nkemdi89:
That's so true, personally I hate it when a guy treats me like a trophy he is about to win, the regular calls gets me choked up especially when you don't any feelings for him or trying to lure you with money and gifts just to get my attention is a no no. The implication of his behaviour is that you may end up accepting him out of sympathy cos you feel he has tried,thereby the respect and genuine love isn't going to be there also after winning you like a trophy the love may degenarate cos you don't feed a fish with worm after being caught, due to chronic obssession he may endanger your life because he feels if he doesn't deserve you no one should, also I see those type of people as if they are acting to gallery immediately the curtain is closed the show is over. A healthy relationship isn't base on obssesion don't choke me its suppose to be mutual.

And a lady speaks...

Mavor:
Wait, dem dey come for you.

Lol. Now I said it, I know they will come

InZA:
The moderator that put this on the front page must be a prospective client.

As much as I subscribe to the essence of your post@OP....I can't still help but have a coloured opinion about it, the reason being that, your posts/articles and even your book(from the hints and excerpts you've drawn from it) somewhat encourages duplicity and infidelity.

I stand to be corrected but your articles don't focus on getting that "special girl" that means the world to you, whom you would possibly want to "take home to mama" or whoever dey house in case mama don travel..... Instead it focuses on getting and stirring the attention of different girls...and this notion breeds psychological inconsistencies or complexities and ultimately limits the habit of commitment.

It is my personal belief, that a relationship should be between one man and one woman who come together to commitedly nuture that relationship. But when a guy is, largely driven and motivated by the suggestions/opinions in your articles or the submissions in your book, that he can/or has the "legal" right to "bang" any girl that tickles his fancy, simply because he has "the know how", then ofcourse, no matter how you see it, your articles would only serve to further populate the already growing number of irresponsible men we have in Nigeria.

Like I said initially, I subscribe to the essence of your post, which is being selectively attentive to a girl, but very few guys would see this in a "singular sense".... After all, what is the use of a knowledge gained if it is not lavishly practised.


This is just my personal opinion and I know it hardly represents the ideals of other people.

I understand your point and I agree with them.

However, I do not preach promiscuity. As a matter of fact; I have a super awesome pretty girl I'm dating right now and I don't cheat on her.

What I teach is basic psychology. Even if you find that special girl, if you don't know how to go about making her see that you are the special guy for her, she will not realise it.

Most times when we find that girl, in the heat of passion, we do things that set them off.

Go through this thread, it has been read by hundreds of girls on nairaland but NO girl has commented to say that these things I have said is a lie.

Doesn't that strike you? A website where people feed on bashing others. Doesn't that strike you that I have probably just said the truth.

Think about that.

chiderao:
Op thanks a lot..this one is directed to me ooh..just gv a girl I just met 200k to pay her house rent last night...and today she never say hey to me.....still waiting to hear from her thou...
Guess it gna be a tough one to shegg her....bt gna keep mute as well...coz I know them she still gna call n I will strategize ma game to nail her well well..
Never n never again shld I fall mugu for babe....

Money doesn't buy love; don't forget that bro (just in case she finally calls).

Well, the way you see yourself matters - if you believe a girl's class is above yours and because of that you can't get her to like you then that's what it will be.

The problem with a lot of guys is low self esteem, nobody will value anyone who doesn't value himself.

Emmyxclusive:
Now u have a gal, things were going well then u started showing too much attention then things got a liltle ugly, how do u win her back?

The reason why something like this happens is because you have become less interesting to her; by showing her you just "can't breathe" without her you killed her attraction for you.

What you have to do is this; Give her more space, make her a bit jealous from time to time, charge up the way you talk to her (click my name and on my profile click on my article on "how to talk to girls".

If you do all these three things WELL and they don't work to bring her back to you, whenever i post an article on nairaland - stone me *winks*

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I preach being yourself. But bro; when a girl treats you badly and you still struggle to impress her you are not being yourself - you are being used.

Being yourself doesn't mean being a slave to your emotions and to a girl who doesn't have regard for you.

Be yourself, but still, be a real man while at it. Never be afraid to put down your feet and say NO when you are been ride on - that is my message.

