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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by unclecycs: 10:33am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Run away !! It may be hard to do but please run away

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by dederocs(m): 10:35am On Apr 26
uchwar1:
Nawao! someone who built a duplex and u are here asking; if it is US dey shaka m? Your IQ ehh
So many get money, but US dey shack them, your papa iq low, bastard, be like you no know sarcasm. Go marry sugar mama grin
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by dederocs(m): 10:36am On Apr 26
ibechris:



U know them well,American husband wey no dey respect women. Them go marry there,still come back here to spoil our women, finish them dump them to suffer.
My point exactly.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by faithfull18(f): 10:36am On Apr 26
You should know what to do.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Azammmi: 10:36am On Apr 26
Fine someone else e is not serious at all
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by victorazy(m): 10:37am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Don't listen to anybody here, just pray and follow ur heart.

Even me would not be smiling with you if I love you and I find out u won't sacrifice.

Maybe ur still seeing ur baby daddy and u don't want obstacle.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by RexTramadol1: 10:38am On Apr 26
See me!
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by LordKushmann(m): 10:39am On Apr 26
Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway

Of course you just like him. His aim is for you to like him so whatever he's been saying or doing to you prior to this moment were all consciously scripted to tickle your fantasy. So no go Jones. Or dem go use you count scores nwa... Everyone has an agenda in this life. Question you should be asking yourself now is; what's your agenda in this whole relationship thing?
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by spadar4u(m): 10:40am On Apr 26
Single olosho. Close ur legs next time. Nobody is asking her why she dated a married man
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by AustainoPatrick(m): 10:41am On Apr 26
op run for your life,. he's after your asset's and money

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by udemzyudex(m): 10:41am On Apr 26
wetin person wan advise you for here again?

I guess you just want to confirm your decision and probably see the number of people they will go with your decision.
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by focus7: 10:41am On Apr 26
Don't let him him oppress you with his attitude, he's not real. Block him and avoid him

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by seyz91(m): 10:41am On Apr 26
you no lie, na US dey shack am,

to get naija get mumu button, tel them you have money

or you are in any part of Abroad, so far dem know say you enter plane travel and una dey make video calls with them, their mum button is activated

forgeting that not all abroad or being abroad doesn't mean you are rich or succesful

just like you said alot of people in Nigeria and doing better than most in Abroad
dederocs:
Mugu, good Nigerian men dey, successful, most of them in America live via hand to mouth. Abi na US dey shack you grin
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Minjim: 10:42am On Apr 26
Please, let them go.

Don't allow a man pack into your house.

A man that doesn't have an accommodation of is own is not even ready to settle down.

Don't be desperate to lower your expectations. I'm not saying you should not be humble. But don't allow yourself be exploited

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by alpharoyalty: 10:43am On Apr 26
You already know, his reaction should be the advise you seek for, let him go quickly before he ruins your life for the sake of your innocent daughter, Is this the kind of Man you plan to settle down with? If he is already giving you attitude at this stage in your "relationship", have you given a thought to how he will behave when you finally settle down with him? Please let him go now!!!!!!!

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Starhearts: 10:43am On Apr 26
TripleDdotcom:
For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Another importance of introducing the family members is that it sets everything in motion with a serious impression and outlook.

for example, if a man toasts a woman and tells him he wants to marry her, they've courted and the woman likes him, if she tells him to come see her family, this will instill the impression of seriousness in him or will expose his intentions. If he has sinister motives in mind and isn't serious about marrying the girl, it'll reflect in the way he responds to that request.

Now if all the family members are involved and matters have been settled, they now marry each other. then they will feel at ease sharing their assets or possessions (sex, money, properties) with each other cause of the bond that has now binded them together.

That's the proper channel. But humanity will go through improper channels and rush things with themselves these days, giving out their possessions to people that have not proven to worth it yet and they will start crying when the consequences arrives.

This proper channel may not guarantee that there'll be no problems 100 percent of the time but its waaay more credible and safe than not doing it.

And the wisdom in what I've said reflects in your life already. Just for you to know I'm telling the truth.

You gave out yourself to your first man, had two children with him and now he's not ready to marry you. You have now become a single mother, striving to foot all the responsibilities all because you gave yourself and your intimate commitments away too early to someone who doesn't deserve it.

Let this serve as a lesson for you. Don't let love or emotions blind you. If you meet a man that's not showing any commitment to you and is asking things from you too early and is seeming to hide some vital information you should know from you, jilt him and Block him!!!

If you don't heed daddy's advice (meaning me) And you get hurt, don't come and cry to daddy (me) about it.

God guide and help you to do things properly oo..







..........

By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg.Thanks

Nothing wrong if dere is love

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by indie22(f): 10:44am On Apr 26
Please leave this man and find yourself a man that truly loves you,
this one wants to use you like roll-on, exhaust your resources then dump you

He smells like someone looking to take advantage of you

Beware!!

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Minjim: 10:45am On Apr 26
victorazy:


Don't listen to anybody here, just pray and follow ur heart.

Even me would not be smiling with you if I love you and I find out u won't sacrifice.

Maybe ur still seeing ur baby daddy and u don't want obstacle.

Which sacrifice are you too willing to make?

