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macklef:
Please, what is this baby shower all about?
Asif birthday is not enough u gats to celebrate an unborn baby?
Wise people says u should not count ur till dey are hatched,
Madam wait for the baby to be born na, we no pray for miscariage buh e dey happen.

Most important. What in God's name is baby shower

ammyluv2002:
I totally agree with you but, we mustn't reason the same way....maybe, she doesn't see anything wrong with flaunting her tummy so you shouldn't hold it against her.

In that case she mustn't insult anyone for bashing her since we all don't reason alike

So who's the guy?

ireneidiva:
Is it yours? When did cooking become a department? Whose department is eating?

NNE, never mind...

What's hilarious about that picture? As in we've become wiser than God that made him thus abi?

ireneidiva:
Whose department is it

Certainly not his!!!

humbledbyfaith:
thanks so much my sister....
I will definitely have a chat with him..
Happy sunday

Thanks, may the future smile at you.

But why have you gotten so comfortable in the kitchen? That ain't your department y'know..

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Have a chat with him, and whatever be the outcome make a move towards make making money for yourself. I've heard of people that saw themselves through school. Depending on your course of study, you can take up part time jobs or holiday jobs. While in school I walked into an eatry and saw a hot babe I had been admiring serving, story had it that she was self-sponsoring.
Who knows if and when you get something doing, he may feel challenged and take your schooling as a priority
Or he may be going through a tough time.
It may have nothing to do with wifey.

But what was he expecting?? Talk of a man venturing to build a house without first sitting down to make estimates...

MRBrownJ:
as any "corruption" in this world, there are 2 guilty people involved (the one offering and the one accepting). the more women keep on blaming just one side, the longer this issue will never come any closer to being resolved.

see as all you women are talking of men dying young due to infidelity while disregarding all these wives and mistresses dying of AIDS etc, thanks to these cheating men. whatever these men will catch, mummy will get it too.
all you women who knowingly stay with a cheating man are bound to catch whatever that man gets... and let me not even start with these same disrespectful men who beat/kill desperate low self esteem women like yourselves, who think they MUST accept whatever these men are doing and STAY MARRIED AT ALL COST.

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We've not migrated to domestic violence so don't go there
We aren't blaming one side, the two parties are guilty but today's focus is on men respecting the vows they took before God! Haba, is that asking too much?
You came up with reason why men cheat forgetting the fact that adultary is wrong, absolutely inexcusable.
Should a cheating husband be forgiven? I believe yes. Does that mean I encourage him by forgiving him? By no means!! Does it make me desperate? No! Making sacrifices in marriage is not desperation. What is marriage to you? Marriage is a life time commitment made by two imperfect adults who hope to achieve perfection. If I quit one marriage based adultary, that means I should just stay single after all what's the guarantee that husband 2 will keep himself for me? How many men will I now end up sleeping with in the name of marriage?
Any man that infects the wife with HIV will end up wiping his lineage. Who has lost out?
The men I talked about as regards strange sicknesses died and their wives still live. Talk about karma. You cannot maltreat her by hopping from one demonized karishika to another and go scot free. No be these girls that hop from one babalawo to another. Can you hug a mechanic without being stained with grease?
As for them karishikas, I've learnt to ignore them because it was on this nairaland that folks said that they aren't to be blamed that men should respect their vows....
Adultary is wrong!!!

Baylam:
Mine

Like father like son...

jewelflakky16:
Cutie

Omo this baby is cute...

Ginaz:
AWWW, this your baby is so fat and robust. Please keep him for my cousin o. She must marry him. Bride price is free

Make her mama catch you!

lesbiangirl:
i cud swear dt d way men shout "red pant" "red pant" one will think it works wonders they won't learn o...as d saying goes "the dog dt wants to get lost won't hear the whistle of the hunter"

Ah! It works o.
No be for public I go discuss it's potency.

Beautiful!!!
If only we adhere strictly to these principles, marriage will be sweeter than honey!!

lesbiangirl:
Abi o my sister ...he wants to divorce so dt d poor children will live the woes of broken marriage. The lord is his strength and will let him find it in his heart to forgive

Seriously, I'm tired of laughing na.

lesbiangirl:
I feel for you op...please forgive her,fast and pray for her to change her ways, try and spice the marriage alot so she won't look outside. Cook nice meals,wear red boxers and lose some weight...(especially potbellies )

Trust me it aint easy to be married to one prick for d rest of ur life unless yua filled with the spirit of God. God forgives us wen we err so who are we not to forgive. If u leave her now what's to say the next woman won't cheat on you...so please ehn forgive her and don't forget to pray for ur marriage.

