justmag:
I complete agree with the OP. Show your interest on the first day. And don't do to much after that. You need to ignore the nonsense you see on nollywood or Hollywood! The way a woman reacts to you will determine the type or woman she is.

1. The woman that prefers a man that is persistent and looking for her attention.
2. The woman that prefers you respect and be considerate about her time so she can make up her mind about you.
3. The woman that will want to talk to you and see how things go.

As for me...I do not call women after I get their number. I may text them once in a while but I can assure you that majority of them eventually call me. As say something like

"hey! How are you? I know we chat alot....I just thought I call you today instead!"

snowhyt:
i don't mind a guy chewin gum, infact its kinda sexy depending on how he is chewing it o(some peepz chew like camels).. blowing d gum is out of d way.
d op is so on point

Nori:
This is so on point!

Zaikon:
@ OP u may be on point but dnt Forget one lady's like is another lady's Hate.

iceberylin:
A girl will only hate you if you dont give her Attention

In this thread I am going to be revealing 3 major mistakes guys make that is ruining their chances of getting the girl they like to like them back.

As a matter of fact; the problem with these mistakes is that most guys make them and still don't know it is the major reason why girls they like don't take them seriously. Infact, they think it is romantic to make these mistakes

I received a lot of messages this week from guys who have been having the problem of "not been taken seriously by a girl they like"

That is not a nice feeling, trust me. To like a girl and not been liked in return can be very frustrating.

As a matter of fact, if a girl initially likes you and you behave in these 3 ways I am about to reveal right now - it will turn her off in an instant.

The messages I got were over a hundred plus...and guess what?

Every single one of them were doing all these 3 mistakes...all of them.

And so I decided to write about it, at least, to save them and some other guys out there from falling into the same pit.

Are you ready?

The three mistakes are these:

1. Chewing Guming.
2. Surrendering
3. Not getting it.

Don't mind those names; I know they sound silly *smiles* just Stay with me, I will explain them one by one.

- CHEWING GUMING.

Find any girl and ask her right now - like, get any girl in here now and ask her how she regards guys who behaves in these following ways.

One; If a girl doesn't reply your messages and you start sending her messages like:
- "talk to me now",
- "why are you treating me this way".
- "Hey, hey. I just sent you a message. Reply now"

AUTOMATICALLY - she regards you as a pest - and when a girl starts seeing you this way there is no way she is going to EVER date you.

Why?

Because behaving this way makes her see you as someone who doesn't have self worth. She sees you as a beggar of love and attention and girls hate guys who beg for attention. It's just not manly, it makes you appear like a boy - like a kid.

Two; If you call a girl too much: initially she might like this but when you keep doing it over and over again, she starts to loose regard for you.

You need to make her miss you sometimes, bro. Most guys are guilty of this. They call a girl up and spend 20 minutes boring the poor girl to death - they even do it four times a week. Some call a girl twice every single day, Some even make it a duty to call up a girl every single day to ask her if she has eaten and how her day went.

Guy, it's boring jare. Even if na you sef. Do you like a girl who is always bugging you and showing how crazy she is about you? Of course not, you keep her aside and go for other girls who are more of a challenge. That's the same way girls view you when you do this, as somebody to be kept aside for Better guys to come in.

No matter how interesting your conversations are, you need to make your calls sparse. If she is just a friend; fine - you can call her everytime you want. But if she is someone you intend to date then you need to make her miss you sometime, make her look forward to your calls.

That is how you appear like a boyfriend material. Keep showing up all the time and she will start feeling like the only thing you do with your life is to chase her, next thing she would tell her friends you don't have a life.

Three; Asking a girl if she likes you. This one is another frequent kind of chewing gumming that most guys do.

This question makes a girl uncomfortable, big time - especially if she is not yet into you.

The other day this new girl I was seeing showed me one particular text she got from a "chyker": "Why don't you love me". The text read. "What should I do so you will like me?"

