₦airaland Forum

SugarGirl44:
You're right. I never knew narcissism existed until I dated a grand patron in it.
I literally turned into a psychologist overnight, reading up stuff and trying to know more about the behavior. Those people would make you lose your mind and if you try to leave them, they'll frustrate you to the point of death. I just thank God sha.

mediainc:
Na wa for these people, even in Australia, they imported their barbarity.

seanery:
NO BE MUSLIM

Focusmind:
The more I read this kind of news, the more it dawns on me that I still need to do a lot of work on my daughter. The girl child seems easily deceived into love. Parents should continue to provide the emotional and physical support, especially to their girl child and teach them what relationship is all about to avoid falling into the hands of demons that calls themselves boyfriends or lovers.

Candidlady:
This same Ogun state ?

See the woman face... This tr!be very ugly set of beings... She looks like that wacko musician with the weird hairdo... Portable aka minini

Keinbock:
Dear Brothers and Sisters,

The aim of this thread is to help our brothers and sisters , wey don finally japa, get their german citizenship.

I got mine after 3 years and more than willing to share with you how i did it.
If you have any personal experience with this, then you are more than welcome.

Were you married to a German citizen?
Let's go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lessons123:
Dear Nairalanders,

Sequel to my thread about me investing over 30 million in my wife and she is ungrateful https://www.nairaland.com/6756674/wife-ungrateful.

Yesterday I asked her I wanted to check her phone and she started to delete some email messages and when I asked her to show me as it was still in the thrash yet to be fully deleted she tried to jump off the balcony of the two storey building.

I called my parents as she said she wanted to jump off and commit suicide, she said if I leave the balcony for her to use her phone she would not commit suicide.


We managed to drag her back and then she asked that she wants to be alone in her room and speak to her dad, we allowed her as we knew she was going to delete the email.

Nairalanders please what do you think she is up to please, bear in mind that I also observed she records our conversations when we have issues but that had been settled. I am still in the Marraige but sincerely I am shocked, this her move was really extremely sinister. Please advise me on my next steps, though I have started some already.

YinkaOlusesi:
It would be our people in another land.

Munzy14:
I can't can...

A time will come when men in these countries will avoid women totally..

And if they have laws to protect the LGBT community, Then, gay marriage will be on the high side.

Just A hug and kiss o, he will be absent for a whole three months...This is purely frustration...And it happened because he was reported by same person...smh

LuchiBianca:
They don't do cray on pregnant women. Don't worry

Zetra7:
It's very simple, If you voted for Buhari and now campaigning for Tinubu..


Now mental problem is not a bad thing, you just need help.

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

PrinceOfLagos:
I'm Yoruba and the future king of Lagos

Stop this name calling and respect your future king

Karlovych:
Adekenji Francis!! They've taken their skull ministry to New York city, the worst part is that the corrupt DAs will still let the useless criminal out on bail, spits.

InvertedHammer:
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Nothing is wrong with your brother. There are many Nigerians living that way. They are more concerned with validation than being good. There are many people throwing money at occasions that find it difficult to pay their gatemen or drivers at the end of the month. Some men curry attention like their lives depend on it. It is an internal problem. Rendering assistance to immediate family will not bring the accolades they cherish. They only give when people will notice and praise them.

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Dailyparrot:
We have been suspicious of my brother's lifestyle for many years now and recently, his wife is reiterating our suspicion.

We are suspecting my brother of either being possessed, or someone did some juju on him or he belongs to a secret cult based on these two behaviors.

1. He does not like rendering help to his immediate family members but extremely generous outside.

2. He can sleep with anything that has vagina including old, young, fat, slim, beautiful, ugly, single and married women.

My parents gave birth to many children but unfortunately my dad died very early leaving my mother to take care of the responsibilities of the family.

This made my elder brothers to leave home on time to learn trade. Luck smiled on my elder brother and he made money very early. Less than 2 years after he did his freedom, he got his first car and started building his duplex immediately.

Since that time till date, he has only become richer and richer and richer.

We never received any financial assistance from extended family members because their thoughts is that my brother is well to do so we don't need help but the reality is different.

