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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 2:39am On Nov 14, 2015

Roland17:
At this point, I am finding my way to you and your husbands house even if it means walking through this ridiculously cold and windy November

I still dey think of how I go make the orange chicken na him you come carry this one come

Pls come.
We need company badly.

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 1:53am On Nov 14, 2015

CFCfan:
We're holding up in strongly. Thank you. God has been our strength.
Yes, we would be heading to Nigeria by the end of this month.

Safe trip dear.
My condolences to all.

I really feel your pain. The loss and the expenses that follow it.

Jisike nwannem

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 1:46am On Nov 14, 2015

CFCfan:
I've been in mourning due to the loss of daddy. He died weeks ago.

Oh my.

So sad to hear that. How are you holding up?

Unu Oga ala ulo maka burial?

Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 1:22am On Nov 14, 2015

I didn't fashy you jare.

You were offline a while. I figured you might be taking a break. Glad to see you're doing awesome.

BABE3:
Im doing wonderful babe. how are you yourself?
you just fashied me sha.

lets hope he's gone for good, but my bet is he'll come back.

How will he survive ?? how will he eat?

ibime, he did not go to Manchester for Uni. o. Na OAU he went to o. NO be manchester o. Please take note. In case you want to rap-battle him. I'm giving you personals free of charge. OAU, not manchester!

goodnight.

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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 1:17am On Nov 14, 2015

CFCfan:

Nne, daalu for sharing...

Food › Re: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by cococandy(f): 1:00am On Nov 14, 2015

EfemenaXY:
And lunch - Couscous with trout, spinach & green beans + the usual vegetables: cucumber, cherry tomatoes, green peas, shredded carrots, and sweet corn (I think)

This is too healthy.
I'm losing weight just looking at it cheesy

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Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 12:55am On Nov 14, 2015

cooger:
is it what you do?

Hardly.
I'm just wondering who all the guests are.

Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 12:49am On Nov 14, 2015

11 guests.

People are logging off and viewing as guests. grin

amebo too sweet.

Babe3 Hun. How are you doing?

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Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 12:14am On Nov 14, 2015

bukatyne:
Not necessarily

Not everyone practices what they preach.

@cococandy:

Such a beautiful work on this thread; kudos.

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:57pm On Nov 13, 2015

Meat pie.

No I'm not going to eat all of it.
I'll share

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Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 11:55pm On Nov 13, 2015

Lmao at first paragraph. cheesy

I see what you mean.

On the contrary I enjoy the effect my posts has on them.
Very much.

I just don't want to deliberately be unhelpful to someone who I think my opinion might help just because I want to piss some mofos off.
I just finished a class in psychological versus physical healing and when she said he was in an accident that left him with walking disability, it struck me as something that may be out of character for him.

Of course I may be wrong. He could be a womanizer and she's just finding out. It left to her to see which it is and make her decision accordingly.

fem29:
I know the 'feminist' bashers on this site wear one down and we kinda start modifying what to say to kinda keep them off our backs . I don't even see myself as a feminist cos I'm not really doing anything to advance the female cause, I just don't want to be treated like shite.

But I don't want this woman to start second guessing herself. I don't even have so much of an issue with the cheating, it's how he is treating her in this very difficult and delicate time. 8 month pregnant is the most vulnerable you can possibly be. She needs to forget about what he is doing and whatever 'reason' he may have for doing it. Focus on her and baby.

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Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 11:33pm On Nov 13, 2015*

fem29:
Coco to be honest I don't think she should be worried about trying to worry about how his phyche has been affected by his leg being injured etc etc. There is no excuse for what this man is doing. Imagine if it was her that all that happened to she would bloody get on with it. She would not sit around thinking of stupid shit to do to bolster her self she would simply continue to do whatever it is she has to do to make sure her family is alright . We really should stop giving men passes, it's bullcrap (forgive my french). I'm just sick of it. I've been through so much and I've had to go through it alone cos our hubby's always have a REASON for the crap they do.

