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Had I known all my labour on her would be in futility, I wouldn’t have spent my hard earned money on her. I looked forward to a bright future with her but my dreams have been shattered by the very one I gave true love. I’m an OND holder but into a lucrative business which is doing very well. I met my girl online four years ago, though that notwithstanding, people can meet anywhere. I was already done with my OND while she was in 200L in the university. She told me of how her mother died during the delivery of their lastborn and her dad had to remarry leaving her to cater for herself most times. I felt the urge to render the little assistance I could and I started giving her money for her upkeep that was like six months after we met. I can even remember paying her tuition fees one session. Now four years down the memory lane, after her graduation and NYSC, and getting a job in an ICT firm with a good pay, it suddenly dawned on her that she can't marry an OND holder because of the gap in education. I told her it is the love between us that matters most but she said she loves me but we are not compatible education wise as she still want to further her education. All these years she was “gulping” my money, calling me sweet names, she didn’t see the incompatibility. When her future was in disarray I was her messiah (am not boasting here) but now that she can look forward to a bright future I’m no more in the picture.


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Had I known all my labour on her would be in futility, I wouldn’t have spent my hard earned money on her. I looked forward to a bright future with her but my dreams have been shattered by the very one I gave true love. I’m an OND holder but into a lucrative business which is doing very well. I met my girl online four years ago, though that notwithstanding, people can meet anywhere. I was already done with my OND while she was in 200L in the university. She told me of how her mother died during the delivery of their lastborn and her dad had to remarry leaving her to cater for herself most times. I felt the urge to render the little assistance I could and I started giving her money for her upkeep that was like six months after we met. I can even remember paying her tuition fees one session. Now four years down the memory lane, after her graduation and NYSC, and getting a job in an ICT firm with a good pay, it suddenly dawned on her that she can't marry an OND holder because of the gap in education. I told her it is the love between us that matters most but she said she loves me but we are not compatible education wise as she still want to further her education. All these years she was “gulping” my money, calling me sweet names, she didn’t see the incompatibility. When her future was in disarray I was her messiah (am not boasting here) but now that she can look forward to a bright future I’m no more in the picture.


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What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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MRBrownJ:
i would have replied:
although i understand how you may feel about her abandoning you, you have to remember that she is your BIOLOGICAL MOTHER and will always be. nobody is perfect and most people make mistakes (some bigger than others) but anyone can/should be forgiven with time. so i will suggest you guys start by communicating via email or chat, then see how it goes, and take it from there. there are many questions that may be bothering you and this is the time to put your mind at ease and ask them. at the end of the day, nobody can force you into having a r/ship with this stranger BUT, as long as it wont hurt you in anyway, then you might as well have one with her.

btw if she was childless for 16yrs and you are 20 then either she had you in her life for 4 yrs or this story is BS!

From the story it sounds like the mother got married to another man four years later. She could still abandon her child for those four years while searching for her supposed greener pastures.

I know some fathers don’t care a bit about their children or family but what about the mother who goes through the pain of carrying the pregnancy for 9 months and that of delivery. I have heard of mother abandoning babies but never thought it could happen to me. I’m a 20-year-old undergraduate in the university. I stay with my grandparents because my parents are separated. I was brought up by my paternal grandmother since when I was few months old. According to my grandmum, my mum abandoned me because of our low-level status. She said my mum thought my dad was from a rich family but realised he belong to the middle class and she was already pregnant. Her excuse then was that she can’t marry into a poor family. After waiting for few years thinking she would return, my dad had to remarry. She had also married another man. Now after 16 years of childlessness, she suddenly resurfaced. She wants me in her life, she want to be a mother to me after abandoning me for years. I returned home from school last week only to meet some people begging my grandmum for forgiveness. She did her best not to have introduced me to them. She told me their mission after they have left. Even though she brought me to this world, I don’t want her at all. My father also stood his ground that he doesn’t want her near me. What if she hasn’t been barren would she have remembered she has a child somewhere? Too late for her.