As rich as my brother became, we continued the petty family business that was very stressful until all of us left home to either university or marriage before my mother stopped the business because it is not what she can do alone.

My brother never cared for my mother. That's the one that pains me the most whenever I remember the incident of the past and how my mother died in the local village hospital while my brother was at home drinking and entertaining visitors.

My brother would come home for Christmas and pay 6 months electricity bill for every one in our community while giving my mom 15k. He never wants anything to do with us. For him to give you money, you really need to explain what you need the money for and that doesn't mean you are getting it immediately.

My secondary school classmates thought I came from a very wretched home not knowing that I have a brother that is extremely financially buoyant.

The number of people my brother brought from our village to Lagos to set up are more than 10 that we know. These people ended up bringing their siblings to town and establishing them as well. That is to say that my brother has lifted a lot of families out of poverty but never his family members.

One of my brother was having difficulty in his business and the best that my brother could do was to ask him to park his belongings to go and stay in the village with his wife and children. If not for my intervention that I used 1.9 million to set up a business for him to be repaying me monthly as he sells. This is an amount my brother will never ever give any of us for any reason whatsoever. He would rather gift you 100k to put in your business and go about telling people how he has helped you but you have refused to grow the business. Please, what can 100k really do for a business man?

In fact, I can't type all that we have experienced with my brother who's supposed to be our source of upliftment.

For those that will say I should go and work and entitlement mentality thing, all I typed here happened in the past when we were still dependent. None of us demands money from him anymore as we're all independent financially now.

But recent happenings brought back those memories. My brother and his wife.

We thought that his wife and children would enjoy his money since they are entitled to it but we were wrong.

My brother has several duplexes in my home state and in Lagos yet he lives in a rented two bedroom apartment. In that two bedroom apartment, his children and house boys (boy boy) share the same room and this is not the well developed part of Lagos oo but it's closer to his market.

My brother can afford to buy land in the place that they live and build standard 3 storey building and give his children a good sense of his wealth but he will never do it.

When the wife asks him for money for hair, he will give her 5k. If she sees a hair that she likes that sells for 50k. My brother will bring out calculator and divide 50k by 500 and tell the wife that that money is enough for him to cut his hair for the next 10 years.

The children don't dress well like people whose father is super rich. He got an SUV that the wife drives which made people think that the wife is enjoying but inside that woman in the SUV is an unhappy woman that wishes she can turn back the hands of time so she could marry someone else.

Sadly, the wife can't even complain to us because she took advantage of the way her husband was treating us to treat us badly when she got married to my brother and considering the fact that my brother was the supposed bread winner. Well, we can't be dependent for life.

Now, the cock has come home to roost. She's enjoying the husband "as is".

Billingslord:
some yoruba are just stupid wasting your money on people who hate your people with passion.
only a fool who believe ibo don't want tinubu because he is old or allegedly corrupt, it is because he is yoruba nothing more.

I will rather vote turgi bello than any ibo man

gidgiddy:
I always laugh when Yorubas say that Igbos invaded Ore. This was the same Yorubas that the Northerners invaded their Regional government house in Ibadan and killed their military Governor, Lt Col Fajuyi

This was the same Yorubas that the Northerners chased their son that was supposed to be President, Brigadier Ogundipe, out of Lagos and put in Gowon that was much junior

But when Ojukwu sent out a Biafran Army led by a Yoruba man called Banjo, to chase the Northerners out of Lagos, that's when Yorubas felt bitter? I laugh in Chinese

Igbos cannot quit Nigeria through their elected representatives when it will be all the elected representatives in Nigeria that will vote on the matter

gidgiddy:
And yet they will be amongst the first to pick up gun to fight for 'one Nigeria' if Igbos declare Biafra tomorrow, just like their father's did

Alba3:
Time for Yorubas to draw a boundary. Failure to do this, the whole world will see Yorubas as fools. How can Igbos who have been giving overwhelming support to Atiku, even begging him to contest now hate Yoruba person so much? Is he holding them back from contesting? Time to banish any Yoruba person that sells land to Igbos; time to banish any Yoruba governor/political office holder/man that will give any appointment to Igbo person.

This people don't have monopoly on hatred...