Before you travel or japa, ask yourself the following questions

How will I find shelter or place to sleep abroad? Homeless is not fainted hearted, you do not want to be homeless in a very cold country e.g RUSSIA
will my friends or family members that are planning to stay with betray me? e.g will they kick me out from their homes?
What work will I find or how do I find money in this new environment?

Boarding school should be banned for JSS level or from age 9 to 13 only SSS level should be allowed to start boarding school. kids are generally wicked,at least from age 14 the kid is a more mature than a 10 years old

No matter how successful you are in another country, never forget your motherland. At least have something in Nigeria, even it is a duplex or studio. Do not completely ignore your own country.

she better be thanking God that she got caught in Abuja, not in Saudi

Selling Akara or doing akara business is not for Big boy or Mr. chairman. some folks are just too big for some work As long they have gone to uni, na only office work be the concern. Not saying that one should not aspire for better thing. But when it comes to make money legit with work scare as ever , omo u got to think outside the office work.

Mauricio Pochettino is not a good coach option for Manchester United. The premier League is not a farmer league with one team dominating all the time. Nuno Herlander Simões Espírito Santo will be a better option and He is a good coach, He understand the premier league system better , I know he did not do well in Tottenham hotspur but he was not given enough time to manage that club, football fans can be impatient. PSG is a loaded team, anyone with little experience in coaching can do well and this is the case of Mauricio Pochettiono

From internet SCAM to Drug Peddling to prostitution, why are Nigerians asscoiated with such vices? This is very bad and no tribe is holier than the other. So many Nigerians are wasting in prison abroad.

Proverbs 14:20
King James Version
20 The poor is hated even of his own neighbour: but the rich hath many friends.

We do not need a mega city or any mega project where electricity is scare in many parts. All the mega cities in the world have constant electricity. Building an expensive city with no plan of constant electricity is a half baked plan.

captainbangz:

Majors like?

medicine , nursing, IT, computer science, pharmacy, you can even learn some computer programs, computer information and so forth. Study the job market and see which job are always in demand. Just because a degree is useless in Nigeria does not mean it is useless oversea.

Cognitivereason:
So the course is more important than the School..

So which will u choose
Good course like medicine or engineering from a less recognised school like sokoto state university
Or
Useless major like Mass comm or psychology from a well notable school like UI , ABU ,UNILAG..

First of all, a degree is a piece of paper that a school gives or accredit a student upon the completion of a major. University of Ibadan is a good recognize school, University of Abuja is another one. Even a less recognized school can still be play a major role in one's career , if they are teaching right and the students are learning a lot from school and applying what they learn in respective professions. Good courses carry weight , the most important thing is to pass the exam and one can practice what they learnt in school well. This is when skill plays a role, many come from big school and do not have the skills to practice what they learnt in real life. Some end up as quack doctors, engineering and so forth. Big school reminds me of brand clothes, and less recognized school reminds of regular clothes, they both provide the same function of covering someone unclothedness.

It is all good to be single, until you start getting old. It is all good to be single until you start hitting age 45 and you start releasing that you are not getting younger. It is all good to be single until you see your friends kids becoming teenagers and all the potential women your age are married or with kids . It is all good to be single until the women available are 15 years younger than you , and do not want to marry an old man with no money. Please marry if you can - do not wait to be very old. If you find a potential woman who is making sense , then marry her. Do not wait to be too old and realize the woman that you suppose to marry is marrying another guy. Please if you marry the right woman, then you will realize you made the right choice. Marriage is not scam if you marry right

uncleck:

They hardly tell you the truth about learning a skill.

They hardly tell you that most skills are over saturated

They hardly tell you that to make it with your skills in Nigeria, you must tell lies

They hardly tell you that years of experience is important in skills world.

