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Bigdre31:
all dis una big big business English enh , na em dey make person broke sef

Ask and you shall receive.
Google is your friend

Amotolongbo:
And what is good character without brain?

No one is born without brain.
But some people don't make good use of their brain.
Someone with bad characters can be considered as one making bad use of his/her brain.

NYCnextStop:
what are the good investments then?

Invest in Money Market/Capital Market.
The ROI is better than the fixed deposit option

Don't worry about the future. It will take care of itself. But the world is getting bigger. NL will most likely follow suit

NaijaBoy213:
Guy abi u dey forest since, dis shit is 3 yrs old bro

It doesn't matter o

I'm even looking for a call from my girl once in two weeks.
But someone is here complaining of too much calls from his girl daily.

Very weird world! Is isn't it?

No relationship is actually perfect

Meeyankee:
Just like how I didn’t understand what is killing us and what is keeping us alive I will not force my self to understand something that was not made for me to understand.
In mathematics/ physics and chemistry we all know how their formulas and theory works so will always applied them whenever we solving issues.
But for the girls I rest my case.It struggles to understand life itself. Then man go come Dey struggle to understand woman again.
They are really set of confused people if you too think about your brain will be dead and corrupt like a virus that hits a computer sister.

My case is a bit different. I do understand my girl. She is an introvert. She hardly talks even when we are together. That's the only challenge I'm having with her. Otherwise, she's every man's dream.

Meeyankee:
Omo me don stop to Dey call the girl oo how she go Dey play minds game with a nigga.

That's the best way to go about it. I hope she won't complain about it later.

I like taking things slowly. But I sent a warning message. If she doesn't change that attitude, I will stop calling her completely.
Then we will proceed on a no calling relationship. But it may cause some downgrading. No girl can try nonsense with me no matter how much I love her.

I'm a very patient type and I bear long with people. I'm also very considerate.
But when my patience is exhausted and taking forgranted, the other side of me will be activated.

I think like breaking a girl's heart. But the other side of me doesn't care

I'm talking about a girl that I broke her virginity and she's dead into me.
I just don't understand why she finds it so difficult to call me.

Las Las, she will accuse me of taking her away her virginity and breaking her heart

Meeyankee:
You will understand what the guy is saying because you are not living here with us.
Since of entitlement is the major factor here, Even when the lady is into you, she still wants you to suffer this is the reason most of them are losing good relationship because few guys here are now understanding that it all about games . Let me give your example one there is one lady like that we are into each other I normally do the calling but for her to reciprocate she will not but she will start calling one of my cousin asking after me when you have my number on your. Even when she didn’t get my call for one week she will still went back to my cousin telling her how I haven’t called her for 2 weeks that I am careless. What are you going to say in this kind of situation?

I think it is unfair. I'm having my share of this no call attitude. She will rather send me a whatsapp message than calling.

LifeMapEmpire:
I tell people "FORGIVENESS" is key in the success of any marriage... Been married for about 10years now and I can say without mincing words that "NOTHING IS A DEAL BREAKER FOR ME".


I have forgiven in advance for the things my spouse will still do!

I like your attitude to life. It will give you peace of mind.

I equally have this mindset of Forgiveness in Advance. It makes it very easy for me to forgive people.

But I'm a little scared of a cheating partner.
I'm not sure if I can forgive and still be in a relationship with someone I love and trust if she cheat.

What if you were a man. An Alpha male at that. Will you still have

"NOTHING INCLUDING CHEATING AS A DEAL BREAKER?"

Or how will you handle cheating owning to the fact that women love with their hearts.
And to get a woman body, one must first get her heart?

Which can be interpreted as a woman cheating is more dangerous than that of a man.

I'm not yet married. But I have one hot bade like that that I broke her virginity as a fiance. I love her. But I'm scared if I can ever forgive her in case of cheating

nuti:
They are joking with a worse viral disease than ebola
We will see what it will be called

MonkeyVirus na

greatseed:
... Klop my brother nothing is proper in football.... A war is a war

No be lie. Anyhow na how

SweetCunt97:
A Man who truly loves you would not be comfortable asking you for sex... Yimu

Are you in any way equating sex with money?
That' must be some low thinking
Besides, women don't hustle to get their V each time as it is the case with money.

Unlike money, nature provide women with V and is always there.

This is why a girl that truly love her guy will never deny him sex whenever he wants it as long as she's healthy.

gbemishile:
Infidelity in marriage
Marry a virgin gan sef has its own issue

Issue like? Please I will like to know.
My fiance is a V

Blu03:
honestly. The guy is sex_starved...
After the first encounter, she should have learnt her lesson.

