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Mr Guvnor, Please it wont be right to be asking people for money on a forum like this all the time. A man may ask for money a few times to shake up and settle bills but don't make it a habit. Its either you change your location and look for a cheaper place where rent is low and school fees is also low or you need to take up as many jobs as possible. Go and learn another skill as an artisan if the work you presently have is not fetching enough money. Husbands ought to have multiple streams of income.

Please stop this faceless online begging. Don't say all hands are not equal. God gave talents to everyone according to the Bible. Some, he gave 5, some he gave 3 and others, he gave 1. if you are more faithful by acquiring more skills, your earning power will increase.

Once you get a job, after work, look for other things you can do.

Mr Nwosu, this is the most valuable advice to work on/with. In fact, I recommend you learn furniture making. Not carpentry but those guys that work with MDF, hdf etc. It's easier to learn, less stress, it's screw matter and their charges are boom! The kind of rides they control make you wanna wish you shouldn't have gone to school. So dear me, keep moving!!

deGovernor2024:
Seriously I don't know how to defend this but I will start so where.

I have another moniker that goes with edunwosu which is my real name. Whatever I posted using that moniker is me.

I was never a begger but in life things can change for you when you lest expected it.

I schooled in Lagos State university ojo where I finished in 2012 went for my nysc in 2013.

While in school I was working full time in one Mercedes benz company in surulere.

Then I had a girlfriend from Benin who got pregnant for me in 2010 got me a boy out wedlock name Michael Elochukwu.

But then we did a little traditional wedding. Things where moving fine for me and my wife were equally doing well in her business as selling.

All this while we were leaving in kilo surulere but I decided to moved to ikorodu where house is cheaper so I can start a family.

I was in ikorodu I bought my first Mercedes vboot for 350k later I had a little wanted to advanced with another car which I offered my car and extra 400k but was rejected.

My wife later advice we manage the vboot and go and buy land which is good idea.

Then we bought half plot of land at ijede at 350k.

Please remember all this was happening between 2013 to late 2014. Then my wife took in and born a girl named Mitchell Chinonyelum Nwosu that's was in 2013.

Then things where still perfect. I got her a big shop where I paid 240k in 2015 while work is going in the land.

Please if you know light house international school in cele bus stop at ijede road ikorodu you can inquiry about Mr Nwosu that was where my 2kids attend school but I have to withdraw them pending when ok again.

My daughter took ill last week that made sell off my TV to safe life. But seriously I don't know if it you that send me 10k and if it's you I must say I'm grateful.

On why I didn't respond for long please not I have been attending a series of interviews.

A guy offer me a bus buy I can't drive manual which I stated very clearly.

It may interest you know that I have been offered 2 job at ago. One was two days ago with a small pay and yesterday another job but much better than the first one.

Please I'm ready to answer any questions but please don't slander my name.

I'm not lazy nor a begger but in life things can make you do what on a normal day you won't do.

My father died when I'm till ss1 and since then I seen my self thru university level without any help from anyone.

I was once a Barrow pusher and a cleaner just to make ends meet which schooling from secondary days.

Please I'm not a fraud and fraudulent like you want me look.

Thanks for your help and understanding.

With this profile, you shouldn't be caught begging. Like seriously, you couldn't drive manual and couldn't learn? Or you felt driving a bus is low but begging? Did you obtain your children's permission before advertising their names in such a degrading manner.
You still have that piece of land? Make sure you cultivate it this year, the rains have started. Like GodandGold said; nnaa please man up. I know folks that aren't as blessed as you are yet they are pushing through life with their dignity intact. You want to upload your family pictures for how much 10k?? When you turned down an offer. Who told you any pay is lower than begging? Get the low paying job, be committed and God will bless you. God only blesses efforts not begging ability. Nnaa, ike di kwa gi o!!!

Your reasons are as bad as those of the gold digging females.
Marriage is an institution ordained by God to last for a life time. The only expiry date is death of one or both partners (where a surviving partner chooses not to marry but comports his/ herself in a decent manner). It's the purest institution in the history of mankind.it's a spiritual venture where one in one equals to one.
However, like every good thing gets corrupted and bastardized; holy matrimony has it's peculiar challenges which includes parties going into marriage for the wrong reasons one of which you mentioned in your post.
You don't go into marriage with deceit or ungodly considerations in your mind. Marriage is contracted with a heart so pure and true. It's only on this basis that any marriage can survive any challenge.
Our indigenous laws are fair on this sacred institution and I hope it doesn't go bad.
However your advice to men is also a corruption on the institution. If you marry with the right intention, it's likely you would end up with a person of like mind and when challenges come, your dedication to the marriage will make you act accordingly. It's mostly when you marry for the wrong reasons that saperation and divorce come up ( there are exceptions though)
Once you have the right intention and right partner, who weds you after the father gives his daughter out remains inconsequential.

postmann:
@CoolUsername

fairness demands you get a notification of my modification: There's a minor edit to my reply to your crapload.




