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I am a mid level officer in a marketing company. I oversee 5 other colleagues. One of them is a close relative of the owners/directors of the business. She is always loafing around; not doing her tasks or when she does, it is poorly done. At every opportunity she is pulling down the team with negative comments. Recently she has had four strong (and false) allegations against me with the aim of getting me sacked and taking my position - she is my deputy on our function.
All efforts to talk to her to do the right thing has failed, formal reports on her does not sail through to disciplinary committee as my boss does not have the courage to axe her - obviously because she is related to the owners of the company. What advise would do you have for me on how to handle her, I am getting a bit frustrated as I know 2 hardworking members in my team have been asked to leave the job at the end of the month due to "their inability to meet target" - this is false, they actually met target but we are compelled to cut salary cost, whilst this lazy lady is retained.
The workload on myself and the third staff would be dire as this lady is not configured to work! How do i cope ... I am tempted to resign at times, particularly when my boss twist our performance records to reflect that she is meeting her target when she is not. Please help.


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I always think my dad is the best in the world, he is so loving and caring. It never crossed my mind he could have a skeleton in his wardrobe. I thought he is absolutely faithful to my mum but alas am totally wrong! I'm an undergraduate and I have a friend who stays opposite my hostel. She introduced me to a friend of hers, Kunle. One day my friend and I visited Kunle and he brought out his pictures for us to see. As I was going through them, I saw a man that looked exactly like my dad in some of the pictures. I couldn't believe my eyes so I asked him who the man was, he said the man is his father. I asked him more questions about the man and his family and from the answers I got from him, I was able to establish the fact that the man I saw in his pictures is actually my dad but I didn't let him know my relationship with "his father". I was shocked. Does my mum knows about it? But if she does she would have told me. This is sheer unfaithfulness from my dad and am not happy.


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I always think my dad is the best in the world, he is so loving and caring. It never crossed my mind he could have a skeleton in his wardrobe. I thought he is absolutely faithful to my mum but alas am totally wrong! I'm an undergraduate and I have a friend who stays opposite my hostel. She introduced me to a friend of hers, Kunle. One day my friend and I visited Kunle and he brought out his pictures for us to see. As I was going through them, I saw a man that looked exactly like my dad in some of the pictures. I couldn't believe my eyes so I asked him who the man was, he said the man is his father. I asked him more questions about the man and his family and from the answers I got from him, I was able to establish the fact that the man I saw in his pictures is actually my dad but I didn't let him know my relationship with "his father". I was shocked. Does my mum knows about it? But if she does she would have told me. This is sheer unfaithfulness from my dad and am not happy.


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I Have been a victim of serious betrayal in my life by my fellow lady friend. She revealed to my fiancee that I was philandering with my boss during our NYSC year, at Abuja and that I even procured an abortion for her,poorly undertaken by a doctor, which unfortunately led to my excessive bleeding and eventual damage and evacuation of my womb.. My fiancée of 7years called off our marriage plan, after revealing my escapades and details of the doctor that miss operated me,while I was serving at ABUJA.That was 3yrs ago. Till date,I remain single,,while both of them have since separately married and moved on with their lives!!. Fellow ladies,beware of divulging much information about yourself,to your friends. Had I known!!!


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What is the worst betrayal you have ever had to go through from someone you trusted very much? What was your experience on that? And what is the worst betrayal you feel you have put someone through? Someone who really trusted you? Join in..

Pastors are vessels of God, no doubt about that, they are to be honoured and respected, but not to be feared because the Holy Bible instructed us to fear only the one that is able to destroy both body and soul in hell fire. And I believe there should be a limit to the extent at which a pastor infringes on his members’ privacy because my pastor’s infringement on my privacy is becoming too unbearable. Of course am very comfortable, I have a good job and a good car and am in my early thirties. Am not the flashy type but I like good things of life and am a cooled-headed man. I don’t belong to any department in the church but I make sure I donated whatever I can to any contributions being made in the church. Of recent, during the preparation for our youth convention, we were to donate #750,000 towards a certain project which the youth were to undertake. Although each youth was to contribute #5,000.00 but I felt the urge to do more, so I donated #250,000. My pastor got to know of this, he sent for me and prayed for me. I thought that was it, but it didn’t stop there. He called me one day and asked about my marital life, I told him am into a serious relationship, though am yet to propose to her but I intend to do so. He asked if I have prayed over it, I told him I have a strong conviction within my spirit that she is the one for me. My girlfriend doesn’t attend our church, after service one Sunday, my pastor called me again and said he has been praying for me and asked for the name of my girlfriend that he wants to pray over it, I reluctantly gave him. I told a friend of mine all this scenario, he said maybe the pastor wants me to marry one the choristers. Maybe his daughter? Of course he has a 27-year-old lady that is the choir mistress but I am not
interested in her, she is not even my type of woman, though she is beautiful. I also noticed recently that she smiles at me more often which I sometimes ignore. He is yet to give me his feedback concerning my girlfriend and he now calls like thrice a week, asking about my movement, schedule and all that. His daughter also called one night “just to say hi”. Am getting fed up of this games and I have not told my girlfriend about it.


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On July 10, 2015 President Muhammadu Buhari announced 50% pay-cut of
his salary, with the vice-president Prof Yemi Osinbajo following suit. Though the number one citizen made it clear that he will not force any minister to do the same, but he expects them to make the same “sacrifice” he made.
Buhari’s current salary is N14, 058,820 per annum while that of Osinbajo is N12, 126,290 per annum. But of what significance is this salary slash to the significant plights of the average Nigerian on the street who needs feeding, clothing, housing, good health care etc.
Even if all the governors, senators, members of House of Representatives, ministers and other political office holder slash their salaries, how does that solve the insecurity in the country? An average Nigerian is living below a dollar per day. Many villages and towns are without the necessary social amenities like electricity, water, access road etc.
Will slashing of salaries stop money laundering? Will it tackle corruption? Will it guarantee good governance? Will it provide jobs for the unemployed graduates? What about other largesse accrued to the political office holders from the president to the least adviser?
According to Ebonyi State governor, Dave Umahi “slashing of salaries is not enough to stimulate the desires development in their respective states. More sustainable programmes that will make states more viable
and productive should be implemented and well monitored.