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I wonder what the police force in Nigeria is turning into these days. My experience in the hands of SARS police men in Port Harcourt today is something I have never thought would happen to me. My day started well today, I have this project I am working on that brought me to Port Harcourt last week Wednesday. So we got in the car, There were four of us, the driver, two engineers including myself, and a representative of the company I am handling the project for, he is more like a relative to the owner of the company. We were heading to Ikoku and some other places to get more equipment for this project. Only for a SARS van to drive beside us along NTA road with all officers staring into our car, we even had to wave at them because the look was getting too much, only for them to put on their siren, drive in a very rough manner to double cross our car, jumped down cocking their guns pointed at us and shouting that we should get out of the car or they would shoot all of us. To say that I was surprised is an understatement. As we made to come out for fear of our lives, I particularly was afraid they could be robbers or assassins dressed up as policemen, I have heard such tales in the past, they started slapping us they even cleared the driver to the ground and broke his head with the butt of the gun, I myself received countless slaps like I was a thief. All this while we have not even been told what we were pulled over for, meanwhile they have created a scene and there were many onlookers around thinking probably the police have caught thieves. They brought out two handcuffs and handcuffed us in pairs, with continuous beatings and shouting that “we are the thieves they have been looking for”, all this while they have not even searched us or even our vehicle. Just then their commander came out of the backseat of their van to order them to bundle us in the van, that was the only breathing space we had, and the relative of the company owner had the chance to ask what our offence was and further identified himself as a soldier in the Nigerian Army, and is even of a higher rank than the commander. The handcuffs began to come off our hands and the commander began to apologize with the flimsy excuse that they were in search of a similar car and thought our car was that car. It was a very sad experience, unbelievable that these kind of things still happen in this country. The whole thing got to the company owner who is well connected but as usual it all ended in ‘Sorry’. By the end of the day, after all the drama of a wasted day, I went to a saloon to shave and started to tell everyone there of my experience. They all said SARS police in Port Harcourt is something else, that they actually rob homes and rape its female occupants. They even went on to say we are even lucky the army man with us was not armed otherwise they would have shot all of us before they even search to find out he was an army officer and probably laid a charge on our head that we are all robbers and the army man supplies us weapons. Chai, we need ‘CHANGE’ in Nigeria, we really do.


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My home is about to be shattered. Is it my fault that I couldn't give birth to a male child or am I God? My husband and I have been married for twelve years and we have four daughters. He doesn't really care about the sex of the children. He loves them and can spend his last kobo on them. He is the first child and the only son of his family, in their clan their wives do give birth to a son as the firstborn, I'm the odd one out who has a daughter as the firstborn. My husband is not really bothered about that but his mother is on his neck to give her a son or marry another woman if I can't. My once loving mother-in-law now despise me like a flithy rag. The pressure is just too much and my husband has been forced to dance to their tune. He was on my side when all these started but now I'm alone in the battle. I would have given child bearing another trial but my doctor warned me not to risk my life by getting pregnant again because I had my last two daughters through Caesarean Section and the last one was a little bit complicated, it was just God that saved me. I don't want to lose my man, my home to a strange woman out there.


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My home is about to be shattered. Is it my fault that I couldn't give birth to a male child or am I God? My husband and I have been married for twelve years and we have four daughters. He doesn't really care about the sex of the children. He loves them and can spend his last kobo on them. He is the first child and the only son of his family, in their clan their wives do give birth to a son as the firstborn, I'm the odd one out who has a daughter as the firstborn. My husband is not really bothered about that but his mother is on his neck to give her a son or marry another woman if I can't. My once loving mother-in-law now despise me like a flithy rag. The pressure is just too much and my husband has been forced to dance to their tune. He was on my side when all these started but now I'm alone in the battle. I would have given child bearing another trial but my doctor warned me not to risk my life by getting pregnant again because I had my last two daughters through Caesarean Section and the last one was a little bit complicated, it was just God that saved me. I don't want to lose my man, my home to a strange woman out there.


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I'm not the first to do this and I know I won't be the last so why won't my conscience let me be for crying out loud. I'm a youth corps member serving in one of the eastern states. Of course I'm beautiful in my own way with the necessary curves. I have never dated a married man before but my boss wouldn't just let me be. Right from the first day he set his two eyes on me he find it difficult to take them off. He is equally handsome and has the voice that can make a lady wet. As expected he asked me out, promising me heaven and earth, I'm not even flattered about because I know men and their deceits when they want a lady. I gave in to his advances, and he visited me afterwards. Before we could say "Jack Robinson", we started kissing and we found ourselves in a world of our own. He even passed the night in my apartment. I felt guilty afterwards. I tried to put a stop to it but he wouldn't hear of it and I don't want to let go either. I'm really into him, not forgetting to say that he is also generous but my conscience is killing me!!


