ElonEmpire:
GoodMorning all ,

I will make this as short as possible.
Before marrying my wife she seems to be this very generous and accommodating fellow . I felt fall in Love with her because this is just the kind of partner I want,

I have not really stand very well financially, though comfortable and contented, but I have this great dream of, because of what I pass through to help as much people as I can.
While dating her, she told me all kinds of stories of her philanthropic and generous gestures to people.

But moving forward to today, she seems to be direct opposite of everything.
She detests people coming close or we offering any kind of help or assistance to family both hers and mine not to talk of friends.

What about suggesting to assist a relative that can't afford, with their child education na war
We have not born but I have more than enough space to bring one or two children to see them through school but my wife is not buying is at all at all.

I know who I am before I marry, this is the only thing that gives me joy, and my only reason for asking God everyday to bless me so that I can bless people.

But right now am seriously confused
it hurts me alot but I don't wanna force anything against her will.

I have tried discussing it over and over with her but she is still not buying it, with the excuse of that we have not stand enough to carry anybody .

What could be her reasons and
What should I do?

Bro.. I know you're good at heart. But your wife and your own family should be your priority. And I'm sure that's what she's trying to tell you but you are taking it the other way. I'm a Man and I Believe so much in giving, infact I've giving so much in my life and even out of nothing. But people are not that worth it.. Your Family should be your priority... Do everything that makes her happy.. Let her know you can listen to her when it's needed... Instead of thinking she changed.

As a man you must know your priority. This is Africa and Nigeria.. don't use your own hand to bring problem into your life and Family.

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Scam! I repeat na scam bro.

She get people wey dey serve her well. She just want mugu you into serious relationship because she know say you make sense and you love the knack.

Tell her you not ready for anything serious for now.. that no problem about the sex, that henceforth you can always assist her if you have.. but she's not your priority when it comes to finance any longer.

Trust me she go knack you again

Efe42:
Hello guy's good evening I'm kind off little weird asking such here but I need little advice guy's I meet this girl some year's ago let's say 2 but we're just friends back then, but time flies as there say probably fast - ward to November last year we meet again this time I took her my place of resident we talk alot the following day she came we had s*x.

So she keep coming and before then I've break up with my ex girlfriend she's too proud and she's always like what's trending and I can't take's her shit any more I call for break up but my current girlfriend is very cool and gentle but so attractive.

But now she said she doesn't want sex anymore that' sex is waken her in her spiritual life prayers really hard except if I'm ready to see her parents introduction!!

I've already told her I can't be in a very were sex is unavailable but I still love her Matured minds pls...

You better leave her alone. You said it yourself that she's a good Woman. And she's refusing because she knows that move will break your home and Yes it's True.

When she Leave for abroad, are you going to be Celibate till she returns?

And she on the other hand, do you think she may not fall for a pressure from a sweet looking dude that may even have more cash than you do?

Don't use your own hand to scatter the Peace your home is experiencing right now.

Chairman to find a Woman that will give you Peace this days is Hard oo.. You're making progress because she's true to you and she's giving you peace of mind.

So don't mess it up.

Lol most of this girls are kuku Bisexual... Maybe na are Puuunna eating partner be that... I pity the dude.. She acting Dominant Bi.

No sex till marriage na scam.. she go dey knack somewhere.

Run for your life.. Na community puuusssy dey use that format. Be warned

EkehPraise:
Top of the morning dear Nairalanders..

I think I have found the girl of my dreams and she ticks all the boxes for me except that she has said our relationship should be a no sex relationship till marriage because we intend to settle down this year by God's grace.
So please if you have been in a no sex relationship kindly share tips on how to preserve it and be steadfast till we tie the knots.
Thank you.

I really need good advice because I want this to be my Bus-Stop.

This one just want to cashout from some of those ill mannered Ladies.

Take the advice as a Lady if you forget that you will also be a Mother-in-law somebody. Unless you chose not to procreate.

Take your pound of flesh and move. She's not your girlfriend.. you dey date yourself

She will Leave you over and over agaIn for anyone that she thinks is better than you. And the said man have knacked nonsense out of her P... So enjoy the P till you're tired.

You're making a defining decision of your life. Move out and start your business. She will value your absence and appreciate your growth later.

And I Pray God will Bless the Work of your hand and you will excel exceedingly.

Please move out for your own mental health and Growth.

PS:Apply Wisdom. Don't approach your family and say you want to move out. Tell them instead that you got a job somewhere far from where you stay and you will be staying with a female friend that also work in the place.

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Jappaaa I repeat jaaapaaa.. and that's not even financially smart for you.

24brains:
No woman, no cry. A girl that barely said yes to me yesterday is demanding 60k from me for wardrobe allowance.

Giving her the money is not the issue. but i fear a relationship built on such ground will collapse in no time.

What happens when hair and feeding allowances enters? i sometime wonder if having a girlfriend is worth it because almost all of them have multiple boyfriends whom they cash out from. i see no difference between them and olosho. petronizing olosho gives much rest of mind than a girl who is yet to be your wife.

Nairalanders, how do you people cope with girlfriends palava in this present state of Nigeria?

