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lovely17:
Lol yes oh Bros na omo naija I be Lagosian sef but love can turn you to mumu

True talk...Love can turn you to mumu at times but not to this stage wey the girl dey take you for granted, you know say she dey take u for granted and you still "MumuLy" allow her to take you for granted....

sinaj:
Helooo m speaking for myself nd for other brave ladies with a strong heart.


A guy dat neva cheated on you wen you were courting, nd all of a sudden u wana call of the wedding a nite to d D.day because u caught him cheating.

Is it dat u neva loved him or u were forced to marry him b4


Hey! Who doesn't know what happens during bachelor's party, the kinda liquor they take, the merriment.

Do u knw if he did it under the influence of alcohol

Do u knw lots of girls out there dat wudnt wnt to see you get married, do u knw if it's frm an act of seduction




Yea awaz talking about family too @ coolh3ad You think the world evolves jux around you

What will happen to your proud mom?

Don't u think she will suffer a heartbreak more dan u

Btw can you point out that guy that has never cheated or doesn't have the tendency to?


Sorry bae, dnt be influenced by nollywood scripts,

U are in a hard world, hence there are difficult or silly choices you goin to make at one point in ur life.


GRACIAS!

Seriously, I don't get your point...So one shouldn"t be blamed for what he or she does under the influence of alcohol??....what really are you talking about....So if he actually rapes someone under the influence of alcohol, you can still marry the person or if he kills someone "under the influence of alcohol" you can still marry him right?....Why are you sooo bothered about "what people will say"?....whose happiness is at stake here?.. Yours or theirs??...So because he was high that night, he could cheat on you and sleep with someone else...Means when he is high at other nights after your wedding and he sleeps with your maid or friend, you won't blame him and you'll see it as a normal thing because he is "under" the influence of alcohol...right?....For you info ma'am...A guy that truly loves you will do everything possible not to cheat on you no matter the situation at hand..

See question?...Why won't I call it off when no bi say we do "blood covenant"....The partner must get mind to cheat on me a night to our wedding...That partner fit even kill person sef....

sinaj:
It will hurt me pretty bad

But what will happen to my family nd friends.



I think d disappointment will hurt more

Xo I won't call it off.

Who is getting married to the guy??.. You or your "Family and friends"?

uniquelycool:
So what do you think??

She has shown the guy she really wants him..No shakara...Nothing.... I pray he is for real and doesn't use her and dump her....

uniquelycool:
My friend met a guy,they're just friends... been chatting and seeing movies together.. so while they were still getting to know each other, he said he has a gf,but they're on the verge of breaking up,he doesn't touch her and is never moved by her body even if she's naked..he said,he can't marry her cos if he does,he'll cheat on her.
Now my friend is gradually liking him,not minding to have a relationship with him,but he hasn't asked her out yet..so she visited him his apartment yesterday, they kissed only. I think she allowed the kiss cos she's already attracted to him. But now she feels she shouldn't have kissed him cost she doesn't wannna look cheap in his eyes..u know how some guys reason..
Now she's regretting the kissing . But I told her she shouldn't regret cos if he truly likes her,they could build a relationship.. I understand her view tho about appearing cheap to him.

What do you guys think about everything and what can she do cos she regrets the kissing.. what can she do to stop feeling that way..
Do u think the guy can still ask her out for a relationship after this kiss scenario?

why didn't she feel "she shouldn't have kissed him cos she doesn't wannna look cheap in his eyes" before kissing him....Why did she start to think about that after kissing him......Does your friend not think before she acts...I am sure he didn't force her and she would have allowed him to have sex with her if he asked for it at that period....Ladies should always think of the results of their actions before performing the act......

