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Tanx 2 u al. @ pataki it wasnt as if it was intentional, i lied cos i wantd 2 kip d love rolling. Wel av learnt my lesson though.

well i really screwed up i should say cos i dated like three guys in his area 2 years before i met him. he got to find out and asked me but i lied, not cos i wanted to lie but cos i was scared to loose him. though after a while i told him all the truth but then he thought i still had somethings am hiding from him. that was where the whole misunderstanding started. he became so insecure to the extent that he told me to cut off with all my male friends and actually followed me about every where i went. he loved me i know and i loved him too. then we had a little misunderstanding cos he kept accusing me of things that i could not even imagine myself doing. on one of these occasions i got angry and sent him an abusive text message. well when he refused to call me for like a week which is unlike him, i decided to call to find out what the problem was, he then told me point blank that it was over. reason, he does not trust me and never will. he has tried to but just could not. that i always keep him on his toes. i actually never cheated on him for once! well to cut everything short, i still love him and never want to loose him. he doesn't take my calls anymore. pls guys in the house, how do i get him back. he changed my life and i don't know how to get him to trust me again. i need him in my life.pls help!

I knew it was over wen unlike him, he never called 4 a whole week. Wen i then called he broke d news 2 me reason being dt he does nt trust me nd cant get himself 2. I neva cheatd on him though. Wel i kno its not over cos av not yet said so.

lol

galatico:
The guy wants to sentence you to life imprisonment with hard labour run for you life dear !!!

lol

i dont pray for that to happen!!! God will surely intervain

abeg ooo bankers in the house, i just graduated from u.i and will be going for my service in feb. i would really want to serve in a bank. i need help in case theres anyone here with a useful info or contact, please contact me on chyke_pee@yahoo.com. am a female in my mid 20's. thanks alot,

kpolli:
hmm its sad,
but u people should try this, start liking the guy n being nice, do random good things for him, it would so surprise him, he might change,

i think thats a good idea, the thing don tire me.

thanks to you all for your candid advice i appreciate,

i met this guy early this year, we became friends and soon we started dating. hes a very nice loving person and now wants to marry me.
the problem i have with him is that
1. he insists that he wants to know every bit of what happened between me and the guys i dated in the past and why we broke up, claiming that its going to help him get to know me better. for me i don't think the past has anything to do with the future. but he thinks otherwise saying that someones past determines the persons present and the future. tho i don't have a bad past.
2. he insists that i cut off with all my friends that are guys, those that still keep in touch, even those that has been friends with me for ages.
3. he thinks that i had something or still having something with my in law's brother just because he said the day he came visiting to my sisters house (cos that's where the guy stays) he noticed the tension between the two of us and that the guy dint greet him well and wasn't communicating freely probably cos he was jealous, i try to make him understand that we re just close like a family but he dint believe saying that i still hide so many things from him, cos of that he said he doesn't trust me 100%.
now he said i Shouldn't sleep over at my sisters house whenever i visit them.
then finally, he always creeps up on me, whenever i tell him am somewhere, he'll leave his office and come there just to ascertain whether what i told him was true or not. i think he has trust issues.
pls should i accept and marry some that thinks am not being truthful and dosnt trust me 100% despite his other good qualities? can this his attitude afffect the marriage in anyway? pls i don't want to make a mistake, your advice is greatly welcomed.

they dated for 10 years, the first and the last guy she dated in her lifetime, they were so much in love went to same school, served together in Lagos, got good banking jobs after service.
when it was time for them to get married, her parents refused their igbo daughter from marrying the bini boy. she stubbornly went ahead with the marriage by getting pregnant for the boy.
they got married, had a baby girl and then he lost his banking job.
the music changed, he started keeping late nights, became a drunk, womanizes, spends the night outside, refuses to go for the job interviews by his wife's connections, brings his friends to sleep with prostitutes in their matrimonial home, started stealing from her, and the worst turned her into a punching bag with different types of abuse, cuts her with blade, attempted strangling her with a pillow on their bed, beats the wife 's mum that came for omugo, locks her out of the apartment she pays for and tells her to go and bring her people. threatens to take their child away from her, and after everything , comes back begging with a cheap gift, and then she accepts the apology, refuses to heed her peoples advice to divorce him and then goes back to him ''cos of their child'' as she always says. and then it happens again and again after many words of ''i promise it wont happen again''
now we think shes in a kind of spell. we think that one day she might die in that house. we are scared, we don't know how to go about the issue again.
now he doesn't want to see any of us around her, wants to cut her off entirely from the people that loves her so that they wont know when he abuses and kills her. married women in this forum, please is she making the right decision to stick with the marriage or is she under a spell

she cant move in yes but is it still o.k for her to visit him and spend like 3 days or a week with him from time to time

nawaoooooooooo that was cruel!!!

missagbaa:
hello people. i dated ds guy for 3years.i broke up wt him ds february.but he keeps callin me because he claims he wants a goodbye sex.he got married on d 28 of nov 2009,yet he stil calls me.bt i told him dat if he wants me 2 sleep wt me,he will hv 2 gv me 200 thousand naira*he is a stingy guy*he said he doesnt have it yet he wont let me be.pls people how do i put him off because he is beginning to irritate me.[color=][/color][color=][/color]

with a million naira dont you ever sleep with a married man!!!! stop picking his calls or better still tell his wife about it,

Ewoooooo. . . .this is Abomination o. plz dnt act on it, get over it o. not only is it morally wrong, it is genetically wrong o. she's shares your blood, which means she also shares yor genes, if you guys decide to act upon your "love" and brings forth a child, the baby's in high risk pf gene mutation. since you guys share same genes, during gene recombination, you have less variety of genes to pass to the offspring-----> long story short, you can have a child with diseases.

GBAM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

server34:
Thanks Y'all for your input. @ kech, u be winsh? u just got the whole scenario right. I think its time to confess, there's more to the story.

I decided to take another chance and let her visit again for 1 week. But this time, she paid her fares, cos she could already sense that I was suspecting games. She came and the same thing happened - cold attitude, forced sex, used me as her driver to go shopping and do stuff, but visited male friends on her own. There's this particular guy I suspect that even comes to visit her, and they sit in his car outside my gate for hours. I made up my mind THAT WAS IT! She went back to the US and I couldn't get my mind off her. The way she talks, the way she smiles, even the way she makes me hate her for toying with my emotions, all this makes me love her even more! I see her face everytime I close my eyes. Av met several girls after her, and I cant help mentioning her when am with other girls. I go to bars to get drunk, pick up girls from the club and sleep with em. I never used to do these things, now I do all of em in an attempt to get her off my mind. BUT NO. . .  SHE'S LIKE A MELODY IN MY HEAD THATS STUCK ON REPLAY.

Ok now, she's finally moved back to Nigeria and resides in Lagos, I'm in Abuja. And she keeps calling and sending me sms that she wants me now more than ever. Av refused to answer her calls or reply her messages. Pleasee. . . . Am I on the right track to get her off my mind? Or am I just  running away from my "TRUE LOVE"? cos av neva felt this way abt any girl in my life b4.

you don kolo, run for your life!!!!!!!

echo- bee:
u have to minimise your female friends,because she does not like it. u too put your self in her shoes

EXACTLY!!! imagine if she has many guys around her that she calls ''friends'' hw will ya feel?

she was not raped i can bet that, she did something else. get her to tell you the truth,

Paroh_frey:
run for your life.

Godmother:
That's putting it mildly.The advice should be flee 4 your life!!!

u still dey there?