Do the Math. He Produce Movies weekly.. the Regular Nollywood standard.. Marketers buy them for 3-5m.. if you divide 100m by 5.. that's just 20movies that will give him 100m.

Do you know the Number of Movies this guy has produced? Movie alone can give him over 100m.. But if the rest of his assets doesn't add up.. that's still his Business.. it's nobody's Business.

When you make money people like to play down your effort like you got lucky.. No we work ffeeckiing hard

He's a Guy Man. I know you're in Love and you may be too blind to see and believe all his excuses over and over again. But he's a Guy Man... No responsible man will want to start a Family in her Girlfriends Apartment.

I'm sure he's gunning to milk you dry. You're already one leg in.. but you can still save yourself. All I smell is trouble.. Him getting angry because you asked for proof is part of his game plan so you wouldn't have the courage to ask him any questions moving forward.

Try not to call him and leave him be.. you will see he will come around and beg.. because clearly he will see that the mind game didn't work on you and he would want to try something else.

Long story short .. He's a Complete Guy Man.

PS: I don't know why good girls be meeting all these bad boys and Good Boys be meeting all these ogbanje...

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

mrdharkchild:


I can't think of any business to do. I won't lie. I no b everybody.
About the admission. let me get it first.
Helpers like u and d OP still exists

This is the most Foolish statement I've heard from a Young Person.

Experience it.. Trust me you won't regret it. She didn't say she want to marry you.. Just flow with her.. Moreover you need a distraction from your Ex.

PlayMaker14:
My female boss almost made it happened between us but I just have to use wisdom to avoid any romantic affairs.

It all started when she noticed how calm and playful I am anytime I am talking with my ex during my lunch break. She came to meet me one morning and queried me for no making the flight reservations on time, I apologised and told her that it was due to the poor connection.

Then she asked if that's how I apologise when I did something wrong to my ex, (I knew she was driving at something) I told her not all the time and the her facial expression changed. "That's how you guys are" was her reply.

She has been having issues with her boyfriend, though she's the reserved type, but she decided to let me know about the little issue she's having as I was very close to her.

After resolving the issue with her boyfriend, she told me that they'll be getting married soon, but that was not meant to be as the guy lost his life in an accident.

She was devastated and almost ran mad during that period, I offered the little help I could as I was placed in charge of the office.

When she recovered fully, and back to work, I noticed she started giving me this "greenlight" which I don't find cool. I had to limit the way I chat with her and let her know that I was there to work and not to engage in office romance.

She's 3yrs older, so beautiful and young but I nor dey do office romance to avoid SEE FINISH.

mrdharkchild:
Sow it into my life.
I need a job jare.
With that money I go use am pay application fee for admission into 6 schools abroad

You need a job. But you will rather use the money to apply for admission into school abroad? If you get the Admission how will you take care of the Bills?

Wake up bro... If anyone give you such money..Use the Money to Start a Business. (You've solve your Joblessness be that)

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It's just 20m plus in Naira.. Allow VC to flex on his hardwork oo

I could understand what you're going through.. Some of us Men can be very insensitive... I would advice that you sit him down and tell him how his statement made you feel. He's supposed to apologise and feel remorseful.. but if he was nonchalant then something is wrong. I'm so sorry for what you had to experience.

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

No be this one dey drag Deeeek with Bobrisky? Nonsense and Stupidity

Lol complete Lie PR Strategy. They are losing at all front. Their Farmers and Suffering for the selfish Interest of their leaders lol.

AA can't turn to AS. She's not being honest.

Few things didn't add up.. You couldn't call him on such important information .. only excuse is that you were too tired.. that line didn't add up at all.

Analysing your own data.. It sounded like you have someone in Abuja you decided to spend that Friday Evening (pass the night) with after work and you will not be free to talk and then secondly you're not sure if you want to Replace this Lagos guy with the one in Abuja yet.

Summary: All I see is indecision. So I guess what you're actually trying to ask us is, who should you go with. (In your story their is someone in Abuja but it's silent in your narration)

So as you dey take bwest talk now go drive your point forward abi? Ode Egu

After the whole 5G theory.. I knew this dude is no brainier.. just shutdafack man

Cheap Attention Seeker MoooFoooo .. I think you're deluded from the Idea your Parent passed down to you.. because they as well like your very self couldn't fight for what is right and just.. hence the problem we have found ourselves.. So on that note I won't blame you, you just followed in your generational footsteps... I hope this summarized your long Hediotic Epistles

Mad skills ..

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I couldn't even believe some people still behaves like animal.. the other men that's supposed to caution the stupid guy that tapped her butt... They were busy celebrating stupidity.

That's absolutely distasteful.. So she can't dress as she so pleased without being harassed by few idiot Men? Because real Men don't do that nonsense and we have more real Men than those idiot shouting and encouraging sexual harassment and body shaming.

I think we can do better as a whole.

Lol he's not that good.. David own was obvious from the cutting on the body touch.. Will Smith and Simi is very obvious.. He's good but I think he needs to pay attention to details.

What if it's not Village People?

What if it's not an Accident?

What if it's a planned incident that they made look like accident out of envy.. she died in the camp not in action.

May her soul rest in peace.. this is really sad