chccho:

So u want to make me a super man

Haha...had to laugh at the way you put it Only with your cooperation, of course. It has to be a change YOU are willing to make.
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Same principle applies to the general topic. Sex is a very powerful force in marriage - indeed a force for material success, but the couple needs to ALIGN to fully harness it. That's what the OP and her husband are missing.

chccho:

Can u assist me in getting a good,beautiful and God fearing lady? I want to settle down!!!!

No I can't do that, but I can help you become the kind of man no God-fearing lady can resist

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Hi Juliet! Came across this thread and felt compelled to respond. I recently assisted a couple of friends who were having a similar challenge in their marriage. You can PM if interested (this is at no cost to you, just felt concerned). For now I'd say there is no problem without a solution. Cheers

dayokanu:

Most of the time the children are in school from 7am till 4pm. What would you be doing at home during this time?

Washing plates? when there is dish washers or washing clothes in this age of washing machine so what would you be doing? Gossiping?

Well Mr Dayo if you read my post thoroughly and with an open mind you would have noted that there's always stuff to do at home. Aside from caring for a family there's a ton of DIY projects to keep busy with. I run my Internet business from home too. As for gossiping, permit me to speak from a personal point of view. I hardly have the time to look for people during my productive hours. And hello, kids are not always in school you know. I understand you are concerned about the woman wasting away at home. Trust me, the way technology has made business global, there's no reason any woman can't work from her home, use her God-given talents and brains, command some chips and still be involved with her family. I don't want to miss my kids' milestones for anything, and in this day and age, I have every reason not to!

^^^ Seconded!
It beats me when folks say they will be "idle" at home - there is ALWAYS so much to do! For me, TV is like 30 mins of catching up with news with my nightcap just before bed. Husband, kids and the house itself all require regular maintenance . Now staying home doesn't mean you can't have a home-based business. I believe every hardworking woman needs an outlet where she can be economically relevant. But not as a priority over running her family! Pro. 31 17-18.

I especially loved PS I luv u (though it was short-lived ). All those detective series - Matlock, Jake and the Fatman, Derrick, Damsey and Makepeace, Moonlighting (Bruce Willis!). Diagnosis Murder, The Investigator. Father Dowling Mysteries. I think some of these series spanned across from late 80s to early 90s. Awww TV was so much fun back then

Any man who doesn't want a housewife / homemaker because she will be "riding for free" is not a real man. Such men blatantly deny their God-given responsibilities and usually end up losing the respect of their wives (look all around you). As someone put it, a homemaker works HARDER than an office lady - her job is 24-7. Some of these women still work part-time/have a home-based business besides! She is supposed to "ride for free" in her HUSBAND'S HOUSE because she is your WIFE (your help-meet). By the time wordly thinking comes into the matter, you get statements like that from men (who show no love and no leadership abilities - deal with it, guys!). Please ladies, AVOID SUCH MEN!!! Secondly, to answer the question, no lady should have a job/career that deprives her of her primary role as nurturer of the family.

Awful. Most unfortunate comments. God help us all.

All this confusion is as a result of the Western style of life Nigerians have chosen to adopt. But, as actions speak louder than words - I studied two kinds of SUCCESSFUL marriages around me - first those those that have lasted 20+ years. In those marriages, the wife is primarily responsible for cooking, while it was optional for the husband. As one of the wives said to me, "It's not a question as to whether it's my turn to do dinner or his. We are both busy people, but I wouldn't expect my husband to go to the market and cook dinner. He would do it as a surprise on occasion - if he feels like it!" This trend is what I observed over a period of many years (in many happy homes) before settling down myself. Secondly, marriages that have lasted 10+ years (we can call these relatively "modern" marriages, career women and all). Same thing - and in fact, another wife from this generation said to me "Before marriage i hated cooking. But the love I have for my husband and my home made me go back and learn, because I understood that the success or failure of my marriage rested mainly with how I ran my home." My own sister has been married 21 years now, and though she is a successful career woman, she has managed her kitchen the whole while (with a few breaks when she was ill/gave birth). Ladies, let's look around us and learn from the BEST examples if we want the BEST. The Westerners do NOT manage their personal lives well (check out their divorce rates). Nuff said, folks!

