from phone hacking, untraceable bank account hacking and transfers and stuff, but I can never use it to scam people, I learnt all these to correctly equip myself from getting hacked by this idiots,

My dad would always call me and tell me never to do scam or steal people money, he told me to hustle real hard that I am king but I do not know yet, those where what my dad kept saying even on his dying bed, he told me never to sleep with someones wife andd never to do Yahoo that I am destined to be greater than all those small money that won't last.


I heed to his advise and now I am cashing out legitimately with my hustle, yahoo will give u quick cash and take your life early enough as compensation to the devil, so you make your choice, fast cash and die untimely miserably, or hustle legitimately and let God crown your effort and live a long fruitful and progressive life

Left to me, I just want them to live long and live their old age in misery and regrets recollecting their days of illegal boom and seeing those they scammed flourishing and happy and telling it as lessons to the younger generation directly from the horses' mouth.

ukaface:
😂😂🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Wait fess o
What is the target suppose to do? Increase tithe and offering??😮

Nope, increasing tithe and offering is just what comes along with it, the main reason is to rewin souls that has been won by other churches in the most appropriate way right to them alone.

lomprico:
Such target if for financial gain only and not for any soul winning.

Living faith Church and most prosperity preaching church are also guilty of it.

I liked that you mentioned Winners, they are right beside my house, and they won't stop sharing flier to me to come to their service, I collect but never make the mistake of giving them my mobile number like I don't have my own church to attend, na only them know way to God.

lomprico:
Such target if for financial gain only and not for any soul winning.

Living faith Church and most prosperity preaching church are also guilty of it.

Trustedpronet:


And that is why I like Jehovah witness. Give according to your heart.

The best, when you meet the truly dedicated members especially amongst the old people, them no dey bother you with money, the only reason I don't allow them wait and preach to me again is because this my adult life now needs all the time either to make money or relax...

fasho01:
The way these people take care of their pets, even children brought up in wealthy homes back here don't get that kind of pampering

so true, saw a short video on Youtube's National Geography Channel about a Nigerian Goay been taking to the hospital and the owner was crying just because it had a bloated stomach, saying the animal is having unbearable pain. I was just laughing considering how they are been treated here in Nigeria with confirm cane to put them in order.

madscientist88:
its wonderful to know you are comfortable with your life, that's real wealth, people who don't have the priviledge of such choices are rached ,your peace of mind and happiness is everything.

It's okay if he was single but not with children to cater for, he needs to work thrice as hard and not settle for less unless that happiness and peace of mind will be cut short unexpectedly.

Samantha124:
Those people that died in their 20s and 30s, or even 40s, did they think of it?

Do you know when you're going to die

And I'm asking you what's the difference between a will and a funeral policy?

Maybe what the person is trying to say is this, since most don't have properties that will cause fight amongst family members especially the single ones without children, then it's not necessary.

For me, once child/ren is/are involved, it's a must have. My dad read his to the hearing of all his children after having a near death experience many years ago and he is still very much alive, although my mum never liked the idea because she felt it will make us unserious.

Klass99:


My love long time, I hope you're good? I am smiling at the text in bold.......you want your parents' siblings to kill you abi?

It is that time they will come out and be forming blood is thicker than water, you cannot bury our brother or sister without doing this and doing that......blah blah blah.

Tell your dad to put what he said in writing and also inform his church and siblings verbally o. Too many people in this country don't respect boundaries or the wishes of others, ITK full their body.

At the last paragraph- good thinking! It is better to grant our trusted folks access to bank accounts than have the banks cash out on our hard work and earnings.

I'm good.. They won't kill me, they will only be surprised that I am not in for partying and won't give in to any ridiculous demand either from them or church..

hedonido:


You're much worse than the security man this thread talks about because your own entitlement mentality is on a different level of disdain, arrogance and bitterness. Why do you expect someone to teach you how to fish? Why? Is he your father? Why do you expect someone to give you money to "help with important things in life"? You're an idiot, not sorry to say. Nobody owes you NOTHING.

If you can't appreciate the handouts and free drinks, then you're a terrorist waiting to wreak havoc. I pity the people doing this for you.

Stay there and be waiting for people to teach you how to fish or give you millions to start life with. Because you did what exactly for them to deserve that? Disgusting.

hedonido:


You're much worse than the security man this thread talks about because your own entitlement mentality is on a different level of disdain, arrogance and bitterness. Why do you expect someone to teach you how to fish? Why? Is he your father? Why do you expect someone to give you money to "help with important things in life"? You're an idiot, not sorry to say. Nobody owes you NOTHING.

If you can't appreciate the handouts and free drinks, then you're a terrorist waiting to wreak havoc. I pity the people doing this for you.

Stay there and be waiting for people to teach you how to fish or give you millions to start life with. Because you did what exactly for them to deserve that? Disgusting.

Chai, you misunderstood it all and went ballistic. Hope you know some people bait others with little things just to have them coming back to them and enslave them for their own selfish gains, a good example is politicians.

As for the teaching how to fish part, it's far more honorable to give out information that will liberate another and won't in any way diminish your worth than having it to yourself and feeding them crumbs to make you lord over them and making them feel you are doing them huge favors. The Nigerian masses are a good example during election campaign.