Fabulocity:
lol, I get a drift
Money doesn't trip me
I always say my mind. I'm not out to please people
And I'd prefer an intelligent broke guy
Because he'll definitely not remain broke forever
And we can even grow together
And it's not bad to be broke

And how do you know he won't be broke forever??...Because he is intelligent abi....You think all intelligent people make it in life I assume.. And do you think there are no "intelligent" footballers for christ sake

halfricanadian:
I am saying if you are into activities that requires more of movement of the body than reasoning ur motor skill intellect develops more


But wen u into activities that requires more of reasoning than movement of body parts u develop more of logical intellect than motor skill intellect


THIS IS SIMPLE BASIC SCIENCE

YOU EITHER BEEN TOLD TO SPITE ME OR U JUST WANNA ACT CUNNY

Sooo...what are we talking about..A footballer's activities requires movement of the body and more of reasoning too (Both)....He has to do both. Or you think footballers only move their bodies without reasoning?

halfricanadian:
I said they develop motor skill intellect more

Some can b intelligent

Dont you know ow the brain works

When you into a particular skill your motor skills develop better dan ur logical skills or intellect

Bt wen u in a business trade or involved in a job dat deals with more of reasoning dan action or activities u develop ur logical intellect than ur motor skills intellect

Please do d research

Footballers cant b so much smarter dan bill gate or scientists

I hear you but seriously, I don't get your point....

halfricanadian:
No body talked bou graduate

to b educated is different from to be intelligent

Yes of course..to be educated is different from being intelligent..So are you trying say "No footballer is Intelligent?"...

Fabulocity:
eez not all about the money
I prefer an intelligent guy though
And if we had picked the rich footballers
it's your people that would have been quick to call us gold diggers na

I guess you didn't pick the footballer because you don't want "people" to call you a Gold digger abi and you prefer an intelligent guy that doesn't have money abi (you really want me to believe that "fat lie abi)....Stop thinking about what "people will say"....Its your life ma'am not theirs....

halfricanadian:
They are

But footballers hardly have time for anything if its not friendly match its champions league its training award night before u kno it they become intelligent to *motor skills* and not linguistic or logical intellegence

And who says there are no footballers that are Educated and are Graduates (before playing football and becoming stars or after they retired and going back to school)...and you said they hardly have time....Really...You really think they are always on the pitch 24/7 abi..lol

Goldmaxx:
ebuka has 6 gfs and i knw dem all,so u see diaris no reason for him to rape a gal

Bros...Stop na....you are not making sense..So because Ebuka has 6 gfs, it means he can't rape a girl. Na wa for u oo...On the contrary bro, Ebuka is a confirmed womaniser and for a guy to be a rapist, it means one lady can not satisfy him. A rapist can rape as many girls as possible once he has the urge to have sex....so stop all these your "he has 6 gfs", "I know him very well"......I am not saying he his guilty though but don't trust a womaniser when it comes to to this...

ireneony:
No na the taller the bigger the hmm mmmm......

You are being deceived...Who tell you say that happens all the time....I am a guy and I have seen taller guys with smaller hmm mmm and short guys with bigger hmm mm....Guys wey stay hostel for higher institution can testify....

Bbsharon:
Honestly I won't. I love him so much,I guess he is confused too or maybe we are just dealing with trust issue.

Exactly...He thinks you would if someone else comes. You need to talk to him (a heart to heart one) and assure him that "its together forever". Tell him you don't wanna lose him at all.. If he truly loves you and is ready to settle down with you, He would tell you his plans for you I.e plans to marry you...