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I’m a 27-year-old lady and my husband is 31 years. We got married four months ago, we attend the same church, we even met in the church and we are both active. He is in the ushering department while am in the choir and we are both born again. Am telling you all this for you to know we are not babies in the spirit. Our courtship was sex free, as you know now, no touching, kissing nor romancing. We seldom visit each other at home due to our church strict restriction on that. And when I do I never went beyond his sitting room maybe if I had done otherwise, I would have known about this before now. Our wedding ceremony was great and we settled down to marital life. Two months after, my husband has a cause to travel out of town, it was on a Saturday and I decided to clean the room as I was re-arranging the clothes in the wardrobe, a parcel fell on my leg, at first I ignored it but on a second thought I picked it up to check what was inside, I received the greatest shock of my life, my husband has been watching pornography! The parcel actually contained different porn movies. I felt sad and dejected. I tried to check his laptop if he has such things there but it has been pass-worded. I didn’t confront when he returned and I pretended as if nothing happened. That night I took his phone when he was fast asleep and searched through it, behold he has porn movies on his phone too! But I still kept my cool. I had to let the cat out of the bag when one month later he asked if I like MouthAction and he want us to it give a trial. He said watched porn movies so that he will be able to satisfy me in bed. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I told him I can’t indulge in MouthAction. He has been pestering me for this. How can I engage the same mouth I use to pray, to speak in tongues in MouthAction? Since then he has been behaving funny. He keeps to himself; he is not even interested in making love with me and I’m yet to get pregnant. Is this right? Doesn't feel right to me.


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I’m a 27-year-old lady and my husband is 31 years. We got married four months ago, we attend the same church, we even met in the church and we are both active. He is in the ushering department while am in the choir and we are both born again. Am telling you all this for you to know we are not babies in the spirit. Our courtship was sex free, as you know now, no touching, kissing nor romancing. We seldom visit each other at home due to our church strict restriction on that. And when I do I never went beyond his sitting room maybe if I had done otherwise, I would have known about this before now. Our wedding ceremony was great and we settled down to marital life.

Two months after, my husband has a cause to travel out of town, it was on a Saturday and I decided to clean the room as I was re-arranging the clothes in the wardrobe, a parcel fell on my leg, at first I ignored it but on a second thought I picked it up to check what was inside, I received the greatest shock of my life, my husband has been watching pornography! The parcel actually contained different porn movies. I felt sad and dejected. I tried to check his laptop if he has such things there but it has been pass-worded.

I didn’t confront when he returned and I pretended as if nothing happened. That night I took his phone when he was fast asleep and searched through it, behold he has porn movies on his phone too! But I still kept my cool. I had to let the cat out of the bag when one month later he asked if I like MouthAction and he want us to it give a trial. He said watched porn movies so that he will be able to satisfy me in bed. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I told him I can’t indulge in MouthAction.

He has been pestering me for this. How can I engage the same mouth I use to pray, to speak in tongues in MouthAction? Since then he has been behaving funny. He keeps to himself; he is not even interested in making love with me and I’m yet to get pregnant.

Is this right? Doesn't feel right to me.

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I’m a 27-year-old lady and my husband is 31 years. We got married four months ago, we attend the same church, we even met in the church and we are both active. He is in the ushering department while am in the choir and we are both born again. Am telling you all this for you to know we are not babies in the spirit. Our courtship was sex free, as you know now, no touching, kissing nor romancing. We seldom visit each other at home due to our church strict restriction on that. And when I do I never went beyond his sitting room maybe if I had done otherwise, I would have known about this before now. Our wedding ceremony was great and we settled down to marital life. Two months after, my husband has a cause to travel out of town, it was on a Saturday and I decided to clean the room as I was re-arranging the clothes in the wardrobe, a parcel fell on my leg, at first I ignored it but on a second thought I picked it up to check what was inside, I received the greatest shock of my life, my husband has been watching pornography! The parcel actually contained different porn movies. I felt sad and dejected. I tried to check his laptop if he has such things there but it has been pass-worded. I didn’t confront when he returned and I pretended as if nothing happened. That night I took his phone when he was fast asleep and searched through it, behold he has porn movies on his phone too! But I still kept my cool. I had to let the cat out of the bag when one month later he asked if I like MouthAction and he want us to it give a trial. He said watched porn movies so that he will be able to satisfy me in bed. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I told him I can’t indulge in MouthAction. He has been pestering me for this. How can I engage the same mouth I use to pray, to speak in tongues in MouthAction? Since then he has been behaving funny. He keeps to himself; he is not even interested in making love with me and I’m yet to get pregnant. Is this right? Doesn't feel right to me.


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Hello everyone, no need to bore you with long stories so I will go straight to the point. I'm a mother of four (two girls and two boys) and am happily married. Am an Accountant by profession, chartered and my husband is into business which takes him out of the town most times, although he spends quality time with the kids and I anytime he is around. We are comfortable and my husband and I ensure our children are well provided for which gives no room for unnecessary enticement from their friends, that is not to say they are spoilt-brats as we only provide their needs and not just wants. Though we spoilt them with gifts at times. My first child, Joyce (not realname) is 15yrs old and she is just done with her WAEC Exams. Of recent her siblings confided in me that Joyce goes out everyday and won't come back until evening, like one or two hrs before my return from office. As you all know the issue with Lagos traffic, I do get home around 7PM or 8PM daily but am always at home during the weekends except I go for shopping. To confirm what her siblings told me, I left my office one day and came home around 10AM, lo and behold my daughter was not at home and she didn't even call to tell me she would be going anywhere. After waiting for about 45 minutes, I decided to call her cell phone, which she didn't pick until the fifth attempt, I asked her where she was and why she didn't pick up, she said she was in the living room and her phone was in her bedroom, this saddened my mind the more. I told her to give the phone to her siblings so I could say HI to them also, she went flat and later dropped the call. I called her back, she didn't pick, I tried again and when she picked I repeated the same thing, she then told me they were playing somewhere in the compound not knowing that they were with me in the living room. So I decided to stay until she returns and she came back around 2PM, on sighting me she almost dropped dead but gave me the excuse that she just went to buy something in the neighborhood. I made her realized that I've been at home since 10AM and even called her from home. I sat her down, talked to her, counselled her and told her to be a good example to her siblings. She felt sober and asked me to forgive which I did. I really thought she has changed not knowing all my advice fell on her deaf ears as her siblings called me few days ago in office that she has resumed her going out everyday, just a week after counselling her. I talked to her every night but she is giving sleepless nights and is already affecting my work because my children are my life, they are the one am laboring for. Their dad is currently out of the country and I have discussed the whole issue with him over the phone.