Or it's only one person that should sacrifice?

The benefit of convincing in a relationship lies more with the man. You must be the man in a relationship, at least let it be known that you're trying
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by CoolVoice(m): 10:45am On Apr 26
He's a Guy Man. I know you're in Love and you may be too blind to see and believe all his excuses over and over again. But he's a Guy Man... No responsible man will want to start a Family in her Girlfriends Apartment.

I'm sure he's gunning to milk you dry. You're already one leg in.. but you can still save yourself. All I smell is trouble.. Him getting angry because you asked for proof is part of his game plan so you wouldn't have the courage to ask him any questions moving forward.

Try not to call him and leave him be.. you will see he will come around and beg.. because clearly he will see that the mind game didn't work on you and he would want to try something else.

Long story short .. He's a Complete Guy Man.

PS: I don't know why good girls be meeting all these bad boys and Good Boys be meeting all these ogbanje...

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by realray(m): 10:46am On Apr 26
my advice, run!!.... He's a big time Scammer

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by ofordegreat(m): 10:47am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.


Dear Lady, I advise that you keep to your principle. Drill him until you can trust him.

You may give him some time. Call or text him periodically. If he is genuine, he will come around.

Best wishes Lady!

Cheers
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Nobody: 10:52am On Apr 26
Don't dull yourself. He's fake.

Don't let any man take advantage of you because you're single mother. It's better to live and enjoy your life with your son for now than to allow all these boys come and add sand to your garri.

A real "man" will soon come your way that won't have eyes on your property.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Ayobamix(m): 10:52am On Apr 26
My sister all you need is prayers all that glitter are not gold moreover whenever something good is coming Satan will try to let you see something similar

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by INTEGRITYA1(m): 10:52am On Apr 26
[quote author=Grace456 post=101114076]Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her.

Read and read through carefully, The guy told you he is staying in US well we don't know if he's saying the truth or not. But staying abroad should not be the main standard to build relationships or marriage on. Irrespective of where you are staying in the world, How responsible a guy or a lady is should play a dominant roles in relationship and marriage. I will later come back to issue of staying abroad or not.

But from your few explanation here, it's so obvious the guy is hidden something important away from you or we can say he's having target and intention (to scam you of your belongings, wealth and properties). Things are happening. Fact.

Currently, where is he staying in Nigeria or who is he staying with ? I hope you should know this.

To someone you really wanted to settle down with, you need to know what exactly he is doing, even if he's unemployed you should know (At least you guys will know where you are and what to tackle). Where is he working, his educational background, where is he from (Family background).

You must know his family members convincingly (Papa, Mama, Brothers, Sisters and his friends) Don't forget we are taking of marriage here.

Now briefly to the issue of staying abroad.

By default, women are moved mostly by what they hear from Men while men are moved by what they see (Shape, physique and so on)

As a result many players (Guys) have master the act of telling lies to the hearing of women in order to play fast one on them, that's why some guys will come up with the story of staying abroad to cajole their prey (Home base woman like to mingle with guys from abroad) they see it as God has finally picked their calls to leverage on their said Abroad guy to travel as well or at least to be earning foreign allowances. It's never a bad idea to married abroad base guys but in nutshell, that should not be the main standard for marriage.

In relation to your own guys who came from US, since when did he arrived, was he deported or he came on his own, what are his reason for coming down. What has he been doing over there and what are his achievements, what can he show to justify his claim. Please wise up, do your homework accordingly and choose wisely.

Wishing you best of luck in your quest to settle down.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by iLegendd: 10:53am On Apr 26
Michelle55:
My sister run.. Na dem oh

grin

And this made me laugh hard, especially the line, "Na dem oh." Keep it up.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by generationz(f): 10:59am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.


You really need to sit down and think deeply why you keep attracting irresponsible men.
It's a hard pill to swallow but you must look inwards and ask yourself this question.
Not just for your own safety but you have daughter who if exposed to the wrong man, she may never recover from.

Maybe your criteria in a man makes you look at physical appearance and charm rather than testing the waters first. I can assure you, you are not the first person that man tried to scam.

Pray and ask God for wisdom on what to do. You will seeing what was hidden in plain sight or what you ignored because you focused on the wrong things.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Xscape1993(m): 11:00am On Apr 26
Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
Are you sure he lives outside the country? Be very careful with some men online ooo. Don't rush into settling down with a man without a good plan for the future ooo.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by zinodizt: 11:00am On Apr 26
Avoid that guy like plague. if you continue such relationship it will end in premium tears don't let love cause you pain for the rest of your life

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Switch07(m): 11:03am On Apr 26
Loverboy3333:
Two people you can never advice,

A woman in love

and

A man with money




Forget all these advice flying here, if the guy call her once all advice don fly away


Sense wan kill you
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by INCREDIBLE007(m): 11:04am On Apr 26
it is well
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Akuruoulo(m): 11:06am On Apr 26
Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway
Without paying ur debts ?
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Erimmy2(m): 11:08am On Apr 26
Teaveapoet:
Please for now, no man please..please take care of your daughter till you heal well. Please don't make mistake and don't let anyman turn you against your daughter
You're saying no man for now. What about her sexual needs?

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