₦airaland Forum

sassysure:
You caught him too


He used another moniker to post what I qouted as reply to egunmoji but quickly retracted when he noticed that egun was neutral or more on his side and posted nawa o.

Now he has used another moniker to post the same thing
I have encountered this guy 2017 or 8. So hostile and ready to fight anybody who don't agree with him. He almost ate me alive when I gave a small advice and I just left his thread for him.

jumpymonkey:
The OP has never been arrested in Nigeria or abroad. Post your proofs and lets expose these things in the open totally. The toxic sister of yours has been using law enforcement to harass her husband for a long time even before moving to the UK. She used the National Human Rights Commission in Nigeria to harass him after a minor argument and sent a copy of the petition to his boss instead of directly to his address, just so he could lose his job. This failed as the OP had a good relationship with his boss, and it did not affect him at all. The OP's wife apologised within 48hrs and withdrew the spooky allegations from NHRC as she had no evidence that what she had claimed happened. She later confessed to the OP that day stating that she had been behaving irrationally for a while cos she is cheating on him and this was why she went to the extreme to do this. She asked for forgiveness and called everyone to beg on her behalf, which the OP with a large heart forgave her. I can post all proofs here if you want since it's ''wash your dirty linens in public'' day.

The toxic wife's actions back in Nigeria is what was responsible for her being left in Nigeria for that long (2years) by the OP cos he was scared of bringing such a troublesome wife abroad. It took many people's intervention and the sentiment for kids for him to do this.

J111333:
You have made your point but people like him only focus on the bad treatments they get from people. What happened to the good things he benefited from them? How come he endured the "bad" treatments if he wasn't getting some kind of help?

I understand you but I've stopped falling cheaply to social media trial long time ago and until I hear Jude Okoye's side of the story, I won't believe no body.

pippimp:
Coming from the minister for food is a huge compliment.

ArmaniUhuru:
Las Las no be Lola be the problem.



The Okoye’s are big problems themselves.

pippimp:
Delicioso.

Akposy:
Cococandy. I tried the scone recipe you dropped.
I didn't have butter and margarine..I used oil and about 1 tbsp of margarine. I don't think scone making will work without butter though. It tasted nice sha

Third pics before baking. Don't mind the fish there..I had no oil to fry so I used the opportunity to baked alongside the scones to save gas

Plead:
You haven’t answered his question sha. He’s saying if the woman would be financially responsible for the kids then the man might consider taking her back. Since you asked if the man would take her back if she was the one that got a kid from anther man outside.

jumpymonkey:
Was the woman violent or not in Nigeria and abroad?

Just a simple question.

The system has picked up the real violent person and she is now suffering for her crimes.

Hathor5:
I would choose Cococandy.

Plead:
I’d love to see cococandy’s response to this question.

This is one of the reasons I don’t encourage bachelors to marry single moms in this country because the single moms would be expecting you to be financially responsible for those kids (a responsibility of the real father and herself)

jumpymonkey:
Please direct your stupid requests to the appropriate persons. And if you are not silly, you will not come online to dictate to another man where or how to raise his children. Your opinion was not sought to relocate them and will not be necessary for raising there or where they choose to raise them.

eyinjuege:
I just tire.
They will vilify Nigerian women but will never take accountability for their own contribution in the problem.
How can you beat someone and expect love in return? You cheat on someone and expect loyalty? You can't grow maize and expect to reap yam na.
I always encourage such men to marry oyibo sharparly, and save a sister the drama. At least with oyibo woman, most of those ones who have evil spirit resident in their hearts receive instant deliverance.
As a black man, if you beat oyibo woman you will pay. Perhaps even with your life. It's not as if their oyibo men don't do domestic violence o (they also have a degree in that, and their's too can be very subtle. Naija men are still learners in the art of manipulation of DV cases) , but other men will never support such. You expect to find such practices in men who have been to prison several times, thugs etc, but certainly not a Dr.
Their own men cheat too, but they know the scores that a divorce is imminent if caught. They won't blame anyone else but themselves for their indiscretions.
I'm really disappointed in the OP. He needs to accept responsibility for the part he played in the breakdown of his marriage .
As a Dr, you meet victims of domestic violence including children all the time.
What the feck are you gonna tell 'em? Huh?
When you're the commander in chief of perpetrating it.
Who wants such a Dr to treat them or their family members?
Imagine how severe the incidents with his wife must have been to have involved the police several times and human rights commission in Nigeria.
Anyway, he's taken the right step of initiating a divorce. Get one and move on. They're both not good for each other.

GboyegaD:
Oga, what your wife need is likely a job and not a business. Setting her up for another business is likely a recipe for disaster except she is contributing a large chunk of the capital. Encourage her to dust her resume and find a job she likes.

She doesn't seem to have the resilience of an entrepreneur and isn't willing to sell a job now because of the mindset that there is money and her upkeep allowance is higher than many people's income.

janvier27:
I'm just wondering, loving and living with someone for 10years and you can't accept his children under this circumstance despite his efforts at reconciliation. I hope the husband gets himself together and move on. From wife's comments here, decision seems to have been made. At least she can accept and love the grown up children of the twice married man she knows very well.

NoToPile:
Lool nairaland

After heaping insults and Yabbing all Nigerian women now realizing that the OP didn't say the whole story.