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I met Tom a year after I was divorced from my ex husband. My marriage to my former husband was filled with bitterness and pain because my ex was a complete bully and was a psychopath. It was by the grace of God I was able to survive that marriage because I cannot count the number of times I had woken up in the hospital with a broken rib or a swollen face. When I was finally able to leave the marriage, I had made up my mind to stay away from men completely. I even made up my mind that I wasn’t going to get married again, though I was still young as I am only 37 years old but with the experience I got from my ex I told myself that I was not going to put myself through that same experience again. I had met Tom at a friend’s birthday party. He was a complete gentleman and a very handsome one at that. He had a very good sense of humor and had us all laughing throughout the party. So when my friend, the host asked me to drop him off after the party I agreed. That was how we became friends. Tom was married and lives with his family in Lagos, but comes to Warri often because he has a contract with one of the oil companies here in Warri. Tom and I became very close, he will always check on me whenever he is in town and on my own part I found out that I was completely lonely since I didn’t want to commit myself into any relationship, before I knew it, Tom and I became an item. I was comfortable with Tom because he was already married and would not want any commitment or marriage which I was scared of so when he asked me out I didn’t turn him down. I found out that Tom was a total contrast from my ex hubby. He was a very caring and loving man who really knows how to love a woman. He loved his family to a fault and he told me from the beginning that he had no intention of leaving his wife or hurting her as the case may be. Since I have resolved within me that I was not going to get married again I have thought to myself that I may as well start bearing children. I made up my mind to get pregnant for Tom. I told Tom about it, that I want to get pregnant for him but he should not be afraid that I am not going to bother him with the responsibility of the child and even if he does not want the child to bear his name I am okay with it. I am financially able to raise the child on my own, so he doesn’t need to be afraid that I want to destroy his home or anything like that. However, I have noticed that since I told him, Tom has refused to come to Warri. I am determined to go through with my plan whether he likes it or not. I honestly do not want to destroy his marriage, all I want is just his child. Do you think I am wrong?


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I met Tom a year after I was divorced from my ex husband. My marriage to my former husband was filled with bitterness and pain because my ex was a complete bully and was a psychopath. It was by the grace of God I was able to survive that marriage because I cannot count the number of times I had woken up in the hospital with a broken rib or a swollen face. When I was finally able to leave the marriage, I had made up my mind to stay away from men completely. I even made up my mind that I wasn’t going to get married again, though I was still young as I am only 37 years old but with the experience I got from my ex I told myself that I was not going to put myself through that same experience again. I had met Tom at a friend’s birthday party. He was a complete gentleman and a very handsome one at that. He had a very good sense of humor and had us all laughing throughout the party. So when my friend, the host asked me to drop him off after the party I agreed. That was how we became friends. Tom was married and lives with his family in Lagos, but comes to Warri often because he has a contract with one of the oil companies here in Warri. Tom and I became very close, he will always check on me whenever he is in town and on my own part I found out that I was completely lonely since I didn’t want to commit myself into any relationship, before I knew it, Tom and I became an item. I was comfortable with Tom because he was already married and would not want any commitment or marriage which I was scared of so when he asked me out I didn’t turn him down. I found out that Tom was a total contrast from my ex hubby. He was a very caring and loving man who really knows how to love a woman. He loved his family to a fault and he told me from the beginning that he had no intention of leaving his wife or hurting her as the case may be. Since I have resolved within me that I was not going to get married again I have thought to myself that I may as well start bearing children. I made up my mind to get pregnant for Tom. I told Tom about it, that I want to get pregnant for him but he should not be afraid that I am not going to bother him with the responsibility of the child and even if he does not want the child to bear his name I am okay with it. I am financially able to raise the child on my own, so he doesn’t need to be afraid that I want to destroy his home or anything like that. However, I have noticed that since I told him, Tom has refused to come to Warri. I am determined to go through with my plan whether he likes it or not. I honestly do not want to destroy his marriage, all I want is just his child. Do you think I am wrong?


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Good afternoon to you all on confessionsnigeria. Am here to seek your advice. Am sick and tired of always having headaches. This started since I was little, then I used to take phensic a headache drug that calms it down. I have been suffering from this illness since then and now am 23 years old it's now worse it transformed into migraines it's worse now and it's happening everyday. I have visited my doctor and he gave me some drugs but its not still reliving apart from the drugs my doctor gave me I've been taking a drug that calms it alot and it is called Dulveran!. These days I take it everyday because of how I feel always have constant migraines it's not funny at all the drugs don't work as effective as it does before am tired. This illness doesn't let me focus at all and surprisingly I hardly have other illnesses. Please I need an advice on what to do to stop this please help me!!!


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Good afternoon to you all on confessionsnigeria. Am here to seek your advice. Am sick and tired of always having headaches. This started since I was little, then I used to take phensic a headache drug that calms it down. I have been suffering from this illness since then and now am 23 years old it's now worse it transformed into migraines it's worse now and it's happening everyday. I have visited my doctor and he gave me some drugs but its not still reliving apart from the drugs my doctor gave me I've been taking a drug that calms it alot and it is called Dulveran!. These days I take it everyday because of how I feel always have constant migraines it's not funny at all the drugs don't work as effective as it does before am tired. This illness doesn't let me focus at all and surprisingly I hardly have other illnesses. Please I need an advice on what to do to stop this please help me!!!


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I work in the sales department of one of the leading manufacturing companies in Nigeria, and recently I have been promoted as a stock controller in one of our branches. However, on resumption of duties in my new place of assignment I carried out an audit on the stock available so as to get myself acquainted with what is going on in the branch. On carrying out this assessment, I found out so many irregularities in the books. I found out that the stocks were not balanced as at when due and there was a huge shortage as regards what is in the book and what is available. On further investigation, I found out that the sales personnel have this attitude of not fully declaring what has been sold. In other words they tend to keep the money for their personal use and pay back when they are able to. This is what has caused the irregularity that I saw in the books. Presently, there is a shortage of close to Four hundred thousand and when I traced it, I was able to pin point the sale man that was responsible for this. When I confronted him with the books, he honestly appealed to me that he actually used the money to offset his wife’s medical bill when she delivered through caesarian section and that before the end of the month he would put back the money. I felt pity for him and understood his action, but this was against the company’s policy and if they find out about this it will lead to the sack of so many people, including myself. I was made to understand that this is what has been going on and they have been getting away with it. Right now they see me as a spoil sport since they know that I am not ready to play ball. I am not ready to take the fall for somebody else’s misdemeanor. My problem right now is that if I should escalate this, it will lead to the sack of this man, but on the other hand if our auditors should find this out, I will also be shown the way out, although it will take a careful person like me to see these irregularity when the account is finally balanced, but if they do find out just like I found out, I will be an accessory to the crime and that is what I want to avoid. On the other hand, I don’t want to sack somebody from his job, so what do I do?


