Eliza101: Hello everybody , I am a 26 year old female who is from the United states, I have always thought about something that's been bothering me lately , as you can guess by the title, I am a virgin and I have been feeling Hot lately, which I believe I am ready for sex. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship, I just want to have at least four different boyfriends and have someone/people to be romantic with someone to share intimacy with and to have sex ( just have fun with).
But then again, another side of me is saying , I should wait until marriage before losing my virginity. But even though it is seen as a good thing since purity is valued, a part of me is saying why would a woman wait until marriage before having sex or only have sex with just one man in her entire life. I just think that's boring, at least sleep with two men and even if I wait until marriage before having sex , what if , my future husband ends up divorcing me, what if we separate. what if he ends up running away..... Moreover ,because I'm a virgin, I just feel like I'm missing out, I think I should enjoy my youth/young age , because of course when I get older ( age 40 or over) I will not be or as sexually attractive anymore. At this age of mine, quite a lot of me have told me I'm beautiful, which is something I should take advantage of since beauty fades.
More importantly , I feel as though if a woman sleeps with as many men as she can , I look at that as an accomplishment, like she is very beautiful and attractive. Life should be enjoyed, right? , and I think sex is one of those things, of course I will not sleep with hundreds of different men, but at least 10 and have sex at least twice a month and if I really enjoy it maybe like 1-3 times a week.
I know sex for a man is different , compared to a woman, because men can have sex with a woman without feeling emotionally attached to her, and men have a much higher sex drive than women. As well as this, if I do lose my virginity through pre-marital sex , I think I'm going to be clingy to this specific man generally speaking , I will be too attached to the person. Which is something , I won't like, but I won't be able to help it...and if the man stops speaking to me all of sudden or ignores my text messages , I think that's going to hurt me , which would be strange because even though I will sleep with another man , I feel like I'm going to be so attached to this person because he lost my virginity.
What do you all think , do you think I should just lose my virginity already and have fun or wait until marriage, and to all the men out there what do you make of virgins? and what if you were to find a woman you loved and she told you she wasn't a virgin (didn't have any pre-marital sex) and then you got married and then as soon as you slept with her , you found out she was a virgin ( because you know, blood came out of her...) , what would you make of such a person, the fact she told you she wasn't a virgin, but indeed is. Would you dislike her for lying.
We only live once , so why would a woman just have sex with just one man in her entire life, I know when I get married , I wouldn't want to sleep with other men but my husband, so the fact I am not married, still single , why not be in a open relationship and have sex?, and to tell you the truth, I know three men who have told me they would have sex with me, because I am beautiful and attractive, but the thing is these people think I am not a virgin... Of course I have to use contraceptive and he has to use a condom , so I don't get pregnant.....etc
I want to have sex , but at the same time , I'm so nervous, I am aware there are women out there who have lost their virginity as young as 16, and I don't know why , but compared to them (those teenage non-virgin females) I feel immature, I'm ashamed of myself, I feel ugly even though I have been told I'm beautiful and I think being in an open relationship will make me feel beautiful and sexy, I think it's special when a woman is desired by men especially if it by a lot of men, and to have several men tell me they would have sex with me , is such a compliment, it makes me feel happy inside.
Guys, help me out , what do you think is the right thing for me to do. I don't want to die as a virgin. I want opinions from both male and females .
If the love, understand and connection is there i don't see any reasons why sleeping with multiple men or women.
That's why God gave us only one tool for making love, so use it wisely.
victooman: l use to be an advocate of no cheating and usually stood against men who leave their beautiful wife at home to cheat with random girls, l feel a man can control himself and stick with one woman if the woman is good, perfect and beautiful.
Now l am in that position now, my girl is both beautiful in and out, the perfect woman l am intending making my wife without any doubt, we have been together for almost 2yrs now and l still love and cherish her.
Our sex life is great and perfect, but honestly of recent there is just this lustful desire to test another woman, this has nothing to do with love or commitment, but l find myself lusting after girls that are not even half as pretty as my woman, chances keep springing up here and there and l don't want to do it, guilty conscience is already disturbing me.
Please guys who overcame this, is this a normal thing? how did u handle it?
ColdHunter: I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.
Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.
Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?
Experienced people should please contribute.
Move before you infom him ... Then explain to him over the phone .. mind you it must be farway.. Since you say his rich he should have connections so be very careful.
Preciousgirl: I am highly convinced that my boss is interested in me I can't imagine that my boss left his office yesterday to my office and sat before me. He was jittery all through his convo with me and it wasn't work related. He told me he has a surprise gift for me
Is this also not a clear sign? Also, as a married woman, can I accept his gift?
Sorry to say relationship of that nature can be very dangerous for a single lady talkless of a married Caution Please avoid gifts, like you did Have it at the back of your mind your Job is already hanging by a thread.