The couple need to sit down and weigh their options. That the man is not earning much now doesn't hinder his future potential (I say this from experience). But more importantly, the lady, though she has landed this neat job, needs to candidly ask herself which comes first - marriage or career? Both of them then have to MEET HALFWAY. That's what marriage is about. I wish them the best.

Oh no, no, no. She is the same girl talked about in this blog post from 2 years ago!

http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/articles/sylvester-ojenagbon/they-call-it-nevus-13.html

Dear God, please help her!

May Jehovah God hasten the return of this sweet child and deliver her from the snares of evil, amen!

I was discussing this with a friend who feels very strongly about the issue of BOTH dad and mum far away from the children all day; she says the persistent absence of our mothers is taking its toll on the children of today. Just the other day, a colleague had to rush out of the office after receiving a call that her child's nanny was trying to kidnap the baby! Please, it's not just because of "ember months", terrible things are happening everywhere and we all have to play our part in protecting these innocent ones. Parents should make arrangements to have at least one of them close to the children at all times; it is hard, but parenting is about making sacrifices for our children. There are many who are doing it here in Lagos, so the issue of harsh economy does not come in at all. May God help us make wise choices and continue to protect us all!

Reading his posts and following the tribute threads showed what an impactful individual Bawomolo truly was! At 21, he had touched so many hearts in so many ways. What is particularly painful is the way he exited. I can only pray for strength to all those he left behind.

Death is NEVER a pleasant thing, especially in someone so young and obviously talented. Though we can never predict some events, we can take preventive measures against them (e.g. drinking alcohol before driving). The important thing now is to learn the lessons here and apply them to our lives. It's NOT the time to be judgmental about Dagrin because the eternal destination of this man is already in God's hands; like some have already said here we should focus more on our own direction because as Rom 14:12 rightly says "so, then, each of us concerning himself shall give reckoning to God".

my folks would always watch all the obituaries after the NTA network news, they did this unfailingly. i remember once asking them why, they said they "were just catching up on old friends"! LOL! it's funny cos they knew most of the deceased folks even back then!

i remember the never-ending inflows of newspapers and magazines - read every single one! it was a quarterly ritual to sell off to those "paper mallams". i remember my dad going off to meet the guy with his own ruler! and me in tow with stacks of publications. the only ones we didn't discard were TIME magazines and Watchtower publications.

i recall the pains of missing out on "secret of the sands" because dad wanted to watch 8pm news. it was bliss whenever he came back late from work - mum would be worried, but i would be happily watching the tv program he would otherwise have made me miss! (naughty, huh?)

dad always insisted on sending me off to bed by 8 on schooldays and 11pm on weekends (right after "Moonlighting", which we used to watch together on friday nights). one friday night, he fell asleep on his sofa and of course i watched tv till past 1am! when he woke up, he was shocked! he chased me with alacrity and i sped off to bed, full of chuckles!!! unfortunately, he banned tv viewing for the next 2 years! (still wondering how i survived that!)

sadly, all the "family life" was just a mirage.    

The most motivating ads for me are the 90's Toyota ads - "yoi shinai, yoi kangai" - good thinking, good product. Motivates me to be the best and produce the best in all my assignments. I especially remember the episode where a thief broke into a Toyota plant at night to steal a ride. He managed to bypass the security guards but as he moved along the wall of the plant a motion sensor in the nearest vehicle got it moving until it trapped the thief against the wall! Good product!

"Disvirginalized"??! Kai, see English! LWKMD!

Contd - Ps 34:19 tells us God's position on our trials. Anyone threatning sincere believers to tithe or face consequences is clearly not speaking God's mind and is not reading their Bible. Giving is a blessing and must be done with joy. God's pleasure is with joyful gifts and not money paid out of fear of "divine" reprisal. Which gift would YOU appreciate more? What more God! My battery is low, i shall conclude later with why just dropping money in the church is not enough, why having "faith" about what we give is not what God desires of us - from the Biblical standpoint. Cheers!

