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babyosisi:
I think one of the reasons I do threads like this is that I had questions as a young wife in my twenties and times I needed counsel and help from an older person and had no one to talk to.i didn't want people to judge me,spread rumors about us,think I was weak,a bad wife,etc so I kept these feelings to myself and just tried to move on .
We would argue and have disagreements sometimes on simple stuff and I will be so hurt and just wished he could understand my feelings and felt he was insensitive and I could never convey my true feelings.

I am a pretty emotional person so this weighed me down greatly.
I knew he loved me but I felt he didn't show me that or show it enough
At times I even felt he was heartless ,I am being plain here
I made my mistakes,o boy did I make mistakes.

But the good thing is that I learned ,some were light bulb moments
And over the years I have learned loads
The way I handle issues now is totally different because I have matured a great deal
In my quest to change my spouse,I was the one that changed and that change produced the change I craved
I can almost say that we love each other more today than when we first met and it was hardwork to get there



Hopefully I can advise someone ,a young wife from what I have learned,that is the so,e purpose of this thread and the reason I am laying myself bare because I believe in the institution of marriage
Marriage can be enjoyed to the max

juman:
In most cases, the landlady aim might not bad.

You know in africa we pray to achieve almost everything. The place is uncompleted building may be that thing was to make the completion of the building quick.

Sometimes it might be for protection from bad things even it might be against thieves.

One nigeria problem.

Chillisauce:
No problem. That's why you don't take whatever someone says here 100%.
Some of us are drunk
High
Tired
Sick
Frustrated

Etc...

My own case, I was seeing double



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chaircover:
You know something, some of it is salon talk from wives who lie about what and what their husbands do so that it will seem that hubby is richer than he really is. The things I have heard in salons and nailbars

The poster probably hears this frequently and thinks that women contribututing to the family purse is out of this world, when in acutal fact some women are holding the home front up even single handedly

Chillisauce:
I use the menthe leaf as nchiawu. If I don't find it then I substitute with basil leaf.

For pepper soup , it's better to use parsley.

Cococandy, sorry for the uziza leaf scent, basil leaf is used not parsley. I wasn't myself when I typed that

Chillisauce:
It's not even about wiping the region. It's about what the fingers took while doing the chores.

Cococandy, if you must sip that garri, wash it two times with cold water, then add dettol to it to kill all germs

jaybee3:
Dude A
1) There is nothing wrong with him being unsure about taking that big step with you but there is everything wrong in him continuing the relationship when there is an element of doubt on his own part
2) There is a very high possibility that he already has an alternative hence the reason why some sort of doubt has suddenly manifested in him
3) The fact that he is certain about wanting to marry this year but yet unsure on commitment suggests he may never commit to you. When exactly does he now plan to engage you and probably court you?


Dude B
1) He is just an admirer who fancies you but doesn't really know you
2) He is almost certainly clouded by his infatuation cos how else does one think about marrying someone they barely know


The key question here is why are you in a haste to get married?

ileobatojo:
My goodness! This is abysmal. Why would anyone write like this?

IYADARA:
-I dont know where to post this but maybe mod will push it to d right place. we woke up in d night around 12am to some terrifying sounds at an uncompleted building at the back of our window.my husband summd d courage to question d pple only for him to hear dat d landlady who doesnt even leave in d compound is d one doing somethings.i know we nid to pray,but do u fink we shud take any further steps? we saw some blood stain at the entrance of d building............ pls advice

babyosisi:
Yes
I am njide and that is my true life story
We talk about it still from time to time and he always says thank God for that heavy rain
When the rough times come I always remember how we started and the passion and we try to rekindle that because we started well.
The love notes,the letters,the cards,the trips,dinners,planning on our future,picking out names for the children to come
So you see why I cannot understand getting married without passion
It won't work for me
I have to be madly and hopelessly in love first ,maybe by my nature

Chillisauce:
What is this ?
The last time I soak garri was yrs ago. Like more than a decade.

After seeing one old mama piss for road side, carry the same hand shovel her garri back in the basin. I said that's it.

I no drink again.
I can only eat garri with hot water killing all the germs.

Miami11:
Yellow basmati rice,
Mashed potatoes with spinach, corn peas
Chicken with garlic, paprika, yellow, green, red, orange, bell papers and cilantro, baby carrots
Mango juice,
Pink wine
Strawberries
My Saturday special please enjoy, very savory, yummy

Preprof:
Good evening all. I have been following this thread since inception but have not been able to comment. I created a new moniker for this purpose. There's an issue I'd like to table before the house and see what advice I would get.
I'm a final year student in one of the universities and have been in a relationship for about three years. My boyfriend has graduated and is currently serving.
Truth be told, I have always thought that I am in a perfect relationship until I spoke with a friend about what has been going on.
I love my bf to the point that I have made sacrifices for the relationship to go on. He disvirgined me. Whenever we have issues I am always the person that apologizes. He made me change my religious denomination.
Sex with him has been far from pleasurable. I do my best to satisfy him but he hardly cares if I enjoy the act. He craves a bj and I oblige him. He only started getting down on me recently. pre-intimacy is hard task for him and when he gets into me, he climaxes within a few minutes leaving me unsatisfied. I have tried to talk to him about it but he accused me of sleeping with other men. Once, he told me I was acting like a prostitute because I was tipsy due to some alcohol I took.
Early this year, he told all the numbers of guys I have on my phone.
I don't make financial demands on him but he hardly gives me anything. He told me to be content wwith what my mum gives me. He scolded me for making a hairstyle that he considered to be expensive (on top my own money o). I bail him out whenever he is in a fix.
He interrogates me about my whereabouts, who I am with and what I am doing everytime he calls.
I have never really caught him with another girl but I recently saw evidence that he was sexting with a girl. I didn't confront him about it.
I have not discussed my bf with anyone until my friend started asking me about him.
I decided to share this with a larger group so that I can get advice on what to do.
Thank you.

Cc: babyosisi, cococandy

ediwaka:
Una no go understand na she de call me. I don tell am time without number lets end this but she no wan gree.

Herzumpther:
My love for garri. I miss my secondary school.

BTW another spoon biko.

Cococandy I also love garri with palm nuts. Yummy. I keep my banga seed when ever I cook banga soup then I break it after 2 days then use the seed for garri.

chimkaire:
Answer this question, yourself.
Doesn't it sound threatening? How do you explain "when she's finally gone"

I bet your babe can't stand your wife in anyway cos it's often that way for men who stray

Water don pass garri. Be a man, sign the papers like a REAL MAN you are

CFCfan:
Lmao

McDoe:
My girlfriend was asked to strip while I stood watching. The sight of succulent breast alone made the doctor to have serious erection and he ejaculated in my presence when he asked my babe to open her legs for him to examine why she was having slight pains in her 'underworld'. Mehn, I almost pulled the stupid doctor away. Not a good experience, I swear

berem:
School Auditorium.

I couldn't go round the whole school to snap. I went to my former faculty and i met my HOD. He took me round my faculty and i took pictures.

IMSU has really changed after a decade i graduated.

Cc

Cococandy

urchbarbie:
Last christmas, i spent it all by myself in a strange land(jalingo; nysc parole) . When i tot of d long way home, i just relaxed n had fun in my lil home away from home.
1st pix: my meal served m ready to be devoured. I still taste it tho.
2nd pix: had to share for d force men arnd me who culdnt get some1 to make the, special meal dat day

nsydear:
my brother is lying down unconscious. the police had to intervene before he was accepted by the private clinic around.