ireneidiva:

Madam, you can go ahead and have 50 children. The white man is not throwing contraceptives down your throat. What you do in your marriage is you and your husbands business but when you go outside and a man tells you to shut up because you are a woman, you will realize that women are still being looked down at. Africans abroad, why cant they come and teach us what they have learnt instead of waiting for the white man's curriculum?

It's not true. The West is trying by all means to control population of Africa, buy using the media and even controlling and rolling out vaccines that unknowingly sterilises African women without being aware.

I know my gender role, I have never interfered in any role that does not concern me hence I have never been told to shut up. The only time I was aware of gender inequality was when I lived in an Arab country. In Africa I have some of the times been invited to forward my input as a women. I have never been disrespected at home or outside my home.

By curriculum, I do not mean one or 100 people that schooled abroad coming back to Africa to teach. I mean America or any Western country sharing the content of their education like Technology, Science, Maths etc. To buy the curriculum from those countries becomes extremely expensive because they wanna make it unaffordable so that African countries remain unequal. That's racism.

Let's look at America only as an example. White people use Feminism to sow divisions between African American men and women. Yet African American of all genders are victims of their racism and discrimination.

While they push feminism agenda, African American women develop hatred for their African American men and label them as useless forgetting they are both victims of racism.

For any African American women thats joins Feminism movement, they will only be promoting White women's rights. The same White women discriminate against African American women before the rallies and immediately after those feminism rallies. Who is a fool there?

Your struggles as races are not the same therefore it is ignorant to join in a fight that never had you in mind from the beginning.

African men and women are victims of racism.

All we need is better education that will put us on the same level, not Feminism.

AmazonTopaz:

stop being ignorant madam discrimination comes in different forms and whether it concerns race or gender ,religion etc.it is a problem that needs to be fought on simultaneously if possible.

Kudos to kimbraa and amberon

You cannot fight gender equality side by side with a race that is advantaged and privileged more than you.

You cannot fight side by side with a race that discrimates against you.

Racial equality first before gender equality.

African men are victims just like African women.

We need better education that will put all gender on a better footing not Feminism.

Robynwelo1:


Which racism we dey face for Africa? If anything, African women should embrace feminism more than the whites that have enough privilege for being a woman. In Africa, it's close to zero.

To the rest of the posters, rant from now till tomorrow about who she chooses to be. It doesn't change anything.

I gave up to even start debating with you when I realised that you don't even understand where feminism started.

Feminism started in Western countries where racism and gender discrimination has always been the fibre of its society

There is racism in Africa meted to us by white ideas that force things like Feminism down our throats as if we cannot fight our own African battles in our own way.

There is a lot of racism going on in Africa, masquerading as saving our African societies.

1. Education - white people and white countries can never share and push for implementation of thcontent of their primary-high school curriculum so as to make African education be competitive as theirs and make Africans compete at the same level as them.
Why can't they share what they teach in schools than pushing for Feminism? We don't need feminism, but we need an educated society that is inclusive of all genders.
They wanted to kill Bill Gates when he suggested that a computer should be so cheap that each African family should own one.

2. Contraceptives ( birth control ) is a form of racism to control African population because of white ideas of how many children each woman should have. It's a form of interference into our marriages and to give African women ideas that men are against us and we should fight men. It's a women's body etc.
White people are the first people to donate so much money towards population control in Africa through vaccines and contraceptives. But they will never donate towards building schools and rolling out good education curriculum. They will never share their education and skills to already existing population. They will never open schools to teach every child how to build a computer, but they will donate anything to control and destroy you.

2. Feminism, the same ideas of feminism are sowing divisions in out societies between men and women. Feminism is ethnocentric in nature, it uses standards of another culture ( white culture ) to measure the appropriateness of another culture. It's racist because in itself the only correct standards and ideas are only that of white people. Feminism is not centred around African ideas.

White women have always been discriminated by their men, calling them blondes ( stupid ) and telling them that their place was in the kitchen etc.

Africans have never been confused when it comes to gender appropriate roles. African women have never requested changes in gender roles. FOR example, I ain't going to no war when there are men in our villages. Why would I want to be a soldier?

In Africa a female has always been involved in decisions made in our societies. Yes there are some unfair practices in some cultures, but they can be changed.

Africa has its own gender issues which do not require feminism to sort them out. In my marriage I know my role and I require no feminists ideas to run my marriage. In fact some African men empower their wives and give up more power than we need.

We have gender roles which we are doing fine with.
My husbands role is that of a provider, protector, lover etc. Why do I need some white woman's idea to change our roles in our African society.

In my home my husband let's me be and gives me more power to make decisions than I think I should.

Our African men have never left us out. Yes our cultures and traditions have never been perfect, but they have never been entirely oppressive towards women.

What we need in Africa is good education afforded to all genders. That education should put all genders on an equal footing to take the continent forward.


We don't need feminism. We don't need donations. We don't need contraceptives. We don't need any white person interfering in our cultures.