udondeymadt:
Hello nairalanders usually i don't post topics like this but someone needs some mature advice here. I'll like to share something with u, I believe I can use your advice.
Am presently in a relationship of over 7 months, though she's a girl I've known for a year now (we met February 2015 precisely), though she was dating then. We were good friends, so close that her then boyfriend suspected we were having a secret affair - we didn't. I loved her, but never opened up cause I didn't want to upset her relationship. June last year, she broke up with the guy after finding out he cheated on her. He fought so hard to keep her, blaming me for white-washing her brain against him. She stood her ground and never took him back.
A student, she travelled to Lagos in July after the school break. The following month (August), I opened up to her about my feelings. Of course it wasn't easy convincing her to accept, especially hard since she was far away from me. Later that month, she eventually accepted and we started a relationship.
For six good months, we dated without seeing each other. We called and spoke to each other for at least six hours everyday; I mean every single day not forgetting daily text messages and chats on WhatsApp, Facebook and bbm. It was beautiful. We just had to trust each other. We had issues at times, but because we missed each other it was so easy to settle our problems. She came back on feb. 14 - Val's day. It was, to say the least, memorable.
Now here's the problem. I have this feeling that I am the one most committed to making the relationship work. She calls more, I text more, the chats are balanced. Never as she used my pix as her dp, though I have - but I have chosen not to read much into that. She's hot tempered and tries in vain to find faults in me. I get the feeling she has a crush on me and not love - though she swears she loves me. Recently, I started doubting her. I came across her WhatsApp chats with a guy and was shocked at the messages I saw. The guy wrote: "I am in love with your body. Can u come over this evening?"She replied: "Okay."Next, the guy wrote the following day: "U were so sweet last night."She replied:"Wow, tanx."That was on the 12th of February.
On Valentine's day, he messaged her "happy val sweet", she replied "same love."Took time to write all this so u could be thorough in advising me on what to do. When I confronted her on it she went on a rage as to why I read her chats. Then she claimed i was thinking too far, that it could have been something else. Before I dated her, I could have any girl if I wished coz I was single. But after I fell in love with her, every other girl doesn't appeal to me again. I've sunk my heart into the relationship that it beats so hard just at the thought of her. Am confused now. Am not a bully, I don't get over jealous but I don't want a heart break either.
She swears she loves me, but I can't help but feel that she has skeletons in her cupboard. Please advice me. Feel free to post, I'd like people's opinion on this. But do me the honour of not mentioning my name. Stay blessed.

Pls NLanders your advise to this young man is needed.

Like I will always say....90percent of ladies in our tertiary institutions have "school boyfriends" even if they are in a serious relationship and the boo is far away from them...secondly, she ended a relationship last year june because the guy cheated on her. The truth is she still believes all guys are cheats "for now" I.e you might end up cheating on her too..The distance between you guys won't even help matter...you don't know what she's doing in school, she doesn't know what you are doing at home at her absence.....I think she doesn't wanna put all her eggs in one basket this time...Once bitten, twice shy

Bbsharon:
Hello everyone.

I was jisting with my boyfriend last week and we talked about what if someone approach me for marriage because we are age mate and he told me he has "PLAN B" if I leave him. I was heartbroken and when he realised that he tried explaining that he is just trying to be on the safer side but when I told a older friend of mine about it she told me he (my bf) might be dating the other lady already but he loves me more. I became more confused and do not want to approach my boyfriend on the matter again because I do not want anything that will cause misunderstanding between us.

So I want to know other people's thoughts on this and if you happen to have been in such situation before please share how you handled it.

Mature contributions please... lalasticlala

Please be sincere and truthful oo...at this stage, if some other guy asks for your hands in marriage and you like that guy too, will you dump your current BF

Hadez:
Wrong I do that to all my toasters and I don't love any of them

.......And you are sure you do "No 1 and No 3" to all your toasters

mikkypel:
It's the latest trend of ladies nowadays, they would look at you in the face without remorse and say no sex till marriage.. No matter how you force them, they won't just give in and good guys like us won't force ourselves to sex but I really want to read the opinions of guys in here

Can you date a girl that keeps saying no sex till marriage? How will you cope?

cc Tosyne2much

Bullshit!!!...80 percent of ladies that say that rubbish end up cheating on the "caring, I respect her decision and won't force her" BFs they say that crap to between 6 months to one year of saying it....then they lie that they were raped and tell you "stories that touch the heart"....

Yorubago:
Tecno l5 is 15,000 or you can get a tecno camon c8. I think that should be 20,000

Tecno camon c8 for 20k??...Bros where you wan see am??.. Maybe na "china" camon you see for that price

shozillo:
Ok.U very Right!
I GIVE UP.U WIN.have a lovely week.Cheers

Lol...I was "very" ready to give up if you had countered me again...lol.....Have a wonderful week ahead too....

shozillo:
Lmao.U need to broaden ur scope.
1.so in 2016,there are NO YOUNG MILLONAIRES...come 2 yaba and see young bois with tangible source of income!
2.if u reali READ the OP article..u would hear the guy is INTO TRADING!
3.i knw 4 guys that got Married in my area @25...and if u r nt an OLODO..u would knw dat some ppl that didnt go to school always marry early because they have a Marketable skills e.g I knw young printers in Somolu dat got married early!
4.U asked y i didnt do it...U didnt even ask if I Ever want to Get Married(because Not a pre-requisite 2 enter Heaven)
CHANGE UR MINDSET!