The op is also sex starved.
Even she wanted it badly.
But the fear of being used and dumbed won't let her

ubunja:
the way you start with a woman is how you end with a woman.

a woman who was a slay queen to her Ex will be a meek submissive woman to her Next. or vice versa. depending on what his current man wants from her.

a woman gives you the woman you ask for. that's the reason female sexuality is so flexible and malleable, so deep and incomprehensible, so broad and accommodating. it has to be. because so much is demanded of it. one man will want her to be a saint, another will want her to be a MILF and another will want her to be a goddess. a woman has to keep pulling out these personas from within herself becoming what is
desired on that day. re-inventing. Re-configuring. re-setting. as she changes men.

If her new man is a prude that yearns for an innocent clueless girl, she becomes an innocent clueless girl for him. she is giving him the prudish GF he's thirsting for.

the way a used second-hand computer comes with settings of the last owner from password to wallpaper to
colour scheme to font; so a girl comes with"personalized settings" from her EX from the way she dresses to the way she cooks to the way she moans in bed to the way she fvcks. and a girl does a system re-set and loads new settings as the new BF shows her how he wants to be
loved and pleasured. this is a one-time access to the System Settings that a man is granted especially at the
outset of the relationship. Modifying the settings later will prove difficult.


NOW, because a woman gives a man the woman he asks for at the start of the relationship, it becomes tricky for her when somewhere down the line she's asked to
re- invent herself again for the same man.

if a prudish man gets a GF, that GF powers down her own sexuality to be on the same gear with his sexuality, or even lower to give the man the illusion of sexual leadership that nourishes his ego. that woman has seen more and done much more but she does a system re-set and becomes her man's innocent little angel. BUT if that prudish man visits a hoe and has his mind blown then comes home asking for the same freaky styles from his GF he will find that his GF wont be so obliging.in her past the GF may have done worse than the hoe but the problem is that a woman can only give the man the woman he wants only once. for her to re-invent again "mid-flight" to be another woman to him will be a hard thing to do. she'll betray her past and prove she has always been a hoe. she cant swiftly move from a GF who's supposedly still learning to suck dick to a GF who's suddenly cool with 3sums. she cant. not with the same guy. her honour and respect is bound to the first image/impression she gave.

If she switches gears effortlessly then in his quiet time, in his mind, her man will add 1 and 1 and rightly conclude his woman has always been a hoe, on the down low. it may even be a trap her man is using to confirm her past. so she'll play it safe and decline to switch gears and they'll have a huge fight about it and maybe breakup over it. then the same girl will be doing those very 3sums with a new BF within a week...

How? because the new BF from the word go will tell her the type of woman he wants; and she'lll dig deep and manifest that woman.

and now her sexuality is set to"the GF who's cool with
3sums". and should that new BF become a Christian down the line and suddenly abhor 3sums etc he'll also find the girl unwilling to re-invent and re-configure. and
they'll break up.

the way you start with a woman is the way you end with her. if from the word go you were a pastor she'll give you the Pastor's Wife and should you want her to be a slut
down the line she wont want to change-even though capable. her sexuality with you has been locked to "pastor's wife" for better for worse.

a pastor's wife will never give him 3sums, not because she cant or never did them but because the pastor from the get-go asked for a decent woman so he got that; his wife cant re-configure again for him.his golden chance is gone. the pastor's wife would give others 3sums secretly but NEVER the pastor. if she gave the pastor the 3sums; in his quiet time, in his mind, the Man of God will add 1 and 1 and rightly conclude he married a hoe who has been pretending all along. and a woman will never allow things to get this far.not if she values her marriage.
#TheRedPill
#MGTOW.


CC:
SOFTDRINK
justiniyke29

Let me summarize this post in a sentence.
As a man, you are the one that will bring out the God or devil in a woman.

Omar09:
Honestly. They really need to put in more effort.

No amount of effort can save this situation. The reason is because women is a thing of the heart. It is not a thing of the head. The information you get goes to your head. But feelings is in your heart.
So no matter the level of information, there are people who can't handle women matter. For such people, they feel or see women as a big issue. And they act accordingly. Trying to help them is a waste of time.

Sometimes I wonder why people keep saying words like " Fear Women, You can't understand Women".

Usually, I'm like WTF!
The way to control external forces is to first control the once within yourself

Don't try to understand women. Understand yourself instead. That way, you will understand women. Another way is to let women try to understand you.

This is reverse psychology in action and it works every single time

Conner44:
Lights I hate the lights on when I f*ck. I don’t want to see your face, the rest I can do by touch and feel.