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I work in the sales department of one of the leading manufacturing companies in Nigeria, and recently I have been promoted as a stock controller in one of our branches. However, on resumption of duties in my new place of assignment I carried out an audit on the stock available so as to get myself acquainted with what is going on in the branch. On carrying out this assessment, I found out so many irregularities in the books. I found out that the stocks were not balanced as at when due and there was a huge shortage as regards what is in the book and what is available. On further investigation, I found out that the sales personnel have this attitude of not fully declaring what has been sold. In other words they tend to keep the money for their personal use and pay back when they are able to. This is what has caused the irregularity that I saw in the books. Presently, there is a shortage of close to Four hundred thousand and when I traced it, I was able to pin point the sale man that was responsible for this. When I confronted him with the books, he honestly appealed to me that he actually used the money to offset his wife’s medical bill when she delivered through caesarian section and that before the end of the month he would put back the money. I felt pity for him and understood his action, but this was against the company’s policy and if they find out about this it will lead to the sack of so many people, including myself. I was made to understand that this is what has been going on and they have been getting away with it. Right now they see me as a spoil sport since they know that I am not ready to play ball. I am not ready to take the fall for somebody else’s misdemeanor. My problem right now is that if I should escalate this, it will lead to the sack of this man, but on the other hand if our auditors should find this out, I will also be shown the way out, although it will take a careful person like me to see these irregularity when the account is finally balanced, but if they do find out just like I found out, I will be an accessory to the crime and that is what I want to avoid. On the other hand, I don’t want to sack somebody from his job, so what do I do?


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I work in the sales department of one of the leading manufacturing companies in Nigeria, and recently I have been promoted as a stock controller in one of our branches. However, on resumption of duties in my new place of assignment I carried out an audit on the stock available so as to get myself acquainted with what is going on in the branch. On carrying out this assessment, I found out so many irregularities in the books. I found out that the stocks were not balanced as at when due and there was a huge shortage as regards what is in the book and what is available. On further investigation, I found out that the sales personnel have this attitude of not fully declaring what has been sold. In other words they tend to keep the money for their personal use and pay back when they are able to. This is what has caused the irregularity that I saw in the books. Presently, there is a shortage of close to Four hundred thousand and when I traced it, I was able to pin point the sale man that was responsible for this. When I confronted him with the books, he honestly appealed to me that he actually used the money to offset his wife’s medical bill when she delivered through caesarian section and that before the end of the month he would put back the money. I felt pity for him and understood his action, but this was against the company’s policy and if they find out about this it will lead to the sack of so many people, including myself. I was made to understand that this is what has been going on and they have been getting away with it. Right now they see me as a spoil sport since they know that I am not ready to play ball. I am not ready to take the fall for somebody else’s misdemeanor. My problem right now is that if I should escalate this, it will lead to the sack of this man, but on the other hand if our auditors should find this out, I will also be shown the way out, although it will take a careful person like me to see these irregularity when the account is finally balanced, but if they do find out just like I found out, I will be an accessory to the crime and that is what I want to avoid. On the other hand, I don’t want to sack somebody from his job, so what do I do?


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My elder brother and I are very close. He is older than me with four years but you will hardly notice. We share the same friends and practically do everything together except women. My mother had just the three of us for my father before she passed on; we have a younger sister whom I am older with just two years. Some years ago while I was still in the university, my brother had this girlfriend he was going out with. Initially I used to like her a lot because she really knows how to cook and take care of the house. Then my elder brother had graduated and had started working. I use to think this girl was really a home girl and a wife material. Not until something happened. I had gone to see my friend off campus on this particular day and while we were in his room gisting, a girl came out from the bathroom with a towel tied round her chest. My friend ask if we could go outside to give his girlfriend time to dress up since he was living in a one room self contain. On a closer look at the girl in question, I found out it was my brother’s girlfriend who he was proposing to marry. I was so shocked and couldn’t hide my emotions by calling out her name. She was so shocked as well to see me. That night she started crying and begging me not to tell my brother. I told her point blank that there was no way I wasn’t going to tell my brother. To be honest she really begged me that day and even packed her things immediately and followed me to my house begging and crying that I should forgive her and that it won’t happen again. But how can I keep that kind of thing from my brother? A girl he was planning to spend the rest of his life with. I told her she should have thought of her actions before doing it and she knows quite well that I was in that school and yet she still left her school and came to look for a boy in my school. Well after sometime when the crying and begging became too much I told her I wasn’t going to tell my brother but between us we both knew I would tell my brother. She left the next day, but what annoyed me most was that after she left, she called me and told me that she has begged me enough but if I still decide to tell my brother, she will deny it and it will be my word against hers and let’s see who my brother is going to believe. I was really angry at this point and I immediately placed a call to my brother and told him everything that has happened, but from the way he responded it was obvious she had already called him to feed him with lies. i became angry with my brother and I told him that if he went ahead to marry that girl I would not be a party to it. Its been three years since all these happened and my brother has refused to leave this girl. She has even resorted to taunting me in the house like, didn’t I tell you? And now last month he announced that they will be getting married in August. I have been trying unsuccessfully to discourage him but all to no avail. I have told him that if he marries that girl I won’t step my feet in his house again, ever. Please I need you to help me is there any way I can stop my brother from marrying this deceptive girl?