If you must learn a skill, do so because you want to and not because motivational speakers told you to..... and do it in a right way

there is general misconception that Nigeria degree are useless. If you go to a computer school, learn IT or any computer programming or medicine . You can use your degree to get a job overseas . So please do not let anyone tell you that your degree in useless.

if you study a useless major, then expect not to get anything in return.
Study a major that is always in demand or can get you a job - no matter how the economy is- stop wasting your money on useless major. NA the lecturers go chop your money

claim that you are from Ghana

MisterKennedy:

Wow bro, this is the best advice that I've read here so far. I've been reading everybody's advice but yours is the best.

I also want to thank you because it was like you were also speaking to me.

I do have issues with low self esteem. And I never speak with confidence. But you've reiterated the importance of being confident and I'll try to work on that.

Even though I'm a stammer and that's the main reason why I don't speak with confidence. But I'll work on it.

Thank you so much for your advice bro. God bless you.

you are welcome

The good news is that you are not the only one who will not sleep with an olosho, or can imagine paying for sex. There are many men who are in your shoes that will rather die a virgin than to pay a woman for sex. To have sex with a woman who sleep with multiple men is just a strange phenomenon for some guys. I do not even how some guys survive or risk getting AIDS or STDs when sleeping with a prostitute. Lagos is tough place to find love sha. I advise you to get busy by getting your mind occupied - Improve on a skill , work on yourself ,get better at something that you can fetch your money in the long run. learn a computer program is not a bad start, just get your mind occupied - A idle man is a a devil man workshop

Still go out and date even if you do not have money-. Still try- if 20 women say no, 1 lady will say yes-. Some women are attracted to intelligent men and do not care if the guy has money or not. All one need to do is to dress well ,speak confidently and look good physically. Even though you are an introvert, still talk with the opposite sex, talk intelligently and always dress or smell well. Some broke dudes have dated rich women -and they are successful at it. They do not have 10 heads.
4. Keep a healthy shape, avoid having a pot belly, cut your hair, shave and if you are in the beard gang, keep your beard neat and trim and speak with confidence . Workout

Stan2330:


What do u mean by acute when a symptom has lasted for up to 1 yr?
I've never heard of acute heart disease throughout my medical school and acute kidney disease doesn't present like this

He doesn't need all those investigations if u know what u are doing

I did not know it was more than a year. Well I suspect Cushing disease, nevertheless- a comprehensive lab test, diagnostic test and with physical examination by a skilled physician will eliminate guesswork and pinpoint the disease.

How peeps come to conclusion based on appearance baffle me? Please get a lab test, blood test, BUN, CBC, Creatinine , troponin liver enzymes test, GI test, gall bladder test , and other test that can rule out if the Liver , heart , kidney is healthy or not . Ask if he still make urine and go to respectable hospital in Nigeria , see a respectable doctor who is knowledgeable, not the quack one. Lab test and adequate diagnostic test can eliminate guess work and can pinpoint what is going with your brother. It could be acute Heart disease or Acute kidney disease or Cushing syndrome , I do not know. Limit salt intake , fluid restriction and go see a doctor ASAP

You can lose a job and still bounce back with right mindset. Losing a job is a normal thing in a job market. A hustler or a hardworking person know this, so they do not put their eggs in one basket. They always plan ahead or thinking of the next move. So their women respect them because they know they are prepared for the worse by trusting God, alway looking for the next moves, work or hustle.It is a quitter that a wife disrepect

Easy- do not loan any amount you cannot afford to lose if they do not pay you back
My limit is 1k, if person cannot pay me back. I do not worry.
Do not loan on a loan, if someone owe me and they do not payback. And they ask again, forget it.

Just show love to your wife because she is now your madam. Quarrels, argument already are part of the marriage package since it is for better or for worse. Show love to her, do not cheat on her or do not hit her and treat her very well, respect her and let your actions do the talking. Pray for her, It takes two to tangle and Let her win the argument, and watch her transform from the devil to an angel. Be assertive not aggressive. When you are angry , walk out to cool off. Practice make perfect, marriage na work for new comers. Happy wife happy life

Nigerians are responsible and respected worldwide. It is how you dress, act and how you package yourself go tell. If you dress like a thug, act like a gangster then u will be treated as one.

