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doctorkush:
I prefer yours

Mine is made in Niger. Does it count as foreign?

Hmmmm...

Dextology:
It's kinda difficult differentiating between locally made and imported briefs. Most boutiques sell locally made briefs and products with the pretense that they are foreign made. You can get the foreign briefs from trusted e-commerce sites or friends and family abroad.

My point exactly. So why then do we deceive ourselves? Why the stereotype on made in Nigeria products when we have been buying and using them all along albeit unknowingly?

Hey guys...

So I was arguing with someone today on the topic. I must confess, I'm not sure I can tell them apart when I buy. Not even the internationally well known designer lines like Victoria Secret (which I dont even buy). I end up going for the cheaper one because there always are little or no difference except in prices! 100% cotton is 100% cotton and I know for a fact that some so called "foreign" made products are actually made in Nigeria and branded foreign made because Nigerians dont seem to even consider any product once they're locally made

So I ask, ladies that buy, sell and wear, guys that buy and sell, which do you prefer? Also how can you tell them apart

repimpim:
This the entrance of majority leader of the sanate ward (AHMAD I LAWAN) at Gashua YOBE STATE

I take that to mean you don't wear any since this has nothing to do with undies?

Hey guys...

So I was arguing with someone today on the topic. I must confess, I'm not sure I can tell them apart when I buy. Not even the internationally well known designer lines like Victoria Secret (which I dont even buy). I end up going for the cheaper one because there always are little or no difference except in prices! 100% cotton is 100% cotton and I know for a fact that some so called "foreign" made products are actually made in Nigeria and branded foreign made because Nigerians dont seem to even consider any product once they're locally made

So I ask, ladies that buy, sell and wear, guys that buy and sell, which do you prefer? Also how can you tell them apart

CountCarter:
Come on mate, let the lass be.

Thanks for having the time.

Pls... Does anyone have a good blender/grinder for sale in Lagos? Preferably glass and something that can blend beans And the grinder grinds to powder.

falconey:

Just passing by and i discovered another neophyte belittled my premise but produced remotely the dumbest post have seen in months.

Are you so dumb to notice the op was talking about typical nigerian girls not whores you build your notion upon? who knows you might be one,you did expound thoroughly. Next time you're gonna antagonise a claim please be spontaneous with yours. The other dumbass with his empty head could not try, so i do commend you for trying.....

Grow up Mr. Learn to take criticisms. It's a public forum. Not everyone will agree with your opinion all the time and when that happens, you learn to ignore and move on like an adult. Resulting to insults is so childish. Not that I care though, but just grow up.

Unfortunately, I didn't read everything you wrote Op, because the body of your message says much more in contrast to the topic that I got bored reading on.

However, as regards your topic, I do not agree with you. Dating a man for money is different from sleeping with a man for money. No one says you must sleep with a man if you guys are just dating. You can decide to abstain till marriage. It's your choice and I dont see what makes such a person a prostitute.

Prostitution is basically exchanging sex for money and if sex isn't in the picture, then reevaluate.

People have different reasons for going into relationships and ultimately marriage. To some, it's financial security. If you know your capabilities, and know you are too lazy to survive in the harsh world, no one would blame you for attaching yourself like a parasite to a man, just for the material provision you get. That's why many people suffer domestic abuse, because what they ultimately want from a man, they are getting, so every other nonsense can be endured.

You can preach on personal development, financial independence, abstinence before marriage, feminist ish, etc, but dont mix them up like you did in your post. They're not the same.

And remember, love isn't the only reason why people marry or date. That it is to you doesn't mean it must be for others. In fact, the one mandate given to couples by God is to "be fruitful and multiply". So if a woman decides not to date a man who, in her own understanding, cannot take care of her and her kids upon "multiplication", dont judge her.

Earthquake1:
Your logic is very poor.

Seconded.

thepussyhunter:
If you're a so called nice guy and ur aim of being nice or pretending to be nice is to get free fvcks then you aiint a nice guy....

You're just a self aclaimed nice guy and another fvck boy who aiint playing his game right to get fvcks

and yeah naija olosho ladies dont dig nice guys much but the real senseible ones do

Op, nice girls also ask themselves why they always attract the bad guys. It goes both ways now I believe.

But like the poster above me said, it seems you are looking for the wrong thing in the wrong places. If you want sex, the girls that'll give it to you like you want, would want you to play bad and dirty, not nice.

Also, your question is somehow funny. Hookers on the street exchange sex for money, not niceness. If you are single, and expect ladies to be sleeping with you because you are "nice", then we have to redefine niceness. So if you want that kind of olosho sex, just pay them, good or bad, you will get it. Otherwise, go and marry ogbeni. Your wife will do the needful.

DarkMagic:
Nawa ooo

What do they want us to do nw ehn??

If it is small..they will complain that they need cassava

Nw..if it's big..they will start to run

Haba

Which one is "US"? Are you the fiance?