So many Bosses have destroyed so many marriages, both Male and Female bosses.
CruelDove: That kind of ill mentality is mostly common among poor men with inferior complex disorder. Rich men don't think that way. They are never stingy with their money.
True is good to be rich, I don't hangout with broke ladies either .They just want eat up everything in your house .. We give them money but we never keep them as wives. Poverty no good oo!
Localemperor: Omo I still prefer our Naija babe abeg. Which one be say a small society will be so uncultured, little or no discipline, drug ridden, gun violence.
The Blacks are the most look down on in the US and it's all their fault. Slavery is not an excuse.
Omo its either the Latino or my Nigeria Cinderella.
imagrg: I've just observed that most ladies are only enterprising in the area of hookup than in any other gainful activity. Recently, I encountered my ex-student who told me that after graduating from the university, she had been jobless but funny enough, I confirmed that she has more than N3m in her account. She told me it was part of the gifts she gets daily from admirers and that I should add to it if I really cared about her. This really put me off.
It's like she has a micro-finance bank between her legs oh!
Men are really SIMPs sha oh!
Hook up girls is basically into prostitution no two way about it..
Mino1000: Hi everyone, so I met this beautiful babe June this year and we started dating three months later. We genuinely loved each other and we had a relationship that people envied.
We trusted each other so much that I had access to her google account and all her personal info on my laptop, while she also had mine on her phone to cut the long story short, I have a problem of always getting worried whenever she is not home and I can't reach her for example if she leaves in a bolt and the journey is 30minutes but she is not reachable one hour later I start to worry and call people I feel are at home and even the bolt rider.
On this particular day, she had a meeting with her colleagues which just came into the country, she shared her live location but it was last updated an hour ago, she was not picking her calls and it was 11:45pm mind you she was in Ikeja and lives at lekki so she was still going to Lekki that night in this dangerous December month in Lagos. I called and called but she did not pick then I got so worried and went to her google contacts to get her boss number and called him. He told her I called and that is how trouble started.
She explained that nobody has his number and she is the middle man between him and clients so his number getting into my hands without her permission means his company info is not safe. She said I have destroyed all what she labored to build over the years and blocked me everywhere (phone, whatsapp, snapchat) and left me with only instagram access. I have been begging her since last night when this happened, but she only unblocked me to tell me not to call her again and blocked me back.
I have been trying to explain to her that relationship and marriage is full of challenges so she should not let this one destroy what we had but she has been ignoring me. If I call with a different number she hangs up immediately she hears my voice.
We were already talking about marriage and in fact, I had already started making arrangements for a proposal next year.
I swear I really love this lady with everything that I have and I know for a fact that she loved me too but right now I am confused I am wondering how she was so much in love with me yesterday morning but doesn’t even want to hear my voice today. She went as far as threatening to get me arrested if I come close to her house. I am really confused and need mature advice on what to do to save this relationship because right now I can’t focus on anything. Plus I trust her so I wasn’t calling because I thought she was doing something silly.
Next time buy Pussy Reader is a device used indicate if another man don put big gbola inside her "Honey pot" don't worry she will come back thank me later.
EMMARNUEL: Please help out guys, I seriously need to borrow money for a business. Please suggest a good loan app that can execute fast, easy and reliable.
Thanks.
I can give like 50 or more but I strongly advise you to stay away from those demons..
Islandlady: Without long story, in what way can I tell my newly moved in couple neighbours who occupies the top apartment that they should reduce their moaning when having sex at night!
It's very awkward and annoying...
Matured Nairalanders I just need your advice on how to tell them politely without sounding rude or making them feel embarrassed. Thanks!
When some of all these boys start to give girls money they say his caring, and then you want to stay in his house. When he turns you to a punching bag you keep quiet because his still giving you money and buying you expensive items ....
All these children making money off cyber crimes be careful about them but you seize to listen beacuse your only blinded by what you see . Girls, ladies Women be warned you have a better future ahead all that glitters isn't gold be wise.
ahnie: Please bankers in the house, I need help with this.since last month I have observe strange stipends alerts in both my accounts.
It started with my business account last month that I opened, I thought it was a mistake, as I don't remember doing transaction with anybody by that name.
Pls note that, all my transaction money are paid into my daily account,whilst I transfer the money into my business account.
Moments ago I got another token alert again, I m getting scared.could it be possible that someone is using my acct for fraud or something by disbursing cash into my accounts?
To be honest I m worried, I don't want my acct to be flagged, pls help me.