The babe laughed at the text with her hands around me while calling the guy a childish baby. Now, that pained me. My fellow guy been insulted by a girl is one thing I don't like seeing.

When you ask a girl questions like:
- "do you like me?".
- "why are you treating me this way"
- "I'm I your type?"
- etc etc...

It kills every chances of her ever been interested in you - EVER

The other day a guy showed up and was on his knee begging my cousin to date her...the way she laughed at him when he left was heartbreaking...

Actions like this puts a girl off and makes her look down on you. And trust me; a girl never dates a guy she looks down on. Unless you are rich and she wants to turn you into her maga (even at that, she will still treat you like trash and channel your money to another guy she likes)

NUMBER #2 MISTAKE: SURRENDERING.

This is one major mistake most guys make when it comes to the girls they like and you know what? This one mistake is the main reason why most girls turn them down.

If you keep making this mistake girls will either keep looking down on you or would prefer to be just friends with you instead of dating you.

Let me make this clearer:

Every girl loves a man; a real man. Someone who is in control and not someone they can control.

A girl will not see you as a man who is in control if you keep struggling and trying to impress her all the time.

It's cool to try and make an impression on a girl, be caring on her and all BUT this doesn't mean you should become and act like her slave.

Alright; let me give you an example.

Some guys get offended by a girl they like, get tongue lashed by the girl and still beg her for forgiveness (even though they were wronged) - this is not romantic, it's foolish. And when you act this way, girls will never feel butterflies with you. Even if they date you, it would be out of pity - and bro; that relationship won't work

That's just one.

I have seen cases where a guy always tried to please a girl, giving in to her every request, basically worshipping her...

...And still he got dumped.


When you surrender your manliness to a woman and becomes her slave; it will put her off. Yes, she might like you as a friend but not as a boyfriend - no woman dates her slave.

You have to project value.

- If a girl makes you angry, tell her - don't just smile and act like you like what she did.

Be a man. Be in control. Don't go around begging her for love; because you see guys doing it in movies doesn't mean it works in real life.

Every girl will tell you they want a guy who worships them but still, worship them and see how it goes - worship them and they will tell you that they like you as a friend but can't date you.

Look for any pretty girl who has a boyfriend she is in love with, you will notice that she is the one always trying to impress the guy and not the other way round.

Girls love a man who is in control.

Nori:
although this method of guy's giving mixed signals might work at the beginning, just be care for how long you do it because a lady like myself will lose interest after a while even if u look like brad Pitt, attraction has an expiration date in my opinion. Ladies who are older and emotionally matured don't like much mind games, it's mostly younger ladies who fall for this hard. So just do this with moderation and sense.

MzNelly:


I hate to disappoint you Sir, but 50% of all you've stated is hogwash.

I'm attracted more to a guy if I knows he loves, adores and worships me. Your 1+1 formula may work on some other girls, but for the love of God, stop generalizing.

I'm not pained, don't flatter yourself.
I'm just putting anyone out of the misery of thinking that religiously following your steps will land him all the girls in Nigeria and abroad.

-_- Anyway, whatever keeps you in business, ba?
Keep on doing what you do.

Funny how you don't make mention of how many girls chase you on a daily basis.
Just saying.

Mubbyleey:
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Call her up anytime.

Well, birthday teasing lines that I have used myself that works is usually stuffs like:

"Hey, Happy birthday" *then you will get the usual thank you*, you could say something like:

"You have old finish o, let's do and marry before you gan reach menopause" (say this with a smile or it would sound like an insult)

She might just laugh...then you can take it up a bit by saying.

