₦airaland Forum

Where’s Iamblessed85 ? Come and blame feminists and western propaganda for this one too

BodyCount:
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In your "next life", to avoid situation like this, avoid premarital sex.

You’re so close to getting the point

She’s too talented

BodyCount:
No one will cry if you're a virgin and you demand so.
Non virgin girls don't have a right to make such Ludicrous demand. You will to sholve it into your your that someone or some men have deposited their genetic information

. Right

Because she said yes to that first guy and it didn’t work out, that means she owes sex to every other guy that cord her way. Logic in the mud.

I don’t expect brain level conversation when the penis is doing the talking anyway

Kobojunkie:
Grow a brain! 🤔🤔🤔

Divorce isn't meant as a power move at all but rather an appropriate response in the case of cheating for your own protection, whether you be a man or woman. 🤔

I said that to him as a matter of fact statement. A statement anyone can agree with.

He just doesn’t know how to dance his way around to saying what he’s really thinking without showing his hypocritical 🍑

Which is that women should be okay with ashawo husbands but men can screech to the high heavens about it when it happens to them.

Na me and dem for this forum.

Orlu13:
dat means u are saying women are nothing but dumbos since anyone can make use of dem anytime

u are a fish brain so no need arguing with u

Whatever you need to tell yourself to feel good about the nonsense you’re saying 👌🏾

Orlu13:
u foolish women always try to be in competition with men....u all will learn d hard way, esp this generation... time will tell

Women don’t need to be in competition with you guys.

You guys are in competition with each other. Running after other people’s wives and girlfriends. You help your bros, your bros help you.

achimendy:
Is the tears suppose to be your concern or the preservation of your body in dignity and fear of the lord??

This doesn’t make any sense

Can you rephrase it?

Orlu13:
I will toil day nd night, after d money I spent in marrying u from ur Father's house..make money nd give u nd u start giving me reasons why u cheated


u are going back to ur Fathers house,. no long talk...I rather remain a single Father dan fr a worthless woman to tell me how to run my house....dem never born u well

Divorce is an appropriate response to cheating

So I don’t know why you’re announcing it like it’s a power move. She can divorce you if you cheat and you can do the same as well. Many people have done it. And they are okay. Life goes on

Kobojunkie:
My belle ooo!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If the world actually ended the number of times these dudes have called for it to end, we would only have a void where our country formerly stood. 🫢

Yet you people will cry blue murder when they tell you to have a relationship without sex

BodyCount:
No reason except the fact that!

YOU MARRIED A WHÓRE !!!

A GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT ALREADY WILL HARDLY GIVE YOU LOYALTY AND FIDELITY, IMAGINE NOW MARRYING A GIVE WITH
+10 BODYCOUNT
A GIRL WITH MANY EX
A GIRL THAT HAS BEEN PASSED AROUND
A GIRL THAT HAVE EVEN DATED MARRIED MEN
A GIRL THAT HAS DONE SEVERAL ABORTIONS
ALL THESE ATTRIBUTES ARE JUST WHAT AN AVERAGE MORE THAN GIRL POSSESS. AND I MEAN IT WHEN I SAY AVERAGE.
IRRESPECTIVE OF CLASS AND RELIGION.

We live in a generation of WHÓRES, failed parents, useless and good-for-nothing girls. Most took this pattern from their irresponsible mothers because if not, WHY DOESN'T IT SEEM LIKE OLD FASHIONED TI INSTILL MORALS INTO CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY GIRLS THESE DAYS?

HOW MANY MOTHERS RAISE THEIR GIRLS TO MARRY AS VIRGINS TODAY?


If she's not a virgin
If she has multiple ex
If you don't know her true BODYCOUNT etc and you marry her, SHE'LL MOST LIKELY CHEAT ON YOU.

SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T RESPECT HERSELF TO THE EXTENT OF SPREADING LEGS FOR MULTIPLE MEN CAN NEVER RESPECT YOU AS HER HUSBAND.

IF YOU THINK YOU'RE SPECIAL, THEN YOU'RE JUST A DELUDED FO0L.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Your many pastors and imams wey dey cheat up and down, na because dem know to use tongue talk say dem regard God? Abegi!

You don’t know the God of Nigerians only likes men

When they do it it’s okay. But when their women do it, it’s the end times

They asked you about missing goods and you proceeded to cancel wedding

They make up these stories for their fellow doofuses to come and e-masturbate on.

ZACHIE:
Yet another made-up nonsense story..

Who would behave so irrationally over a few missing groceries? Who?

ScotHarvath:
Obviously I want my marriage to work.

Somehow I doubt that

Because you picked all the “good” things you said you were doing in your marriage and rubbished them and then tried to get other co-signers on to help you discourage other men from doing these same good deeds. And the only people you’re in agreement with are those telling you negative things about her.

It’s not giving that you want it to work.