Antanananovic:


You have done a good job..OP..no doubt..I just wanna advise you to sell ORIGINAL INTELLECTUAL IDEAS. A lot of the information you have here are not your idea. I have come across these bulk of information before and I can confidently accuse you of plagiarism. Sell your own IDEAS so that guys out there can test it and modify it. For the guys on this thread that may want to object my opinion, kindly visit pualib.com and you will find a repertoire of seduction techniques and dating advice. A whole lot of information is waiting for you. And guess what..it is DAMN FREE. Cheers!!

well, that's a strong accusation and i have to address it - if you find any article you feel i have plagiarized, or stole, or have copied and pasted please feel free to paste the link below the article so people can see. It's unfair to paint me black just to promote your website

I am not the only guy who know these secrets, because you stumble on another guy who does doesn't mean i am stealing his ideas. It's just like saying that a biology teacher who teaches TRANSPORT system is plagiarizing - transport system is the same all over the word.

same with this; the psychology of attraction is no one's intellectual property. I registered and protected my e-book against piracy, i hate piracy and i would not allow you accuse me of plagiarism.

Have an awesome night

blogexpert:
Nice one..............

@O.P Can I pay for an e-course on dating on my forum?

See my profile for a number to contact, so we will talk. I didn't really get you

farano:
♥ When they help you choose your clothes and watch you get dressed!

♥ Not knowing how to take compliments. Yeah we love how shy you act sometimes

♥ When they hug you from behind & whisper sweet things in your ear.

♥ Waking you up even in the middle of the night just to have sex

♥ It's very sweet when a guy tries to notice you

♥ When they make their first move to kiss you.

♥ A guy looks sexy when he just looks in your eyes and smiles.

♥ It's cute how a guy in love can't even lie to his girlfriend convincingly.

♥ When they show you their emotional side

♥ He says I love you every day and he means it!

♥ When they give you cute nicknames

You can add yours ladies

Oya, Farano, come in here - I want to look into ya eyes and smile.

Sha, I like this write up though.

Obiomon:
best post ever read on naira land since have been here in 1995 . it was as if the op was just referring to me with the situation I am right now.... I love her so much I bought her gifts , sent her love messages ,told her sweet words and bla bla she still told me she can't still date me. and she moves with other guys . just this evening was so weak and thinking of what to do ...... until ......... now hahaha yo! am back ... na she con know now ohhhhhhhhhh . na my turn to form

You are a gift from God to the women folk, bro. Never let anyone of them make you feel like you don't deserve her.

Her mama no dey mould man.

MimeeTee:
The OP is totally on point here!...God knows,Heaven knows i've stopped giving "too much" attention to girls since 1898...if u like,run go meet another person i no send u...so far i'm not engaged/married to you....na u sabi,na u get the hole wey dem dey drill...OP,5000 bottles of orijin for you sir!

Lol; you wan use alcohol kill me abi?

Thanks tho. Thing is, don't totally neglect them - just don't worship them

daviyjones:
This is one of my favourite romancelander, KUDOS OP you are a LEGEND.

Thanks man. You na chairman too

LewisO:
I have divorced all those silly things for ladies, just one a while, rather devote my time dealing with my future and God, before having her time.

Nice one (op)

Thanks, bro

Dammytrager:
haters be like




Charles carry go, no mind dem animals wey wan bring u down

Na so na.

Dammytrager:
Hey stop bashing him na, at least that's what he's good at and he's making money with it, no b by force make you comment na

@Charles ah dy feel you joor, you dy always gimme ginger, ehn ehn!!!...ur e-book no get promo ?

Thanks bro.

For the promo thing, Lol, after we go talk.

Bosville:
thumbs up o.P u're always on dot...

Thanks bro.

Allureoftheseas:



shut up you low life, why trying to make money with that rubbish e-book, if you want to show people make it free because what the e book.contains is worthless, I beautiful girls at my feet without those useless procedures you are giving out there, slowpoke you annoy me.

Hahahahahaha; Chill bro. It won't be free.

fuckshit:
fücking awesome OP; on fücking point; this should be a fücking wake up call.

Lol. Make @Farano no catch you o.

Thanks though...

Fatalveli:
People now worship girls more than God these days. SMH!

Yes o; that's why they need to stop worshipping them and turn to God. *big smile*

Allureoftheseas:


you poor hungry fool.

*smiles*

Have a great day, bro.

chaberry:
HUMAN BEIGN LIKE THEY DON'T HAVE.. #FACT

exactly...

Alright, i am going to get a bit personal here.

I know; my articles are a bit controversial. I know that most things i say are not the usual conventional dating advice you hear all the time. I know that some of the things i reveal here gets a lot of people angry.

*smiles*

But the bottom line is this; they work: hundreds of guys who already use them can attest to this - Before you fight these articles, go out, practice them, then if they don't work - come back and tell me they didn't work and i will fully apologize for feeding you wrong information.

With that out of the way; lets begin.