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Please I need advice on what to do because I don't want to lose my job. I don't know why some men are this cruel. I'm a 42-year-old widow. My husband died in a ghastly motor accident 15 months ago. He left me with three children. Let me say he left virtually nothing for the children and I. And it has been hell taking care of the kids alone and I have vowed that all my children will be educated at least to the polytechnic or university level. My first child just got admitted to the university and I had to go my boss to borrow some money when other means seem impossible. But he told me without missing words that I have to sleep with him before he can give me any money. He even said he won't borrow me the money but dash me. I refused to grant his request. He was pestering me before now he has started threatening me that I would lose my job if I didn't do his bidding, not even pitying my condition as a poor widow. I have always thought he is a man of integrity. I have been able to source for half of the money somewhere else and I told him I don't need his money anymore but he said that won't make him change his stand. I don't want to lose my job. I have three kids to take care of. My only hope is God.


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Please I need advice on what to do because I don't want to lose my job. I don't know why some men are this cruel. I'm a 42-year-old widow. My husband died in a ghastly motor accident 15 months ago. He left me with three children. Let me say he left virtually nothing for the children and I. And it has been hell taking care of the kids alone and I have vowed that all my children will be educated at least to the polytechnic or university level. My first child just got admitted to the university and I had to go my boss to borrow some money when other means seem impossible. But he told me without missing words that I have to sleep with him before he can give me any money. He even said he won't borrow me the money but dash me. I refused to grant his request. He was pestering me before now he has started threatening me that I would lose my job if I didn't do his bidding, not even pitying my condition as a poor widow. I have always thought he is a man of integrity. I have been able to source for half of the money somewhere else and I told him I don't need his money anymore but he said that won't make him change his stand. I don't want to lose my job. I have three kids to take care of. My only hope is God.


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My wife has been complaining about my mum's continued stay with us. She even told me in plain language that Mama should return to the village knowing fully well she has no one to stay with. I'm the second born and the first son, my elder sister is not in Nigeria, my two younger siblings are in the university and our dad is late. Mama has been staying alone in the village though she visit us once in a while. When she got sick, I had to bring her to Lagos for proper treatment. To be sincere, my wife did her best in taking good care of Mama during the period of her sickness but since she got better my wife want her to go back to the village. My mum is hypertensive and I still want to watch her to ensure that she is totally healthy before she leaves but my wife isn't patient with me. She insisted that I should get a maid to stay with her in the village and I don't have the financial strength for that now. I'm the one footing my siblings' education bill. And had it been they were around they would have stayed with her but they are in school. Will I stop their education because of that? My wife is not giving any breathing space on this issue at all.


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Is my brother's wife, Sade, having an affiar with his best friend, Demola or what could be going on between them? Am 17years old and an undergraduate and I can tell when two people are dating, though I stand to be corrected on that. My brother, a medical doctor got married this year after his one year housemanship and went for NYSC a month after his wedding, he was posted to a state in the northern part of the country. He had wanted to finish the NYSC before getting married but his fiancee (now his wife) insisted she want to "tie the knot" before he goes for Service. Three weeks ago I came home after the semester examinations so I decided to pay his wife a visit and I met Demola in his towel, I was somehow shocked but I quickly pretend as if its nothing. I jokingly asked him what he came to do, he said he came to take his bathe because water is not running in his compound and we both laughed it off though I wasn't comfortable with the explanation. Like a week after, I visited my brother's wife again and the same thing repeated itself. This time I met him in boxers, eating at the dinning table and he gave the same explanation which am not really comfortable with. I wanted to confront Sade but I kept cool and later left. Am very troubled in my spirit and so many questions have been going through my mind: Are they having sex? Is Sade cheating on my brother? Why is Demola doing this? Are there no friends of his in town where he can take his bathe or why my brother's house especially when he is not around? Demola and my brother have been friends since their undergraduate days and they stayed in the same hostel, he was even my brother's bestman on his wedding day. Am confused right now and the anger is really burning within me. Should I call my brother and tell him or confide in my parents first? Not actual names pls