As for me not appreciating what others give does not mean I don't appreciate, I only don't encourage it to continue because I always feel indebted to the person especially if I can afford such and if I can't afford it, I rather reject and say thank you if it is something I can respectfully reject.

For the guy in my place of work I mentioned, he gets some extra cash on a regular which I could say no to then but overlooked and his mode of appreciation was to be giving me Olosho and alcohol, this mode of kindness or help will be rejected a thousand times at one attempt of it.

Gkay1:
God bless the guy.
I'm a living example, I don't smoke, take alcohol and womanize and I m not a pastor.
You gain nothing in smoking, womanizing etc

You even undermine yourself by saying you are not a pastor because even some pastors engage in one of the three vices listed by you.

Klass99:


Apart from writing a will I wish more people would leave end of life instructions regarding their death and funerals, to save their loved ones from unnecessary stress and strain, especially those of us who practice the Christian faith.

I am yet to understand the point of dragging out funerals, leaving bodies at the morgue for a lengthy time, service of songs etc. We should know better that once you die your soul goes to either one of two places, heaven or hell.

So, what's the relevance or benefit of what we do? It won't change a person's final destination or resting place, neither will it bring them back nor stop our hurt and pain. A friend just buried his mother and the wahala was plenty, we both agreed that we ought to embrace the Muslim way/practice of burying the dead. According to him some morgues were an eye sore and organs are harvested from dead bodies for sale.

And no, spending huge sums of money on funerals is not honouring the dead like we love to think. It is foolishness if you ask me, if you couldn't or didn't honour a person while they were alive, by treating them kindly or respectfully, giving them 30k or helping in other ways, when they asked or needed help, how is it now honouring to spend 250k on a casket they are unaware of and which doesn't help them in their demise?

I don't know about a will just yet but I plan to inform two of my siblings of the access codes to my bank accounts, pension account and other relevant accounts. They will be updated if or when the access codes change, additionally, I will ask them to please bury my body quickly and speedily without drama abeg. Don't even waste time trying to transport the body back to our village. It is just vanity upon vanity.

Read this to a point and went back to check the name only to find out it was you.. On point Sha, I will shock many people when it comes to burial of my parents, they will not expect it, that is if I even inform anyone sef. Dad already said he wants it simple and no dance around or morgue deposit of corpse but I know family who have never been there will want to overdo or his church people will be asking for extra ordinary events cause of his position.. Make God Sha grant all of us long life and good health.

As for will, since I started living alone, I jokingly told my sister, it's time I sent her my bank details, the only thing I did was to write all the passwords in a book and yet to send it to her.

sukkot:
it is what it is. It's all discretion. Just do it far away from home. As a wise man once said , no dey shit where you dey put head, excuse the vulgarity lol. Give to people you will never see again if there is the need for charity. Charity covers a multitude of sins. It's like penance lol. I strongly believe that

The way I see it is this, you actually caused it, humans want free things especially when they see you are more privileged than they are, then they see you as whom God has blessed on their behalf. Next time, just give such person a one time help and not over do it, you made it look easy for him buy giving him things his salary cannot afford him, how do you expect him to sustain that lifestyle if not to keep coming back to you. It's good to help, but help only when it is necessary or critical.

Remember this saying, it's better to teach one how to fish than giving them fish, it's one of the reason I don't appreciate anyone who is okay with giving me handouts always like buying drinks, paying for match viewing for me, or telling me I get babe for you but will not give you money to help with important things in one's life.

2016/17 batch A Stream 1, Omu Aran, Kwara State. It's was a year with a whole lot of experiences too many to mention.
Activities were much and I participated in virtually all right from camp, playing for my platoon, NCCF family house was fun though I did not stay there based on some wrong reviews I read on Nairaland on how they had strict laws, Rural Rugged, both state and local govt organized and the fellowships and prayer meetings, PPA was fun with the students, taught them Computer Science and also took out time to take them General Studies since most of them did not know beyond their locality(did this when I asked each of them their state of origin and they were calling the names of their villages), CDS was another fun group Gender and Charity to be precise, our visits to hospitals, prison, schools and even a charity home amongst others were just too superb, church activities involving fellow corpers were endless, partying here and there, vacation to Erin Ijesha waterfall in Osun State, and Owu waterfall in Kwara.

The wonderful humans I met just made that period one of the very best moments of my life.. The joy of it all is that, I have over 10,000 pics excluding videos to always look back on those wonderful memories and not holding myself back from living the life then unlike I did in UNI.

Uselessboy78:
my mum asked me for 35k for school fees for my kiddo , i couldnt deliver but i deposited 70k to play bet and lost it
i am angry with myself ,reason i picked that

It would have been understandable if you saved that money and not give your mother the amount she requested for but you ruined your present and still deny kiddo a smooth sail into the future.

Sonnobax15:

This generation is under fire already...I pray next generation should be vindicated from all these madness.

How is this even possible? Many like this had more of sensible people to look up to even if they had senseless parents and they turned out bad, now think of the next generation who will learn from even celebrities shaking yansh and impregnating women anyhow without control not to now talk of those around them that will also influence them badly and you expect a better next generation, it can only get harder.