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Gerrard59:
Those cases are very few and absolutely negligible. The world will always have more men as primary parents due to evolutionary behaviours and female hypergamy. Men out-earn women in most fields of human endeavour. So, men will always be the victims in cases such as these.

They’re not negligible. I personally know at least 3 women (in person) paying child support to their spouse. I don’t even know 3 men doing that. I’m not claiming women pay more. But the ones who pay may be minority they’re not a negligible percentage . Also bear in mind that these huge amounts y’all are hearing only happen with rich and famous people.

Most child support payments do not even cover a quarter of the needs of the child. The custodial parent still pays out of pocket to raise the kid with only a tiny bit of help from the payments the other spouse makes. Sometimes not even enough for food. NL is a spreader of lies. If anyone didn’t know they’d think custodial parents are getting rich off of child support payments.

And also not anecdotal but whenever men seek custody, they get it more than women. I admire how they’ve managed to creat the narrative that they’re being victimized by the court system

By and large, most women who gave up their careers to raise babies always end up with the short end of the stick. They’re the majority. The few who got what could be seen as a somewhat fair compensation for giving up their lives to help achieve his goals are often so loudly demonized it seems as if they’re the majority.

pocohantas:
If truly most men won't sleep with married women, there would have been no measures put in place by same men to ensure their wives don't cheat. From magun to swearing oaths in some cultures. Or is it the DNA cries? MILF?

you know what they say. He who kills with the sword doesn’t let anyone walk behind him with a sword. They know themselves and each other well well

I want to believe it is just to make women think they are undesirable as they age/marry. Which is only applicable to women who they have used gruesome-virtuousness to suck all her nectar or the ones that let go.

This!

If you are an attractive married woman. Preferably the one whose husband is flexing and giving peace of mind, men will approach you. Heavy men, because the younger ones won't have mind to put body.

I said that same thing Onegaì said about a month back and some were arguing with me. I laugh!!!

You know some things are better said by certain people. Anyone else saying the same thing wouldn’t be received the same way. Maybe it’s the delivery 🫢

That’s the narrative you sha want to hold onto

If we tell you now that their wives are cheating too and two can play that game in their world, you’ll find a way to try to dispute it. 😑

Gerrard59:

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That said, with this revelation, I hope everyone agrees that it is hard to find a financially comfortable man who practices strict monogamy aka does not cheat, especially as he ages. Whether home or abroad, it is HARD.

Good luck to women looking for a pin in a haystack.

you can’t fact check someone who’s telling the truth

onatisi:
CNN is a bad source, CNN is anti-trump, and all their comments on Trump are always 100% negative and that is the reason why Trump hates CNN and ABC, many republicans are even wondering why Trump agreed to a debate by ABC and their biased treatment towards trump was proven when they were always fact-checking trump but didn't fact check Harris

radautoworks:
Hey coco, like what I got! Midnight munchies.

Gimme gimme 😋 🤤

Rice looks like it’s made to the perfect glutinous sticky texture

frankson1:
Can you prove to me where I've ever stated that foreign ladies are better

No I can’t. And it doesn’t matter

frankson1:
You don't get it. The witch left him dry after collecting almost everything and only came back for more when he was offered a role in a new movie.

Gibson was warned but he didn't take heed.

Team foreign girls in the mud

So she’s now a witch?

kingxsamz:
The OP is trying to cope because most of what I've seen are people applauding her reaction to his bizarre claim about immigrants eating people's dogs and cats.

I can’t wait to see what their coping mechanisms will be when she wins in November

You know they’re already preparing another “the election was stolen” story.

Her facial expressions were the same as everyone who had common sense whenever trumps said something outlandish like Haitians are eating pets. Or that women wait until their babies are born to have an abortion.
Such bizarre comments warrant such responses because WTF?

Dinner. Mashed potatoes with mushroom sauce, ribs and asparagus

codemaniacs:
If Kamala wins the election then black people globally are finished and destroyed...

🙄

What makes her a gold digger?

