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mya1:
Girl?? :oShe's a woman.A married mother of two including a 14 year old girl.
She does look really cute though.

coogar:
between 33-50% of the women in the survey had orgaśmic contractions while breastfeeding.........of course, doing it for sexuäl gratification makes them sick but it doesn't remove the fact that the whole process is a classic case of child abuse!



this isn't indulgence, these are real facts!



wondered what?
why women can't stop breastfeëding in public? na konjiiiiiii!

Bulkfella:
Thanks so much everyone, your comments have been of immense help, however I don't want to rush things. Reading through your comments yesterday gave me some momentum and drive to call it quit, but as I called her yesterday we had a heart to heart discussion and after I analyzed the whole situation it turned out that I'm partly responsible for the way things turned out. I believe I haven't been understanding enough because sometimes when I call her and she's acting cold she does ask me to call back but I always shout and make it an issue......and also I think what infuriated her was when I sent her a message about all the sacrifices I made just for her and all that she was like, I'm making it look as if She's not worth it and all that, we however ended the whole matter on a light note, she said she still loves me but doubt my love for her, I re-pledged my love for her and she did likewise. I just want to give it my best shot, I think if after now it doesn't work, then I'll be the fool to continue day dreaming........I appreciate all your messages that's why I decided to give an update....gracias!!! ciao!!

bukatyne:
1:1000 is probably in Utopia

Here, it is way way more...

And I know quite a number of men push and encourage their wives to do more and understand that either's success is amount success. I know Omo T's husband and Dora 's husband because of their wives.

A guy here still said his uncle was enjoying because his wife was at home to cook fresh food for him.

I asked If he would like it when all his married sister can be said to achieve is cooking fresh soup daily and he is yet to reply me

coogar:
which mind?
this is why i said you can only speak for thyself. some people are extremely sensitive with their nipplës. it doesn't make them weird.



this is a different analogy altogether.
a baby must feed - genuinely, these women only wanted to feed their kids and they realised some strange feelings while doing it.

a perfect analogy would be you asking your sister to massage you......and in the course of the massage, you started feeling funny.



if one child is abused in the course of brëastfeeding, it's enough reason to stop it.



it's a myth!
kids whose mothers died during labour coped quite well with nan baby formula.

Shollypopzz:
Is this satire??

Are they trying to highlight the stupid mentality that some folks have towards married men cheating? Then, they would be doing a wonderful job.

damiso:
. Wo cooogar I don't have your energy today. are you saying your children are not going to be brea.st fed?na wa for dis kain daddy. There is love in sharing.

I won't lie though I find brea.st feeding any child that can walk & talk a bit weird. me as soon you have teeth and bite me a couple of times,na aptamil remain be that.

coogar:
some women continue to breästfeed their kids until sometimes age 12. how isn't that incëst?

there should be a law that prohibits direct breastfeeding - let the women express their lactose in a feeding bottle & the baby can continue from there.



cococandy, speak for yourself.....

you are ignoring the fact that the nïpples are a erogenous zone. some people get turned on immensely when touched on the brëasts.

In a 1988 questionnaire on orgasm and pregnancy published in a Dutch magazine for women, asked "Did you experience, while breastfeeding, a sensation of sexual excitement?", 34% (or 153 total) answered in the affirmative.

An additional 71% answered in the affirmative when asked "Did you experience, while breastfeeding, pleasurable contractions in the uterine region.

coogar:
why would it be different?
are you guys kidding me? did some 40% of the women in a survey not own up to having sexual urges while they brêastfed? are they aliens?



please - google erötic lactation.
yes, i agree some women genuinely do this to feed their kids but some have taken it as a way to get sëxual pleasure and they fed their kids till they age 8-12.



it's not about my crooked mind
think about it - i have various articles supporting this. some women are super sensitive and they have confessed to orgäsms while breastfeeding their kids. some even mastürbated while they breast-fed. isn't this sexuäl abuse abi women are incapable of abusing their kids sëxually?



it's not different.....
whether it's the baby or it's an adult - a sensitive nïpple would respond to stimuli. while i agree with you that it's not every woman that would find the process pleasurable, close to half of the women population have experienced sëxual pleasure.

i ask again - isn't this sëxual abuse?