BMaretraitors: They are the bottom feeders of the world. And we all know why! They have no enviable inventions, no plans, no creativity, not even a single developed country for bragging right. So they are naturally going to be at the bottom in everything. We have few black men here and there who appear successful because they had to play by the white man's rules and work ''super extra'' hard. But these are nothing if their race is still a laughing mess. Actually the joke is on black men
The average black man is a chauvinist and has misogynistic tendencies as evidenced on this forum. Everyday there is a topic about women, money, dating these men jump in to trash talk Nigerian women and black women. I've observed that these men are only fronting, and shying away from the real reason they trash Nigerian women and black women. They are angry that the burden of building civilizations and countries and cultures are clearly shouldered by men of all races since the beginning of earth, and in this area sadly they have failed immensely. Not only failed, but conquered by more evolved Alpha males. Women are not expected to do these things, so no one can pin Nigerian, black women down with this. Women are expected to be traditional; supportive and nurturing, which is a common trait among Nigerian women, black women. So you have it, Nigerian women are not conquered but are well in their roles. Could it be why they show less frustration and hopelessness? And these Nigerian men are mad about this.
The average Nigerian/black man is too primitive to rule. I would be the first to reject a world ruled by black men because that would be the most gory sight ever especially for black women. But thank God, it only stops in our imaginations. And even if stretched, that black men should rule for a day, white men or asian men would recover that power the next day. For are they smart! You see i'm giving them too much credit for something they don't even want! As shocking as it may sound to some loyal diehard Nigerian, black woman, black men don't want to rule. First they know they can't, second they don't fancy the idea, third they'd rather be small copies of white men. It is the third that you see everywhere. Every black man you see only wants to be a little white man, it doesn't matter what profession they are in, their hobbies, likes and dislikes, everything screams,''white in black skin or nothing else''. They have no unique laid out plan for their race. Everything the white man gets, they want it too.
The average Nigerian/ black man has become a white supremacist wannabe. The kkkclan have hanged their boots ever since they found people who could do their jobs for free. And what is more interesting! these slave men are from the very race they have despised for a long time. These black men are willing to go to the length and breadth and all corners of the world to beat these men in their game. For men jump into rings to beat their opponents but Nigerian/black men have jumped in to hang themselves for their ''rivals''.
The average Nigerian/ black man is racist and colorist against himself. You don't believe me? Have you seen black man's media lately. It is filled with women and recently men who have no resemblance to the original black people. Why is that? because black men have found himself to be ugly, so he feels honoured to find men and women who look nothing like him representing him. E.g Barack O. He wants his children more white looking than black looking, his women more white looking than black looking, even his leaders. White men want white looking children to carry on their heritage. They want nothing but white in general. They see beauty in themselves and want they world filled with copies of them. They control the world media, by doing this they control sexual preference and how people would look like in the future. Future people would be more white looking!
I am a teenager but my eyes are wide opened to these realities on ground. I am more drawn to men who are in groups that have power not weaklings who want to bully women into submission since they have nothing much going for them. I would endeavour to hang around non nigerian/nonblack men to attract male companionship. And if i have to settle for a black man, i would go for the one that loves himself completely, for if he loves himself he would love and respect me.
ps: This is for laffs
My wife is white after I gave her to read this I thought it was interesting though.. but she said it was horse shit... Most black women don't appreciate their men .
I have one for the black ladies of Nigeria Money isn't love Car isn't love Love is love Sorry to say most Nigerian girls are already damaged, beacuse of this attitude even south Africa girls make fond of them sad.
Nice work on your write up very powerful and always be one of those powerful black women to inspire the shaku shaku ones.
We are having this kind of attack second time this month and the pattern of the attack is exactly the same.
Due to farm invasion of our livestocks, we only allow them to graze at night and leave them till daybreak while we let them into their cage.
The first victim of this wild attack was Huda ram, he was sick and want missing, after about the third day, we found him with his head ripped off from the neck, likewise the second goat, brought in for mating about 12 days ago, felt sick, recovering, went to graze and the second day we met him this way.
We are currently working on installing perimeter net for the first part of the land we intend to use for livestock, that's about 3 acres, it separates the farm from the remaining land meant for crop plantation.
Which animal do you think is on the prowl? Kindly suggest how to capture or kill this animal.
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Guy relocate from where you are as soon as possible... That goat ripper is no ordinary killer. You might be next this thing doesn't eat it kills .
CorrectBizWoman: Please who else is been sex starved at home. I can count how many times we've had sex since dis year. Always money money money all the time which is beginning to bother a lot more on greed. We're very comfortable. Solid investments, own the house we live in.
He don't cheat at least none that I know of and he's very free with his phone.
I'm tired of living this way... Any help guys? He's the last person you can seduce. It just don't work with him.
To think it's this same man loves sex like crazy even after our kids before this money talks, makes me wonder how people change so fast
Honestly you should best talk with him, or else it would lead you into something you will eventually regret.. That is satisfying your sexual urge outside your marriage, Storms like this usually comes in marriage.
Another thing maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore, please don't be offended it happens when a man has all the money his got children, wife doesn't have to work just eating and getting fat at home.
Family › Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Charx122: 6:00pm On Jan 21, 2023