GIVING A GIRL ATTENTION - DOES IT WORK OR NOT?

First; what do i mean by "attention" here:

here are some examples:

- Calling a girl all the time
- Paying her compliments anytime the opportunity arises
- Sending her love texts like your father owns telecom companies in six countries.
- Doing things for her and running errands for her (some guys do this, trust me)
- Buying her loads and loads of gifts (Father Christmas)

Now the thing is this; girls love all these things - as a matter of fact, when you are in a relationship all the above can spice up the relationship.

But when you are still trying to get a girl these very same things i just listed up there can backfire when you do them in a wrong way.

Stay with me; i will make this clearer. showing a girl attention is like kerosine - when you pour in a little at a time into a burning firewood - it is fine. BUT when you get a full cup of kerosine and empty it on that same firewood; you have a problem.

When you shower loads and loads of attention on a girl; it is not romantic bro - it is a sign that tells her: "babe, i am obsessed with you"

Have you ever heard a girl say: "I can't stop thinking of this guy, he calls me 20 times a day". See, there is a reason why the people you like never like you back: it is not coincidence; this is pure basic psychology 101

A GIRL CAN NEVER BE INTO A GUY THAT IS OBSESSED WITH HER and when you shower her with all those praises, calls, attention, gifts you are making her see you as a Mr. obsessed of Africa. Most girls will tell you they like it, but everybody knows that they will say they like a girl to treat them in some ways but when you treat them in that same way they say they want to be treated - they still joke with you.

Most times when a guy showers a girl with all these kind of attention what they (the guys) think is:

- She is so fine, if i don''t shower her with attention another guy will take her from me
- She likes it, i will keep showing her how crazy i am about her.
- It's by money; if i keep buying her things she will like me.
- This is how to get a girl, that is what most girls say - so let me shower her with attention

Guy, this is real life. What happens in movies rarely happen in real life, bro.

Funny thing is that while you are bombarding a girl with all these attention she is also wondering why she doesn't like you "in that way". When a girl meets a sensitive, caring, attention giving guy they think things like:

- He is such a nice, caring sweet guy - why don't i like him enough to date him.
- He is always there whenever i want him, why don't i feel like dating him.
- Let me keep him around, maybe with time i will start to like him.
- I don't want to hurt him, let me just be nice with him. But the thing is i just don't feel "it" for him.
- He is just a friend, he is nice but i can't date him - i can't bring myself to like him that way.

True enough, girls end up dating this type of guys but the fact is this; it is very RARE and most times when they do date the guy it is usually out of pity and not because they really like him as a boyfriend.

Here is psychology 101: "We don't like anything that is easy to have. When we get something we loose interest in that thing"

Showing a girl too much attention sends her the signal that "she already has you".

I know; it is not easy to hold back - the more you don't know how she feels about you, the more you chase her, the more she acts cold around - and the more you want her.

BUT HERE IS THE HARD PROVEN TRUTH: If you keep showering her with loads of attention, she will run away from you and go and find a more challenging guy. A guy who knows "whats up". A guy who is not as easy as you. A real Man who is in control.

Study all the girl you have been showering attention and chasing in the past one year: Can't you see how they keep giving you signals that they like you, that you are a sweet guy BUT they just don't feel it for you. You are a nice guy but they can't date you 9i'm sure a girl has told you this even)

Can't you see how very pretty girls keep complaining that the guys they like don't give them attention BUT you, fine boy like you, gives her the same attention she is making noise about and STILL she doesn't want you. Have you ever asked yourself Why almost EVERY girl complains that the guys they like don't give them enough attention. Have you ever wondered why they keep sticking to the guy even though he is not giving them enough attention that they want. Have you ever wondered if this is just coincidence or the way their brains are wired

Think, bro

PLAIN SIMPLE PSYCHOLOGY: human beings like what they don't have.

I know, a lot of people will come in here and say i have generalized but, the fact is this, this is simple plain proven science that i use myself to get classy pretty rich girls to take interest in me, this is the same science that over a hundred guys who read my articles use and still achieve massive success with the girls they like.

So since giving a girl too much attention doesn't work, what then works - little attention?

Nah, that too can backfire if you don't know how to trigger interest in girls. Have you wondered why players get more girls than other guys? it is because they know how to press a girls button and make her crazy for them.

In my e-book: "The Bang Rule...Ultimate Guild Of Seduction For Nigerian Guys", i went into details to explain this and the exact step by step secrets to use and get the girl you are interested in to be interested in you. In the book you will learn scientific psychology secrets you can use to turn the table around and make a girl like you for who you are and not because she likes your pocket (See my profile by clicking my name to see numbers to contact if you want to get the e-book).

