₦airaland Forum

BlueRayDick:
Breakfast: Fried Yam strips + Veggie egg Sauce

henryhemon:
I have personal experience, I know friends n family too, there are stories littered everywhere. 2 our of 20 Nigerian men still bring their wives or girlfriends oversea.

They are wiser and look for an African girl or someone else to marry. Nigerian women are bottom of the ladder oversea, very few wants them. Make your research yourself. They Caribbeans, Mexicans are hotties.

Nigerian men are in high demand because we dey hustle die and we dey knack craze outta of them. They view Nigerian women as liabilities ....they only have brezz n sex to offer which isn't a big deal over there.

sassysure:
Actually, i have thought deep about this case. Yes, the child is acceptable to the family if the man decides otherwise in my place.
The same way children born out of wedlock solely belong to the woman irrespective of who the father is. The family opposite my house in the village had a case like this.
They had 4 kids. Then wifey got pregnant like 12 yrs after the last. News started flying around. Wifey had before stopped the husband from touching her but has a secret boyfriend. So when she got pregnant, she came to her husband but his brothers are already aware and told the man toreject her advances. She was exposed but the man refused to divorce her. She gave birth to a very beautiful baby girl. This man loved this girl more than all his kids. The father is from.the neborhood but has no claim on that child as long as the man is still married to the woman. Actually, as long as you are married, any child you have while married irrespective of who the father is belong to the husband.

We don't reject children at all and we quickly integrate them into the family.
Anybody reading this and say yes will know where i came from instantly.
I dont know how other parts of my tribe does theirs.

The first post I made is a general post but I have narrowed it down to how it is done in my place

A man who gives a woman belle married or not don't get to get ownership of that child. The only exception is when she is still single and the man marry her with the belle. Weird and funny at the same time.
Our tradition and culture protects the female more than the male and we are in Nigeria

Hathor5:
So if I can afford to take care of the child by myself, I can bring it. Ok, good to know.

Kingarthur21:
we are not talking about deception by the woman here.
We are talking about a woman bringing a kid that is not his and being honest about it(my dear husband,when you were abroad , I made a mistake and I am pregnant ) versus a Man bringing a kid that is not hers.
What is the difference?

No one is comparing paternity fraud with a love child because the former is purely deceit! We are comparing a love child from a man and a love child from a woman(with no deceit).

Why do think one is more tolerable than another?

You are woman(except you are a male behind this moniker),you should know better that raising a child is not just a man dropping money. If a man brings in a love child will the lady not nurture,groom and take care of the child?you think flinging cash is more than bathing a kid thrice a day,watching over the kid feeding the kid,,sleeping with the kid when admitted in the hospital(most men cant do such), changing nappies at night etc

As a single father(I am engaged to the mother of my kid though),he came to spend last Christmas with me,it was hell. He will climb everywhere,put my phone in the toilet,switch on the gas,not to talk of him waking up at night severally..I just couldn't do anything, I was tied down. I realised that taking care of a child is worth more than the money I send monthly for his upkeep.


So please concisely state the difference between a love child from a man and a love child from a woman,if both are honest about it!

ibkayee:
It's a horrible thing to go through, I can't be bothered to list why accepting it is difficult, it's pretty self-explanatory, anyone would find it hard...

The issue is despite it being so hard to them, why do a good portion of them so flippantly expect their wives to handle it any better

GboyegaD:
Tried Pizza for the first time. The toppings are: Garlic Parmesan Pizza sauce, Mozzarella Cheese, Pepperoni, and diced Sausage.

diordaves:
This is what we're talking about!!!

Toasted bread and coffee will be the perfect outcome for me.

Well done.
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mydeporch:
I was told d story but am sorry I ain't a good narrator...I understand there are a lot of processes they go thru when handling those things.

lillaowow:
Begs the question if OP was really seeking advice with all these name calling and all.

Eketem:
Indeed. Toxic people both of them no saints here. However on this the man is clearly ahead

Hathor5:
Beautiful! And healthy.

mydeporch:
Two wrongs can never make right. God touch ur husband who used to do graves to consider bringing u abroad and u see it as an opportunity to do payback...ur home should be ur priority. The husband and children are d home o...
I fear our women abroad o........imagine a couple dy helped settles matter between the two and after make-up sex wt hubby, she called the police dt d husband raped her. That was how she got d house hubby mortgaged and d husband still continued paying for mortgage payment
..... The fear of bringing women abroad is d beginning of wisdom for men..

@poster I pray the Universe will favour u and things will fall in pleasant places for you. Be wise in yr decisions next time.

Eketem:
Okay na. They should stay and be dragged like this since it is too much to ask women to take any sort of responsibility for their actions.



The whole thing is so messy the man has them where he wants. I cant stand women who love the position of victim while being toxic themselves.

With the message about wanting to get a british baby madam can kiss her stay bye.

pippimp:
See now. People like you na im de cause the condition called long throatism. A very terrible and crippling condition. Do you know how many casualties there are today?

pippimp:
Let you go hungry? God forbid. I'd rather run backwards in my boxers at night, through a corn field, chased by wild kangaroos carrying AK 47s before i let that happen.

pippimp:
Cococandy food don don ooooo. . . . . . .

ibkayee:
Jelly rice

pippimp:
Yess oooo. She be de very tin. Wouldn't know what to do without her. And thanks.

Hathor5:
I made the cold chocolate cookie cake. My lovely sis-in-law made the dessert in the glass and I will ask for the recipe because it was very very very delicious.

rs172:
So this is what you can come up with from your brain, no be una dey cheer up the ayomidate nii, now dem brong evidence una dey type rubbish

simbated:
In real life, many couples have access to their partner's phone, I think

jumpymonkey:
I know the both of them very well. I am one of those people who warned against bringing this toxic wife cos we got tired of their constant issues. Since the toxic wife decided to create a moniker and her toxic siblings joined in, I have a duty to expose her. If you know what I know, you'd be disgusted. I am definitely biased and on the OP's side. Bite me!

gentlemate00:
Does it matter madam Candy?