Lol...funny you...

1. "Young millionaires"....so na everybody sabi do "yahoo" abi.....even if dem no dey do yahoo, dem meet wealth for house.....so stop telling me dis "too good to be true" stories bro...

2. Trading?.....for real??...what kind of trading?

3. How you take know say dis boy has marketable skills....if he's making money, His sister won't come on nairaland to ask for advise..

4. You don't wanna get married or you running away from the responsibilties attached to it....

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET BEFORE YOU ASK ME TO CHANGE MINE........

shozillo:
lol.Ur grandparents and Greatgrandparents married b4 25!..were they Americans?

U need 2 go Out More and see 20's Getting Married in Nigeria...East/North and Hinterlands in Nigeria!...talk abt wat u cant do..dnt speak 4 others..

Talking about my grandparents and greatgrandparents, that was then...In the Early years and most of them were into farming and money had value too.....Bro, we are 2016..The guy just graduated from the university. He has nothing bringing in money and you are advising him to get married because his grandparents and greatgrandparents married early....For real..Wake up and stop backing up your instances and examples with the past/early years...I am asking again?...since its legal to marry at 18, why didn't you marry at that age?...I agree say I no fit do am but why didn't you do it

shozillo:
lol.Ur grandparents and Greatgrandparents married b4 25!..were they Americans?

U need 2 go Out More and see 20's Getting Married in Nigeria...East/North and Hinterlands in Nigeria!...talk abt wat u cant do..dnt speak 4 others..

Not here to argue with you..Talking about my grandparents and greatgrandparents, that was then...In the Early years and most of them were into farming and money had value then too.....Bro, we are 2016..The guy just graduated from the university. He hasn't even served yet and has nothing bringing in money and you are advising him to get married because his grandparents and greatgrandparents married early....For real..Wake up and stop backing up your instances and examples with the past/early years...I am asking again?...since its legal to marry at 18, why didn't you marry at that age?...I agree say I no fit do am but why didn't you do it

shozillo:
U Need to read more History and law books and less of ONTV...
The legal age to get married is 18yrs and from time imemorial and now till thy kingdom comes! Guys who will marry @24 would always be amongst us!
Talk 4 urself and STOP using Ur Status 2 judge others...
MARRIAGE is a LIFE LONG LEARNING Activity!! A 25yr old Man with Marriage EXPERIENCE is better than a 40yr old with NO EXPERIENCE

Dey there dey deceive yourself....You think say na yankee you dey....No get work go dey marry at 24...the kain hunger wey go finish you, you sef no go fit explain....why didn't you get married at 18 since its the legal age....or did you....Bros park well abeg and stop all these grammar wey you just pack full here....

naruto02:
Sometime I can't say the difference between reality and a dream. I think 2 weeks ago I was in my bros house, the room I stayed has no fan so I decided to go to the sitting room around 1am to turn on the AC to cool myself then return to the room. So when I was enjoying the AC I started feeling sleepy and I remembered my bro said he doesn't want any1 to sleep on the couch. Before I knew it I started dozing on the couch then later I heard his footstep coming and I was like ewo!! let me stand up. I couldn't move any part of my body I couldn't even talk uptil the time my bro walked near where I was lying down but I didn't see his face, I was surprised he was just standing and not saying anything and still I couldn't move. When I was able to move he wasn't there again and I just realized that everyone in the house was asleep and that wasn't my bro that was standing there... I just turned off the AC and went to bed. I don't know if it was a dream or reality

Its called "sleep paralysis"....You can read more about it

"Initial Gra Gra" is worrying you brother....He wanna get married at 24??...huh??..The kain cheating wey he go cheat on that girl ehn, she'll regret meeting him in the first place...Who dey pursue your brother/the two of them....Do they know what marriage is all about?....Ohhhh...I guess he/they think its exactly the same as Boyfriend and Girlfriend parole abi......I smh 4 ur bro...