In a 2000 study of breastfeeding women, 40.5% of the participants reported feeling sëxually aroused at some point during infant suckling. 16.7% reported being aroused frequently during breastfeeding.

In a more recent paper that reviewed several studies between 33-50% of women described breastfeeding as erötic (and 25% of those women said they felt guilty about it).

edwife, what do you have to say?

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] That's crazy lynching a bomber....coulda tripped the detonator and everybody be blown to hell.. [/color]

coogar:
breastfeeding is pëdophilia.
the brëast is a sexual organ - only the hubby or any other adult is permitted to suck directly from them. letting a child do it is a sëxual abuse on the child - don't pretend you don't know some women get orgäsms via their brëasts.



on the contrary, it disgusts me.
it's a sexuäl abuse. direct breästfeeding is just another way 21st century women use to satisfy their sëxual cravings. formula milk is enough & if the woman is broke, she should express the milk into a bottle & feed the kids.

freecocoa:
Don't take it personal please, the post was directed at many people, sorry if I involved you where I shouldn't have.

danbrowndmf:
But Hez A Gay,Am Very Sure Of That,i Use to Stay closer to there Family House in Lag b4.

freecocoa:
Sophyrocks, Babyosisi, cococandy, flytefalls et el.

You all have done a good job to point out the faults of some MILS, which is actually a true occurrence in many families, now can you also point out some of the things DILS do that also causes tension? You know, anyone who reads the posts from you so far, will likely see it as you blaming whatever goes wrong on the MIL.

I know some ladies who don't pray to have a MIL at all due to all they've heard or seen about MILS, now someone with such a mindset will most likey find faults in whatever her MIL does, should she eventually have one.

Some DILS complain when there hubbies send money to mama, some don't even want mama to visit, I know one who doesn't like mama staying in the living room because she thinks mama smells funny and changes the odor of the whole place, another doesn't see why mama should say what they'll eat, forgetting that it was usually mother, who decided what the family ate while growing up and mama is doing so because she sees herself as the mother, not because she doesn't trust the DILS judgment, also remember that mama most likely had to put up with this when she was the DIL, so she sees it as the right way, eventhough it isn't,only a sensible woman can handle a situation like this well and it will take a lot of wisdom and patience.

My mum used to say that, as long as two people live in a house, there definitely will be tension/misunderstanding, so it is very necessary to apply wisdom in all you do, now mama is from a different generation and will not understand how everything works in our generation, it is only wise to be patient and understand this, my uncle used to say to me "you are the more learned and exposed one, so apply that" whenever I fell out with his wife, who will see it as lazy when I use one of those long brushes that allows me stand almost erect to sweep, than use a normal broom, she feels bending down to sweep is the best way to do it, something like that can cause a misunderstanding between MIL and DIL, with the DIL thinking this woman is too troublesome and MIL thinking, this one is too lazy without actually understanding where each is coming from. Ever since I started applying my uncle's advice, I noticed our misunderstandings reduced.

Many young women of this age, fail to realize that these mamas lived in a different time and are not really used to how life works now, instead of exercising a little patience with mama, they take the approach of "we know better because we went to school" which doesn't always end well, I'm not saying there are no outright evil MILS who just don't like their DILS, those ones are the exceptions not the rule like you are making it seem, I believe there will be less conflict, if each party take out time to understand the other, with the DILS applying more wisdom.

chipmunkey:
Met him once...
You've got no choice but to like him cuz of the way he goes about doing his thing. No forming ...

Tallesty1:
lols.......


I am not heavy sha.


Good morning.

Tallesty1:
Maybe it is a taboo in his village .


Your story is funny sha.


Where is cococandy? Come carry me abeg

babyosisi:
Exactly
Let me teach you another wisdom I learned later
When you are giving a gift make sure mama knows it is from you not us
Very very essential piece
Gifts from us = gift from their son
Na their son give am
When you send them money or anything call them yourself and say mama I want to send you some money for Mother's Day ,this is the PIN for western union.
Na wisdom we dey take do this thing o