Wow! Tithing always makes it to the front page! On my part, i look to the Bible- God's Word and final authority (2 Tim 3:16). When Paul wrote to the zealous Corinthians he reminded them God loves a cheerful giver. How much giving does God expect from us? Just as much as we decide. (vs 6).Our giving should be as "gifts" just like Paul advised (vs5). Generousity is blessed by God with the capacity to give even more. (vs 10). God will NEVER visit calamity upon a person for not giving or for any reason at all. Why? He is Love (1 Jn 4: and love harbours no fear. (1 Jn 4:18) God delivers us from calamity and does not cause adversity for any reason. (Jas 1:13). That He allows it doesnt make Him the cause (did He cause Job's suffering? Or allow Satan try him so Job's faith could shame the Devil?) - TBC

Interesting thread. You cannot underestimate the love a woman has for her children - you need to have kids to find this out! However, ladies NEED to understand that the HUSBAND is the one you have the COVENANT with. Next to God, he is your HEAD. This means that next to God, he is the MOST important person in your life. It is true that men are not perfect. I won't come on here making a case for the perfect man - because he simply does not exist! But guess what? Neither does the perfect lady exist. No one said the road would be easy, as a wife or mother, for any lady. But YOU made a promise to stick to your man, for BETTER or WORSE. Many do not realize the import of those words - we stick around when the going is good, but he makes a mistake and POOF! We're off! We are custodians of these kids - the family arrangement is so that kids can be brought up in an enabling environment. but who are the stars? YOU, dears, and your HUSBANDS. I haven't seen anyone say that if their kids misbehave they will leave them, hmm, yet they are NOT the ones you have a blood covenant with! Let's think about it, Imagine those kids are 25 years older than now and married with their own families, would they leave their spouse/kids for you? NO! I LOVE LOVE LOVE my kids, but my husband is PART OF ME. For as many husbands as have messed up, there are many wives who stood by them and forgave them (and vice versa!). They are not super human. Hillary Clinton. Can you imagine the pain and anguish she must have felt? Is she a fool for sticking to Bill? Just do your own part, ladies, leave God to judge all of us separately for our actions! (P.S. If you need inspiration, read the story of the Biblical Hosea and the harlot he married!). Cheers!

Just a few thoughts on this. It's not surprising that dishes are a hot topic. It reflects the underlying principles in marriage and relationships today. Men need to understand that it goes beyond pride and egos. Ladies too need to understand that it goes beyond being romantic. This thread shows a lot of both sexes are still missing the point! What do i mean? Let's reverse the scenario. The man has been working on the family car, and needs to fix a tyre. He needs help in bringing the spare tyre over. He asks the wife/lady to help as he needs to man the jack. Ladies, would you carry the tyre? Bear in mind it's not your usual task. We are here to support each other, sometimes you will need to step out of your comfort zone. That's what love is about. It goes beyond romance or pride. It's only concern is WHAT IF IT'S ME? WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BETTER FOR YOU? Remember the Golden Rule. This issue wouldn't even become a hot topic. Personally i understand that he's had a hard day at work. We talk issues out over dinner when he gets home. But i know that washing up is not his prerogative - besides it takes less than 10 mins. If he is so inclined he joins in. But i never ask him to. Just like he never asks me to do manual stuff like repairs. I join in if i like. We respect each other's territory - does it make one of us less important? No! Stay blessed everyone.

To all those who say God abhors the drinking of alcohol- 1 Tim 1:8 - moderate your drinking, 1 Tim 5:23 - health benefits of wine. Those who self-righteously DISTORT the word of God are no better than liars, who God hates . I laugh at the character who said wine is not alcohol- what is it then? Fruit juice? Open your eyes. Read educative books and journals. Stop imposing your narrow minded views on others, Pastors wannabe. Scripture tells us to moderate our intake. Why did God allow His Son perform the first miracle based on alcohol? Stop twisting God's holy word just because it sounds offensive to you!