Lasgidy1:
I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year now. We share a lot of dreams and aspirations together, we've had lots of fun as well despite our differences. She recently completed her university degree and I am hoping to propose to her immediately after her Nysc as I wouldn't like her to wear an engagement ring for too long. But that aside, I'm an extrovert while she is an introvert. Her dad is a pastor. Maybe that's why she lives a reserved and lonely lifestyle. More so, she told me she was raped 5years ago and that's how she was deflowered.
The issue here is that she hates sex. She always complains of being exhausted no matter how gentle I ride. Because of this, we barely have sex. I had thought her reason for denying me of sex most times is because we ain't legitimately married until this morning when she opened up to me and it was like the shock of my life.
She confessed she has never enjoyed any of our sexual intercourse and most times she fakes the moaning because she wants me to feel like a man and this morning, she doesn't have the energy to fake anything, if its possible for us to stay without sex that she doesn't enjoy anything that all she feels is pain. Then I asked to know if she's doing all of these because we ain't married yet. She said no that even during marriage, it will still be like dat. She began suggesting my sexual demand is too high for her and she can't take it any longer that I should go look for someone else who enjoys sex like me. Since this morning, I can't help clearing off those stuffs off my head. I don't know if the issue lies with me or her and if its me, how can I slow down my urge? And if its with her, how can I make us both reach a state of equilibrium?
Useful advise please?

If she was truly raped and lost her virginity forcefully, then that says it all bro...She will find it very hard enjoying sex...I don't believe she will never enjoy sex again..that's a big lie...For her to enjoy sex, you have a lot to do Bro... I won't advise you using condoms for now (not in support of unprotected sex though but if you see yourselves as future partners and you are ready to be man and wife, do the necessary things you know will make having raw sex with her not a big deal - if you know what I mean)...Then you need to learn a lot of pre-intimacy...pre-intimacy that can get her or any lady in the mood and make her extremely wet (you'll spend sometime on pre-intimacy..No rush at all)..Ensure she's relaxed before you start pre-intimacy...Assure her that she's gonna enjoy it...Take everything slowly and make the "environment" the best for this..Make sure she is relaxed and calm all through while you do "things" to her.... Wish I could say more naughty things you could do to her but I don't wanna get banned oo......

If she was truly raped and lost her virginity forcefully, then that says it all bro...She will find it very hard enjoying sex...I don't believe she will never enjoy sex again..that's a big lie...For her to enjoy sex, you have a lot to do Bro... I won't advise you using condoms for now (not in support of unprotected sex though but if you see yourselves as future partners and you are ready to be man and wife, do the necessary things you know will make having raw sex with her not a big deal - if you know what I mean)...Then you need to learn a lot of pre-intimacy...pre-intimacy that can get her or any lady in the mood and make her extremely wet (you'll spend sometime on pre-intimacy..No rush at all)..Ensure she's relaxed before you start pre-intimacy...Assure her that she's gonna enjoy it...Take everything slowly and make the "environment" the best for this..Make sure she is relaxed and calm all through while you do "things" to her.... Wish I could say more naughty things you could do to her but I don't wanna get banned oo......

lookingbuoy:
I had an experience on friday that I just have to share. First, moral of the story: take your chances when they present themselves

I came into town and quickly set out for a party with a couple of friends. There, I met this really hot chic. She so hot, I just couldn't help it. Wish I could share her pics. She came with some of her friends and appeared really quiet and attractive as she sat away from the bustle. I approached her two glasses in hand. It was noisy with the music. I handed her one and requested we have a chat outside. She obliged.