Poster please ignore this and maintain your zenith. I am venting

@bold, that's definitely not me.

If you're sick about people that give men passes and excuse bullcrap, pls welcome to my world.
I'm even sicker of it.

What made me type that post after my initial one is because of what she said happened to him.
Even taking viagra to go cheat outside means he's probably not just doing it because he has uncontrollable libido. I just feel like it signifies more going on with him.

It's not like I don't know that if she was the one who was cheating for whatever reason (even if to preserve her life) no one will make excuses for her. And that kind of post would make me the evil feminist who wants a man to take back a cheating wife.People are full time hypocrites around here. You know like a full time job. grin

It has even turned to a competition of who can mock the OP more. So instead of compassion for someone going through something heartbreaking, you see mockery littering the thread.
Of course it's sickening but don't vent on me nne.
I don't support foolishness. Or fighting for a marriage where you're fighting alone.

I just see each situation differently. Hence my resolve to not base my opinion on what others will think but how I see the situation.
And in this case I think if he's willing to work with her, they can make it work.

Each case and its own peculiarity. No blanketing.

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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 8:27pm On Nov 13, 2015

Brymo:
hello, hawayhu?

Fine thanks

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 6:33pm On Nov 13, 2015

I just couldn't resist this beauty when I saw it in the store. embarassed

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Family › Re: How Should A True Gentleman Behave? by cococandy(f): 6:15pm On Nov 13, 2015

thorpido:
It's one thing to be a man,it's another thing to be a dude.

I see

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 5:10pm On Nov 13, 2015

cutiereborn:
This Is not fair atall, I said I wouldn't say anything, but Haba! This is too much to bear.

My sister

Come join o.
You're very welcome

Crime › Re: British Woman In Court For Marrying Two Nigerian Men - Photos by cococandy(f): 5:09pm On Nov 13, 2015

ifyalways:
She be like whale!

Choi, see wetin 2 Naija boys dey chop raw all for papers and when they come back home, their crooked lips will be like " are you fit, slim and have flat tummy?"

Ovoko

Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 4:56pm On Nov 13, 2015

yoksy:
thank u he had d accident last yr and we dated for close to 2 yrs b4 getting married it was only distant cos he works in d western part of d country while am in north central

Accident you say? Hmm. So he hasn't always had the bad leg. Well that sort of changes things.

At the risk of sounding like I'm making excuses for him (which i'd never do).
When people go through life changing injuries especially ones that leave a disability behind, there are two kinds of healing to go through.
Physical and psychological. Especially with accidents. Because it's sudden. One moment you're walking, the next you're in a wheelchair, limping or using walking aids. It can be hard to heal inside and come to terms with the disability.

Maybe the physical healing has gotten as good as it can get, but the psyche still needs to heal. Because in his mind, he's less of person now that he's not full on his feet and active. Causing him to maybe seek validation in his ability to still attract women outside. (This is provided he hasn't always had a womanizing habit). If he has always been a womanizer, pls disregard this post.

If not, then suggest counseling and therapy for him. The things we often overlook are sometimes the most important. He needs to be able to once more believe himself whole and complete. The fact that he as a young man (I assume) needs viagra to get it up again even with a new girl which is usually a turn on for most people shows that he's internally disturbed.
I know it can be hard being the one to swallow hurt and pamper someone when you're in need of it yourself. Seeing as you're having a baby and all that

All things said and done, if he's not willing to work with you, you know where the door is.
Life is too short to live it in misery.

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Family › Re: How Should A True Gentleman Behave? by cococandy(f): 4:40pm On Nov 13, 2015

So a gentleman is different from a gentle dude ? grin

Family › Re: Photo: Baby Born With Two Heads In Bangladesh by cococandy(f): 4:38pm On Nov 13, 2015

Miracle indeed cheesy

Family › Re: My Wife Finally Opens Up by cococandy(f): 4:20pm On Nov 13, 2015

HaneefahRN:
Abi o my sister, I'm finding it hard to blive I had been answering a woman since sef, me sef get time o, sha trying to put the blame on the woman. Yes, u are ryt, she also taught me a lesson that a woman must know what she is doing.

