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ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

you are not ugly. Your husband also loves you, he is only fighting his demons. As a wife, you should help him overcome this addiction. I can bet my last card that your husband is not happy with what he is doing, forget all the self righteous people advising you to leave him. Your hubby even have valid reason for falling into the addiction, having been alone for 2 years.

Another point is that it is better for your husband to sleep with prostitutes as long as he uses protection than to have a mistress(girlfriend)

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Those days in university of Benin

Sport complex

Ebelebo

we dey call am ebelebo for Warri side. The best ebelebo can be found in Holy Matrys of Uganda seminary along Okorodudu/Enerhen road, Effurun

I chop that UNIBEN own near library too

aribisala0:
You are looking at YOUR OPINION of the root cause


If you are interested in looking at root cause what is your methodology? You just do Tumbo Tumbo and declare assimilation is the problem. I can declare it is any other word in the dictionary. What is the basis
of your declaration
There are as many opinions as there are people > Your opinion about assimilation is nonsense

Unless I do not know the meaning of the word.

You define what you mean by assimilation because I see Igbos intermarrying and worshipping with others


The issue is they are very similar to the Fulani in seeking to dominate.
Nothing to do with assimilation

It is the Hausa that have the concept of Sabon Gari not Igbos

The fundamental problem of the Igbo is they do not face reality instead they operate on their self image as being greater than the facts reveal and believe they are better than they are

yes sir, they are my opinion only just as I appreciate your position here as you opinion.

The Fulanis and the Igbos differ in how they seek to dominate. The Igbos seek personal glory in their quest for dominance. They seek to dominate for themselves and not for the group including to dominate others of their own tribe, the reason why they are easily defeated. The Fulanis on the other hand seek dominance of his group before personal glory. Totally different ideologies

Again, all my opinion

aribisala0:
You are being diplomatic

The fundamental issue is one of greed , selfishness and dishonesty that were displayed very well in the first republic.
The domineering attitude of Zik and the unbridled nepotism in the first republic culminating in the massacere of Northern and Yoruba Northern leaders whilst sparing their own captures this attitude of thinking they are smart and everyone else is foolish

We are saying the same thing but I am looking at the root cause while you are focusing on the effect. You are a Yoruba man I assume. The Yoruba people have lived with, married and traded with people from Hausaland up to Mali for centuries and even fought wars. What you get from this experience as a people is how to live with others, appreciate their way of life and understand that they are not stupid just because they don't view life as you view it. Living with people is the only thing that teaches you how to live with people.
I have studied the people that today constitute the Igbo tribe. Their history is that of a mostly secluded people that were not exposed to other people until relatively recently. They do not enjoy the centuries long privilege that you the Yoruba man has enjoyed. They are still learning how to live with other people

obynzo:
I would like for you to show me how the igbos state that their values are superior to others. The real issue is that the igbo man is not one that is subservient, allow an igbo man he will come to your village with a torn jeans and slippers poorly unkempt, the locals will be mocking him, but give that man 4years he would rent a flat buy a car and even commence building a new house in his village. An igbo man would in few years with determination overtake you the local in your area. That is what causes the fear from other tribes not the so called respect of values you are talking about.

I appreciate the tone of your response sir, it is greatly lacking here. That said, the bolded clearly explains what I cited as a shortcoming of the Igbo man and answers your question. You assume you overtake the local by becoming the richest person there. That is only according to your value system that places premium on money over everything else. Others are driven by other things which you must respect. The Igbo man just doesn't understand values differ.
Other tribes do not fear Igbos as you assume, the truth is that other tribes do not like Igbos, pardon me but it's true.
Do you agree with me that the Igbos were perhaps the most unexposed major tribe in Nigeria before the 1900s?

The possible outcome of making an Igbo president is as tricky as it is unpredictable. It would indeed decrease the biafra agitation in the short term but not thereafter.
What works most against the Igbos is that they have not culturally assimilated the other major tribes in Nigeria. This is not meant to stir up any useless tribal war here but the truth is that the Igbos as I have studied, seem not to have been exposed to other people before the late 19th century. The result is that the average Igbo man has not learned how to live with other people in mutual respect and understanding. There is this fear, that an Igbo president may by this handicap of history make mistakes that would jeopardize the future of Nigeria(even though a break up may be in the best interest of everyone, emphasis on may)

What the Igbos must do is understand this historical handicap and open up their minds as a people to respect other people's way of life, acknowledging that their values is not superior to others, then they can be trusted with the presidency

If it is left to be run by Nigerians after completion, it will surely fail

ogoloray:
I can bet my last card that the bastard raped the girl, then murdered her to keep his pedophilic behaviour a secret!

my exact thoughts. We are too quick to suspect ritual when people commit such gruesome murder in Nigeria

Many years of Calabar/Efik/Ibibio people doing house hell work may be responsible for their high cleanliness score. They just keep cleaning

Ok

Africa and the curse of inferiority complex. Africa is the Zombie Fela sang about in his classic hit.

Zombie no go lockdown until dem tell to lockdown. Zombie
Zombie no go get wave unless dem tell am to get wave. Zombie
Zombie go leave malaria and bandits/terrorist wey dey kill children and concentrate on Covid wey dey kill a handful of mostly old pipo. Zombie
Zombie o zombie
Zombie o zombie

The public health community failed the world in 2020

olabrinks:
I’m going to be real with you sis, you cannot find the solution you want unless you cheat on your husband. Your husband is stuck in his ways, he’s not willing to compromise or sacrifice his beliefs for your satisfaction. Let me tell you the truth my sister, most men just want to cum and sleep. All this extra gra gra is work for them, and like you said they have other things to worry about. This is how most married women feel, men especially become laid back once they are having sex with the same woman over and over again. Married woman to married woman.