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My elder brother and I are very close. He is older than me with four years but you will hardly notice. We share the same friends and practically do everything together except women. My mother had just the three of us for my father before she passed on; we have a younger sister whom I am older with just two years. Some years ago while I was still in the university, my brother had this girlfriend he was going out with. Initially I used to like her a lot because she really knows how to cook and take care of the house. Then my elder brother had graduated and had started working. I use to think this girl was really a home girl and a wife material. Not until something happened. I had gone to see my friend off campus on this particular day and while we were in his room gisting, a girl came out from the bathroom with a towel tied round her chest. My friend ask if we could go outside to give his girlfriend time to dress up since he was living in a one room self contain. On a closer look at the girl in question, I found out it was my brother’s girlfriend who he was proposing to marry. I was so shocked and couldn’t hide my emotions by calling out her name. She was so shocked as well to see me. That night she started crying and begging me not to tell my brother. I told her point blank that there was no way I wasn’t going to tell my brother. To be honest she really begged me that day and even packed her things immediately and followed me to my house begging and crying that I should forgive her and that it won’t happen again. But how can I keep that kind of thing from my brother? A girl he was planning to spend the rest of his life with. I told her she should have thought of her actions before doing it and she knows quite well that I was in that school and yet she still left her school and came to look for a boy in my school. Well after sometime when the crying and begging became too much I told her I wasn’t going to tell my brother but between us we both knew I would tell my brother. She left the next day, but what annoyed me most was that after she left, she called me and told me that she has begged me enough but if I still decide to tell my brother, she will deny it and it will be my word against hers and let’s see who my brother is going to believe. I was really angry at this point and I immediately placed a call to my brother and told him everything that has happened, but from the way he responded it was obvious she had already called him to feed him with lies. i became angry with my brother and I told him that if he went ahead to marry that girl I would not be a party to it. Its been three years since all these happened and my brother has refused to leave this girl. She has even resorted to taunting me in the house like, didn’t I tell you? And now last month he announced that they will be getting married in August. I have been trying unsuccessfully to discourage him but all to no avail. I have told him that if he marries that girl I won’t step my feet in his house again, ever. Please I need you to help me is there any way I can stop my brother from marrying this deceptive girl?


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Goodyshoes:
Silly attention seeker.....
Whole story is fake.....
Next!!!

Someone is in need of serious advise. There is a source there to verify if it is fake. You really do not need to comment.

Good day, My people. I am in serious need of good advise. I am set to wed next month. For some reason, I'm not happy, excited or trilled. In fact I'm confused and I am not sure if I am making the right decision. I met my (husband to be) last year while I was in Nigeria on a business trip. I am not based in Nigeria;However I'm home 3x a year on business. While I'm home we always keep in contact with each other, in fact I received two contracts because of him. A few months ago, he asked my hand in marriage. I accepted. I've met his family(great people) and they have met my family. The only thing his mother asked me was to relocate back to Nigeria since his son has a great job with the oil company. Again I accept since I have a flourishing business in P.H. Since last week, I have being contemplating if I have made the right choice. To be honest, A part of me is not ready to settle down despite the fact I am 30 years old. The truth is that I have not being with any man in thepast 10 years. In fact I prefer to have sex with women,I only date women. I don't really care for men, I am not attracted to men in anyway.
The big question is, should I call off the wedding and bear the shame or go ahead with the marriage and learn to love him. Is it possible that I will grow to love him/ be attracted to him.
Your advise is greatest appreciated


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Good day, My people. I am in serious need of good advise. I am set to wed next month. For some reason, I'm not happy, excited or trilled. In fact I'm confused and I am not sure if I am making the right decision. I met my (husband to be) last year while I was in Nigeria on a business trip. I am not based in Nigeria;However I'm home 3x a year on business. While I'm home we always keep in contact with each other, in fact I received two contracts because of him. A few months ago, he asked my hand in marriage. I accepted. I've met his family(great people) and they have met my family. The only thing his mother asked me was to relocate back to Nigeria since his son has a great job with the oil company. Again I accept since I have a flourishing business in P.H. Since last week, I have being contemplating if I have made the right choice. To be honest, A part of me is not ready to settle down despite the fact I am 30 years old. The truth is that I have not being with any man in thepast 10 years. In fact I prefer to have sex with women,I only date women. I don't really care for men, I am not attracted to men in anyway.
The big question is, should I call off the wedding and bear the shame or go ahead with the marriage and learn to love him. Is it possible that I will grow to love him/ be attracted to him.
Your advise is greatest appreciated


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Kindly avail me your readers' advise, please. I'm a 35year old Sales Executive in a pharmaceutical marketing company. My branch manager, to whom I report field operations, insists that I give him gratification of #30,000(Thirty thousand Naira only) every week, to enable me keep my job, and for him to allocate a specific brand of our drug that is highly on demand. He knew that I make good money from this particular drug, which also help me in attaining my given target. Of recent, pharmacy outlets that frequently stock our brand of this drug, are complaining of low sell-out, due to the availability of similar potent but competitive imported brands at cheaper prices. Consequently,I now sell at normal company price(without my personal mark-up) to at least meet up my target and retain my job. My boss won't take or listen to my reasons of actual market reality. I daily gets official reprimands in writing,over what we hitherto joke about while I receive almost on weekly basis, queries, either on my car running expenses or on spurious customer's complaints. My dilemma now is whether to report him to his boss, our National Sales Manager, or resign from this employment, out of frustration. My boss(the branch Manager) also confided in me that he in turn, remit a good percentage of my 'Return' to the same National Sales Manger, in out Lagos Head quarter! Please help find me; as I'm LOST and confused!!!.


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Kindly avail me your readers' advise, please. I'm a 35year old Sales Executive in a pharmaceutical marketing company. My branch manager, to whom I report field operations, insists that I give him gratification of #30,000(Thirty thousand Naira only) every week, to enable me keep my job, and for him to allocate a specific brand of our drug that is highly on demand. He knew that I make good money from this particular drug, which also help me in attaining my given target. Of recent, pharmacy outlets that frequently stock our brand of this drug, are complaining of low sell-out, due to the availability of similar potent but competitive imported brands at cheaper prices. Consequently,I now sell at normal company price(without my personal mark-up) to at least meet up my target and retain my job. My boss won't take or listen to my reasons of actual market reality. I daily gets official reprimands in writing,over what we hitherto joke about while I receive almost on weekly basis, queries, either on my car running expenses or on spurious customer's complaints. My dilemma now is whether to report him to his boss, our National Sales Manager, or resign from this employment, out of frustration. My boss(the branch Manager) also confided in me that he in turn, remit a good percentage of my 'Return' to the same National Sales Manger, in out Lagos Head quarter! Please help find me; as I'm LOST and confused!!!.