Talk is cheap.
And you fall into the minority of men who lack the mental muscle to look deep. Feminism has gone deep. It has even ultered the Holy Bible and has also ulterd mathematics by changing certain attributes.

But I think sound reasoning is far beyond your capacity.
You would rather hide under cheap blackmail and spew trash.
I wonder what a home like yours will look like, since you're disgustingly feminine in nature, albeit a dumb version.

Has your wife thought you how to straddle your baby across your back, while you're in the kitchen preparing breakfast and she sits in the living room chatting with her friends?

#MaleSlave

You're that kind of a doormat. Your existence as a male is a misadventure.

You've been blown away by western movies and you reason like a woman with hormonal imbalance. You don't realize you're one huge mental experiment of the devil.

How will your children react to a no clear authority in your home? They will have problems accepting leadership of any kind in the society and even in your home. When you give an order to them, even in the absence of your wife, and it didn't go down well with them, they will gladly wait for their mother to come and try to have her cancel your orders.

Since you're effeminate, you suffer the same emotional over flow as your wife.
Man, you're a real waste!

You're both a psychological and medical case.
I believe you are a product of Oligospermia, a medical case of poor sperm quality, as you show serious traits of a tetestorome deficient male.

Or Maybe there is a mixup somewhere and you were originally meant to be a female. Even for a female you still sound daft. A handful of the women here did better than you in their
presentation and I find you copying their lines.

You are a lazy man who hides behind the shadows of gender equality, while enslaving your wife to work and feed your lazy ass, as you sprawl lazily on the couch while she works her ass out for you.

Your only usefulness is to plant your genetically compromised, weak seeds in her, and raise yet another generation of mentally deficient dads and modern day female slave-drivers in disguise, who couldn't look at the world and see that the world lacks real male leadership and children are losing their moms to carrier, because they prefere women to carry their financial burdens while still carry all the burdens of her nature.

You're wife definitely will age faster since you're a lazy man, both with your brain as with your hands.

A spineless sissy and the devil's lab-product like you, you're taken by every new idea.You have fallen from your place of privilege, and you room the earth like a vagabond without purpose.

You mistook godlessness for civilization.

You're a perfect case of authority vacancy.

I guess you must have regretted not having huge breasts so you can feed your babies exclusively for six months, while your wife work and feed you both. Bloody hermaphrodite.

You love the female benefits of maternal leave, don't you, Nancy boy?

Since your base of morality has no spiritual roots, but is based on the input of mere mortals,
I denounce you as a roaming, aimless vagabond without a sense of heritage and noble ambition.

#Nuisance

Now,vthis is harsh. Except if you guys are just having fun.

misreal:
hahahahahah..men no d gree oh.

Na una na...

misreal:
lol....make oga no hear say u want am to cry oh?

The guy go just hiss and probably say something like "so all those mills and boons still affects you even up till now?"

AVRecruit:
it was the norm in yesteryears for girls to get married 18+. She should be going off to university with a stable relationship with marriage pledges to each other. most ppl dont know what they want men and women and end up sleeping around.

Marriage is a calculated risk. Men face risk of divorce, marrying the wrong woman (nagging, has issues, etc, child support and alimony payments for life, temptations to cheating with nicer things outside the marriage, losing half their assets,etc

Granted, it was the norm yesteryears. Yesteryears is in the past. Things have changed. In those days the only support a woman renders to the man is to help out in the farm but with the advent of modernization, she is burdened with the responsibility of making noticeable financial contributions in her home.
Again going to school is not synonymous with living irresponsible lifestyle. Many women that didn't smell the university sleep about.Sleeping around is a matter or low moral standards which could be a function of poor upbringing.
Most people get into school at 16,17or18 yrs women inclusive. At 18, no girl child will be able to make a reasonable choice as per marriage. We often discover who we are in school, we mature also. Marriage is not all about sexual satisfaction. Issues and challenges must come up and who will Adam rub minds with? The 18yr old Eve that is not even at home. Who takes care of the man when his wife is in school. OK what if she gets to school and decides Adam is not good for her? Marriage should be contracted between two consenting adults

erumena:
My pweety princess, my sulking son, my Famiglia!

I LOVE MY FAMILY!

Your son!