"No, minus joke - because it's your birthday I will give you the chance to propose to me today. After today, I no go gree again"

Again, this should be said with a smile...after she has laughed and probably say: "for your mind, what are you feeling like"

You can say something normal like: "just wanted 2 say HBD, though" then throw in a little of other things you wanted to say and end the call

Hope this helps; I will like to hear how it went *winks* Oh My God bro, i wished u cud hear our convo.
Guess what I'm wearing? The smile you gave me...
THANKS SO MUCH BRO. I Dnt knw how am gonna show my appreciation 2u... U're da bomb.
The girl was so happy, smiling, blushing, going crazy wt lafta... I teased her 2 D point dat she said "am so funny, am 2 funny, dat am nt serious wen teasing her." afta dat we talkd abt oda tinz 2. We laffed tayad 2geda...
She so much appreciate d call...
Thanks bro... Dat's hw it went o.

Mubbyleey:
Thanks bro... i just really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really appreciate it.
Since u've asked me to tease her, Gimme sum tips 2 go with that coz it's her birthday and it's been awhile since hv called her last.
How am i gonna go wt D teasing? Coz d prob i hve is "i dnt realy knw hw 2 tease her and kip d convo going. Plz, it's her birthday and i wanna be different frm oda guys. Dn arund wot tym shud i call her coz na 2day be hr birthday. Thanks.

MzNelly:
Okay, this is getting very VERY boring.
We are not machines, there's no "manual" or "formula" on how to "get" us. Each female is different.

There is no one-way rule.
Keep fooling yourselves.

Mubbyleey:
Thanks bro for all the tips... Have been trying dem out, and it has been working out for me... I finally get dm 2 notice me.
There's dz gal on facebook, she posted a pic and guys wer like wow fine pic, sexy gal, beautiful. The gal head cum dy swell. So i cum post diz 4 hr pic - "Comot here joor, you are too sexxxy for my liking, i can't date someone like you." i posted dat 4 different gals pics... Here is their replies.= 1. Said "AND DID I TELL U AM LUKIN 4 1"
2. Anoda gal said "MUBBY Y AR U BEEFING ME"
3. Anoda 1 said "HER BEING SEXY GAN GAN IS DA REAL DEAL... Pls help me out wt wot 2 reply them.

Then anoda tin wey i won ask be diz, there's dz gal wey i like welas, we dn dy tok welas, she dn knw say i lyk ham welas, thou i neva tel hr anytn yet, was just bein nice and caring arund her. I go dy cal hr welas, buh she no go call me at ol. Xo she postd 1 fine pix 4 facebuk, i cum comment wt dz - "Comot here joor, you are too sexxxy for my liking, i can't date someone like you." xo her reply was "DID I TEL U AM LUKING For 1" i just replied hr wt Loool. I just stoppd calling her since den. It's been 2weeks naw since we've tok last. D tin wey i won ask be say "na 2day be her birthday, wetn i shud do? Shey mak i no cal hr? Or text her? Or wetn i shud do?
I need urgent ansas 2 doze questns plsss.

diddydiva:
what!!!

textbook on how to get a lady?



Ladies rule the world

farano:
***sips zobo***

Jeromejnr:
Teaching us how to commit sexual immorality abi

So girls have turned to tools we can manipulate just to have sex with.

alberto2k:
Epistle of a very long long long rubbish

golddeejay:

Man, u sure kno wat u r talking abt. I can relate dis wit my experience. I met dis gal in a local n crowdy. This lady is pretty, she stood out. I was walked up to her and told her am having trouble buying raw meat, dat d sellers r bent on cheating because am a guy

she was happy to help. Come n see serious haggling(she was tryin to show me her pricing skill). We moved to 3 diff sellers before i persuaded her to buy. Meanwhile i was telling her, even with my gestures how she is a genius at dis. U need to see how dis lady was grinning. She bought everyth for me without me asking.