Nairaland?

Man or woman? With nairalanders No one knows.

I could be a man for all you know. Don't look at the F in my moniker.

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Family › Re: Am I Really Married Or Sharing A Room With A Man? by cococandy(f): 4:16pm On Nov 13, 2015

No pregnant woman should be treated that way.
Not when they need all the love and support they can get.
What's wrong with some people?

OP if you didn't do anything to warrant the accusation, pls pay it no heed. Some people before they go out and do something bad, they rationalize and justify it in their minds any way they can so as to feel less guilty about it. him accusing him might be diversionary tactics to justify his own cheating which he's planning to go do.

Goodluck with your baby. You're almost there. For now rest your mind no matter how hard it is because you don't want your blood pressure up at the risky stage.
If you need to get away from him so that anger at him won't push you into over drive, pls do so.

When you're done having your baby.
Ask him if he's tired of the marriage. The worst way to spend your energy is in trying to stay married to someone who doesn't want to stay married to you. And the worst cheat to live with is one who's not repentant. You'd basically be giving the person a license to treat you as they wish once you start condoning their unrepentant philandering.

If he's not tired and you aren't tired, then both of you can consider counseling. It seems you didn't know each other well before marriage. you said you never saw the bad leg until marriage, that means you guys never met until marriage.
Maybe he's disillusioned with what he saw after meeting you. Hence the lack of sexual attraction.

Time to rediscover yourselves and see if you can ignite sparks between the two of you.
Provided he's willing to try with you.
One person can't build a marriage alone while the other person is continuously sabotaging the union.

Unfortunately he's not here and he's the one that needs talking to. More than you even.

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Family › Re: My Wife Finally Opens Up by cococandy(f): 3:54pm On Nov 13, 2015

Lmao.
HaneefahRN

You go explain tire.

Your aunt opened up about her finances while the man is acquiring props only in his own name yet she's the bad one.
Or maybe she cheated on him and gave him other men's kid. Just find somewhere to pin it on your aunt that she's the problem with the marriage.
If you don't accept that the matter won't end.

Anyway goodluck to her.
It would have been worse if she can't support herself. But since she can, she should continue doing her thing. It will clear from his eyes one day.

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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 3:44pm On Nov 13, 2015*

crowns2:
I have been following this thread from page 1. Cococandy please where do you get your reciepes and ingredients from? You are killing me here Since I left Nigeria I have not been able to eat our food. I miss the soups i used to prepare back home
The palm oil here at afro shop is horrible. I can't use it to cook. Oh! My sweet Naija foods Oh!!!

My sister Pele.
It's hard everywhere.

I go to the African or Asian store. Just google for those around you. Maybe you need to try another shop. Don't buy from those people that their oil is bad. But you hardly find fresh leaves as in ugu (pumpkin) or uha here. Asides that, other things should be fine.

I get recipes from foodnetwork, YouTube and the rest of them. But of course they are not Afro based. My Afro based recipes followed me from my mama'a house grin

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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 3:38pm On Nov 13, 2015

Cc Tchidi (yes there's orange in it)

Bollinger
Babythug

Ingredients.

Vegetable For Frying
Chicken
4 whole Egg Whites
2 Tablespoons Cornstarch
4 whole Boneless, Skinless Chicken Thighs or breasts (adjust size according to consumers), Cut Into Bite Sized Pieces
Sauce:
1/2 cup Orange Juice
1 Tablespoon Soy Sauce
1 Tablespoon Packed Brown Sugar (OR White Sugar OR Honey)
1 Tablespoon Rice Vinegar (or Regular Distilled Vinegar)
1/4 teaspoon Sesame Oil (skip if you don't have it)
Dash Of Salt
Dash Of Crushed Red Pepper, More To Taste
1 clove Garlic, Pressed Or Minced
2 teaspoons Minced Ginger
1 teaspoon Cornstarch (additional)
Zest Of 1 Orange (optional)
1/4 cup Water
2 whole Green Onions, or half on large green pepper, Sliced
Dash of black pepper.

