₦airaland Forum

plaetton:
No, I am not.

babyosisi:
Gbam!
The eediots amongst them will say send the wife away then a new wife comes and the same thing repeats
I had my sisters in law ask me how I deal with the inlaws,I laughed
I told the youngest one who spent hours interacting with me at my last vacation that she should simply close her eyes and pretend not to see a lot of things.
I told her not to say pim when they are discussing their family issues,don't take sides,don't ask too many questions.
Relate with everyone pretending you heard nothing
Pecten those who don't like your husband ,pretend you don't know anything about it and treat them all cordially
Just listen and say nothing
Wisdom is the key

bukatyne:
Very true

Funny enough, If it was your MIL, you might say thank you and endure that arrangement else she would take the correction the wrong way.

We need to tell our mothers to keep off when visiting our brothers.

I started telling my mom even before I got married to keep off my younger brother when he marries anytime We watch/hear such stories.

natureblack:
Each is the primary woman in her primary family.

plaetton:
Yes mam.
It is hard find a man in your type of world where men accomodate cheating wives.

LyndaRoyce:
I've weaned williams.... Also, pt was negative....
Trust me darl, my mind is 99% calm.

babygirlfl:
In situations like this, I blame the woman.

When will some Nigerian women stop making themselves victims. Stop giving too much power to a human being even though he is your husband because anybody can change at anytime. Don't put yourself in a situation where you are at the mercy of your husband. Men hardly put themselves in such situation. How many times have you heard a man and woman build a house together and document it in the woman's name only. I do not understand why women think it's OK to do that.

You are contributing and you don't insist and make sure your name is in the documents? You won't bother about his will if your name is in the documents as he will only be able to will his share to whoever he wants. Even when you are a housewife (at the agreement of the two of you) you should insist that your name is in the documents or you go back to work, make your own money and build your own house in your name.

Men worry about their wife remarrying after their demise and yet some women think there is nothing wrong in polygamy.

EnlightenedSoul:
Awesome. I'm not 'alone', lol.

Def have fun, and happy practicing.

nedu2000:
she's been calling me since monday but her violent rage shocked me,the fact that she cheated seems like a secondary matter all of a sudden. If she had suceeded in stabbing me my matter for dey FP for nairaland God forbid

nedu2000:
chineke how?lolss.........when i got the weapon off her,she started crying blaming me for leaving her for 3months so she got involved with a guy and got pregnant,i consoled her,apologised and left,forever

quivah:
Nigerians are hypocrites .. gosh!!

so you men can't stand a cheating spouse but won't blink twice before putting your deak in every Sandra ruka outside marriage... so you know how exactly it hurts to be cheated on but you just don't care so far you ain't the victim..weak a.s.ses

this same people asking the op to kick her out will tell the 'victim' to exercise patience if it was the other way round.. gosh! most of these men are irritating!

@op its rare seeing a Nigerian man like you ...but its just sad, the other men think you are weak.. its your life, your marriage... but honestly, the woman no try..after a NIGERIAN man forgave your cheating a.s.s , you still went back.. talk about, cheating is in her DNA the ball is in your court.


I wonder why I haven't seen the 'pray, maybe you are not Doing things right, dress sexy, take her out, red boxers,divorce should be the last resort' crew.. oh! maybe cause he's a man!

even @dinachi dropped the divorce card without his usual 'check yourself, you are the reason she cheated' note he do drop if women were the victim thumbs up

only women are to take sh.its

nedu2000:
i returned from a trip from outside the country recently and visited my 'lovely babe' last sunday,na so she tell me say she dey one month pregnant for me,i told her that it can't be mine since i've been away for 3 months,when she realised her 'mistake' she took out a knife and threatened to stab me if i don't accept...........lunatics dey o,i even have a small wound to that effect,i only managed to overpower her

stages:
evening school oh ma sista. I close work and go to skool. 6pm to 10pm. With God's grace I will end in june.

Billyonaire:
What contribution are we talking about here. She has been married for 1 yr and 4 months. What has she really contributed that's worth more than her husband family has been doing for over 30yrs ? Most women consider men sole providers of bread and butter and homes but save their incomes for their cravings and each time they add a coin for rent, they drum home the music of how much they have contributed to the soup of life.

Sophyrocks:
How many widows remarry? How many widows abandon their kids to care for some gold digger? So who told you making your brother the next of kin would prevent your hard earned money ending up in the hands of wh0res or gold diggers? Is your brother not going to get married some day? will all your wealth not go into his own family leaving nothing for your children? what makes you think your brother can take good care of your kids better than your wife being their mother? Have you ever seen a man's brother successfully train and care for his kids better than his wife? Are you sure you are a nigerian and have been on this planet earth? You men who make your brothers kins are actually the dumbest bunch of men i have ever seen. Y'all dnt know how to calculate and are not wise.

Billyonaire:
If you have kids, then your first son should be made next-of-kin. If you have no kids, its natural for a man to make his brother the next of kin. But if you make contributions to the house, then certainly make a baby to solve these issues.

alentyno:
Please don't tell me you believe tallesty1 is a virgin. Dammit you're not even a newbie!

Tallesty1:
I am here.


Saying NO to abortion isn't their crime.

Their crime is fornication and unprotected sex.

EnlightenedSoul:
The CZ!

..........

The more appropriate response would be advising you to rent, and try all those models out for yourself - to get a better feel for your personal fit, and taste. But dang it, in that same breathe, I'm recommending the CZ-75.

Tbh, never would've thunk it, Coco. Be/Stay safe, always.

bukatyne:
That would sound like the woman is handing over the boy abi man to the father completely when she is not a surrogate. Mother

Since the said man did not have a dime as at the time of divorce to claim child support, she should let it go and be happy the child turned to something great

The woman should come and learn from Nigerians; they will guilt.her son to drop his life savings.

Debbiemma:
For a long time we have been speaking, what has changed, nothing has changed. My dear speaking changes nothing but prayers does.

babyosisi:
Gosh this cheese cake tastes heavenly
Cococandy I see you peeping
Next time at cheese cake factory get the red velvet cheese cake
It is fabulous!!