Stay blessed!

Lol!!!
The truth is that the aforementioned work for women.
But you're crazy to advice a man like that. Red boxers kwa? Babes abeg no kill me o.
He can fast and pray though.
And you added stay blessed? Haba yarinya!

lesbiangirl:
Preach on my sister...they don't know they r cutting their lives short. My ex told me how his father was so randy he impregnated three women around dsame time period this man was so randy he had children everywhere...he later died when he was just 50...can u imagine? My useless ex con dey talk say ehn na hin calabar girlfriend kill am...i just dey look am like really nigga really!

How do u expect someone like dt to live long...maybe he died of syphilis or whatever STds r available but trust nigerian men to blame women for d man's demise. After dt whole saga nobody sat me down before i walked outta d relationship. Like father like son

With that your post I made a mental note of all the men that have died that I know, the same thing o. Either strange sickness or death in the sixties meanwhile their wives now travel all over the world for omugwo and holidays
We beg them, they no gree
Red pant nko? E no dey catch their eye again!!
As we bind and cast they will be busy sextexting with dem karishika and other HIV boutiques
Men learn this today; adultary has the tendency of cutting short your life span!!

Following...

crackhaus:
Like I said before...attention or no attention from a woman's husband, some women are just an easy lay. Let's leave it at that.

And I was getting ready to hear your experiences. Must you leave it at that? Others may learn o.

lesbiangirl:
These cheats won't stop o...naija men believe sex and cheating is their God given and personal property. Then they go on talking abt how men r polygamous in nature and how no woman shud ever leave a man because of cheating and dt there are more women dan men and ladies shud start sharing dem..

Newsflash...statistics show there are more young males dan females, the only reason why females are more males in d range of 50yrs and above is coz dese men die of d case of "afowafa". They simply live their youth days by carrying different ladies up and down,being a useless husband and dey expect to live long...okay o

*Incase you don't believe the facts*
0-14 years: 43.2% (male 39,151,304/female 37,353,737)
15-24 years: 19.3% (male 17,486,117/female 16,732,533)
25-54 years: 30.5% (male 27,697,644/female 26,285,816)
55-64 years: 3.9% (male 3,393,631/female 3,571,301)
65 years and over: 3.1% (male 2,621,845/female 2,861,826) (2014 est.)

http://www.indexmundi.com/nigeria/demographics_profile.html
Incase some niggas start feeling extra special ntorr!!!

2 more disadvantages of adultary detected.
1: Strange ailments ( mostly at old age,that's if they live that long)
2:Death!
Meanwhile 'baby whales' live and see grand children
Men, continue cheating...

MRBrownJ:
we all know that to solve a problem you have to check the source of it.... many weak men cheat due to the reasons i posted above. dismissing these issues will only have you women fail time and time again. and let me say it ONE MORE TIME: if ALL women were decent women then these men would have nobody to cheat with... and its because many of you women are willing to sleep with married/taken men that we can NEVER solve this issue . that would be as silly as blaming prostitution on the men who pay for these ashewos, without putting EQUAL blame on these women who gladly sell their charms at street corners.



the reason why your uncle and other men think in such a poor way is RIGHT THERE IN BOLD!!!! the day you women will act RIGHT is the day some men will possibly think of changing their ways, but until then, keep bringing whatever excuses under the sun in order to stay with a cheating disrespectful man.

whether men want to marry divorcees or not is irrelevant to the subject of DOING WHATS RIGHT when discovering that your man is cheating.
how can you expect these men to change when you openly say that you will accommodate their irresponsibilities (out of desperation)? of course, you are the reason they will NEVER change, why should they?! they have their cake and eat it too.



again, STOP making excuses for you desperate state of mind. if you are willing to accept potbellied monsters, then thats all on you... i am just telling you that men would rather cheat with young sexy women instead of trying to settle with their "now" baby whale desperate wives.

When will you guys stop this corruption? Oh no more excuses pls. Just stop

pcguru1:
I don't like surprises , ID like to know the sex so I can plan the room and toys

Different strokes for different folks...

Another point to adultary is the spiritual implication. Carnal knowledge is spiritual and entails spiritual exchange of fortunes/ misfortunes depending on what the parties carry. The more you entangle with people that treat it casually the more you import their misfortunes into your life and family.
Some men loose control, their families, business, progress, success to some of these demonized mistresses.
Adultary is a sin against God and your spouse, it defiles you, your partner and home! It hurts. How can you hurt someone you confess love to, someone that co-owns your body, someone you pledged your fidelity to and put up whatever silly excuses.
Shebi we claim to have seen the light, our fore fathers that lived in darkness never defiled themselves yet we mess ourselves and are callous about it!!

aventura:
The best thng I've seen or read about cheating was in thw book/movie. half of yellow sun. The dude cheated on his wife by mistake only for the wife to cheat back and come back into his arms. Talk about do me I do you.