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Is my brother's wife, Sade, having an affiar with his best friend, Demola or what could be going on between them? Am 17years old and an undergraduate and I can tell when two people are dating, though I stand to be corrected on that. My brother, a medical doctor got married this year after his one year housemanship and went for NYSC a month after his wedding, he was posted to a state in the northern part of the country. He had wanted to finish the NYSC before getting married but his fiancee (now his wife) insisted she want to "tie the knot" before he goes for Service. Three weeks ago I came home after the semester examinations so I decided to pay his wife a visit and I met Demola in his towel, I was somehow shocked but I quickly pretend as if its nothing. I jokingly asked him what he came to do, he said he came to take his bathe because water is not running in his compound and we both laughed it off though I wasn't comfortable with the explanation. Like a week after, I visited my brother's wife again and the same thing repeated itself. This time I met him in boxers, eating at the dinning table and he gave the same explanation which am not really comfortable with. I wanted to confront Sade but I kept cool and later left. Am very troubled in my spirit and so many questions have been going through my mind: Are they having sex? Is Sade cheating on my brother? Why is Demola doing this? Are there no friends of his in town where he can take his bathe or why my brother's house especially when he is not around? Demola and my brother have been friends since their undergraduate days and they stayed in the same hostel, he was even my brother's bestman on his wedding day. Am confused right now and the anger is really burning within me. Should I call my brother and tell him or confide in my parents first? Not actual names pls


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My heart is broken right now, even shattered into pieces. I never prayed for this to happen to me but now that the worst has happened, what do I do? Frank and I have been dating for close to five years now and we are planning to get married this December. He is loving, caring and generous and there was no reason for me to doubt his faithfulness to me. Last week Friday, I decided to spend the weekend in his house, he had told me he would be travelling from office on an official assignment and won't be back until Saturday afternoon. I was surprised to have met the door unlocked, I entered and I heard voices coming from his room so I went inside, I couldn't believe what I saw; my fiance and his boss having sex. They weren't even aware of my presence until I screamed his name. I thought he would be shocked to see me but he seemed unperturbed and his boss looked at me disgustingly, he then ordered me out of his house. I couldn't believe my five years relationship and the man I cherished so much are gone just like that! I cried till I slept off that night, I didn't even know how I got home. I woke up and wished I had died in my sleep. I can’t stop the tears, I thought I have found my man and to think of all the time and energy all wasted….


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My heart is broken right now, even shattered into pieces. I never prayed for this to happen to me but now that the worst has happened, what do I do? Frank and I have been dating for close to five years now and we are planning to get married this December. He is loving, caring and generous and there was no reason for me to doubt his faithfulness to me. Last week Friday, I decided to spend the weekend in his house, he had told me he would be travelling from office on an official assignment and won't be back until Saturday afternoon. I was surprised to have met the door unlocked, I entered and I heard voices coming from his room so I went inside, I couldn't believe what I saw; my fiance and his boss having sex. They weren't even aware of my presence until I screamed his name. I thought he would be shocked to see me but he seemed unperturbed and his boss looked at me disgustingly, he then ordered me out of his house. I couldn't believe my five years relationship and the man I cherished so much are gone just like that! I cried till I slept off that night, I didn't even know how I got home. I woke up and wished I had died in my sleep. I can’t stop the tears, I thought I have found my man and to think of all the time and energy all wasted….


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I’m a married woman of 35 years of age; I have a loving and faithful husband. He is five years older than me and he is a big businessman with branches outside the shore of this country. I met my man in one of my friends’ party we got attracted to each other and started a relationship. He told me from the onset that his intention is marry me as he is not interested in any “fling” relationship. I was so happy that I have finally met my dream husband. But three years into the marriage we are yet to be blessed with the fruit of the womb and I know I’m the cause of his childlessness considering the wayward life I lived during my university days. I will be as brief as I can; it all started when one of my friends, introduced me to one of her men friend, and we started dating. He showered me with gifts and cash. Along the line I got pregnant for him and he told me frankly that I must abort the pregnancy which I rejected but after much pressure from him and my friend I agreed to their wish. As if that was the licence key, I took my prostitution to another level, I dated different men, got pregnant, aborted them (after all I couldn’t really know who was responsible for them). It was during my sixth abortion that the doctor told me that it will take only a miracle to get pregnant again. Now I’m married, no issue. I always block the idea of going for medical check-up any time my husband brings it up. Friends and family have also recommended different doctors and gynaecologist but I always assure my husband that God’s time is the best. I’m really scared now; will my past not expose me one day?