@op, I dont get exactly what your question is. You want us to tell "your friend" what to do so she won't be feeling pains anymore, or you want us to advice her on whether she should leave her relationship that's leading to marriage?

On a lighter note, We need more info to answer your kweshion o. Oh yels. Your friend has to tell us more. Give us sizes and dimensions of every every so we can use her brain for her and reason for her!!! Yes!!!

But on a serious note, you dont need to be on nairaland for this. Tell your friend to talk to her fiance. A number of factors that are not necessarily associated with the size of the male organ can cause pains. Let her learn to communicate! They'll both figure out together, what can work for them or see a doc/sex secialist (whatever name they are called) together. If you aren't the lady in question, I wonder why she's talking to you and not her partner.

Which kind yeye "bestie" be that one? What the hell you need a MALE bestie for when you have a boyfriend? Your partner should be your friend, your brother, confidant, everything. Why the hell you need to hold back on some things with the bf, and then do them with the bestie. I dont follow. So you'll be free and discuss all things with the bestie, and the boyfriend would be for what? Sex?

Now this is why relationships dont make sense anymore. People dont even know what they want! Dating and relationships are supposed to be some sort of prelim to marriage. Imagine yourself as a married woman (since you can't do that as a single), would you be comfortable if your husband calls you every evening and says he's spending time with his 'bestie' babe after work and would return late at night"?

My dear, you are either confused or you want to double date and you're looking for a way to rationalize the stupid act.

Irritant:
Bros help me ask am o... Na this kind of people dey born children inside poverty.. And kids future be looking like DAT of Evans.. Then they will start blaming bad government

...and "innocent" village witches

AreaFada2:
Maybe be my line of education/job enables me to know the probability of a couple having a kid if they do the normal man-woman thing like the average couple.

We Africans cannot for once leave God out of things & take responsibility. God is not the one physically manning hospital labour wards, A & E units, operating theatres, fertility clinics, etc. In the West that I know of, many of the experts are atheists and they do a jolly good job. If you're religious, it is your private thing.

Did you not come when your parents wanted you? And your siblings? What is the percentage of people who cannot have a child?
We generally talk about the usual cases, not the exception.

If we go by your logic, then no need to go to school, work, save money or plan for the future. After all a man died in a car accident in Onitsha yesterday. So fear of death should prevent us from doing anything.

If you like do 360 degrees acrobatics in bed with your wife, read up all medical books and abide by whatever practices they tell you to; If God does not give you children, you will not have them, period. Fear of death(or anything for that matter except God) should not prevent us from doing the right things, true. Marry at age 12 if you want to, but my point is, marrying early is not a guarantee that kids can come early. Man proposes, God disposes.

pato405:
Nice idea. How about those of us not on Watzapp?

Huh

AreaFada2:
If things go well in life.....studies/training completed in good time,a good job and the right wife material/love come along early enough, then marrying at 28 to 30 would be preferable.

That way by age 35 to 36 you already have your 2 or 3 kids. With enough energy to raise them.

wehdone sir... because you are God that gives kids abi? Thank God you said"if things go well in life", which means you understand that a whole lot of ting are beyond your control. Then what makes you so sure that kids will come when you want them?

chai....i swear to God, this forum can make someone do the unthinkable. See people posting all sorts of stories. If this Op was "just pondering" over these thoughts before, the comments here are enough to mount pressure on him!! kai!!! na wa o

There are no laid down rules...whatever works for you.

JONNYSPUTE:
Marriage is never a competition Nd besides who told u that if u marry early let's say 25 or 30 that its a guarantee that u will ve babies so early? I know of a guy that got married earlier than his elder brother because he said he wants his kids to be all grown by the time he gets to 50, he is about 48 now no issue. The elder bros that married 4yrs after,is now 52 with grown boys Nd girls. Also even if u starts having issue immediately,is it a guarantee that they will grow to become successful people in life? Just pray to ur God to always lead u in everything u do,so pls don't try to compete with anybody in life especially in marriage.Also marrying at 35 should not be ur worry,u should ask urself if u re ready,mentally,emotionally spiritual Nd even financially.

thank you

Op, you well so? Even though I didn't totally get the point of this thread, Pls, what's with the chidimma ish? Why are your resurrecting the long foregone story and then telling people to leave her alone? Pls, close this your thread. And if you are stylishly trying to bring up her video ish again, may all the discarded dirty pants and boxers in that your xvidoe fall on you.

Chai..... Girls and shakara sha... See lost opportunity!! Didn't she hear that BankyW got his wife by Sliding DM and she didnt even know who he was!! Tomorrow she'll be blaming "innocent" village witches for her joblessness....ok o

MeanChris:
Yea.. how much does it hurt when a lady discovers she's been cheated on cause I know it hurts so much for we guys, as in it hurts like hell. I'm asking because Opportunities to cheat on bae just keeps increasing by the day and sincerely I don't want do that.