My dear that is fiction o!
And they weren't legally married!
If you retaliate, even your own mother will be against you. That's the fate of a woman!!

MRBrownJ:
you women are so funny!!!! as much as these men are doing something wrong, YOU have to take EQUAL part of the blame in this issue.

A) if you women divorced/dumped these cheating men when caught then maybe, just maybe, some of these men would start to act right. but sadly these men know that the majority of 9ja married women wouldnt leave the union because they wanna keep the charade of "happiness in marriage".

B) if some of you women married these men for the RIGHT reason (instead of marrying due to peer/religious/family/social/financial pressure), then maybe, just maybe, these men wouldnt be turned off by you so early on in the union.

C) if there were not so many desperate women out there willing to sleep with married/taken men then maybe, just maybe, these men wouldnt have anyone to cheat on their partner with.

D) if some of you women took better care of your appearance after marriage, and also stop slacking after childbirth (instead of turning into baby whales) then maybe, just maybe, some of these men would actually still desire you sexually.

so as you can see, WOMEN are directly linked with cheating. but please, remember that i am just stating a fact here that would greatly help these men think thrice before cheating... even though some would cheat even if all the above point were met.

This isn't always true, in fact it's a poor excuse, very shallow. Let me tell you about my father's first cousin:
This man has the sweetest wife, slim, cute,she had just 3 kids thus she didn't have much baby fat to battle with. She's a great cook, pets him like mad, she's a successful Pharmasist from a rich background...
This my uncle is a zoologist, though a professor. He womanizes like a dog!!! Every jambite, every distressed girl looking for admission is a target
You know what he told me once? He asked what my reaction would be if I caught my husband in a compromising position with a lady, na so vex begin to catch me upon the adultary wey never even happen. He my uncle told me that every man is polygamous in nature especially between 18 to 50 yrs of age. I got confused. That wasn't what I was taught.how then can a professor who ought to know better say such and that was meant to be an advice
You see, you men have corrupted yourselves because you feel you can do whatever you wish but like the op said God will judge all of you
You expect us to divorce you on the ground of adultary right? How many of you have married divorcees? OK, how many of you respect divorcees without calling her the p name at the slightest provocation.
What happens to the children?
The fact that we accommodate your it responsibilities doesn't mean we are the cause thereof.
You call her fat right, do you know that the fluids from you is fattening, child bearing is fattening, contraceptives are fattening too.
You guys do age too. You grow tummy, you grow bigger do we misbehave because of that no because its a question of discipline, you hear me? It's a question of discipline!!!

afilaka:
I tink so,u need 2 see me n ma sis,ma parent were hussling wen dey had mi,i came out black,bt wen dey gave birth to my Lil sis,we were already comfortable n ma mum use to eat very good,ma sis came out as white as snow,she wz so fair n fresh,i tout ma parent adopted her,she s just too beautiful I can't bliv she s ma sis.ma mum told mi itz d way she took care of d pregnancy.

Taking the right diet during pregnancy only enhances perfect development of the foetus. Most babies come out fair but with time their real colours come out. My younger brother came out red. So fair with curly hair but he was called 'ojika'- blacky because he turned out charcoal black regardless of all the better better creams he used. When he made money he became robust and the skin shone but he was still the good old blacky!!
Good nutrition only makes you look fresh. Your skin tones when not exposed to sunlight constantly but it can never make you fair if you're a dark person. Na gene matter o...
Except your mum do (did) what some women do these days: applying funbact A continuously on their children which has serious adverse effects on the skin with time...

INFOTECH2:
Thank you all for your kind words. It finally happened by 6:55pm this evening.

A Boy has been gifted into my family by the Almighty.

Very grateful to the Almighty for this miracle and I also pray the guidance of the Almighty in his upbringing.

Thank you all

I knew it! I said it!!? Congrats
Just screamed, hubby asked why, I said nairalander born, the guy just dey look me. Congrats bro, boys will always be boys!
May God bless the Chief of your strength with wisdom, may be be a light and a personality to reckon with. God bless that strong woman too. I'm super excited for you guys

GJames:
I just accused myself of being a witch five minutes ago.

Lagbaja, nothing for you...

tpiar:
he'll be very happy.

But the mum might not be as happy, dunno.

You think so? Well I don't subscribe to checking the gender of an unborn child. I prefer that element of surprise besides medical science is never fool proof, so what's the point
My opinion though...