My real advice to you is to satisfy yourself with your hands or a toy when you are Hot. Focus on your child and your career. Accept that you can never have it all in marriage. Your partner must lack in one department, it may be sex, finances, compassion, good looks, hygiene etc.. there’s always something. The easy thing to do is to look for that missing thing in someone else. The smart thing to do is to focus on the positives and try to enjoy your marriage the best way you can. You said you are like friends….go on adventures with him, go out clubbing, go to parties.. you will begin to overlook this missing void you’re feeling. This is feeling is temporary, good luck to you.

send me a number i can use to send u 1k credit. All young married women need to read this

BudeYahooCom:
Great Igbo man from Iseke, a community in Ihiala local government of Biafra.

this is a lie from the pit of hades

Ok

UyaiIncomparabl:
Yes.

I can't survive on one soup. Variety is the spice of life.

well, don't be too sure that you are the villian except those guys didn't chop kpekus though your comment suggests they fvcked you

Mercychen:
Who told you I didn't love him? Hm. Well. I did but I was scared because he likes women too much and he can lie??

all men like women "too much", even the ones that do holy holy. It's not any man's fault but how we are wired. Lying is a bad signal though but truth be told, in our African society, cheating is not a reason to leave a man as long as the man respects you and has family values. Most African men cheat in marriage(your father may be included sef), the difference is that some men do it foolishly because they do not respect their wives and their family.
In relationship setting, so far it is one that involves sex(intimate relationship), expect anything from both parties. NEVER invest too much in anybody that you are not at least engaged to and do not allow anybody invest so much in you. That way, no heart gets broken if the worst occur

UyaiIncomparabl:

"rephrased to mean you are the one that cheats in your relationship?" (don't know why some words went missimg in my initial comment)

capnies:
Am a male n married; I would advise you to change the attributes of the men you fancy, go for the intelligent ones I mean the highly intelligent ones; they are more humane and considerate.

the highly intelligent ones will wreck someone like her so much emotionally she would never be able to recover

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'm not blowing my trumpet. And no, I don't trust people easily. I have just been lucky.

I have always been the villain.

rephrased to mean you are the one cheats?

DTeekay:
My dear, plenty I cannot even count again.

The way you put it would make one think that you witness 100 people dying from Covid daily. According to CDC website, Lagos with 726 Covid deaths have the highest number of Covid-19 deaths in Nigeria followed by Edo state with 224 deaths. And this is spread over about 18months period and various centres in each state. Assuming you work in Lagos, it is not possible that you have recorded more than 100-200 covid deaths in your centre throughout the pandemic

The question is: what is your motive?

I feel like many Nigerians just like copying everything the white man say or do. You just want to be woke. Malaria kills more children in Nigeria in a week than covid kills people(mostly elderly) in a whole year. How many times have you come to nairaland to campaign to save the lives of our children from Malaria? Why do we leave our problem and face what the white man's problem is?

My advice to you is that you stop being someone else. Be yourself and define your own truth

Good Morning

By exactly 8:20pm tonight, Pere will be crowned BBN season 6 winner to the shock of an entire nation

WOW! Pere has Made up the gap. Reports from the field indicates that Pere is enjoying large number of votes from young females. The female votes is expected to flip the result by tomorrow.

Vote Pere
Avoid mentioning the names of rival housemates. It gives them validation

*****
Five star

yunafa:
Seems there's a gang up against WM...watch the body languages of Cross, Pere and Angel... there's always this look of disgust on their faces when WM is over talking...even Cross is getting rude and snobbish towards WM. Everyone can't be friends but then you don't gang up against somebody you can't really point at his crime towards you .

I noticed it with Cross last night when they were playing snooker and white money started his over dramatic behaviour. Cross laid on a sofa staring at him with a scornful look on his face.

I do not blame them sha. It's very hard to tolerate someone that is obviously fake. They have all discovered the guy but have to live with it now, afterall, it's only a matter of days left

creolehunt:
Pere marks on the body : Oh, this man has been through a lot. Imagine all his scars. May Jehova heal him.

WhiteMoney Mark's on the body: This guy na confirm cultist oo. Them don ise cutlass scatter his body. Na juju mark be all this thing.

The stench of hypocrisy.

If you see juju mark, you no go know?

Pere is trending No. 1, a good sign. The momentum continues like this for 72hours, he clinches it. Reports indicates that Pere is trailing WM by less than 1% at the moment. We keep voting hard, we overturn the deficit and build a healthy lead before Friday

Keep voting Pere please

Fairdamsel:
Hope WM wins the Hypo competition Sha
He loves things being spotless
E dey sweet me for body

except his knuckles

The attempt by the production team to unfairly evict Pere and the uproar it generated has had the postive effect of motivating his supporters to go all out for him this final week. It has also won Pere massive new set of supporters. The love in the streets is bewildering


Keep voting Pere
We have the momentum on our side
Top spot is sure guys

Pere is now the favourite to win the season. What a twist! Keep voting Pere guys, let's make this the biggest finals in BBN history, reminiscent of the big brother africa all stars finals; Munya vs Uti

Uzomarrr123:
Bro…the gotv in my office

The problem is I can’t find gotv app on apple store

There’s dstv


But I can’t use the gotv own to add more votes

Can anyone see gotv app on iOS apple store

sorry buddy, I don't know about gotv app. Can anyone else help out please?

Echoketh:
NL patriots rn

we will peel his yansh with votes

My reciept