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I am so confused right now and I do not know what to do or how to go about this. I recently discovered this site and I appreciate the confidentiality here. Although, none of what I'm going through is my fault, but I know some people will heap the blame on me. Before my ordeal started, I was a 300 level student of Political science at the Ambrose Alli University in Ekpoma. Sometime ago, a friend of mine came to me with a proposal that we should both travel abroad using road. There was this friend of ours who is now in Holland who had traveled by road to Spain, from where he now moved to Holland. We all grew up in the same neighborhood and have been friends since our secondary school days. In the past one year we had seen how this friend of ours changed the life of his family and how successful he had become. For those of us who grew up in our neighborhood in Benin, travelling abroad has always been our ultimate goal, so when my friend came to me with this idea I didn’t waste time in jumping at it. I was already tired of life in Nigeria and we have always believed that travelling to Europe; we would be able to make it within a short time. So when my friend came up with this idea, I was interested, although I was a bit skeptical because we had no money. But about two weeks later, my friend came to me one night and said if I am with him I should get ready, that we are leaving the next day. I told him that was so sudden that why did he look like he was running? He now told me that he had already sold his father’s car to raise money for both of us and that he cannot go back home again because his father is already looking for him with police so we had to move quickly. That was how we embarked on a trip to Europe by road with the guidance of our friend in Holland who had done the same journey before. The Journey from Nigeria through to Niger was smooth and uneventful, until we entered the desert. We were told beforehand that the desert was the most dangerous part of the journey and that it will take 3 days for us to successfully cross the desert to Taramaset in Algeria so we were told to brace ourselves up for eventuality as we will be travelling only at night because of border patrols. Two days into our journey in the desert, we were attacked by the Tuaregs (A group of armed bandits who specializes in robbing people in the desert), My friend was shot in the leg and badly injured because he had resisted them when they wanted to collect the whole money we were travelling with. After the robbery, we were left with nothing and my friend was badly injured. With no hospital in sight and since we couldn’t stop the bleeding, he died before we could get to Taramaset. I was so devastated because I knew this could mean trouble for me. I and the rest of us travelling had to bury him in the desert before we entered Algeria. I became stranded in Algeria and without money. I had to resort to doing menial jobs to survive. When I was able to call home, my younger sister said that my friend’s father had brought police to our house that it was me that deceived his son to sell his car and travel by road. I couldn’t even tell her then that my friend was dead. How could I? I became devastated at this point and the thought of going back home without my friend almost killed me. It was then I resolved either to continue the journey or remain indefinitely in Algeria. Our friend in Holland on his part tried to ferry me from Algeria to Europe on three occasions but with no success. I am really suffering here in Algeria with no money trying to survive and I am tired of being a beggar in a strange land so I have resolved to go back home to Nigeria but my fear now is that how am I going to back home without my friend and how am I going to explain to his parents how he died without them accusing me of killing him. I am really confused right now and I am afraid I might be arrested and jailed by the police when they get to know what happened. Please advise me on what to do. I have lost a friend, and lost my life.


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I am so confused right now and I do not know what to do or how to go about this. I recently discovered this site and I appreciate the confidentiality here. Although, none of what I'm going through is my fault, but I know some people will heap the blame on me. Before my ordeal started, I was a 300 level student of Political science at the Ambrose Alli University in Ekpoma. Sometime ago, a friend of mine came to me with a proposal that we should both travel abroad using road. There was this friend of ours who is now in Holland who had traveled by road to Spain, from where he now moved to Holland. We all grew up in the same neighborhood and have been friends since our secondary school days. In the past one year we had seen how this friend of ours changed the life of his family and how successful he had become. For those of us who grew up in our neighborhood in Benin, travelling abroad has always been our ultimate goal, so when my friend came to me with this idea I didn’t waste time in jumping at it. I was already tired of life in Nigeria and we have always believed that travelling to Europe; we would be able to make it within a short time. So when my friend came up with this idea, I was interested, although I was a bit skeptical because we had no money. But about two weeks later, my friend came to me one night and said if I am with him I should get ready, that we are leaving the next day. I told him that was so sudden that why did he look like he was running? He now told me that he had already sold his father’s car to raise money for both of us and that he cannot go back home again because his father is already looking for him with police so we had to move quickly. That was how we embarked on a trip to Europe by road with the guidance of our friend in Holland who had done the same journey before. The Journey from Nigeria through to Niger was smooth and uneventful, until we entered the desert. We were told beforehand that the desert was the most dangerous part of the journey and that it will take 3 days for us to successfully cross the desert to Taramaset in Algeria so we were told to brace ourselves up for eventuality as we will be travelling only at night because of border patrols. Two days into our journey in the desert, we were attacked by the Tuaregs (A group of armed bandits who specializes in robbing people in the desert), My friend was shot in the leg and badly injured because he had resisted them when they wanted to collect the whole money we were travelling with. After the robbery, we were left with nothing and my friend was badly injured. With no hospital in sight and since we couldn’t stop the bleeding, he died before we could get to Taramaset. I was so devastated because I knew this could mean trouble for me. I and the rest of us travelling had to bury him in the desert before we entered Algeria. I became stranded in Algeria and without money. I had to resort to doing menial jobs to survive. When I was able to call home, my younger sister said that my friend’s father had brought police to our house that it was me that deceived his son to sell his car and travel by road. I couldn’t even tell her then that my friend was dead. How could I? I became devastated at this point and the thought of going back home without my friend almost killed me. It was then I resolved either to continue the journey or remain indefinitely in Algeria. Our friend in Holland on his part tried to ferry me from Algeria to Europe on three occasions but with no success. I am really suffering here in Algeria with no money trying to survive and I am tired of being a beggar in a strange land so I have resolved to go back home to Nigeria but my fear now is that how am I going to back home without my friend and how am I going to explain to his parents how he died without them accusing me of killing him. I am really confused right now and I am afraid I might be arrested and jailed by the police when they get to know what happened. Please advise me on what to do. I have lost a friend, and lost my life.


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I married my husband about five years ago. Before I got married to him there were three of them that were going after me. My husband was the least person I had expected to get married to of the three people.

Apart from the fact that he was a lit bit older than me, he was not the trendy type and he looked timid and native to me so I wasn’t even considering him at all at that time. If somebody had told me that I would later marry him I would have denied it.

However, of the three people that were after me he was the one that appeared serious as at that time. He proposed to me and told me that he didn’t want an affair with me he just wanted to get married to me.