Feminism is used by white people to divert our attention from the atrocities caused by white supremacy, racism and slavery.

I cannot fight together with other white women who already are privileged by the colour of their skin. As a black women joining feminism, you are simply promoting women of other race because they are privileged more than you.

I support women empowerment, but I am no Feminist.

I will join Feminists the day we eradicate racism on the face of the earth.

We will then have gender problems only. All women of all races will be fighting to be equal to men of all races.

Feminism is a white women's battle and has got nothing to do with us. Where we stand now white women are using us to fight their battles when Africans are fighting bigger battles of racism. Racism meted to us by white women.

Black( Africans ) face racism from all races and they want to divert our attention from that big problem which is even perpetuated by white women.

Let's equalise race first before gender.

All white people should fight to remove all privileges meant for them before we remove privileges meant for all men.

As far as I am concerned African men are equally victims. They get discrimated again from all angles. African men and women are fighting the same battle of racism against us.

White people use feminism to remove attention from racism that they daily commit against us.

Bleep them.

Martin0:


gbam chinelo chinelo for this comment you go born six children once! Amen!

No religion should be above one's culture.

In fact there in NO marriage before meeting the parents of the bride and paying dowry. That's bringing two families together. It's more important than talking to your big headed pastor.

After paying dowry, I don't know why people get it wrong and put religion before their traditional weddings when tradition was the initializer of all things.
Nothing can be done before dowry ( culture)

Martin0:


gbam chinelo chinelo for this comment you go born six children once! Amen!

Martin. Amen. My ancestors will be happy with me. I wanna contribute the whole village to my people.

In fact I want to have 16 children.

Martin0:


come twoclans, Jacqueline22 chineloSA I here by join una as friends

una dey always make me laugh everytime wey I see una comment

again e get one babe wey dey always from back door view comments, she know herself amongst una nor dey hide again oo coz I dey check everybody profile anytime I enter this forum

You disturbed my beauty sleep just to tell us this

Martiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnn!!!!!! Which one na back door viewer

No religion should be above your culture.

Rumicarter:


She has finished bleaching everything.

Na soooo. Even her crouch

Billic:
What if she have still birth?

I don't wish that, not even my worst enemy

Better start in his village. Then local government. Then state. Then country ( any state in the country ) before embarking on this international elephant project.

I think the curriculum is not good in Africa schools, even though the infrastructure is not adequate too.

Even if children were to study at home or under a tree, if the content is rubbish, it can never address the challenges faced by Africa.

Work on the curriculum. No use building state of the art schools with a curriculum that socks.

dazzlingd:


Yes, she has a secret she has been hiding. She has very ugly tribal marks.. The power of foundation has been hiding it... But as the saying goes, no hiding place for a woman with tribal marks

Lies

Gloriagee:
I guess what every woman needs is a good dose of confidence. All these stuff ure concentrating on doesn't boost anyone's confidence.

Is oluchi onweagba light skinned? Or agbani ? Or good ol Serena Williams? Are they not all married to well off guys while y'all be focusing on media ati dbanj etc.

Whatever makes you feel good tho...

Neither marrying across racial lines boosts one's confidence. Confidence comes from loving who you are and stop using European standards of beauty. You cannot claim you love yourself if your standards of beauty and attraction are still European standards.

If you cannot find beauty in someone that looks like YOU, your father, brother, mother, sister etc. than you have a problem.

Oluchi, Agbani and Serena that you are talking about are not immune to self-hatred. They hate themselves that they normalised sleeping with a face that represent a face of an oppressor. They probably even hated their own skin. All the people you mentioned faced difficulties in their respective industries they were in ( modelling and sports ). Modelling for Agbani and Oluchi definitely instilled and promoted self hatred. Don't be surprised that they wanted to give birth to light skinned kids with soft hair.

If you were raised well and have good male figures around you, you will love anything that represent that you love. You will even want to give birth to children that represent that love and that which looks like you. My brothers were raised so well that my point of reference became my male figures in my life. That point of reference excluded mixed race, White, Indian etc.

Your problem is you base marriage on financial standing. While white people Base it on dominating you. Some as a meal ticket. Africans will try and find excuses to avoid facing their self-hatred and love for their oppressor.

Your self-hatred hatred go to as far and bleaching, to even marrying white people or light-skinned people particularly mixed race people to even hating you own hair and attaching foreign hair.

If you didn't understand why I made reference to Dbanj, sorry ma.

KingLennon:

Chinelo I am perplexed at what you are driving at. Everybody has their own likes and dislikes. To me I fantasize black ladies alot...

Check what I said to Airforce1 and what started this conversation. I never criticised you for preferring dark-skinned ladies.

generationz:


OK thanks

Welcome sis

What a good man

generationz:



do you know how I can buy goods like clothes shoes and bags wholesale from Dubai and sell in naija

I lived in Saudi. Visited Dubai. I have very little knowledge of Dubai. All I can tell you is that all majority of their products are made in China.