ScotHarvath:
Did it occur to you that they are two separate events?

Yes actually I thought about that.

But someone saying you disgust them is not a mild statement or event

So I find it hard to believe she’d refuse a separation seeing as that would indeed be an answer to her prayers.

Not to mention you’re expecting me to believe she told you these awful things simply because you helped around the house, treated her well and made her your best friend like you initially presented in your story.

Nothing happened that led up those deep bitter feelings. Just a good old Nigerian woman sitting in her living room one day and decided “Mmhmm this man is too good. It disgusts me. How can I insult him for it?”

Really 😏🤔🧐

ScotHarvath:
lol, ok thanks

So which is it?

Did she beg you to stay when you called for separation or did she tell you to go that she hates you and you disgust her? The two statements are polar opposites

See the problem with telling tales is that you forget what you said initially.

ScotHarvath:
I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

ScotHarvath:

She said she is tired and wants to go and if I wouldn’t fight for us, I should let her go.

If it’s not that hard, why is it an issue then for you to do it yourself?

The rest of your comment is best for someone who married their servant and not spouse. We know it’s online gra gra

Silentgroper:
she should earn her respect if she wants to be respected.. you don't sit at home doing nothing waiting for husband to make provisions for everything the family needs and expect to be respected.. No, it doesn't work that way.. you don't tell your husband "you hate him" and expect to be respected.. You don't talk back to your husband while he's talking and expects to be respected.. You basically don't disrespect your husband and expect to be respected . Kolewerk ..

It was father's day . He had every right to have gone out with friends/family and stayed out late . It's just a day to celebrate him and he needed to live it to the fullest ...

Making a toast is stuffing things in the middle of two breads and placing in a toasting machine.. Tell me how that's much of a work around 10pm .. if she was that needed to eat around 10pm wouldn't she make something for herself to eat .. like I said op was even lenient asking her to make toast .. if it were me, any food I pronounced that night must made, i don't care how hectic it's ... You refuse, pack your bags and go to your father's house ..

I don't condone indiscipline...

maasoap:
And there are no men that respect their wives? A man shouldn't voice out if his wife is becoming antagonist or showing attitude in the house? If I treat you right, if I play my part, shouldn't I expect you to do the same or I shouldn't complain when you don't?
Any partner who's tired of marriage should walk out of it instead of making life hard for the other partner in the name of woke or whatever

OP could have divorced since.

I’m a supporter of divorce especially when such deep bitterness seems to be between them. Instead he chose to come here to recruit women haters into his campaign of calumny.

Nigerians are simply leaving because naira to dollar/pound ratio is currently absurd. So they figure no matter how little or how much money they make abroad, they’ll cover their expenses and still come out ahead financially (whether that’s true or false is definitely based on individual situations).

But to write this nonsense conspiracy as some sort of explanation as to why this is happening without first acknowledging that financial difficulties is a top reason for the migration shows that this your thread is just another one of y’all’s incessant unrelenting attempts to keep vilifying women on this forum.

Iamblessed85:
Nigeria has never been rosy. If you go back to comments right from the inception of nairaland, you would see thesame expressions of frustration with the state of things, so what changed? I theorize as follows:

1. It’s partly fueled by a massive propaganda machine by the west. It’s highly suspect that the country has suddenly become unbearable at thesame time these western countries are experiencing shortages in workforce, increasing ageing population etc. What a convenient coincidence. It’s well known that the west uses propaganda via media as a means to achieve their selfishness.

Nigeria has never been rosy but now it’s absurdly difficult. Why are you skipping over that part? I promise you the west don’t even immigrants in their countries. Try a different theory

2. This is closely related to point 1. The massive demarketing of the country by sponsored agents is a ploy to lure highly skilled workers to take on blue collar jobs abroad. Imagine how prosperous Nigeria would be if kazeem who is a mechanic has a phD? Imagine if your office janitor is a CFA holder? He would surely add more value to that role. Highly qualified citizens of their country would never take up such roles but they are able to lure immigrants to do this for their own selfish benefit.

You really think western countries have their arms open
begging for immigrants to come in and work? Even the jobs they don’t want to do, they still don’t want you there doing it.

3. Less successful wives of successful men. The new trend is that the children are nolonger secure in Nigeria once the man is the bread winner. These short sighted men buy into the ploy but at the heart of it is just the quest for economic emancipation for the woman, at the expense of the man if need be. A female medical doctor would never relocate to become a carton packer abroad. She would rather tarry till she gets something more rewarding and of equal or higher status. Once she gets this, she has no problem with her high status husband resigning to become a forklifter abroad while she thrives in her white collar job under the guise of securing the future of the kids. I have seen this in my own family. It’s a ruthless game of power exchange.

what I don’t understand is who’s stopping these men from attaining the same goals their wives did.