Is she not supposed to ask for child support from him?

MrBrownJay1:
i am not blaming the victim... this woman did exactly what all these goldiggers have been doing for generations... they attach themselves to successful men and after having a child with the donkey, they now change to the evil greedy demon that these goldiggers are.

any smart man knows that, although these deluded goldiggers cannot ask for a share of your fortune (thanks to a sound prenup), they are allowed CHILD SUPPORT, if you have a child with them. Tyrese is a damn fool who thought he had a good woman, while she quickly turned to show her true color after having a child with him... now they separated and he has to pay for his child (whether he likes it or not).

he is in no trouble... he still has his fortune, he still has his home, he still has his possession. the only thing he needs to do is to pay child support, something that he knew he would have to do, if/when they divorce. every man who separates from a woman who doesnt earn a lot, has to pay her child support.

jayce232:
This is more than child support!
If it was about child support, nobody will be talking about this issue. Blackmailing & using someone is different from child support. Every money the guy makes, she takes it. That's no longer child support.

Normally the judge is supposed to look at the income of both parties especially the non primary parent and use it to determine the amount of child support owed.

Since she’s not awarding herself this money, I’m assuming the judges did look at his income to determine the appropriate amount.

Is it the same judge in all the court cases? Or are you saying all the judges are biased against him?

As much as NL loves to propagate this story of all western men being oppressed by the system, it’s a lie. Some cases may be unfair but without knowing the specifics, we can’t know for sure.

SmartPolician:
This is why Black guys have stopped getting married. They prefer to have baby mamas and their women are wailing because the white folks hardly marry them too.

Do you think not marrying is going to make a man or woman exempt from child support?

Lol

Rice don done for nairaland men

As if only western men pay child support. Women pay child support too when the man is the primary parent.

People just say anything that comes to their mind. No thought at all

Koppaguard:
It is well, the world would have been a better place without all these experiments and greed for money and power from our elites.

nonny1212:
Chai, this is heart breaking

Some of you will believe anything

Lord have mercy

The reason for the violent episode is that he convinced his followers the election was being stolen meanwhile now he’s verbally admitting that he “lost by a margin”.

Someone who can convince you to abandon logic and reason can convince you to do anything

Alusiizizi:
Actually, Trump won that election, that was the reason for that violent episode. Look at the big picture, the Liberals will do anything to stay in power, fixing elections, attempted assassination, false charges, you name it.

Oh, I forgot to mention one thing, for the first time in history, a Republican nominee is going to win the majority of the black vote. If that doesn't convince you that this Harris character doesn't stand a chance against Trump then nothing will.

t2luv1:
I am still trying to figure out this fascination that the Igbos have for Trump. This Trump guy is from Queens, New York he hates everybody that ain't white.

I’m an igbo woman.
Don’t generalize

Trump has never won any election.

3 million more people voted for Hilary against him.

Get your facts straight

That’s being said, save your analysis for Nov

Alusiizizi:
2016 presidential debate, Hillary Clinton "won" the debate(which turned out to be meaningless given that she cheated by receiving debate questions before the debate actually occurred) and yet Trump won. 2012 presidential debate, Mitt Romney thoroughly trounced Barack Obama and made a fool out of him in the debate and yet Obama won. Truth be told, Kamala Harris doesn't stand a chance against Trump, additionally, Robert Kennedy, an independent that was expected to erode Trumps support base will now back down in swing states and support Trump. Liberals are just wasting their time and money here.

God1000:
In a CNN/SSRS poll, external of 600 registered voters who watched the debate, 63% said Harris was the better performer while 37% went with Trump. Prior to the debate, the same voters were evenly split on who they thought would perform best

What I don’t understand is why the numbers are even like this. If Trump should be getting any votes at all on anything whether it be at the polls, in the election or assessment of debate performance, he shouldn’t be getting up to 20% of any votes.