Now that he has been exposed, they can now preach that they should tell the wife to resolve amicably.

Some are even saying the story the exposer posted is a lie but they believe totally that of the OP.

The fact that the OP, and those that countered deactivated after the other side of the story says a whole lot.

OP didn't answer all the accusations leveled against him by the moniker that countered him.

Did he beat up his wife - no response
He had a case with human rights commission in naija - no comment
He seized her phones didn't allow her to work - no response etc and etc.

No response to all the accusations .


Nairaland and drama

eyinjuege:
You were right.
I was almost deceived by the OPs narration of the story.
I also wondered why he just glossed over his own misdeeds by only saying I am not a saint, but it didnt just register in my mind to question it.
This NL sha.
People will just bring up stories and if you hear the other side you will wonder if it's the same story.
Why do people want sympathy or advice from strangers but they won't say the truth but give an embellished version?

Wow! front page....

I read a few comments posted by some trolls who claim they know me and are threatening to update the blog when they have finished bringing me down. Well, if your claims are indeed true, there is nothing to worry about then. Let us all allow an unbiased legal system to deal with the situation while both parties present all evidences they have. It's so funny how people don't know when to advise parties embroiled in a toxic marriage to move on peacefully, instead of triggering them further to take disruptive steps that could ruin the lives and future of some innocent children who were not there when they were happily shagging.

Whoever you are, remember this and inform my toxic ''soon to be ex-wife'' that...

‘BEFORE SETTING OUT FOR REVENGE, FIRST DIG TWO GRAVES: ONE FOR YOUR ENEMY AND ONE FOR YOURSELF'

fidelson:
Quietly Deceive her to Nigeria under that you want to inspect properties you are buying & she should also be signatory, or look for 1 good Excuse, take your time to plan it. Once una reach 9ja, use brain carry her passport Run comot the house, go back abroad without letting her know. Trust me my Uncle almost lost his marriage When he took his wife to U.K. Baby dey hot, she discover she can remarry $ women have upper hand over there, he used this method, went back to U.K, gathered enough money & today he is back to 9ja with his family. Case close

dunk2011:
This your story get k leg..
A friend I know tried it with his wife .. all she did went back to the consulate and get document to travel back..

Badgers14:
E big like say dem just buy phone give you abi? Someone dont buy mb dash you and two of us are online throwing barbs right

Don't say what you dont know, so what you dont know dont kill you... this is a proverb.

Like I told you in my prior response, ask questions to know the real answers.. dont make up a narrative to satisfy your curiosity.

You don't even sound like someone that understands the system abroad and have seen or witnessed real cases. Again live what you dont know alone.

Akposy:
I want the chicken

chlowi:
going theough some comments here ......Nigerian women this , Nigerian women that, coming from people who have sisters at home and daugters or wd soon beget daughters ....... the bashing of women (Nigerian) in this forum is out of this world .........we all would be alright

lightangel65i:
Another idi0t ignored

Goalnaldo:
why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.

Ryan03:
its always the wives that becomes toxic. Lol

Sharmeenator:
The bolded is the real reason. A man can still cheat on the low without disrespecting you. But give a man a deserving respect and pampering, you will get the best out of him. He might still cheat, but you will be a jewel he would admire for the rest of his life. Women need to understand this. A man needs pampering and respect, not just sex or being a good home maker

Thanks for that piece OP

Badgers14:
Dont judge a book by the cover... you sound like a lady.. women advocate shebi

I wish u all the best but dont pray your brother marry a vulture woman, a saint in Nigeria but mesmerized with watching too many realty T.V comes to yankee and turns Jezebel.. madam you sef will be calling for her head in a platter!

Badgers14:
I hope you had a conversation with a divorce attorney prior to filling one.

Not sure which country you reside or which state (if U.S). Sometimes the situation might even be worse when you fill for divorce, like if you have to share your property 50 50 and pay spouse support... she will take half of your property and will never get married again or even want to work because the spousal support will stop.

This is one of the reasons why divorce is sometimes bloody... check OJ Simpson.

People are upset the woman is trying to reap where she did not sow... clean out the guy and guy man don't want to smoke back from ground zero...

Not admiring the bloody divorce tho..
I know a guy that went through this one time.. he kept calm played along, have his men dem in 9ja hype up the lady, around one of the holiday season sent a car to Nigeria told the let's visit home, she gave her a list of what to buy for her and for her whole village..dude purchased all...

On arriving to Lagos after clearing the airport... he took away everything from her including her passport, and filed for divorce in Lagos... this was a very carefully laid out plan...it was an ambush. She was served paperworks the same day she landed in Nigeria. That's all he needed, to serve her the paperwork, she thought it was a joke... she was a no show during proceeding and divorce was granted. It costs a bit a of money but wayyy less than he would have spent in the U.S.

Again, not recommending anything just a story on how people go crazy during this divorce process and also to ask questions prior to filing, like questions on how to come out on top...

People that live in communal property states, some intentional rack up debts , re mortgage the house, like taking off all the meats in the bone then file... knowing that they would lose the bone but again they have securer to "meat" to help them back up from ground zero. It's all about planning.

Cheer up my guy, I have heard so many of these stories from guys in the U.S and Europe and it's not even funny.

Dyt:
Take one each