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Lucky you.

moca:
These mamas ain't smiling o!
That's very good and encouraging.

Well done ladies.

Will join at d right time.

The thing is that,i tend to reduce a lot during preggy. For now I'm 5kg away from my usual body weight and I have actually started adding back again cos it was -10kg before.

Secondary, I don't eat much at all.always twice a day and mostly cooked Irish potatoe.

If not for malt,i would have lost up to 15kg.

Once I'm good again, will start.
May not run outside the house but I hv various equipments that I can use.

I always look better when I'm slimmer.

pishon:
Thanks for all the replys, I asked him now what was his reply to his mum he said he didn't say anything but I think he has made up his mind to get d house I just hope the mum won't be thinking I'm the. One behind his decision cause its too early to be having issues with MIL.

It is ok if she thinks so. The earlier she knows she can't decide for both of you, the better for your marriage.

Just keep respecting her and be diplomatic in your approach to issues between both of you.

I hope they get the other members of the team.
Putting his pics up there can be a red alert for them to skip town.

bukatyne:
@Your first line,

Let's not go there

Read the whole thread and see who most of posters blame.

All of them blaming the women. One girl posts to blame the guys and they want to eat her alive

Vickybee pls don't mind them.

Abbott:
Hi. What is that black patch? #curious

pore cleanser.

babyosisi:
I di kwa sure?

Ok now his teeth look horrible.

See the picture I was looking at.


I wish him well sha.
Let him not kill someone before he dies o.

Abbott:
Hi Cococandy.

Thank you.

I'm Abbott.

Hi

So you guys will move into with his parents after marriage?
Or is the plan to finish the house before the wedding?

Just let him understand he doesn't need to complete a building before settling down if he is ready to settle.

pishon:
Good morning everyone, have been folloing this thread for a while now but I wanted to finish reading all the pages before I acknowledge the op and everyone that has contributed so far cause have learnt a lot here but I have a pressing issue to attend to now pls I really need your candid advice on this issue. My fiance stays in his parent house but he is dohouse project but I feel he should rent an apartment now since we a planning to get married before the end of the year, he is a low income earner but he has an access to some cash recently and fortunately we are able to get a room and a parlour self contained yesterday for 70k we were about going to see d lanlord for payement when he said I should let him inform his mum first before he pay which I said ok. He called me this morning that his mum said he y can't he wait and finish his house first and move there from there house, the problem I have with her idear is that the money e have is not enough to finish the house and also do the wedding besides my fiance does not have any house appliances he will have to furnish the house as well I don't know what to tell him now and I don't want to be in between mother and son. I will be 31 soon and he is already 34years

babyosisi:
Yes
Before you were born sef
Kai
I don old o
You need to see robin givens today,still as beautiful as ever

Life.

Lol

KoloOyinbo:
Well I am 58, University Educated, have had two careers as an astronomer for over 20 years and now as an International Consultant in Standards. I have travelled the world and current visit Naija to train your executives.

Now I am being told that I don't know life by someone who actually believes in mermaids??

babyosisi:
Cococandy,that interview was in 1988 Mike and robin divorced shortly after that interview and he went on to marry about three more times
References are always made to that interview
I remember one of the wives was a pediatrician
The day I saw it profiled back In The 90s ,I knew it was a matter of time the woman would the agbero

Oh.

That far back?
He doesn't look much older now.

babyosisi:
Found this old interview of the beautiful Robin Givens,her then husband heavy weight boxer Mike Tyson with the elegant Barbara Walters

Takes you into why women stay with abusers
They rationalize it sometimes and see themselves as the savior for their abusers
Watch



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4eUR-Y9wMk

Wow I never knew this about Mike Tyson.
I just thought he was an Incredibly good fighter.

So he was abusive too.

That lady is his angel. If he doesn't get well after this, he won't again.

