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descarado:
Don't know why I started laughing
These people are really rilling you up

Nigerians are naturally very loud people.
We always want to show we have arrived.
So we compete with our images.
Who knows, he has drivers for his dogs and clothes. Lol

And you still see people supporting them. Just ridiculous.

I don’t even have anything against domestic staff. But maybe 1 driver? Or two at most since one of them can’t work 24/7. Not that this man even needs to be on the road 24/7. I genuinely don’t get the need for the excess.

Break fast

Blueberry bagel
Spinach scramble

And instant coffee

Gerrard59:
It is a pandemic o. The majority of Nigerian men in that country don't have sense. Lots of refining to do. Honestly, they don't have sense.

Good education and proper parental upbringing should never be disregarded in this life.

Maybe I should stop recording myself when I’m out having fun so they don’t think a man must have paid for it.

I just can’t

Why do you need four drivers? Ewu

Many of you really ignorant that’s all I’m going to say

iamtoofan:
A boss lady who earns and spend her cash won't do some shits, cos na normal level

lets not fool ourselves, % of independent women that take themselves out to splash money is relatively low to command significants.
Women are very very stingy at spending their own money ... most of the time naa Man money sweet blow like new year knockout

If you say so

koning:
. You belong to that class of class that record themselves at Domino's Pizza in Lagos when a man is paying and post it online. I do see a lot of dem hungry girls doing that.

You think every woman who records herself in a restaurant or out having fun must be doing it based solely on a man paying for it?

This is why I’m convinced most of you don’t have sense

koning:
Must you people view everything from a dumbazz feminist angle? .

She's feeding fat on another person's ( a man) money. If she could afford to buy herself such dinner she would not be making a video of it to post on IG. These are actually hungry, deprived girls.

I really detest such girls. I would take a beautiful, young and shapely plantain seller ( I've seen a few on Lagos streets) out than all these fakeazz RUN'S girls. She is now probably dead. Now her suffering ends.

hedonido:
Why can't a woman "not suffer" within her own means... With her own earned money from honest work? Why MUST it be "not suffering" with proceeds of prostitution and selling self to men? I think that's the real issue, but of course you wouldn't see it because of the ashawo blood in your genes.

Oh pls fvck off

You saw picture/videos of her in restaurant and decide she was prostitute. That’s how it works?

I can’t deal with little poverty-minded people like you.

pocohantas:
Something the werey has been doing in the UK. E reach Nigeria turn, they are digging videos from first week of April. Weeks before she met Andrew. Information on IG is that a top politician signed the invitation that let him into the country because he was wanted in the UK. His friend said he is a psychopath, but trust NL logical people to defend anything.

I even heard the 1 million naira fee situation wasn’t real.

Like this girl has been having a long distance relationship with him and then when he visited she chose to go with a friend and told everyone where she was going just to feel safe. I don’t see what’s wrong with that unless men are saying women should stop talking to men at all.

AskNgige2:
After 30yrs staying with her, after my maternal trained me in university, and she could not give me job but she gave many other tribes.. what did the 100m did for me?

Someone else trained you in school
She’s giving you handouts. The money didn’t do anything for you because nothing she gave you in terms of money would have ever been enough.

What have you done for yourself? Or do you just have your hands out hoping everyone in your life will be the one to prop you up instead of working it out yourself and let them help if they so choose?

omoredia:
She has a right to enjoy herself. It should not be an excuse to make light of her disappearance.

These people are awful. They really hate to see a girl or woman not suffering

She gave you 100k and rice and you’re still unhappy.

Na wa

AskNgige2:
I totally agree with..

My Aunt I grew up with in Abuja retired as a director in NCC and she made millions and buy houses all over Abuja and pple were wondering how a civil servant made such money...
With all these money she ddnt help anyone in my family just to give u 100k and send u rice during Xmas..
Later we discovered she was doing all these ritual to enhance her way more in office...

You people really hate to see a woman who’s not suffering

drsibz66:
Honestly which hospital have you seen a consultant sitting down to monitor CONTINUOUSLY any labour.there are junior doctors, midwives or nurses who sit with the woman and report to the consultant. The hospital didn't fail them . The root cause of death is hemorrhage from ruptured uretus. This was always a risk when cs was rejected. Remember a power of attorney was even in place rejecting any blood or surgery.

1)If he’s too highly placed to sit and monitor a laboring woman, He shouldn’t be two hours away when he’s needed. Or a similarly skilled individual such as himself should be available. It wasn’t just labor. It was induced labor. Which he initiated and should have been responsible for.

2) The patient didn’t reject surgery. Pls I’m not going to engage with you if you’re going to be a liar or flat out lack comprehension.

3) Yes the root cause of death was a ruptured uterus due to unsupervised administration of a highly stimulating uterine contracting medication called pitocin. Very irresponsible of this doctor. He caused this sentinel event. He’s responsible

I stand corrected.

And BTW I didn’t assume that you didn’t. I asked if you did because I genuinely don’t know

mediclife1987:
Well you've chosen to listen to the deafening noise of irate Nigerians whenever we go on strike.

