₦airaland Forum

CFCfan:
OMG! We're in the same timezone. My brother also lives in Seattle with his family.

opella:
Good morning foodlanders! So many delicious food in here. Okay here are so of mine.
Spaghetti, indomie and egg, rice,meat and stew and yam peppersoup.

Happy birthday cococandy! Just pick one of my delicacies as my birthday dish for you.

Ma'am kimoni the yam peppersoup is for you, congrat on the birth of your dear son.

CFCfan:
Nice view. Where do u stay?

CFCfan:
The exit on my way home from Church

tchidi:
Stew and sauce ready....

Share an Orijin with Tchidi.

chibic:
you know women will always make strong claims that they'll never behave in a particular way or do something which they'll still eventually succumb to when they face the temptation.

anybody can succumb to temptations. Man or woman.

If you don't want a woman to stray,just don't expose her to situations/environments where she'll be tempted/influenced to.Their emotions makes it difficult for them not to yield in this kind of situation.


.and men resist temptations easily? This is a new one. I thought the general consensus was that men have a harder time resisting sexual advances from the opposite sex.

You even said "unless you are sexually attracted to him"..don't you think its possible you can have a boss you feel sexually attracted to? And OP's wife may also be sexually attracted to her boss.who knows?


?yes. Same way she can be attracted to any other man. The only way she can avoid meeting and interacting with men is to stay indoors all day.

Truth is-women normally develope a strong emotional connection with a man they spends a lot time together with.that's why you have office romance everywhere.I know that ALL women loves to have a male boss.now imagine spending most of her hours with the same man,travelling and taking trips together and visiting places with him.hehehe..the man may not be thinking that way but the woman surely will have some feelings for him

such fallacy



.the only hitch is how to express it cos they are not good at that.unless the boss is the type who doesn't respect peoples marriage.he'll make a move and the woman will fall immediately.and it will even be easier if the boss is a very good and caring man.
Forget o! I'm very close to some married women and I care about them a lot and some of them are already misunderstanding the whole thing.some will call to ask me why I haven't called them since morning..imagine? I'm even starting to slow down before I'll divert a woman's heart away from her husband.
@0P
One thing I know is that 80% men will NEVER touch another man's wife.but if her boss is that type,you are in trouble already because their closeness will make it easier for him.just pray he's not that type and your wife will be safe.

in summary you're saying women have less self control than men. Ok I hear you .

OREMUSSANCTUS:
huh, I don't do married women oooo, just saying sha, cos to me its unfair for d man to stay dat long and leaving d poor woman at home and alone.

MistarT:
Coco Ahh!!!.. you're not permitted to be sekszualli attracted to anyone save hubby oo, u see the reason why a soul inferno has to be avoided??

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Have this family friend cum neighbor, the husband traveled out for more than 2 years now all in the name of greener passion. Looking at this critically, the woman is expected to stay put to herself while I know for sure the man will be doing runz over dere, cos he's a runz man. Sometimes, I imagine wad the woman will be going through, 2 years without having sex with ya husband. Also, another family friend of mine, d man has been away for like 5 years, it kips me wondering if dey re superwomen and supermen. Like to hear ya opinions, if it is morally right for the woman to cheat buh left to me its wrong to cheat, kiping in mind dat "body no be firewood". Fellow nairalanders what's ya take on dis issue?

babyosisi:
And many nigerian girls ignorantly go to the pastor to confirm a husband choice or allow the man handpick God's will for them
How foolish
A man that I will be living with to be picked by someone else
Let me not vex much I dey go church

Let me go to redeemed today jare and get my groove on

Oga is out so let me use the opportunity and worship naija style

moca:
Can u imagine?

babyosisi:
Am I sure it wasn't the pastor that saw this husband in a vision

chisom101:
I showed my pastor and his wife the text massage today he warned me never to torch my husband phone again,that I should go beg my husband I don't have any right to torch his phone.