I kinda feel sorry for him.

edwife:
I do know that leaving is not that easy and no one like being abused but all the same,when my life is at stake there is no two way about that;All you need is determination.
When you want to leave a situation the first thing that has to come to mind is all will not be rosy at first,that's how life works.Everything in life is a risk.Thinking of divorce alone is a risk but when you are determine you can do it.

Those whose parents send back are those who depend on their husbands and have nothing with them.That's why before talking of abuse,we need to talk about self improvement,independence to women.

You want equality,don't go into marriage as second citizen-every young woman needs to have something doing,no matter how small.
Being a housewife is not bad,what is bad is not having anything cooking-You can save or do small business from the comfort of your home.
For every 200 Naira you can save 20 naira.

My aunt a very beautiful half cast lady was married to an old stinky rich man,she was physically and emotionally abused.She had 5 kids for her husband yet she was not allowed to work or even go for a business.She once told my mum she knows what she is doing.Before we knew it,she disappeared and none of her family knew where she was for 3 years.We even thought the man killed her.

After 3 years,she contacted her family from France,in 11 years she was able to bring over her 5 kids and she has since remarried.

Anything is possible as long as there is life.

See sharp woman.
Best method. Because sometimes gra gra can end one in the grave. Best to disappear when the abuser thinks all is well.

ngokafor:
...Yes thats the spirit...keep ignoring them no matter the provocation and see them fizzle away like steam to atmosphere...the best they can do is change monikers to bark but as soon as a supossedly new-registerd member with zero post attacks your handle just know its one of them and swiftly ignore them...

...afterall its only a mad person that will talk and exchange words with themselves...but should that stop you from expressing your God-given rights to air your opinion here... a big No!!..This goes to babyosisi as well..cheers.

That one is the chief Oga kwatakwata of multiple monikers. I know one of his monikers that is sane and when he addresses me using that one, I respond as if I don't know it is him. Because he manages to keep his hatred for me out of that handle.

What I don't get is when you're saying something else they just want to make it something else for you.

At least i admit both males and females on this forum are verbally abusive. They disagree yet all over this thread alone we've seen more than enough to prove we are right.

So yay. Let me hear them call us mouthy again.

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moca:
Oya forgive her,inugo?
We are bros and sis here pls.
Pls,vex no more.
I don't usually involve myself in this kind of thing(no strength) but I had always admired u.
Don't go that lane.
Let it slide pls.
Inugo?

I will caution her bc of u. At least I can beat her very well if we happen to fight.

Believe his lie at your own peril.

Shey I came out of the blues to ask him if he would consider the money he spends on his family members as constituting to prostituion and he flared up. But the money my husband and father spend on us makes us prostitutes.
And that question was after enduring countless insults from him.
Na small thing I ask am he still dey get high blood pressure over.

I'm happy he is still crying over that question so he knows how those he outrightly called hoes felt. His own na simple question he was supposed to answer and he's still hyperventilating instead of saying yes or no.

Keep watching and see who the mannerless aggressor is.
See him placing curses on his generation.

And they speak so much falsehood with so much authority. Next thing now one garri head like him will believe my father is dead.

If there's anybody to do any forgiving, it is me for all his endless insulting that I chose to ignore but I womaned up and asked him to let it go still he turned the offer down and keeps having seizures everytime he sees me on a thread.
I can't help his discomfort and pain.
Smh

Not necessarily.
Me I'm pro GEJ. He isn't. No figthing over that. If we could vote we would vote for different parties.

Anybody over 18 decides who to vote.
It is just like religion.

lolaxavier:
As the presidential election is fast approaching, we have seen comments such as "My family and I have decided who to vote for", "My household will vote for" and so on.

Do you think the husband should dictate who his wife and/or children should cast their votes for? Can this lead to disunity/fight in a home in a case where the wife decides not to agree with the husband?
I feel individuals should be entitled to decide who to choose as candidate.
Please share your opinion.

moca:

Why una dey quarrel na?

Abeg make una kiss and make up

Though we may have diff opinions over some isues but it has not reached this stage abeg.