KingLennon:

Apart from using D'banj as a case study. Can u mention another person? Cuz to me I think D'banj prefers light-skin beauties

Peter Square
Ike Ogbona
Mikel Obi
Jim Iyke ( Nadia Buari)

I have no time to give you a long list. You self-haters want proof so as to justify your self hatred.

If you prefer anything that is not your reflection, that is simple self hatred. It's an excuse for running away from you blackness.

bluefilm:


Something tells me you are as black as charcoal.

Sorry.

But what he said is so true.

Light skin girls are prettier, finer, softer, more attractive, sexier ... you want me to continue...?

That is irrelevant. All I know is that I am wearing my original non adulterated skin.

There is nothing true in both your mental ill health.

You are slaves without shackles.

Gloriagee:
Assumption is the mother of all....

So, all ur life uve never met a man that loves his dark skinned wife. I can't deal biko

You can count them by your one hand. There is no assumption I am making here,colorism is a true and living reality.Overly researched topic too. BOTH by academics and advertising companies.

Even the media portrays light skinned women as the happening thing. Even Dbanj himself has always used light skinned girls for her videos. Please Square and a lot of artist use light skinned girls.

Beauty products overwhelm people with light-skinned models.

Even those who love dark-skinned partners, eventually fall for this brainwashing and go after light. A lot of dark-skinned people eventually bleach to absorb the pressure.
Nigeria is the biggest consumer of skin lighteners because of this sickness.

If you have been sleeping under your feel good rock, I understand if you can't deal. It's ignorance and denialism.

generationz:


don't take him seriously , he's a troll


do you live in UAE

No. I was in Saudi. I am back.

Airforce1:
Light skinned girls rock

Shock is when you are dark-skinned and you find dark skin repulsive and light skin attractive

Work on your self hate. You first need to love what reflects who you truly are. Until then you will not be loving, but it will be pure fetishism.

You cannot love anything until you love your self reflection.and make peace with it.

KingLennon:

Try using 'some' don't always generalise issues...

Dbanj's known girlfriends have always been of mixed race and the dark skinned ones never last.
First he was rumored to have been with Genevieve Nnaji -didn't last.
Then the Indimi girl ( Adama) who is mixed race.
Then a SA girl and it also didnt last
And he finaly settled with a mixed wife.

He has an obsession with mix race hence patience. He always finds his way back to mixed raced girls.

If you say "some" unfortunately you cannot prove me wrong, but I can prove you wrong with countless international studies of colourist and how light skinned people get away with anything.

I know what I am talking about.

KingLennon:
I love the way D'banj handled the demise of his cute boy. I'll gladly say D'banj loves this lady wholeheartedly

Had it been that the wife was a dark-skinned woman and pure African. She would have been sent packing already. Told how useless she is.
African men worship anything not African or anything exotic.

writeprof:


It has been achieved already. Apart from made in China goods where do others come from. Africa's economy is gradually being swallowed by China.

It's not done completely. It's still reversible.

Look at his plastic smile. Ready to come and steal our Africa. Second colonisation by Chinese is looming.

Tetragramaton:


Its gonna be her biggest regret. The guy has children already as I heard and was once married but now separated. The story is not complete. They were dating originally but the guy wasn't ready to have kids. But her age got her scared and she got pregnant. The guy was initially accepting of it but he later found out that our dear Linda was not only strafing him as she was linked to two politicians, the guy had proof. Like I have always known that blogging did not give her that money, it only gave her recognition to launder for politicians.

As the gist continues, the guy said he will accept the child only after he does DNA. And if the child is not his, he will sing like a bird. If it is his, he will accept reaponisiblitu but will not marry her. Dear Linda had to engage herself to deceive us because of the shame. Nobody engaged her. It was all a lie! Take this story to the bank and don't ask me how I no.

oohhh nooooooo

I feel for her. Life is not easy out of the limelight. It must be exhausting for her to be in the limelight and continuously trying to paint a perfect life.

I pray all works out for her.

MYHUBBY:
despite are achievements in life she got carried away with societal pressure. I don't expect someone like her to get pregnant out of wedlock



truly ladies heart flexibility messed them up most times

What did you expect her to do at 38.

38 is not 25 where a lady has plenty options. After 35 the number of approachers diminish sometimes to 0.

I feel for her. I hope and pray her decision was the right decision because this may be her biggest regret.

Fake News He has never said that.

Olulinks:

Dem don forget wetin Funke Akindele went through after flaunting baby bump like wedding ring finish.

Even Basketmonth's wife. She was in pain and embarrassed.

coolzeal:
Black Africa is place where old haggard white men and women comes to have a sex filled life with dem hot youngies.. Disgusting.

There is no Black African. No white African. No Indian African. There is no colour in Africa. Anything that requires a prefix is not African.

Anyways, very true. People hate their race and themselves so much. Anything that will make them forget that they are Africans even if it's a pig, they are OK.