The popular notion is that ladies already make up their minds that guys will cheat n are not surprised and not really hurt when it happens..

Our ladies in the Land.. on a scale of 1 to 10, how much does it hurt to see your guy cheating on you?

Sounds like you are contemplating doing it already but would like to know what the aftermath would be. I'd advice you listen to falconey.

on a scale of 1 to 10 , i'd say 15. Yes. Imagine that for your answer.

nextprince:
Marriage then was for the formation of one family ....

True...

JERRY1925:
I have an answer, equality....

True...

LordKO:
The postulation that marriages of the yore lasted better than the one's .......

Well said...

Also....

1. Our fathers were proud enough to head their families, diligent and strong enough to provide for them. The place of a wife then was in the home. It was pretty much her duty to manage the home and whatever the husband provides to cater for the family; and if the woman is to support her husband by maybe assisting in the farm or selling the produce in the market, she never forgot her place at home and the husband NEVER insisted on her assisting him. However, these days, men are lazy. Before a man even chooses a wife, he's made up his mind that the burden of providing for his family wont be on him alone. The wife MUST work and contribute, yet he considers and shares not in the wifely duties that the woman bears. Which mean the wife's major job is doubled, the husband's is reduced, yet he wants to be called the HEAD.

2. Men were allowed multiple wives in the past because the traditions and their orientation allowed it. Today, we don't abide so much by such traditions, the orientations have changed too, YET, men have refused to drop the ideology. They somehow still cling to the fact that women are properties and as such, are replaceable anytime. This makes them believe its their right to cheat and have shameless affairs. even the law supports them.

3. Women in turn are sometimes stupid, confused and vain. They drag equality without actually knowing what it entails. They have forgotten their places as wives and mothers to both their husbands and kids. Careers and material things now come first before the home. If a man places his job before every other thing, its mostly because he has a family to provide for. But most women these days pursue their careers for their selfish and personal interest and development. Always in competition with someone just to prove some point of equality or whatever feminist word there is.

4. Women of old had integrity, respect, virtues, dignity and pride. These days, we are slaying..

5. Both men and women these days get into marriage unprepared and for the wrong reasons.

6. Both men and women are lazy and cowards. A husband want a wife that would work and assist him in providing for his home, yet they feel threatened by a self-made, independent lady. Their fears eventually wins them over and they end up settling for "liabilities". When realization sets in, frustration becomes their name.

7. There are more cowards among married men these days than there are among primary school bullies, thus the rate of domestic violence. Also, more lazy azz women who come to nairaland and scream "feminist" yet go home and take bullsh1t from their husbands because they are too lazy and scared to be independent. More reason i agree with LordKO...

8. The sanctity of marriage has been greatly desecrated by a whole lot of things as stated by the posters above me.

9. Modernization, civilization, Technology, even education has contributed to this menace. A woman gets educated, therefore cooking is no longer her thing. is for the house help. She challenges her husband because shes well read, makes more money or is more exposed, but you hardly see them challenging a stup1d boss at work.

I could go on and on and on but let me just shut up here before this damned post becomes personal.

#thisThingCalledMarriage...

toastedbread:
some men will say "life starts at 40". if you're not under any pressure, then 35 isn't late.

hmmmm...even the society alone(like some responses on this thread) is enough to mount pressure on him. What matters is how reasonably he handles things regardless.

Mbkite:
Yea. it isn't competition.

Mbkite:
some none.

So you know?? Its not about how far/fast, its how well. When you rush in you may rush out. Just Work towards developing yourself and building your future, while you search. Every other thing will fall into place.

Good luck

Chubhie:
You are being setup for the thunderbolt.Anticipate this. It would take a woman that completely reflects perfection to draw your attention.

It shows you are evolving beyond the default 3D relationship rules. Congrats.

Here you have it Op, and it'll be a long and challenging search too. Also be prepared to meet karma on the way. She's the last of them bitches you'll have to mess with.

Good luck.

I want to believe you are a guy with your comments on them ladies. However, I think your ish goes beyond communication and transcends to interpersonal and self esteem. You need to work on yourself and also be a good listener. That way, you won't be saying off point at convos that'll make people turn to stare at you.

Good luck

Op, I hope you're not looking for excuse to leave the girl sha.

You said she's always been like this, its not like she changed, so there's nothing new, she's just not a great conversationist. There's also a possibility that she doesn't like the long talks or doesn't enjoy them with you, but have been enduring it in order not to hurt your feelings. Hope you don't strike up boring conversations?

You can try to get her to come around whatever the case. You guys must have one or two interests in common, try gearing your talks towards those.

Also, when you talk, try not to talk about yourself. Ask her questions with room to elaborate. That way she gets to talk more.

Then, try to talk about your future, goals and plans and ask her opinion. Let her talk about hers as well, gives you some insight on where she stands with you.

Good luck

Taa mechie onu there!!! Must you create a thread?

Whenever u feel ready.

Interesting. Following....