It shows that a good percentage of the people still can’t be swayed by reason, logic or evidence. I know Kamala will win without a doubt but it’s a scary number of people still voting in favor of this man despite how deplorable he is. Scary

EvilMerodack:
One of the things I dont like to see is about to happen


A female American President .

OMG! I hate this

Do you need a box of tissues?

Basically he killed her and killed himself too.

Africans need to seriously reconsider how we report on the killing of women at the hands of the men in their lives. There’s an ongoing epidemic of femicide that is highly underreported

Honestly reading stories like this affects my mental health. Because it’s hard for me to process that there are people who exist who behave this way. And the added knowledge that there may be people suffering in jails and prisons due to the heartlessness of these kinds of individuals is just too much for any sane person to not have a mental breakdown. What the fvck is wrong with us as a society?

I agree with some parts of your post but the idea that most men will not sleep with a married woman is so not true. Most men will. And do.

kkins25:
It depends on how the values of the woman involved. I'm quoting this comment, but I'm referring to your first one. At face value, it makes sense. However, considering that the OP holds Christian values, your advice seems like the devil's whispers of temptation.

1) Most men will not sleep with married women. So, why try to get her to emulate the behavior of opening her legs for married men?
2) No woman in her right mind with any amount of decent fear of God should be thinking of having multiple side Niggars and have them cater to her needs. What kind of codded prostitution are you advertising? The OP doesn't have financial problems, just emotional ones. So, I don't understand how the "street smart" take enter inside.
3) From the OP's position, she needs to cater to her sexual needs without infringing on her religious morals. So, bad advice from you.
4) I like the "Rich men cheating is really about buying a product," what I don't understand is the willingness to become the "Product." Why the "repackaging" advice to OP? Are you trying to help OP or turn OP into a sperm bank for men who are looking for "products" to empty their Vas deferens into?
5) Are there no divorced men who are also looking forcommited relationships? Why must a God-fearing woman turn into a side chick?

Every advice you've given besides "baffing up and advertising her singleness" is against her morals. Haba! no be so, them they give advice now. It's like advising a fair-skinned lady to buy a makeup kit best suited for darker skin.

Reminds me of my past.

A female student of mine, a while ago, asked me if it was okay to have pre-marital sex, and she was feeling Hot. Bear in mind, that I am an atheist. So, I don't have any issues with anything consensual sex(Aside from sleeping with married men and women of course). I could have told her "Oh, the bible is a sham. Knack as you please." That wouldn't solve the problem. Instead, I had to consider her moral framework. And said, I paraphrase, "Well, you know I'm atheist, so the answer you'll get from me is quite different from what your brothers, parents, or pastors will say."

To cut the story short, I told her that if she strongly believes pre-marital sex is a sin, then she must either do away with that belief or wait till marriage. Otherwise, If both of them were ready (both were first-timers) are came from a place of love then it was okay, and nothing was wrong according to the bible. Of course, a little biblical interpretation was done.

Not that your advise isn't solid, it's just not for the right person.




I think you mean hypergamy. But, I doubt "those babes" aren't marrying for love and that they are "hardened." After all, wealthy men/women are scarcer than social media will have us believe.



hmmm... especially for older men with much younger ladies.But, that one is no concern sugar daddy. Him own an to release and make she go.

If OP sha dey Lagos, she can take your advice. I don't think people love themselves in that state

I’ve missed your posts

Hahaha

Always direct. No holier than those virtuousness.

Stay a while

Onegai:
Hun

Check out adult stores in your location.

Also, go and date. Date, not for remarriage, but for physical pleasure. Meet a man you like, make sure he's safe and discreet and take care of business. Have a guy for chatting and gisting, several guys even. Keep one for business.

Keep serious dating on the back burner for now.

Keep them all from your kids.

That's what men do in your situation and that is what you should do, too.

Move on, m'dear.

And here is the truly beautiful thing (forget, I've seen this happen too many times, I can bet crypto on it sef):

Once you're dating and moving on with your life, that your ex is suddenly going to want to come back, stylishly.

Why?