Who's quarreling with who?
Not me Moca .

That one is in the ignore list. No business between us. So anytime you see him quoting me and ranting as is his hobby for a while now, just remember he's quarreling with himself.

Of course I will continue ignoring him while he keeps crying over a last year post that he instigated. That one I even gave him a tiny bit of his medicine back.

while his supporters and spoke persons conveniently over look all his insults that I deliberately ignore.

Not worth it.

BlackLeopard:
I'd wan know how she got so flexible.

Some athlete there.

Me too. That looks like it gotta hurt

babyosisi:
That is the one of yesterday
Cococandy were you talking of the Arowolo case

No o. This is One girl from my place.

She took money from his pocket to buy pap for their 6month old baby.
The problem was why will she take 200naira when 50naira can buy pap.

He beat her and his mother joined hands to beat her too.
When she slumped they left her there and ran away.

She called her sister on the phone, told her what happened and asked her to come and carry her baby


when the girl got there, she found her dead on her bed. Blood dripping from her nose.

That was when the girl opened up and told us they have mediated several times between them on violence based issues.
That baby was her third child.

She was the eldest. 28 at that time.
Now the kids are with her sisters. Young girls that are not even married taking care of the three kids because their parents are late.

babyosisi:
Mrs Arowolo that was cut up into ngwo ngwo pieces had run to her father's house and the matter was eventually settled and she returned to be a good wife.
She ended up back to her father in pieces
The woman we had on front page yesterday or so was beaten in December
By the next documented beating she became a corpse

Front page? Where's the link?

babyosisi:
Do you know that in Nigeria victims of physical abuse are often told by the police to go and sort it out as a family matter

Oh I know that. One girl I know that died had reported once to the police and they settled it for them as family matter.

I blame her for not leaving sha. Knowing that police will hardly detain and prosecute anybody for beating his wife except she pursues the case herself. And winning depends on how much more influential her family.

As for state sponsored prosecutions where a reported violent offender is prosecuted by the state, that one is zero.

Nice

Afam4eva:
I actually find it strange that the crowd of onlookers reacted only when he came at them and not necessarily because he was beating his wife.

Yea right. The reporter is right. Seems common over there.

Some people don't know how to stay ignored.

He should be sued in addition.

EfemenaXY:
This is one instance where I support jungle justice from the crowd. Ahahn! Wetin?

Nothing can ever justify such.

they didn't even give it to him the way he deserved.

EfemenaXY:
Did you get to steam it eventually?



Ah...ah! Where's mine?

Looks lovely by the way...

Aww. Ok next time

EfemenaXY:
Blöody Bästärd. Why did he run? Why cower and hide from fellow men like him when the table was turned? What happened to his Kung fu and Karate high-kicks?

Abeg the earlier footage is too distressing to watch. The woman must have multiple internal injuries.

Lord have mercy.

Very distressing.

Why won't he run? Coward. Even if one those guys in that video insults him, he won't be able to response in words key alone try to beat any single them.

Such Violence is a way of power show by men who have no manhood thinking that exhibiting such aggression will earn them the reverence they crave.

babyosisi:
This is a sad video clip that ended well
Please watch
It is a good visual of everything I have talked about on this thread that many would rather no one spoke about
This is the sad reality of many many women especially women in third world countries
Click the link directly if the embedded bit doesn't open





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKjwd2zEdjE

That kick to the head can render her brain damaged.
From the looks of it, he's been doing that for a while because the lady seems resigned to it.
She was just moving and obeying him as he told her to get up when she fell from the head blow.

What kind of verbal abuse would justify such beating? Even if it is the so called 'oponu' that no one wants to explain to me

Does that woman in the video even look like she can fight him with words?

Which is why I think bringing verbal abuse up when such violence is being decried only makes it seem like one is downplaying the huge difference between violence and words.

Rubs eye.
Can't see it.
Just a shape that can pass off as a rabbit but not really it.

Hahahaha

So cute.