₦airaland Forum

dre11:
What would then happen if the wives now begin to kill their husband for every act of infidelity
Still don't know why these senseless killing when you can easily walk away

Shollypopzz:
Did she say the MIL cooked the food?





I detest a bunch of things about the Yoruba culture and people (I'm Yoruba), so I'm just going to keep my mouth shut before this thread turns into a Yoruba bashing session.

@babyosisi, chilli, cococandy, bukatyne, edwife, freecocoa, mizmicolli, username792,..........over to you!

babyosisi:
I hope I don't sound pessimistic but I need to say this
That daddy has given his consent doesn't mean you are obligated to marry this guy
You are not
If something doesn't feel right at this stage and you have unresolved misgivings about certain things,and nothing can shake it off,this is your chance to bail
If you have to move the dates back to be doubly sure,please do
As long as you haven't said I do,don't be afraid to walk
This is a huge deal,perhaps the most important decision of your adult life

TheRainmaker1:
First of all, on the topic, I'm sure you meant 'fainted', not 'feinted'

What do you mean by 'devalued'

How does a woman struggling with her poor husband to make ends meet for her family constitute being 'devalued'

If she were being maltreated or suffering domestic abuse, I would understand. As it is, she's not being compelled to do what she's doing. So NO, instead of saying she's been devalued, we should sing her praises, as a testament to the strength and resilience of our women.

fallout87:
That is one of the stupidest utterances in this election if it is true.

Does this Buhari not understand inflation? He obviously doesn't understand a thing about GDP or the economy...

Dalai:
I am a 27 year old male living and working in London. Many of my friends back home in Nigeria are now married. I desire something as such as well, but the issue is that, it is pretty difficult - if not near impossible - to meet the type of person I will love to date and probably go on to settle down with, here in London. The type of person - career focused, family aware, strong Nigerian roots- but not stereotyped, religious- but not crazy about it, desires the basic fun things in life like travelling, salsa, adventure - is almost non-existing here in London. I do socialize a lot, and it drives me nuts that you only ever meet a Nigerian lady once in every 20 or 30 social outings. I know in the UK, there is a tendency for people to withdraw and live a convenient but antisocial 9-5 lifestyle. Which brings me to the crux of my entire rant, two questions for UK folks:

1) What is your experience with meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK
2)How best does one improve his chances of meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK

Herzumpther:
Lol. I've not been able to cook but will soon.

I've just been feeling sad and don't know why. I tire for me o. You are rigth about my fears tho.

babyosisi:
The longer one is out of the labor market,the harder to get back in
If one graduates and stays home full time for 4-5 years,what do you put on your resume as job experience when you go searching?
Many employers won't look at the person favorably .
In my profession you may not be able to get a license to practice sef or be made to jump hoops to get one,you may be required to do some exams to prove your competency after being gone that long
The times i moved states I had to justify the gaps in my employment from maternity leave etc to the licensing boards
The good thing about America is the ability to work part time
I worked part time on many occasions
My dream is not to work full time anyway
Praying that Oga will have a big jump in salary so I can afford to cut down to 24hrs a week

fairyprincess:
Why do I have d feeling that the Op is a gay?
@ mimibe ....What's Ur take?

babyosisi:
Had to be
As an Igbo woman I find it so emasculating
That's just me
I'll be ashamed to tell people my husband is a stay at home husband
What nonsense
He will stay home then at night he will turn into a man abi?
Let him go to school for a better career.i will feel better saying my husband is a student than he is at home
Tua
Not my portion

babyosisi:
re : stay at home dads

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/06/05/growing-number-of-dads-home-with-the-kids/

So in essence most stay at home dads are there because they are unemployed or disabled not because they want to stay home
I thought as much
I don't think I will tolerate an able bodied man who wants to be home while I am out working

Wedon:
Biko who watches FATAL ATTRACTION on DSTV?

Na so one woman dey jolly jolly with a violent spouse. He would beat her up, push her down the stairs e.t.c . . . even in the presence of her friends and family.

Talk her down, make fun of her post-partum body, tell her how nobody wants her even her children's father bla bla bla . . .

Still the ewu woman kept him in her life. . .

Untill the foolish man lost it one day and put several bullets through her head . . . and the that of her 10 month old daughter.

Autopsy report revealed his sperm in her . . meaning they had 3ex shortly before he violently killed her and her innocent baby.

So for people who think spousal abuse is normal, una well-done. I will help you plan your burial in advance!!!

hensben:
so one punch equals one stab.hmm..life nor get duplicate oo, make Una take am easy.

milychocs:
I do not agree with you
He reacted and that to me does not count...Newton's Law

Who hurt the other first?
Remember the Golden Rule
He should forgive her, but truly, he is the wronged one here...(they are old though, so)

That he brought in another woman was after the fact
From what I read, I understand the children also believe their mama was wrong....citing his own action was just to have something to cling to
Well, yeah

(Aside, I hate how children esp in Nigeria are pulled like yoyos between two parents who have grown to hate each other...taking sides and hating on one, without really knowing the real picture, cos well, they are not the ones in the marriage.....people should do the honest thing and go their ways....that way, they is a chance at happiness for both parties, there is a chance that the children will get the best out of their parents....instead of being stuck in the middle of hatred...turning out to be damaged themselves, and likely to enter a vicious cycle of the above in their own marriages)

The next thing I will get now from folks is "but divorce is a sin!", and I will just SMH
Cheers


@ cococandy....
......just ignore the name- caller okay ? Like, Jeez