Because you're peaceful, relaxed and busy. You're not fighting him anymore, you're not bitter, you're not keeping the kids from him. You don't care if he's trying to annoy you or flaunt his new gf in your presence, he is no longer important.

His Limerence and his Mid Life crisis is eventually slowing down. The brain fog in his head is clearing. You're looking good, smelling nice and he can see you through the eyes of other men, you look fu.ckable again.

You're comfortable yet excitingly new.

But please, don't take him back. Don't ever let him come back. If he was dumb enough to leave you, be smart enough to let him go.


And if you think that I'm making this up, that nobody wants a single mum of 3: Nne, go and baff up, do makeup, wear one lovely dress that announces your singleness (you know what I'm taking about, you need heels too) and snap a good pic and upload it to Facebook.

You're about to realise how many of your male uni and secondary school classmates always hoped for a chance with you. And they are usually an upgrade to your ex-man.

The same thing happens with men who were dumped by babes. They stop grieving and start taking care of themselves and suddenly their exes want to come back.

And one last thing: don't feel old.

Mature, rich guys (especially those in Abuja and Lagos) don't like small girls of 24 yrs, they're too young for them. All the big boys, bank MDs, Governonrs, Ministers and Oil big boys are carrying 35 years and older.

Why? Because you're discreet (you have kids, so you're not fighting their wives and aren't planning on trapping them with babies), you're secure in your skin and you're eager for se.x (no need to pretend like you no like am or act like a virgin). Those 20 yr old babes are busy doing Snapchat with him, you, OTOH, have been trained via marriage: you know you will ask him if he has taking his BP meds and listen to him complain about his son's marriage and admire his grandkids. You'll even Like his wife's inspirational posts on IG and be respectful to her. You are not planning on destroying his life, so they are very safe with you.

Na now your market go sell.

I have classmates that are 43, living in a nice flat in Chelsea (UK), being sponsored by people you read about in newspapers. The 25 yr old babes flaunting on IG are for immature Mid Life Crisis guys in their early 40s (who just started collecting N2m/month from an IOC), that want to feel young, all the girls can get is N400k and "thanks" from the serious big men.

Start dressing up and spending 2 hours every weekend on the island, in strategic bars. Something go click.

I am speaking from experience.

Trust me!

I can’t even begin to imagine

ElevationD:
Avery shameful and disgraceful way to dress to her own wedding. Absolutely disgusting and distasteful. Her family, husband’s family and all their friends should be ashamed of her and themselves. Whosoever conducted the wedding should be rebuked completely.

Even harlots have shame. She’s beyond that and definitely has showed herself as ready to commit to the next man who would pay her bills if the husband fails.

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I do find it equally distasteful but dressing like this is not proof that she’ll go with the next man. Just putting it out there.

Some people don’t see nudity as anything. I usually try not to judge but I draw the line at nudity around my food (like all those half naked restaurants styles) or at a formal event like this. Ugh

Candidlady:
Liberalism liberalism

We can't keep allowing madness to just keep sliding by like this..

As crazy as iam somethings dey that Ican never do

This is just madness

Nne it’s her wedding. There’s no question of allowing or not allowing it to slide. There’s nothing anyone can do about it. Except maybe the guests who feel their eyes being assaulted can leave.

Maybe her husband is on the same frequency as her

To each their own but it looks tacky to me

This happens at least once a month or every other month in one part of the country or the other. Yet nothing is being done to ensure safe transportation if such highly volatile liquid

I couldn’t hear what he was saying either

1stGenAmerican:
The fraudster in the video that the moniker posted as ‘proof’ started speaking in Yoruba as the Oyinbo men watched. They didn’t know what he was saying to the congregation, he was manipulating the people in that church. Lying outright from the pulpit. Bringing Oyinbo men there under other pretenses then speaking in his native language that they don’t understand. Intimidation and fear tactics. As for the shameful woman telling lies in that video, she says the police issued a letter—no letter is to be found anywhere. The police had nothing to do with this wahala.