₦airaland Forum

CFCfan:
I've caught you

CFCfan:
That website is evil!

ferdimako:
hahaha...who is envying modern-day marriages? They last while Ashley Madison.com remains unhacked.

AgapeCharis:
[color=#27408B]I've been waiting for your comment actually and I was expecting it to be in this direction. You didn't disappoint me.

I clearly stated out at the beginning of the thread that I would like to concentrate on one factor only. [/color]

peeta89:
U sounded like a fashion person.

Onegai:
Precisely. The basic principles are lacking in Nigerian society. No society is perfect but even the basics like Decency, Honesty and Integrity are missing.

At that children's home I volunteered at, I took toys and dolls and gave it to the matron for the kids. For all the months I went there weekly, I never saw any of my gifts with the kids (a co-worker cynically asked me "oh you don't know the matron and her nurses also have children? )

How are you going to fix the mentality that one shouldn't steal from children who already have nothing?

Onegai:
I actually live in Lagos (I relocated a few years back). It's the mentality I see here that baffles me. No-one is responsible, there is always an excuse or an easy way out and if you dare go against the norm, you must be "snobbish and uppity".

They would rather spend hours dancing in church and disturbing God than help their neighbour. Even Pastor Taiwo Odukoya said the same: Sudan has been fighting a bloody war for years, yet no Sudanese is in Nigeria as a refugee, it's so-called morally unstable and godless white people that are going there to save them.

I don't know if reorientation will work. I gave up all my charity projects because of the wahala but one good thing came out of it: my mother made her meeting people adopt a clinic in our village because of what she saw me doing.

Having your kids abroad is not a trendy thing, it's giving your child opportunities and giving yourself better healthcare. I have doctors in my family (who all schooled in nigeria) and not one has had his/her kids here. Or will you accept going into labour and needing oxygen, only to be told there's no oxygen (in a hospital! ) and btw please go and buy fuel for the hospital gen and pay for latex gloves before we treat you, all because of some misguided loyalty to some country?

When you are exhausting yourself trying to fix a society that blatantly refuses to change, you have to ask yourself if you shouldn't expend your energies in a better manner instead.

all4naija:
I am beginning to like the way you get involved with family threads these few days. It would be understatement for me to say I am impressed. You are doing a great job. Can I call you mama? Please, give my regards to papa!

moca:
Cococandy,when did ur mouth become razor like this na?


U know here can make one kolomental if care is not taken.

Babyosisi deactivated?
Why?
I'm surprised.

Howdy sweet?

Onegai:
cococandy, ignore, ignore, ignore... the creature will go back to its abysse soon enough

So, true story: I used to volunteer at a children's home in Lagos . I told friends and co-workers and urged them to join me. Of course I got the usual "I feel you are doing this just to boast about how good you are and make yourself feel better than us". That was the reply to "please donate your time and goods to some children, we could teach and give them toys and food and reading materials! ". Same reaction to renovating a school in Mushin, organizing the renovation of children and maternity wards in LUTH, trying to raise funds to buy even 2nd laptops to give as a reward for kids who participated in a Lagos-state Science fair.

They cannot do it, but they will certainly talk down to your own efforts.

The same person challenging the OP and I, has probably never done anything to change his society. But like a typical Nigerian, he will mock and denigrate that which he cannot do.

When I told a friend that this was what I usually got as a response, his reply was "the best way to fix Nigeria is a nuclear strike" ; D

hotwax:
You know its not about sex and fornication. It's about justice

hotwax:
Eh pain u reach?

Get a lawyer

BuddhaPalm:
Getting into someone pants - as you choose to call it - is a very worthy/worthwile goal.

She knew 1,000% what the gentleman's intentions were. She just strung him along with "The Possibility of Sex" (book title BTW).

That's the game you women play.

You can tell from the overwhelming accolades here, from the men-folk, that this is a universal story.

This is indeed a sweet point for the man-team. Think of all the young guys here who will learn a little bit more about self respect from reading this.

If you show your husband this, he'll most likely chuckle.

dec2:
I'm not too impressed with your 'unhealthy smartness' brova. Remember two wrongs don't make a right. There are surely better ways of proving your smartness to her. And for your trophy chick, if she can cheat WITH you, then she can cheat ON you!

kayo80:
Hmm! That's true sha. Are you into photography? I like the way you analyzed it.

Dorrobucci:
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Lol...

But what he did is quite commendable. You might be seeing it 4rm another angle cos you're a lady. I understand.

OXYGEN01:
I even behave like a kid. Stupidity runs through my blood. No wonder we fools are killing each other day in and day out.My stupidity is out of hand .I'm a SMELLY SHAPELESS idiot from a filthy useless zoo. Fool like me!!!!!!!!!

OXYGEN01:
Kwasia Gyimiii.Wo maane ho fo s3 gutter mu.

Meaning "I was dropped on my head, hence my senselessness".

kayo80:
Ehen!!? You can't see that mouth watering cleavage?

OXYGEN01:
I am a smelly shapeless ape who was conceived by a filthy LovePeddler mum and a dog?

MizMyColi:
I dey wait

OXYGEN01:
And how on earth can a filthy pathetic useless terrorism infested zoo like nigeria be well organized than GHANA? You are stu.pid for making such comparison. Smelly shapeless idiot.

onatisi:
amen oooo. They have finished that man , where will he start from ? The shame and ridicule he will face ? So he will start looking for a wife to marry then bear him children? There is something fishy about this story though ,how come the man wasn't even able to impregnate his wife ? Most likely ,the man is impotent and the woman just had no choice . There is something very fishy about the story. The 3 parties are still covering up the root cause of this issue