Then i asked her wen nxt she comin to d market so we can come together because i cant do it on my own(if i hear i sabi price pass her sef). She said sometimes nxt week. I jst handed my fone n said 'ur number.' That wat it, we were evn seeing each oda before d nxt market

tosyne2much:
When a guy has low self esteem and doesn't have what it takes to swag a girl, he thinks the only way is to use money as a manipulation tool

I have come into conclusion that most dudes who spew this statement (money only impress ladies) are low self esteem dudes who don't have what it takes you prove their worthy to a lady

kiki1000:
Sometimes all this tips does not work on girls when the guy looks smallish

AgapeCharis:
Reminds me of a particular guy in school way back 2008. The guy was in 400l then studying mechanical engineering. One day while we were all gathered in the hostel a guy said; come o chika! Since I don know you no girl don ever come visit you for this hostel! I never see you follow girl stand dey talk to am! I never see any girl greet you! Oga tell us your problem! Is it that you no sabi how dem dey yarn babe?? Trust everyone was already laughing excessively. Chika wanted to prove him wrong so, he started boasting and we were like ok suppose a girl walk pass us now, how will you start up a convo with her. Lemme not type chika's answer here cos you might just get ur ribs broken

Nice one op

wristwatch:
Good one OP. Some guys don't want 2 learn. Do u think it's all about money. If you think getting a girl is all about money, then get ready 2 be a maga.

As long as u are presentable and know how to strike a conversation, getting a pretty lady will be easy.

As for me I play along the way situation is before initiating a conversation.

Yesterday I met a beautiful female banker and I initiated a conversation that has to do with opening a new account, d requirements, etc. To cut d story, I said few words appreciating her outfit not even her beauty. I told her when next I come I will love to see her on fringe hairstyle. Before I left d bank, she was d one that requested 4 my number.

I have attained tremendous success in taking a girl's contact when I meet them for d 1st time.

naijaboiy:

Bro! I agree with you that there are natural ways you can walk up to girls and collect their numbers without any hassle.

But there are stubborn ones also.

I believe that's the reason why these tips are here. It's just to help bringing down the girls defence a little to make things easier for the guy.

The exact words you'll use in talking to her will still come from within and not from any tip or guideline.

Don't also forget that we have extremely and chronic shy guys who can't even walk up to a lady naturally because they lack conversation start-up skills.

This could also be of help to them.

All i'm saying is let's not downgrade the efforts of the Op to help some guys out and also to discourage them by our words.

justmag:
I still basically walk up to a girl and tell her exactly why I walked up to her and get the digits. Nobody has time for playing all these games. We are all grown.

Blackett:
You're right bro.

First thing for me is to establish interest. Once I've caught her 3 times looking at me, she's a goner. Next thing I plan is what to use in breaking the ice. I remember a girl like that a while ago. She. Was. Pretty. . . Caught her gaze more than 3 times and in my mind I was like, today na today. I walked up to her, stretched my hand while smiling, simply told her I liked her attire and she looked like my grandmother, first she paused, and then I added "but you're prettier than she is". She smiled. Then told her I'll like to see her some other time.

The rest they say, is history.

gracile:
the latest trend now is how to woo a girl , how win her heart blah blah blah all bullcrap!
some peeps need to get a life seriously

Pheals:
Let me tel u how i collected her no.

Walk up her in a tutorial class

hey dammal, i heard u ar tryin to solve that math question :if not dat i was already late today is friday wnt u mind if i cld explain to u on phone ave got alot credit xo we can talk for hours tonight u wil really understand <and she said>no i wnt mind <

Mubbyleey:
Dude, am gonna follow u forever... All ya articles dn change my life. I now feel free 2 walk up 2 any gal.

The problm i hav is... Am nt da kinda rich guy 2 buy ur Ebooks.
I would realy love u, if u could complete them.
And if u can't, pls help me out wt more tips.
I dn suffer 4 gals hand bro.

dkronicle:
Dat is how to collect a sales girl number. Dis is how to collect a nigerian girl number..
Ehn ehn nne, look @my car over there, it has automatic cook and refrigerator, baby check my Lolex, it can see wat is happenin in europe, oya baby come and take a look at my container.. After sayin dis, my guy she will startin worshipin u