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I’m a married woman of 35 years of age; I have a loving and faithful husband. He is five years older than me and he is a big businessman with branches outside the shore of this country. I met my man in one of my friends’ party we got attracted to each other and started a relationship. He told me from the onset that his intention is marry me as he is not interested in any “fling” relationship. I was so happy that I have finally met my dream husband. But three years into the marriage we are yet to be blessed with the fruit of the womb and I know I’m the cause of his childlessness considering the wayward life I lived during my university days. I will be as brief as I can; it all started when one of my friends, introduced me to one of her men friend, and we started dating. He showered me with gifts and cash. Along the line I got pregnant for him and he told me frankly that I must abort the pregnancy which I rejected but after much pressure from him and my friend I agreed to their wish. As if that was the licence key, I took my prostitution to another level, I dated different men, got pregnant, aborted them (after all I couldn’t really know who was responsible for them). It was during my sixth abortion that the doctor told me that it will take only a miracle to get pregnant again. Now I’m married, no issue. I always block the idea of going for medical check-up any time my husband brings it up. Friends and family have also recommended different doctors and gynaecologist but I always assure my husband that God’s time is the best. I’m really scared now; will my past not expose me one day?


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In his response to President Buhari's allegation of US aiding and abetting Boko Haram insurgency in Nigeria, the originator of the Leahy Law, Senator Patrick Leahy wrote on his personal website: "It is well documented by the state Department and by respected human rights organizations that Nigeria army personnel have for many years engaged in a pattern and practice of gross violations of human rights against the Nigerian people
...... But rather than suggest that US is at fault for not funding MURDERERS AND RAPISTS in the Nigerian Militrary, he (Buhari) should face up to his own responsibility to effectively counter Boko Haram".
There are two sides to a coin and likewise this. We can not rule out the fact that Nigerian soldiers are brutal, maltreat and manhandle innocent Nigerians they are meant to protect, many lives have been lost because of #20 bribe, they treat fellow Nigerians as if they are animals, the list of their atrocities is endless. We must equally commend them for confronting the deadly Boko Haram even with less-sophisticated weapons.
But are the American soldiers in anyway better? They have their records of atrocities well hidden from the media. Which country militrary does not have its own misdeeds? The US accusing our army of human rights violation have aided the Israeli militrary in attacks on its own citizen who are of Arab descent. What about the militrary assistance to Ukriane to kill those who are pro-Russia? Maybe they didn't know that it is human rights violation by trying to force the legalization of Gayism on us. They only aid countries where their selfish interest would be protected, like Libya becuase of their interest on the crude oil. They should give us another reason for not wanting to sell arms to us instead of the flimsy Leahy's law. It is high time Nigeria looked inward and proffer solutions to our problems instead of cringing at the feet of the Americans to bail us out on almost everything.


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My fiance and I have been dating for almost two years now and we are planning to get married as soon as she is done with school. She is already in her final year in the university. She is from the Eastern part of Nigeria while I'm a Yoruba man. My family is well aware of our relationship and they have accepted her not minding the differences in tribe and culture. But her parents are completely against our relationship just because of the tribal issue. Her dad said he will never allow his daughter or any of his children to marry from another tribe. I was very devastated when she told me this but I assured her that they would change their mind with time, so I scheduled a visit with her to see her parents. But on getting there, her parents made it clear that nothing can come out of the relationship as they won't give out their first child to someone outside their tribe. They even warned me not to play a fast one on them by impregnating their daughter. I'm totally confused and sad. This is a lady I have wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has the qualities I want in a woman and I love her so much but tribal issue is drifting us apart!


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My fiance and I have been dating for almost two years now and we are planning to get married as soon as she is done with school. She is already in her final year in the university. She is from the Eastern part of Nigeria while I'm a Yoruba man. My family is well aware of our relationship and they have accepted her not minding the differences in tribe and culture. But her parents are completely against our relationship just because of the tribal issue. Her dad said he will never allow his daughter or any of his children to marry from another tribe. I was very devastated when she told me this but I assured her that they would change their mind with time, so I scheduled a visit with her to see her parents. But on getting there, her parents made it clear that nothing can come out of the relationship as they won't give out their first child to someone outside their tribe. They even warned me not to play a fast one on them by impregnating their daughter. I'm totally confused and sad. This is a lady I have wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has the qualities I want in a woman and I love her so much but tribal issue is drifting us apart!