We chatted outside, and I asked her out to have a drink with me tomorrow. She was immediately down with it. Took her number; she didn't wait to collect mine before rushing off with her friends. The next day, I called and reintroduced myself. Urged her to let's meet for the date. Somehow, she couldn't make it, so we rescheduled our rendezvous. The next day, we met. She was dressed in this really lovely short dress that made her look a whole lot sexier than I could ever believe. (Ladies, please consider wearing short dresses.) I took her to my favourite bar in town, an exquisite bar around the VI area. We chilled at my favourite spot, ordered drinks and some chops and chatted away all night. She was interesting company, because I was, of course, also interesting company. We talked about her birth place, childhood, my birth place, etc. She had this really attractive smile that reveals a subtle imperfection in her dentition. When you read that imperfections are sometimes killer-attractive, like Noami Campbell's birth mark? This is the exact case. Anytime she smiled, I fell a bit more into the hole she had dug for me. I told her straight up I admired her smile. That made her smile more. She was tripping. Told her she could order anything; but she went just as far as needed.

Gently I raised my arm behind her back as we sat on the chair. Just placed it here cautiously. Soonest I was dragging her closer to me by the shoulder. By the time the night was gone, I had blown more than 40k. She was impressed, but only subtly showed it. You don't chill with a girl like this and not want to impress. I pulled every trick out of the playbook and I believe I won her heart in many different ways. By then, it was close to midnight. She didn't want to leave. Neither did I.

I told her matter-of-factly that I'd like to be her "friend". She smiled; I tripped. Time was 12:03am.

As we descended the stairs, I reached for her hand and she yielded. Inside my car, I asked her again what she felt about being my friend. She smiled, wanted to talk and swallowed her words. I observed she was breathing slightly heavily and sighed frequently. That was a sign I couldn't ignore. She was starting to lose her footing as she tripped. I reached for her lips and we kissed, rather passionately. Lasted a while, before she withdrew. Then she said, gasping, she wanted to take things slowly. The momentum was building too fast.

I asked her how she was gonna get home. She intended to take a taxi. I felt it was too late and could be too risky, so I proposed that she come stay the night at my place. I promised not to touch her since she wanted to take things slowly; I'm a gentleman, I assured the beauty. Okay, she murmured. She'd stay the night and then hurry home in the morning. She only needed to call her mum and inform her accordingly.

At my house, I prepared a room for her, provided everything she'd need and promised to stay away in a separate room. Only some hours later, she messaged on whatsapp that she needed company. She couldn't sleep, she wanted me to come around. I did come, but sat away from her. I saw the signs, I didn't ignore them, but I wanted to keep my promise as a gentleman and not touch her. Wouldn't she respect me more when it's morning and I hadn't made a move on her?

Well, I sat away and she slept facing me. In the morn, she was up, had her bath and prepared to go home. All I could observe was that she was suddenly moody. A lady who chatted freely and smiled at every tug is now suddenly withdrawn. As I drove her home, I asked what the problem was. She murmured something incoherent.

After i dropped her off, I invited her out again for another date. She said okay, got off and headed into the house. Hours later, she dropped me a message on whatsapp expressing disappointment in me for not making a move. She had had me help remove her chain, unzip her dress and, in her words, had expected that I'd hold her and do things through the night. Well, I didn't. Now, she's lost interest and wouldn't really want to see me again. She told me she was off the next day on a vacation with her siblings and wouldn't be replying her messages.

I asked for the umpteenth time, did I do anything wrong? Each time, she replied that I did everything wrong. Plus she wouldn't have considered all my offers, if she didn't like me.

So, guys, please take your chances when they present themselves. Nacking wouldn't have even been a problem, but for christ's sake, I was trying to be a gentleman. I'm still buzzing her on Whatsapp as I type this, gently keeping desperation at bay, as a reasonable dude. I can't call as she is out of the country. No responses so far. I'm hoping this incredibly hot damsel gets a change of heart towards me.

Bros, Continue being a Gentleman Jare...I respect your action....I would do the same too..I am sure if you tried to make a move that night, she would have done that childish shakara ladies do to act like they don't want it when they really want it..that pisses me off soooo much...Free her jare, she's just a LovePeddler and you shouldn't take her seriously...