The other guys on the other hand never proposed to me all they wanted was to have a go at me and then move on and considering the fact that age was no longer on my side and with the advice from my mother, I eventually agreed to marry my husband. When we eventually got married, I did everything to transform my husband from the timid and native guy he was to a trendy fashion man.

I made sure I changed his entire wardrobe and bought him trendy clothes so he would look presentable as my husband. Everything has been fine with us until I had my second baby over a year ago. My husband just changed completely from the loving and caring man that dotes over me to a complete monster.

He started out by keeping late nights and coming home drunk. Then I noticed that he was no longer interested in having sex with me. My husband that will always find any opportunity to engage me was no longer interested in sex; the whole thing took a turn for the worst when he stopped talking to me in the house. I don’t know what I did to offend him because as everything has been fine with us before now.

It was at this point that I noticed he was having an affair outside. When I confronted him, he didn’t deny it, instead he told me that if I was not happy with the situation of things I should pack my things and leave after all I wasn’t planning to marry him initially that he practically begged me, so I can as well leave if I am tired. It got up to the extent that he picks the calls of his girlfriends in my presence calling them pet names like baby, sweetie and all that without regards to me.

The straw that eventually broke the camel’s back was three days ago when he brought his girlfriend home. I took my baby to the hospital and when I got back, I noticed his car was parked outside. On entering the house I found him with the girl cuddling on the settee I didn’t know when I threw my baby down and gave the girl the beating of her life for daring to come into my home.

He has called my people to say he is no longer interested in the marriage. I don’t know what I have done to deserve this and I have been begging him to tell me what I did wrong but all he keeps saying is that I never wanted to marry him in the first place, but all that is past and I have been a faithful and loyal housewife to him so why all these? Please my people tell me how to go about this before I run mad because my husband is behaving like somebody that has been bewitched or under a spell.

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I married my husband about five years ago. Before I got married to him there were three of them that were going after me. My husband was the least person I had expected to get married to of the three people. Apart from the fact that he was a lit bit older than me, he was not the trendy type and he looked timid and native to me so I wasn’t even considering him at all at that time. If somebody had told me that I would later marry him I would have denied it. However, of the three people that were after me he was the one that appeared serious as at that time. He proposed to me and told me that he didn’t want an affair with me he just wanted to get married to me. The other guys on the other hand never proposed to me all they wanted was to have a go at me and then move on and considering the fact that age was no longer on my side and with the advice from my mother, I eventually agreed to marry my husband. When we eventually got married, I did everything to transform my husband from the timid and native guy he was to a trendy fashion man. I made sure I changed his entire wardrobe and bought him trendy clothes so he would look presentable as my husband. Everything has been fine with us until I had my second baby over a year ago. My husband just changed completely from the loving and caring man that dotes over me to a complete monster. He started out by keeping late nights and coming home drunk. Then I noticed that he was no longer interested in having sex with me. My husband that will always find any opportunity to engage me was no longer interested in sex; the whole thing took a turn for the worst when he stopped talking to me in the house. I don’t know what I did to offend him because as everything has been fine with us before now. It was at this point that I noticed he was having an affair outside. When I confronted him, he didn’t deny it, instead he told me that if I was not happy with the situation of things I should pack my things and leave after all I wasn’t planning to marry him initially that he practically begged me, so I can as well leave if I am tired. It got up to the extent that he picks the calls of his girlfriends in my presence calling them pet names like baby, sweetie and all that without regards to me. The straw that eventually broke the camel’s back was three days ago when he brought his girlfriend home. I took my baby to the hospital and when I got back, I noticed his car was parked outside. On entering the house I found him with the girl cuddling on the settee I didn’t know when I threw my baby down and gave the girl the beating of her life for daring to come into my home. He has called my people to say he is no longer interested in the marriage. I don’t know what I have done to deserve this and I have been begging him to tell me what I did wrong but all he keeps saying is that I never wanted to marry him in the first place, but all that is past and I have been a faithful and loyal housewife to him so why all these? Please my people tell me how to go about this before I run mad because my husband is behaving like somebody that has been bewitched or under a spell.


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I am a 19 years old female law undergraduate in the University of Lagos. I am the last born in a family of five. My two elder ones have all graduated. Recently I noticed my father’s car in front of the girl’s hostel in my school. When I called him that day and asked him where he was, he told me that he was in my school and that he actually came to see me but he had ran into a friend. Eventually I saw him that day and he gave me some money. Two days later I saw his car again this time it was hidden in another part of the girl’s hostel. I was curious so I decided not to call him but instead wait to see where he would be coming out from. When I eventually saw him, to my dismal I found out that he came to see a girl in my school. I quickly left before he could see him. On further investigation, I found out the name of the girl and found out that my father has been going out with the girl for some time now. I was so disgusted and had to confront my dad. This girl will be of the same age with me and my father comes to my school every day to park his car and wait on her like a teenage boy in love while my mum is at home not knowing what her hubby is doing. On confronting my father he told me to mind my business and face my studies. He also said that if I should tell my mother, I will only end up hurting her and causing problem in the family because what she does not know cannot hurt her. I am hurting seriously because of the behavior of my father and I am of the opinion that my mother maybe suffering in silence because she will be left at home alone most times. Most times I am tempted to call her and tell her what my dad is doing. I spoke with my elder brother on this and he advised me against telling our mum, but I am seriously hurting inside and wonder if the reverse was the case that I was the one going out with an old man, old enough to be my father, if my father would have been happy with me. Please do you think I should let my mother know?


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I am a 19 years old female law undergraduate in the University of Lagos. I am the last born in a family of five. My two elder ones have all graduated. Recently I noticed my father’s car in front of the girl’s hostel in my school. When I called him that day and asked him where he was, he told me that he was in my school and that he actually came to see me but he had ran into a friend. Eventually I saw him that day and he gave me some money. Two days later I saw his car again this time it was hidden in another part of the girl’s hostel. I was curious so I decided not to call him but instead wait to see where he would be coming out from. When I eventually saw him, to my dismal I found out that he came to see a girl in my school. I quickly left before he could see him. On further investigation, I found out the name of the girl and found out that my father has been going out with the girl for some time now. I was so disgusted and had to confront my dad. This girl will be of the same age with me and my father comes to my school every day to park his car and wait on her like a teenage boy in love while my mum is at home not knowing what her hubby is doing. On confronting my father he told me to mind my business and face my studies. He also said that if I should tell my mother, I will only end up hurting her and causing problem in the family because what she does not know cannot hurt her. I am hurting seriously because of the behavior of my father and I am of the opinion that my mother maybe suffering in silence because she will be left at home alone most times. Most times I am tempted to call her and tell her what my dad is doing. I spoke with my elder brother on this and he advised me against telling our mum, but I am seriously hurting inside and wonder if the reverse was the case that I was the one going out with an old man, old enough to be my father, if my father would have been happy with me. Please do you think I should let my mother know?