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President Muhammadu Buhari returned to the country after a four-day visit to the United States where he discussed among other things the economy and security state of Nigeria. However, Buhari's comments on the issue of Boko Haram has overshadowed other issues that would have been discussed during the trip.The president had said: "The application of the Leahy Law has aided and abetted the Boko Haram and terrorist group in the prosecution of its extremist ideology and hate, the indiscriminate killings and maiming of civilians, in raping of women and girls and in other heinous crime".The Leahy Law prohibits the US defence department from providing militrary assistance to foreign military units that violates human rights with impunity. Nigeria is on the list of countries affected by the Leahy Law, originated by Senator Patrick Leahy in 1996, that will not benefit from US militrary assistance due to human right violations and indiscriminate attack against civilians.This Law is behind US refusal to sell necessary sophisticated weapons to combat the insurgent Boko Haram to Nigeria. There is nothing indicting about Buhari's comments, as being circulated in the media, the presidency effort to quash the such notwithstanding.US is known for their use of "double-standards" when it comes to Africa, especially Nigeria. Their refusal is a wake-up call, we need to start manufacturing our weapons. But for now we can turn our attention to other countries


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Is he playing pranks on me or am I just wasting my time with him. Does he have a sidechick? Apologies for my too many questions. I'm totally confused. I have been engaged to my man for over two years yet he is not ready to settle down. So why did he propose to me? I've been dating him for six years now. He is financially stable, he works in a telecommunication company while I also work in an indigenous company. He proposed to me over two years ago and when he did I thought wedding bells would ring like six months later but there was nothing like that. After waiting for a year, I discussed the issue with him, he said I should give him more time, and that has always been his response. We had a serious argument over the same issue two weeks ago and his response shocked me. He said I can find myself another man if I can't be patient with him any longer. I was annoyed and sad, though he later apologized for making such comments. I asked him frankly his plans for me, he said he is working on some things-which he refused to reveal to me- that we will get married when he is done. Am not getting any younger, I will be thirty years old this November. Should I drop him and move on with my life before its too late? After all I have other suitors!!


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Is he playing pranks on me or am I just wasting my time with him. Does he have a sidechick? Apologies for my too many questions. I'm totally confused. I have been engaged to my man for over two years yet he is not ready to settle down. So why did he propose to me? I've been dating him for six years now. He is financially stable, he works in a telecommunication company while I also work in an indigenous company. He proposed to me over two years ago and when he did I thought wedding bells would ring like six months later but there was nothing like that. After waiting for a year, I discussed the issue with him, he said I should give him more time, and that has always been his response. We had a serious argument over the same issue two weeks ago and his response shocked me. He said I can find myself another man if I can't be patient with him any longer. I was annoyed and sad, though he later apologized for making such comments. I asked him frankly his plans for me, he said he is working on some things-which he refused to reveal to me- that we will get married when he is done. Am not getting any younger, I will be thirty years old this November. Should I drop him and move on with my life before its too late? After all I have other suitors!!


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I thought I know everything about my wife-to-be but the latest event that unfolded proved me wrong. We've been in a relationship for six years. We've been dating since our third year in the university and we've scheduled our introduction for November this year with the wedding to follow early next year. She got a call from her mother in June that her "nephew" was seriously sick and is on admission in the hospital. She became so worried to the extent that I had to ask about the whereabout of the boy's parents but she couldn't give me a concrete reply. I decided to go with her and we went straight to the hospital and we met her mum and her mum's friend there. Not that I was eavesdropping but from the conversation between her and her mum, I got to know that her so-called "nephew" is actually her son! After his discharge from the hospital, I confronted her with the issue, she tried to deny it and I told her everything I heard from her conversation with her mum. It was then she opened up that she got pregnant after her secondary school and decided to keep it secret because she doesn't want to lose me. I told her that with what she did she has lost me already. She has been begging me since then and her mum has also pleaded on her behalf but they both lied to me. I find it very difficult to trust her again.