INSTRUCTIONS
For the chicken: season chicken with a little salt and seasoning of your choice and a dash of black pepper. In a large bowl, whisk together the cornstarch and egg whites with a fork until almost frothy, about 1 minute. Add the chicken to the mixture and allow to sit for 5 to 10 minutes.

For the sauce: Meanwhile, put the orange juice, soy sauce, sugar, vinegar, sesame oil (it will still tune out fine if you don't have this), salt, crushed red pepper, garlic and ginger (and orange zest, if using) in a small nonstick skillet and whisk together. Heat until bubbling and starting to thicken, about 3-4 minutes.

Whisk together the cornstarch and 1/4 cup water in a small bowl and add 1 to 2 tablespoons of the cornstarch slurry to the sauce. Mix in and thicken for 1 minute. (If sauce gets overly thick, just add in another 1/4 cup water and whisk in.)

Heat about 2 inches of vegetable oil in a heavy-bottomed pot until about 350 degrees F. In batches, carefully drop a few pieces of chicken into the oil (drop them in one by one to keep them from sticking together) and move it around, 2-3 minutes or until light golden. Let the pieces drain on a plate lined with paper towels for 2 to 3 minutes. Then drop them back into the oil for 1 minute to really solidify the coating.

Toss the chicken in the sauce and serve immediately with orange zest and sliced green onions on the top (or green peppers instead as I used here).

Credit. The pioneer woman website.

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Crime › Re: Driver In Prison For Having Sex With Married Woman by cococandy(f): 6:53am On Nov 13, 2015

cocolacec:
IN CRIMINAL PROCEEDING IN NIGERIA, THE ZONE WHERE YOU LIVE DETERMINES WHICH CODE IS APPLICABLE TO YOU.IN THE NORTH THEY USE PENAL CODE WHILE IN THE SOUTH CRIMINAL CODE IS USED.
THE PENAL CODE CONTAINS SOME ELEMENTS OF ISLAMIC LAW. ADULTERY AND THEFT ARE CRIMINAL OFFENCES IN THE PENAL CODE WHICH IS APPLICABLE TO THE NORTHERN STATES WHILE CRIMINAL CODE IS APPLICABLE TO THE SOUTHERN STATE OFFENCES LIKE ADULTERY IS NOT LISTED AS A CRIME.

That makes sense.

Well I guess we aren't really one after all

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 3:14am On Nov 13, 2015

Brymo:
Choi, hey

Crime › Re: Driver In Prison For Having Sex With Married Woman by cococandy(f): 1:34am On Nov 13, 2015

So it's actually in the constitution.
I didn't know that.

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 1:30am On Nov 13, 2015

Lunch.

Orange chicken.

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Family › Re: Is MouthAction, Ideal For Married Couples? by cococandy(f): 1:00am On Nov 13, 2015

Craze woman.

kilode100:
I do deepthroath and if you are not careful, I fit swallow person c0ck.

I love being given heads, e dey sweet me well well.

Don't also forget that for all have sinned and come.......

Bless you Mr Mouth action.

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Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:16pm On Nov 12, 2015

Nimi22:
Cococandy and tchidi pls permit me to spend just a weekend with u. Will u say no?

Pls come o

Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 6:05pm On Nov 12, 2015

tchidi:
Olonga!! Commot for our kitchen biko!!
Me ya sa ba ki a zuwa nan regularly? Kin fara cin abincin Restaurant ne?

Aminat508:
Ni fama da yunwa a yanzu. cewa cococandy abinci na kiran da ni

O gini Ka unu Na-ako?

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