While pay is a part of our demands, adequate staffing and infrastructural overhaul tops the lists of our demands, as he who would demand a better pay must prove to his boss he deserves it, which can only be gotten when he has good tools and more colleagues to work and rub minds with.

Unfortunately Nigerians and the Nigerian government would gaslight you till you turn around and blame the doctors and you'll eventually wonder why your friend goes to the hospital and sees no doctor.

Doctors are tired of fighting cause no one would listen to them. Na to hustle and japa remain now, whoever wants to be Captain save Nigeria like poor Dr. Marcus can stay behind.

This should make me increase the tempo for my japa plans sef.

God has been saving me from stuffs like this since 2011, I shouldn't be testing God too much, cos that's what staying back in Nigeria looks like.

In that case private hospitals have to be bound by similar standards as the ones for public hospitals. (if there’s a good standard in the public hospitals)

A certain number of doctors required for a certain number of patients. If a private hospital is found to be in violation, they are fined or even temporarily suspended from operating until they resolve their issue. That’s exactly what will make them sit up

That’s why I said it’s a system issue not the Jehovah witness guy’s fault for his belief. The whole system needs a reboot.

mediclife1987:
And this is what we go on strike for regularly, however to the ire of Nigerians as you know the only language government understands is strike.

Who will fight for this case in a private hospital?

I thank God I stuck to the government hospital I was working in.

Marcus Mbakwe should have left this country a long time ago along with his fellow friends who were in the best 10 (none of them are still in the country).

He bleeped up big time. Nigeria would only kobalize you, nothing more

mediclife1987:
Jesus, this is quite frightening!

When doctors go on strike (which I’ve heard of a few times), what are your talking points in the negotiation besides pay and benefits?

Do you fight for employment of new doctors so that more staffing is available when needed? I can’t tell you the amount of times someone in Nigeria has told me they went to the hospital and there was no doctor. They had to wait for one to come from somewhere. Or if there was one, he or she was usually so busy that they don’t get to see them soon enough.

If you guys don’t already, you really should add it to your negotiation plan. Ask for more colleagues. Nigeria trains a lot of doctors yearly. At least put them to good use before they japa

Well I’m sorry for the guy who lost his wife as well

Being a CRNA also requires high level of intelligence similar to what a doctor is expected to have. At the end of the day, neither of them is being spared right now on account of being intelligent.

I wish your doctor friend good luck and hope this was a big learning experience for him.

There are things we call NEVER events in the medical system here and one of them is that you never put a patient on a medication that can have devastating consequences and leave them unmonitored. Pitocin is no joke. To infuse it into a patient by gravity without a pump to measure the amount being given or a monitor to see how it’s affecting the baby and the strength of uterine contractions in the mom is unconscionable.

He broke a cardinal rule by doing that. Maybe it’s the norm for doctors that work in that hospital system to shuffle between hospitals when on the clock, but they need to put their foot down and say enough is enough.

Safe staffing saves lives. You people need to advocate harder for yourselves, your patients and your licenses.

Now they’re going to throw him under the bus and hang him out to dry.

mediclife1987:
So sad, he was actually working in another branch of the same hospital. Probably in Gbagada.

And to think I wanted to pick a job at the same hospital as a Senior Medical Officer around this time last year.

I'll have been working together with my friend Marcus Mbakwe.

We read together side by side in medical school days.

So sad this is happening to him.

I really pray God sees him through, cos Marcus Mbakwe is a wizard!

He chose to specialize in Obstetrics and Gynaecology to prove a senior colleague wrong who told him he can't know O&G, graduated as one of the best medical students, a renowned resident in training and finished to become a fantastic consultant, and now this

This life sha

You didn’t bother to read and that’s your problem right there

Bye

thatigboman:
madam, when I read the opening sentence and the guy said he was a jehova witness and wanted a bloodless delivery, I didn't bother continuing reading the story because I knew it would end up in tragedy. And I heard CS, I say the story wount end well.
I am not a doctor, don't have certificate in any medical field. The man should take his case to the medical council, I wish him all d best.

ceeceeuwa:
You are getting me wrong,I was only reffaring to the people blaming the man because of his religious inclination.

Okay. Sorry my bad

thatigboman:
u don't know these jehova witness people. Even at gun point, they will never accept blood transfusion. Brainwashed with jik and hypo combined.

Okay but that’s not the case here though is it?

Are you able to dissect your own bias now appropriately?

I’m asking you again. At what point did the hospital provide appropriate care to the wife and all that was left to save her was a blood transfusion which he then refused? Did that happen? No.

Since it didn’t happen, you’re simply saying just because he doesn’t believe in blood transfusions he deserved the death of his wife even though she died from mismanagement and not a lack of transfusion when needed.

g4everybody:
What do u expect from someone who is pained, a trained nurse with a religious mindset....
This is the first time such a news is coming from the hospital. Acclaimed as one of the best in the area.

So trained nurses can’t be religious?