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I thought I know everything about my wife-to-be but the latest event that unfolded proved me wrong. We've been in a relationship for six years. We've been dating since our third year in the university and we've scheduled our introduction for November this year with the wedding to follow early next year. She got a call from her mother in June that her "nephew" was seriously sick and is on admission in the hospital. She became so worried to the extent that I had to ask about the whereabout of the boy's parents but she couldn't give me a concrete reply. I decided to go with her and we went straight to the hospital and we met her mum and her mum's friend there. Not that I was eavesdropping but from the conversation between her and her mum, I got to know that her so-called "nephew" is actually her son! After his discharge from the hospital, I confronted her with the issue, she tried to deny it and I told her everything I heard from her conversation with her mum. It was then she opened up that she got pregnant after her secondary school and decided to keep it secret because she doesn't want to lose me. I told her that with what she did she has lost me already. She has been begging me since then and her mum has also pleaded on her behalf but they both lied to me. I find it very difficult to trust her again.


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cococandy:
Don't quit your job woman.

OP where do you find all these your stories?

They are posted, most times anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com

Hello everyone, please I need your urgent advice on this trivial issue
because I don't want it to break my home. I'm a married woman with three kids. My husband is a Civil Engineer while I work in a bank. I was working as a cashier before my transfer to the marketing department of the bank. When I told my husband about it he kicked against it vehemently and said if I can't be posted to other departments, I should resign from the job. I pleaded with him and assured him that I will be loyal to him and I will never cheat on him. Of course am not a baby and I know why he is never in support of this. But all my pleas fell on deaf ears. Take it or leave it, my salary plays its part in family finance, we are not that financially bouyant and besides I hate being idle. To get another job is not an easy task. The issue of my job is already turning my home into a battle ground. Please help!!


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Hello everyone, please I need your urgent advice on this trivial issue
because I don't want it to break my home. I'm a married woman with three kids. My husband is a Civil Engineer while I work in a bank. I was working as a cashier before my transfer to the marketing department of the bank. When I told my husband about it he kicked against it vehemently and said if I can't be posted to other departments, I should resign from the job. I pleaded with him and assured him that I will be loyal to him and I will never cheat on him. Of course am not a baby and I know why he is never in support of this. But all my pleas fell on deaf ears. Take it or leave it, my salary plays its part in family finance, we are not that financially bouyant and besides I hate being idle. To get another job is not an easy task. The issue of my job is already turning my home into a battle ground. Please help!!


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Hello everyone, please I need your urgent advice on this trivial issue
because I don't want it to break my home. I'm a married woman with three kids. My husband is a Civil Engineer while I work in a bank. I was working as a cashier before my transfer to the marketing department of the bank. When I told my husband about it he kicked against it vehemently and said if I can't be posted to other departments, I should resign from the job. I pleaded with him and assured him that I will be loyal to him and I will never cheat on him. Of course am not a baby and I know why he is never in support of this. But all my pleas fell on deaf ears. Take it or leave it, my salary plays its part in family finance, we are not that financially bouyant and besides I hate being idle. To get another job is not an easy task. The issue of my job is already turning my home into a battle ground. Please help!!


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News have been going round in the media that USA president Barak Obama will pressurize Nigeria president Muhammadu Buhari into reversing the anti-gay law passed last year January by former president Goodluck Jonathan. Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs Linda Thomas Greenfield even said pressurising Nigeria into reversing the law doesn’t amount to interference.
“As a policy, we will continue to press the government of Nigeria as well as other government who have provided legislation that discriminate against the LGBT community and provide human rights for all Nigerian people regardless of their sexual orientation.”
With Buhari in USA now, he should be wary of their cunning ways and should not be cornered or compromised into making stupid agreements, especially in connection with the issue of Boko Haram in Nigeria. There are better issues that can be discussed (security and economy).
And I want to believe Buhari as a devoted Muslim and an Alhaji at that would not succumb to any pressure. US should refrain from meddling
with issues that doesn’t concern her. Nigeria is an independent Nation and should be left alone to make her laws as deemed fit.
If Obama is really desperate about this gay issue, he should divorce his wife and marry a man (Zimbabwe President, Robert Mugabe has already proposed, LOL) and his wife too should marry a woman.


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