4. Be careful who you listen to online because there are many anti state actors. Some are members of terrorist groups, others are aggrieved because their candidates lost the elections, etc. An account of the state of things from such people would definitely be different from that of a patriotic citizen. The danger here is, you slowly become what you read and so many people are being converted on a daily basis by those with an agenda. Yes things are hard but it has always been the case.

5. Losers who have squandered their lives. When this bunch were in school, they were the cultists etc and they graduated with poor grades. Unfortunately, their voices are the loudest when it comes to demarketing of Nigeria. You hear them say things like “ Nigeria to the dogs” etc. This bunch would gladly throw thesmselves at any opportunity abroad as a means of escape from their own failure, till they get there and fail again.

6. I refer to this set of people as victims. They aren’t in any of the categories above but they bought the propaganda either due to peer pressure or lack of an independent mind.

My submission is without prejudice to those who migrate for legitimate reasons.

Ah I see. You’re just a political miscreant who’s here to gaslight people and tell them the hardships they are facing under this administration is not real. That it’s only a result of propaganda. Maybe try telling their pockets to magically produce more money when they go to purchase things they used to buy for 500 which now sells for 2500. If you can make their pockets just stretch the money without any increase in their incomes or lowering of cost of goods, maybe then they’ll listen to you and not emigrate when they get the chance

Wha stopped him from becoming a nurse too?

Iamblessed85:
It’s very sad because these women we throw it all away for donot even appreciate us. Check comments from the likes of Cococandy etc on here. Indeed, i agree that women are smarter than men.

This isn’t even hearsay, my cousin who was an engineer with an American IOC left his job because of his wife and is now a care worker abroad while the wife is a nurse.

Would this ever play out if she was the breadwinner in Nigeria? We both know the answer. Men are too short sighted to see that it’s all a means of power exchange. If i hear “securing my children’s future” one more time, i may throw up

tensazangetsu20:
Nigerian women Japa more than the men. They just aren't loud about it.

The way they just yarn useless baseless statistics

Do you know how many women I personally know who have left “good” jobs to travel abroad?

Someone wil just claim one nonsense statistic and run with it and his fellow dweebs will co-sign him on it as if it’s a fact

ABANGWABOI:
Go to Court my dear...

Once again Kudos to the Greek..
💯💯

Taking pride in having foolish uninformed opinions is not the flex you think it is

dominique:
You mean Ivorians, Cameroonians and Somalians voted for Tinubu and Buhari? Did you read the inhumane way they where thrown into the sea? Their hands where bound in zip ties to ensure they won't be able to swim to safety. That's a crime against humanity! As much as I am against illegal migration, such cruel method of keeping people away from a country should be spoken against.

Nigerians will never cease to amaze me at their support for cruelty whenever they get the opportunity . Even when it’s targeted against people like them

I will never support illegal migration.


But these are terribly heartless and inappropriate responses to something this sinister. You’re not edgy or cool for saying stuff like this because you want to appear like you follow the law? I don’t even know what your motives are but this is damn inappropriate

flokii:
Greeks decided to throw them overboard as they can't stay back and develop their country.. who will ask of them now? nobody.

Maxtipulation:
Is it by force to travel through illegal means? The money they used for the adventure could've start up something little that will over the time grow into something

2mch:
Nobody is making anybody do anything. Stay in your damn country!

ABANGWABOI:
And so what ??
Una go take this Kain risk to travel abroad illegally but cannot demand good governance from your corrupt leaders back home in Africa..
Una wan enter another people county illegally.. people wey dn build their own society..
Kudos to the Greek...

naijapips04:
Stay your ass in your country. Why are you going to another man's country to cause trouble?

Insanely cruel

Because he’s a liar who thinks everyone is gullible

He might be right seeing as his fellow men are eating up the lies

UjuJoan2:
Your story doesn’t add up.

If she can say those words to you, and even advise you to cheat on her, what would she fight a separation? She should be the one pushing for it.

If your wife doesn’t love you anymore then leave. Marriage is not a prison, you don’t need to feel trapped.

After yawning.. proceeds to type a bunch of gibberish.

Like I said earlier, pls tell him what he wants to hear. Better yet help him achieve his sole purpose of creating this useless thread. So that all you witless buffoons can gather around and tell other men to stop caring about their wives.

Valwezzy:
Yawns…

You must really take me for your husband, father, and son and think it’s everyone you can attack and insult unprovoked.

Typical lame and dumb uncouth thot🤦‍♂️, You can neither make a reasonable comment nor defend your claims without resorting to insults

It's alright twerp, you've been noticed, I can’t remember hurling insults at you but since you want to be bitchy and petty, I’ll whip you off your pseudo-high-horses because the only positive thing about you is your HIV status.

You’re not worth it, now skedaddle and go continue masking your face with makeup whilst stewing in your ignorance, dumb bimbo!