Tell me more. Should I stop going to church then? 🙄

Nothing in his posts suggests that an imminent blood transfusion could have saved his wife and he refused. Everything that led to her death was due to mismanagement of the woman’s case by the hospital staff.

Does he deserve it simply because he’s a religious person? When his religious beliefs did not interfere at any point?

Tell me at what point his beliefs stopped them from doing what they should have done to save her.

I’m going to need some of you to remove your bias goggles and look at what actually happened instead of assuming what you think could have happened based on his beliefs. If this hospital is so awesome, why weren’t they adequately monitoring this patient?

1Sharon:
I agree. It's not even the religious aspect that's my issue, I know they can have the surgery w/o a transfusion.

I know how terrible the system is, it's fvcked up how she wasn't even monitored and how they couldn't even do CPR for the baby. If I was to deliver in Nigeria, I would opt for a CS rather than a normal delivery. At least with a CS, the experts are present w/ you from the start. It's seems w/ normal delivery, they just leave you to your devices. Its sad.

I can see where he agreed to the surgery, but it doesn't seem like he was fully open to it. Why then was she made to deliver naturally? Whose decision was it truly? I know Nigerians have phobias around surgeries. Women that have CS are shamed for not doing like "the Hebrew women" and that's the part that annoys me.

@bold that’s so true for most Nigerians but if I were to guess, I don’t think he’s biased against c section seeing as he’s a medical professional himself.

Just a messed up situation all around. And they wonder why people are quitting and running away. Not even the proper rescue equipment and personelle was readily available

ceeceeuwa:
They allowed their religious bias to becloud their reasoning. Why was there no doctor in attendance for such a sensitive case?

This is literally not true.

Pls go away. I’m not ready to engage with anyone who’s intentionally misrepresenting the facts as stated in the OP

g4everybody:
Hello Madam, please try to hear all side of the story before jumping to conclusion. U wil be shocked when u visit the hospital to hear what truly happened.

Okay. Let’s wait and see what the hospital says

But if his narration is accurate then they killed his wife

Villa12:
you have no evidence that your wife is cheating. Conclusion that you want to divorce shows that you yourself is definitely up to something.

He went on a month long trip to Nigeria. Probably found a few runs girls to play around with while he was there. Now his conscience is biting him and he’s looking for things that are not there.

They said an axe murderer doesn’t let anyone walk behind him with an axe.

This is a clear case of projection. OP confess what you did in Nigeria to your wife and you may have peace

thatigboman:
OK. The baby and the woman have died while they were trying to do it. May jehova rest their souls

No. correction.
The baby and mom died because the hospital gave the mom a medication that caused her uterus to rupture because they weren’t monitoring her adequately. The C-section didn’t kill her. It was an attempt to save her.

Pls

1Sharon:
What evidence? Show me where he was open about CS. By the way, it's not even his decision to make. It's his wife's.

Sis You know it pains me to support a typical Nigerian man.But in this case, this man didn’t do anything wrong. The whole system is broken

They kept administering more and more medications to stimulate contractions when they weren’t adequately monitoring the patient and fetus.

The doctor wasn’t on ground when shit hit the fan even though this was his patient and it was a scheduled induction so he knew they would be there. When you induce labor you have to know that since it’s not natural labor, the cervix may refuse to cooperate at any time and you have to be there to make sure that mom and baby can get to the OR ASAP if needed. This man didn’t refuse surgery if necessary. Why blame him?

I was induced twice and in both cases my OB/GYN was available right there to make sure everything went well. They have a surgeon on hand in case something went wrong with my induction so they could operate immediately. Both the surgeon and the anesthesiologist came and talked to me prior to induction to let me know what they plan to do in case of an emergency. I agreed and we proceeded. If anything had gone wrong, I’d have been in the OR in less than 10 mins for rescue and resuscitation. That’s a system that has their emergency routine mastered and ready to go.

This doctor induced a patient knowing that induction has risks and was in another hospital while his patient was declining. No adequate monitoring for them to even know if the baby was in distress with all the unmeasured pitocin they were pumping into mom.

I know JW have a bad rap and Nigerian men are not it sometimes. But those weren’t the reason his wife died. The hospital failed them:

seborrhic:
Interesting.
So once a woman ruptures her membranes and is not contracting,next step should be to rush her to the theatre for CS?

Can you imagine?

He was in a different hospital while all this was happening

A big system failure.

mediclife1987:
Dr. Marcus Mbakwe was among the best 10 graduating medical student in my set at the Obafemi Awolowo University in 2011.

I was among the best 50.

May God help him out of this, cos the Marcus I know is extremely competent to a fault.

I wonder what went wrong.

Hmmm

Procashtips:
For those trying to blame the victims.

They agreed to do CS. It's in the chat.
. Nigerians, stop blaming the victims!

Thank you!

They just heard Jehovah’s Witness and all their bias let them avoid comprehending the case

overall90:
Jehovah's witnesses??
This is the root cause of the problem.

See? This is the bias that makes me believe a lot of you cannot be impartial healthcare professionals. And it’s absolutely abhorrent