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I married my husband seven years ago and we have been blessed with three lovely children. We are a happy family and my Husband has given me no reason to complain, although we have had our ups and down like every married couple but we had lived like a big happy family. So you can understand why I will do anything to safeguard my marriage and prevent my husband from knowing my secret. I work in one of the telecoms company and I have been working there for the past ten years. It was during this period I met Ify (Not real name please) and we became friends. Ify is one of the executive directors in the telecoms company I work for. From the moment I met Ify when I was newly employed I have always noticed that Ify likes me a lot. Anytime she visits our branch she always tries to strike up a conversation with me or have a reason to send me on an errand for her and I am always glad to do anything for her not just because she’s a big boss to me but because I enjoy the attention she showers on me. It got up to an extent that I was even going to her house to help her with household chores. Apart from being a big boss she is also a lot older than me so I was seeing her more like an elder sister to me. However, during that period anytime I go to her house, I always noticed that Ify is usually not shy to UnCloth in my presence most especially when her hubby is not there. She will always ask me questions like how I find her boobs or her butts and if I think they are still attractive. I always pass it off as being a woman thing not until one day when she threw the question at me if I have ever slept with a woman. That was how I got to know that she was a lesbian or a bisexual as the case may be. I told her that I have never been with a woman and then she told me that she was a lesbian and that by now, I should know that she’s interested in me. She told me that if I agree to sleep with her I should be rest assured of moving up in my career within a very short time. By then, I wasn’t married so it wasn’t difficult for me to agree. That was how we started our lesbian affair and true to her words within a short time, I started rising in the company and by my fifth year in the company I was already a manager, while my colleagues who were employed with me were still at the entry level. When I met my hubby and I told Ify about him, I had thought she will be angry with me but to my surprised she encouraged me to get married to him and even played a major role in our marriage. My husband sees her as one of my closest and trusted friends not knowing what goes on behind his back. After sometime, I started feeling guilty that I am cheating on my hubby with Ify, but most times I am encourage that we have been discrete enough and not even colleagues suspect that we are doing anything of such. However, recently we were in my house when Ify came visiting. In her usual playful manner she had slapped my behind when I was walking past. I noticed that my hubby didn’t like it although he had smiled and we had all joked about it. That night, my husband told me that if not for the fact that Ify was married, he would have sworn that she was a lesbian. I was alarmed but kept my cool and asked him why he thought so. He said he's been noticing that Ify likes touching other women’s boobs and butts a lot. I waived it off that Ify is just been mischievous in her usual manner which he later agreed. But I have been scared and really alarmed. Could it be that my hubby is suspecting us or has found out. I have decided to end the affair immediately with Ify because I don’t want my hubby to find out anything if he hasn’t but Ify on her own is taking it hard. She has stopped calling me or talking to me and these days I have been receiving queries and complains over flimsy excuses in the office, so right now I am even contemplating quitting the job since I have money that could start me up on a business. What do you think friends?


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I married my husband seven years ago and we have been blessed with three lovely children. We are a happy family and my Husband has given me no reason to complain, although we have had our ups and down like every married couple but we had lived like a big happy family. So you can understand why I will do anything to safeguard my marriage and prevent my husband from knowing my secret. I work in one of the telecoms company and I have been working there for the past ten years. It was during this period I met Ify (Not real name please) and we became friends. Ify is one of the executive directors in the telecoms company I work for. From the moment I met Ify when I was newly employed I have always noticed that Ify likes me a lot. Anytime she visits our branch she always tries to strike up a conversation with me or have a reason to send me on an errand for her and I am always glad to do anything for her not just because she’s a big boss to me but because I enjoy the attention she showers on me. It got up to an extent that I was even going to her house to help her with household chores. Apart from being a big boss she is also a lot older than me so I was seeing her more like an elder sister to me. However, during that period anytime I go to her house, I always noticed that Ify is usually not shy to UnCloth in my presence most especially when her hubby is not there. She will always ask me questions like how I find her boobs or her butts and if I think they are still attractive. I always pass it off as being a woman thing not until one day when she threw the question at me if I have ever slept with a woman. That was how I got to know that she was a lesbian or a bisexual as the case may be. I told her that I have never been with a woman and then she told me that she was a lesbian and that by now, I should know that she’s interested in me. She told me that if I agree to sleep with her I should be rest assured of moving up in my career within a very short time. By then, I wasn’t married so it wasn’t difficult for me to agree. That was how we started our lesbian affair and true to her words within a short time, I started rising in the company and by my fifth year in the company I was already a manager, while my colleagues who were employed with me were still at the entry level. When I met my hubby and I told Ify about him, I had thought she will be angry with me but to my surprised she encouraged me to get married to him and even played a major role in our marriage. My husband sees her as one of my closest and trusted friends not knowing what goes on behind his back. After sometime, I started feeling guilty that I am cheating on my hubby with Ify, but most times I am encourage that we have been discrete enough and not even colleagues suspect that we are doing anything of such. However, recently we were in my house when Ify came visiting. In her usual playful manner she had slapped my behind when I was walking past. I noticed that my hubby didn’t like it although he had smiled and we had all joked about it. That night, my husband told me that if not for the fact that Ify was married, he would have sworn that she was a lesbian. I was alarmed but kept my cool and asked him why he thought so. He said he's been noticing that Ify likes touching other women’s boobs and butts a lot. I waived it off that Ify is just been mischievous in her usual manner which he later agreed. But I have been scared and really alarmed. Could it be that my hubby is suspecting us or has found out. I have decided to end the affair immediately with Ify because I don’t want my hubby to find out anything if he hasn’t but Ify on her own is taking it hard. She has stopped calling me or talking to me and these days I have been receiving queries and complains over flimsy excuses in the office, so right now I am even contemplating quitting the job since I have money that could start me up on a business. What do you think friends?


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