Be truthful always no matter what especially in the beginning. Better to let the person know ahead of time than for them to find out. Many people hate secrets especially when dating, imagine she too had a child that you do not know about, I wonder what you will saying.

Too harsh

before you make a general assumptions, do your research well. There are men who are helping men. The problem is those who want to help will get help. Some men do not want change , so no matter how much help is rendered, the efforts do not yield results. The only advice is to pray for such men. Some men have given money to support business of friends , family members and end up feeling insulted for helping. Have you help someone out of good intentions and you felt they see you as mumu because you helped them and the next time they ask for your help , you become hesitant to help and refused? welcome to club , you are not alone. So please try to understand why some folks do not answer call or refuse to give money.

ExtraVioment:
Back in the day, my sister give me Nick name, send me money, because I thought everything was easy in Yankee.


Don't get me wrong, America is very beautiful and over mature than Nigeria in many ways, no be small thing. Seeing most parts of America, will make you know that serious mathematicians put their theories to practice there. But America is also more gangsta than Nigeria, that part I been no know. It is a struggle to survive there.


I used to call my sisters, my aunties, or my bros when they travel, na so me and my younger bro, go just dey mark them without reason. It took me to go spend 2 years there, for my perspective to reset.


Is not like there are jobs everywhere, but there are jobs. Imagine you get a job, but it cant pay for your rent (room in a house, not even the whole apartment); immigrants from places like Europe, and rich middle east places, can just pick up their small bag and go back to their country when they feel overwhelmed. But Africans cannot try that, and the multitude of beggars back home no go gree you live and survive.

I also blame some people over there(abroad), they like to show off and front because that is their only way of showing gratitude. Another thing is that, home based people are so disillusioned that they see how fresh or see your skin looking more tender, then they assume success; but the truth is that, when you go to any place with electricity and running water, your skin will improve than when in Nigeria. Even people that go to Gabon, have nice skin.


Bottom line is that Nigerians back home need to be educated and be sensitive to people abroad, it is not easy, many sleepless nights, too much pressure to help when you haven't helped yourself or your family, hence, the criminality that people embrace. It is a struggle. People in Nigeria need to understand the struggle, these working countries, don't plan for you to come and be taking all their money back to your country. It is set up to have you work, make just enough, then turn around and pay them taxes and other bills.

I remember a friend of mine that went to Yankee, died one day immediately he got to work. He was doing any job he can find, so that he could pay some bills and try to help people back home. After he died, the people he was always giving money, started looking for who to leach on.


The moral of the experience, are numerous. But remember, everybody wey dey live for lekki, no dey enjoy. Some people dey struggle for real, and am not even talking gateman and cleaners there.


All that glitters is not gold.

It is all true. But a man needs to learn to say no especially when they are abroad working hard to survive. Avoid looking on Facebook, avoid answering peeps on whatsapp when they ask for money all the time, ignore their texts or get busy. Be weary around holiday time and stop being a father Christmas to everyone. Nigerians do not care if one almost died making money overseas,, all they care is for the money to be send. The sad stories will never end and the takers do not have limit. It is good to give but give with sense. The only one that a man or woman owes an obligation are his or her parents or guardians, his wife/ her husband and his kids . Bros, sisters , uncles , aunties , neices , nephew, cousins , bestfriends or girlfriend do not count

“The poor is hated even of his own neighbour: but the rich hath many friends.” Proverbs 14:20

A woman that cannot cook or do not want to learn is a liability, I don't care how much money she has. Eventually eating outside get tiring. A home cooked meal calm the nerve

Nigeria will never be an Islamic Republic.

First of all, you are the wrongest thread to discuss of rape-
Second of all, Nigeria is worst country for a woman who get raped. They always blame the woman even if she could be the right place and the right time. She could be the most decent woman and most well behaved woman , a woman of virtue who respect herself.
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The Real Taliban are the Fulani Herdsmen , Boko Haram , Bandits and the one sided Governors of the Northern States of Nigeria who just appear to do nothing against such atrocities against common citizens and Christians in the North. Nigeria will never be an Islamic Republic