softysparky:
Now this is funny
I have witnessed something like this sha, I visited a family and was offered a bottle of soft drink, the next minute their little kids came in with big cups and I had to share the drink for them. The parents laughed and only said, this children will not kill me.

babyosisi:
I had a thread warning girls about these abroad spouses and some men I suspect were trying to woo and confuse girls in Nigeria came down on me ,very angry
I posted websites where they could check for the man's address,see the other people in the house with same last names,check his marriage and divorce history,criminal records and arrest history etc
The world is so small now thanks to the internet,information is at our finger tips
Almost everyone in Nigeria has a relative or close friend living in the USA,for a small fee they can run checks on this man and find out things about him.
The era of a man telling you he is a pharmacist when he is a cleaner at the pharmacy is over
You can check his state license with the state license board ,online and it's free

MistarT:
Coco can you be strong as not to get swayed by your boss?

babyosisi:
Now that you brought this up, let me share what you must never do sweetie pie
never say yes to the kids when my inlaw says no
I have been there and it's no fun
Children can be very manipulative and if they know you are the more likely to say yes( just like myself) they will come to you for approval of things they know their dad won't approve, you grant the request and the atmosphere in the house heats up for days.
Always confirm what your husband thinks before saying yes
I am not talking simple stuff like should I drink soda,can I eat a bar of candy but more serious stuff like should I go for a sleep over,go for a movie with Daniel and co and you know your husband doesn't particularly like your son hanging with Daniel,or promising them a certain gift or toy that Oga had already said could wait. when they get to their teens and can drive you better be speaking with one voice to bring up well balanced children.

You should always be on the same page with him as far as kids are concerned
My hubby ,like my dad can be very strict and in some things I would really want to go against him to do it and have,it is one if those mistakes,I have made in the past,don't do it,not worth it.
Instead appeal to him in the bedroom,away from the children and advocate for them
If he insists on saying No,that too should be your answer.
You need to present a united front always
Never ever undermine your husband's authority before the children,men don't take kindly to that

thorpido:
You have to start working on that mentally now.Kids always want to have their way even when it will hurt them.
The bible says foolishness is in the heart of a child...........

I love kids a lot but sometimes you need to be firm.You just have to set limits for them and take your mind off the emotions you may have towards those instructions or orders.
I hope your spouse is a firm person.
There is really nothing much you can do about the other spouse who is passive.Often times it's a nature they grow up with.It's important one of them is firm.

A pastor told a story of how he visited a family and while he was sitting in the parlour,their little boy will come and pinch him,laugh and run away.The parents saw him and all they did was say, aww jnr,stop it.The boy came the third tim and this time,the parents had gone into the room.........
He gave the boy a knock and the boy wailed.When the parents came out and said what happened,he acted like he didn't know.

Parents should not be too soft on their kids.

carefreewannabe:
Any positive or negative expectation about circumstances, events, or people that may affect a person's behavior toward them in a manner that causes those expectations to be fulfilled.
An employer who, for example, expects the employees to be disloyal and shirkers, will likely treat them in a way that will elicit the very response he or she expects.


Read more: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/self-fulfilling-prophecy.html#ixzz3SSYDeIaS

A parent who believes that she will treat her kids in such a way that will spoil them, is likely to have spoilt children.

Do you really want to have spoilt kids?

carefreewannabe:
Cocobaby, ever heard of self-fulfilling prophecies?

moca:
Most families I hv seen have d active and passive parent?
How do u make a passive spouse active in child training?

ileobatojo:
That boy has been, or is being sexually molested. A 4 yr old will 100% not do all that on his own unless he has been exposed to very bad things. There is a pedophile on the loose around that boy and instead of beating the boy, you all should get him to confide in you who has been molesting him.

carefreewannabe:
Please don't post his pictures here. It would be wrong. He may have done wrong but he is still a child.

I have never heard something like this in my entire life. The boy needs professional help IF the story is true. I doubt it is true.