A very interesting thread indeed. And quite insightful too. Personally i've always liked the GUS concept. It's about a lot of things, not just physical strength. The Ultimate Man/Woman is about bravery, focus, determination, strength, intelligence, passion for excellence. To be the ultimate, you must be the best at everything you do. This is what GUS is all about. How far you are willing to go to put in your utmost and be rewarded with the prize. Quote me, there's NO EVICTION since season 1 that didn't have a reason- lack of a vital quality of the Ultimate Man/Woman. If you check very well you will see. Our problem is that we blame tribe for every one of our problems- this thread has shown that well. Back to Wale- he's not the most controversial or even the most annoying contestant we've seen on GUS. So i'm amazed that the first thing someone will post is that his eviction is tribally motivated. It's people like you who don't embrace the concept of one Nigeria, and then blame others. If we're all truly one, would it matter whether the winner came from the west or east? Ask yourself, poster. Many blame the organizers for being tribalistic when it is YOU who is looking at tribe. Honestly, with attitudes like this i don't see this nation moving forward at all. Wale's deficiencies were so glaring for all to see, yet you blame his eviction on tribe. How myopic of you. Let's analyze this- Wale was clearly a poor leader. He blamed his followers for not going along with him, yet he refused to carry them along. The Ultimate is a team player, Wale was not. Confidence is good, but confidence which belittles others around becomes arrogance. Wale was arrogant. NOBODY liked him. Even the girl who stood up for him admitted she was aware of these bad qualities. He didn't care about others at all. When Chuks was punished, Wale only added to his misery. Wale has no human feelings. He is manipulative, self-centred and arrogant. The Ultimate is none of that. So poster, if you want to fault his eviction, use a valid argument and stop blaming it on any stupid tribe reason.

Happy Independence anniversary all! Inspiration fm begins official transmission today- check out 90.9fm. Have it on good authority that it's a gospel radio station, owned by none other than Intercontinental big man himself, Erastus Akingbola. D concept is novel- only time will tell how well received it will be. Erastus himself is a Redeemed pastor, and a partner for GSAF, the ministry behind the popular free devotional(which, by the way, you can obtain at ANY Intercontinental bank branch). Again, Keith was sacked, not based on listener feedback per se, but because of perceived racial malice towards Nigerian staff at Cool fm. Management is working hard to keep this station afloat, wish them well- biz must go on. Personally, i think it's a good time for them to infuse fresh and hot talents into their system-the listeners would move on with the flow if they get this part right.

@bruce, it's that way because they had a very bad experience in the past where they trained some new recruits, only to lose them to another bank(name withheld)! in fact, this new bank didn't have to spend extra money training that set of people. why do u focus on only those two requirements out of ALL the stipulations in that document? it says you have to provide a surety who has at least 1 million Naira (any respectable relative with a job or good business should have that amount, if u look at it critically, it's not so outrageous a condition); this is to ensure that you don't run off from them within 2 years and cause them loss over your training, etc. you must have been told that training is 4 months intensive, with 30k transport allowance, free lunch everyday and free gym registration. try to be very objective when next you present such topics for deliberation in the house, i'm sure Nairalanders will appreciate that.

@ajadrage, that's a very nice one there. no, i know 90% of the guys there were looking for a "life partner", but i focused on the important thing while i was there- seeking after God. it's easy to get distracted, but i thank God for everything. i certainly wouldn't hang out with a brother who has ulterior motives! The purpose of this forum is just what it says- to look out for those i spent time with, and possibly reconnect with them again- both brothers and sisters. thx for ur kind comments, but i'm happily single for now, and if God desires me to continue this way, i ain't got no problems wit that. stay cool!

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Hey!! Is there anyone on this Forum who served in Edo State recently and was a part of the NCCF (Nigeria Christian Corpers' Fellowship)? Let's get together again -- really miss u guys a lot- so if u're out there or u know someone who was close to the HOUSE OF SHARON, please let's reunite!! Special Holla to all the "Epas", "Uncles", the Excos etc.

I Love this family of God!!

Hey!! Is there anyone on this Forum who served in Edo State recently and was a part of the NCCF (Nigeria Christian Corpers' Fellowship)? Let's get together again -- really miss u guys a lot- so if u're out there or u know someone who was close to the HOUSE OF SHARON, pls let's reunite!! Special Holla to all the "Epas", "Uncles", the Excos etc.

I Love this family of God!!

24 has a much more suspense-filled storyline, but prison break is definitely more captivating.

No one can beat the suspense in 24- it's amazing how they take your emotions on a roller-coaster with every single episode! however, i must confess i love prison break's plot better -its impossible possibility, if u follow me. both series are tight, though i feel the viewer can relate easily with the protagonists in prison break. cheers