For those who have been asking: Here are the e-book's contents:


-How to manipulate a girl’s emotions, irrespective of how tough she is and make her go crazy about you.



The four mistakes ruining your chances with girls now and how you can eliminate these mistakes, turn them to your advantage and use those same mistakes to your advantage in order to effortlessly make girls see you as boyfriend material.



The particular mindsets girls have that you can use right now to trigger massive lust in them. You can use these secrets to make any girl want to have sex with you without you even raising a finger.



The one powerful secret you can use in order to make sure that a girl never cheats on you. This secret will make sure any girl will be willingly to stick with you no matter what. This same secret is the one players use to keep a girl coming back to them even when they maltreat such girls.



The 3 steps that you can use this very moment to get into any girl’s heart.



How to make sure that a girl doesn’t see you as just a friend. This step by step secret will make sure she doesn’t friend-zone you or see you as someone she can’t date.

That is not all; I will also show you:

The 3 rules of seducing and getting pretty girls to like you like crazy.



The 3 exact moves to use on a girl and make her lower her defenses. These “moves” will ensure that even a girl who was heart-broken yesterday will see you as someone she can allow into her life now.



One particular thing you can start doing right now to appear more confident in front of girls. It doesn’t just stop there, this particular secret will totally eliminate the fears you feel about approaching a girl you like.



What to do in order to make a girl see you as some she must have. This is the exact same secret players use in order to make girls fight shamelessly over them.



How to make a girl love you even if you are broke



The exact thing to say in order to make her comfortable with you in an instant even if you two had just met.



How to make pretty and classy girls work hard just to please you.


See my profile for numbers to contact in order to get the e-book.

PS: i will keep writing more article, stay posted (Hehehe, this will vex some people like mad sha *winks* Your hateful words can stop from freeing guys from the bondage of girls who treat them badly )

Have an awesome day.

Peace..

Dolemite:


Ewww, keep your kisses to yourself Mr Know-it-all.

Hahahahahaha; chill girl...the kisses wasn't for you, I just squeezed it in there to make the sentence look fine. Na so you dey take rush kiss? Haba na

Take several seats.

By the way, watch out cos I'm going to be releasing more of stuffs like this. *winks*

Enough of the mentions. I'm done with you. Have an awesome day.

drlawizle:


Continue deceiving yourself ko....you're just afraid that men now know una password thus the quantity of maga go reduce for market

Lol, Sharp guy. Your head dey dia

Georgematics:
nice points there but i think we kno better wit time, i kno u've done al those acts u just mention there and they lead u to d dread frnd zone and now u know beta, rite?. Girls! wen do we fully understand u? smh..

Lol, this won't make a girl like u (don't get me wrong) these mistakes will make her not to take you seriously.

These are not the strategies of attraction mistakes, they are just mistakes guys make that throw girls off.

daviyjones:
These are my heroes on romance section have being guest for months,finally I registered today.
HERE IS MY LIST:
1. ZICK19

2. IPLEDGE

3. ENEGOD

4. MISSJENNA

5. LEWIS0

6. SARIMAH

7. MIREXXX

8. MR CORK

9. CHARLESNNEJI1

10. FARANO(she is a mod and she also have fun with landers)

Wow, I'm humbled.

phiszo:
nice piece bro. only if some mumu guys will learn.

Most won't, bro. Funny thing is that the broke little boys would always say - "money is the way", as if love can be bought.

I have worked with a lot of rich clients who still try to learn these, money attracts girls (no doubt) but the question is - when they come will they like you for who you are or for the money.

I just wish guys will get this. I just wish.

Ficeo:
Nice write up. If you give these ladies allow, bro! D will look for allowance ooooo! D watch word for all guys is ''BE THE MAN''! Udo diri unu ooo!

Dirikwagi, bro

Dolemite:
Rule number 1: Never assume you know how a woman thinks just because of your personal experience, we women are complicated beings and it is pure foolishness to assume you know how we think.

*CharlesNneji1 you know NOTHING about women so get over yourself please.

K. Miss complicated. Goodnight, lady further maths. *kisses*

Beamborla:
I so much agree with you, OP. I hate it when a guy does that No.1... It's irks the living out of me and they don't stop at that, they go ahead promising heaven on earth as well... talking about children and grand children. Kai! Very irritating

Abi o

Blackvampire:
All this just becos of girls...dats why i like myself i dont have time for all dis...if a girl does not accept me for who i am her loss ..

I like the way you think.