AVRecruit:
I read your post. I did not see anything to disagree with. it is a masterpiece. Perhaps we can categorize feminism into two: godly feminism and ungodly feminism

i learnt from ur post.

one thing to add though. girls should be married before going to university as 90% become unmarriable feminized sluts if not so. secondly the time at University the girl also ages a bit - a youthful time that should belong to the husband. marriage today is laden with risks. what are the benefits of marrying today? thanks

I disagree with you on the issue of girls marrying before going to school.
At what age?
To be a liability on their husband?
Too many issues are at stake.

AVRecruit:
@Chidoks
same here i would have joined as well.

Honestly, since I started hearing about feminism; that post was the only one I truly appreciate. Looks like feminism was abused by extremists

HannibalXVI:
Please do in depth research on what exactly feminism is and don't attack a movement based on the actions of extremists. We do not discard religion because of fanatics, neither do we discard science because of greedy corporations that seek to exploit humanity and engage in unethical practices, nor do we discard banking because of those who rip off nations and their people with high interest and lending rates and the like. If we did, Islam and Christianity would be gone because of Al-Qaeda, ISIS, and the massacres instigated by the church in centuries past. If we did, science would be gone due to crimes such as those committed during the World Wars and due to such things as mutation in humans as a result of nuclear fallout. There will always be those who take a thing and turn it on its head for their own selfish purposes, but as the Englishman would say, do not throw out the baby with the bathwater.

Real feminism seeks to end cultures and practices which are detrimental to women. These include
-Unequal voting rights (eg in Saudi Arabia where women just voted for the first time)
-Ending honor killing : In certain countries, mostly in the middle east, a woman may be killed by a member of her family if she is deemed to have brought shame on the family by whatever means, and the killer may go scot-free.
-Female genital mutilation
-Unequal pay: Equality of pay does not mean if Nneka is absent for 4 working days due to her period she still deserves to be paid same wages with Kunle who was present all through the month. Equality of pay means if Nneka and Kunle are present for equal working hours, doing the same job, then they should be paid accordingly. This is not just a men vs women issue as abroad it has been noted that minorities(blacks, Hispanics etc) are less paid than whites, with the white man being at the higher end of the range.
-Rape culture, which tends to demonize the victim instead of advocating justice. This also goes both ways as in societies where it is hard to get justice for victims, even men and boys who have been raped or molested suffer in silence.
-It also seeks to end the practice of sending boys to school while the girls are left without education.
The list goes on but I will leave you to research on your own. A real feminist will not see a problem with a woman driving a trailer or working in a mine as long as she is capable (physically and otherwise) AND WILL NOT EXPECT ANY SPECIAL TREATMENT ON THE BASIS OF GENDER.

The movement is not about being equal to men IN MARRIAGE and disrespecting one's husband. I capitalized "IN MARRIAGE" as it is their husbands women are biblically to submit to, not just any man; people in general are to respect/submit to authority, as children (male or female) should submit to their parents. It just means a woman is not a second class person and should not be treated as such. In marriage there are roles and instructions for husband and wife, a popular biblical one being "Wives submit to your husbands…Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church". Failures of marriages today are not the fault of true feminism but due to the warping of the sacred institution by both man and wife. One cannot engage in things which the Bible/Holy book (eg. Quran, I'll use the Bible as I'm a Christian) condemns (fornication, irresponsibility, lying, etc.) & expect to experience success in any area of life, not just marriage.

As for those who are talking about things such as men sitting down to urinate we need not be bothered by the rantings of mad people; as Sir Winston Churchill said "One will not get to the destination if you stop to throw stones at every dog that barks".

Wow!!! This is a different sort of feminist.if all feminists are like this, I would've joined the band wagon tee tee

AVRecruit:
women are being misled and are showing a lack of capacity for original thinking.

Motherhood is a career, a rewarding and profitable one at that.

You do not have to have a full time job in a bank for you to have a career. If you are a clerk, english teacher, member of a Board of Directors, Leader in an Advocacy Group, you have a career! Even if you are an investor or blogger you have a career!

Who told you that you have to perpetually have a 9-5 job to have a career.

there are many strategies. one is work but when start giving birth stop working. the rest women oya make una think am una get brain.

You make much sense
Each time I recall a major carer sacrifice I made after marriage I shed secret tears but this beautiful post is a pat on my back. You made me count my blessings. Thanks.
It's really challenging to combine motherhood and certain carers

What sort of laxity is this?The company is responsible for the whole confusion. When a staff updates/reviews his basic information weren't they supposed to have noted and documented it? Didn't they check the records properly before calling on the father in-law?
Granted, the father-in-law is very selfish and wicked but the company fueled his greed by calling him in the first place. Every greedy person will still think the way he thought.

Seeing a man cry is a serious matter except for the she-men that cry like Jim iyke.
Again reason factor, women cry over anything including head ache, torn clothes, soiled nails, spilled nail polish remover, etc etc... But men only cry in the face of tragedy which rarely occurs.
I once wished Oga could cry for me to pet him but as maturity progresses, abeg make he hold I'm tears because na only tragedy fit make man cry publicly

byvan03:
I had to cut up to 4 times more for it to start growing normally. Those portions that fell of naturally refuse to grow with others until he cuts a few times more. Though before the hair started falling off, I trimmed the back and sides with scissors. I think it needed to be scraped to grow normally, which is what I did eventually.


Others never had this experience because I cut the entire thing after 1st birthday, so it won't start falling naturally.

BlackAlbino6, come and see a major reason why the hair should be shaved though not very early

Ferraricash:
Thanks moana,delishpot,chidoks.you guys rocks. It worked

Anytime dear.

Ferraricash:
we just had plans in getting her started with something soon

Moana has said it all. You guys have waited so long. That should've be the first on your list after marriage but today is early enough. Give substance to that beautiful plan of yours. Once she starts earning, she would be the one to ask you to cut down on expenditures.
God bless your home.
In the meantime, make sure you involve her in your monthly budget. That way she cannot over ask for money.

gr8tgg:
Am sure the reason they prefer young single ladies, is cos they are looking for someone with little or no responsibility that can accept a token as salary.
We as parents just have to keep our eyes on the children especially those ones that cannot talk or that are scared that if they tell the teacher may beat them the more. check their body when ever they return from School but don't ask them if aunty or uncle beat or flog them today cos kids lies a lot too just use your eyes and you will see whatever goes wrong. cos if you are getting information from them by asking them what did uncle or aunty did to them, they can tell you what will make you to carry double barrel to go and fire aunty or uncle who is innocent. We just have to check their body often.

Noted, thanks

BlackAlbino6:
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@ the last one. Just wanted to create fun out of it na. If my pikin get this kain hair, na to begin de run go TB J. be dat na.
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Lol, I for say...

BlackAlbino6:
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@ the last one. Just wanted to create fun out of it na. If my pikin get this kain hair, na to begin de run go TB J. be dat na.
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Lol

terzurum5:

It is you that chooses to make something special. Every child is special if the parents believe so.

OK, Sampson's assignment required he kept uncut hair.

BlackAlbino6:
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You mean something this? One can still manage to comb it now. I know it is not going to be easy, but can still be done[/size][/color]

Jeez! That hair is lovely!! But the hair aspect is not the crux of the matter . Your reasons are.
That first baby's hair is very lovely; the last pic I understand not.

terzurum5:
What about Sampson in the Bible and even the Dada children(most of whom we are told, their hair must be cut if and only if the parents meet the request of the child) we have around whose hair were not shaved. How come most of them grow well without any problem.

Samson and his likes were 'special'

I don't think you have strong reasons for your objections. If you had enumerated bad effects it could have on the child, I may have gone with you but your objections are as bad as the excuses for doing so.
Personally I shave after one year as my culture dictates. My other reason being that one year is even too long a time to leave hair uncut especially for a male child ( except if you want to plait)
Secondly, you posted white hair which is straight. Try and post a black child with kinky hair. Ask mothers the pain the children go through when combing them, especially in my culture where you wait for a year before shaving.

brandnew3:
Waiting for part 2.

No be small thing o
Abeg make the guy come finish am o before I resume duties in my home office ( kitchen)

Watching...
Let it rain...

greatness22:
Nice one tho, but, what if hubby happens to be the tight-fisted man?

If I have children that can even comprehend what will entails, that means I didn't marry today.
If after being married to a stingy man for about 15 yrs, I haven't found a way to earn more money in order to complement what he gives, then something is wrong with me.
Even if he's the most irresponsible man, wishing him dead cannot be the solution. Remember, a living dog is better than a dead lion!

Wey you na? Come and complete this story o.

ILOVEFOOD:
I'll bcum stingy towards dem starting 4rm there on

The more stingy you become, the more money they have to share when you relocate

greatness22:
Hmmm, are you sure? What if your husband have a second wife and kids, won't u do it?

God forbid!!! My husband will never marry a second wife. Jehovah God forbid!!!
No matter how he annoys me, his being alive is worth more than all the fortunes in the whole world
Besides even discussing his assets with the children is wrong and as bad as inculcating lazy and irresponsible life style in them

Wow, nice.

They must explain o in an extended family meeting!
But I'm a woman and God forbid, I'll never do such.