But truly, there’s absolutely no need for lights. Join me and hate it so you can have a wonderful sexperience.

The other thing I hate is hearing the words ‘harder-harder’, as if I resemble pneumatic drill

I like the light on. I want to see your face and full body shape. I don't want to be looking for that thing. But I equally enjoy light off. The only thing I hate is when I'm tired and she still wants more.
I can't come and be killing myself!

iLegendd:
Four years ago, a man called Chenzen registered on a forum called Nairaland. A week later, another man called iLegend came on board on that same forum.

Mr. iLegend noticed there were too many men having relationship issues on the Romance Section of Nairaland, so he started writing articles with his broken screen phone to educate these men how the dating game works.

As Mr. iLegend was teaching, Mr. Chenzen will come to his thread to attack him by saying, "All these dating tips don't work — they are rubbish — go and make money."

Mr. iLegend usually ignores him, but he never gave up. He continuously kept attacking.

Two years later, Mr. iLegend turned all his free articles to different books and started selling them.

Sadly, Mr. Chenzen, a Chinese deportee, came back to attack the young man selling his books by calling him poor and stupid. He said the books won't sell and nobody will buy.

When he noticed Mr. iLegend was making sales and showing screenshots on Nairaland, he said they are fake.

After showing lots of screenshots, he changed and said Mr. iLegend's books are copy and paste and anyone can find those contents on Google for free.

One day, Mr. iLegend crossed the millionaire mark by selling his books on Amazon and other international book stores.

Mr. Chenzen became depressed when he realized despite all his attacks, Mr. iLegend was moving forward and was making money on a regular basis even when he's asleep.

Yesterday, Mr. Chenzen couldn't hold his emotional meltdown any longer, so he deactivated. I'm sure he has drank sniper by now.

If he survives it and reads this post, he is going to come back to Nairaland, create a new account, and continue with his trolling.

I created this post for 7 reasons

1. Don't waste your time trolling a man who is focused like the Chinese man did — he, the person you're trolling, will laugh last
2. There is no need hating on people smarter or wiser than you — you're giving them a cool story to tell and this story told about you could be turned to a book and to money
3. Making money is not hard, but being disciplined and focused is
4. Nairaland is not just a place for fun only, but a place to create wealth and fanbase
5. Those who abuse you are pushing you closer to success
6. Don't take abuse online too seriously, but use it as motivation
7. If nobody abuses you, then you're a nobody

One of the core reasons I created this post is to bring Mr. Chenzen back so that he will continue wasting his time while Mr. iLegend continue making money.

Chenzen failed in his greenpill series because he is not focused and does not have a masterplan.

iLegend succeeded in this relationship book series because he was focused and had a masterplan.

Chenzen started posting on Nairaland before iLegend, but iLegend succeeded before him. This is to say, "It doesn't matter who comes first, but who stays undistracted till the end."

Those who refuse to prepare, prepare to fail.

I just want to make Mr. Chenzen popular now that is he gone as a way to bring him back to continue wasting away on Nairaland. Lol.

I wicked o! #Smile#FunTime

No 4 is so on point!
I'm a living testimony.
I can replicate it at anytime. I know the secret

donestk:
1. Overseas relationship: Separated by 000s of miles and time zone, your girl may be getting some cassava without you detecting. The 'helper' perhaps is aware of this huge distance and may be giving her even while on phone with you.

2. Long distance relationships: Lagos-Abuja, Owerri-Enugu or Jos-Kaduna also leaves a vacuum for her to be laid undetected.

3. Inter-LGA relationships: Same state but different LGA eg Lagos Mainland vs Island gulf validates cheating too.

4. NYSC girlfriend: Female corpers on national assignment are likely to have a coded helper in a far away land across Nigeria.

5. Postgraduate studies: Also seemingly responsible, female PG students sometimes get fond of course mates during lectures and tutorials and in rare occasion gets laid.

6. Office: A busy work environment also leaves females getting a bestie in the office. Slowly emotions trigger and boom shes laid.

7. Sales persons: A lot of our ladies now sell virtually, especially on the Whatsapp status. During delivery she may offer beyond the product advsertised.

8. Birthdays, bridal showers: When she attends a bridal shower, it may perhaps be an opportunity to be laid elsewhere undetected.

9. Trainings, conferences and workshops: This involves travels and accommodation in a far away state.

10. Social media: Your girl may be on Badoo, Inmessage, Tinder etc especially when your not a tech savvy guy.

Add yours

Cheating has to do with decision.
Close or far away, a woman who wants to cheat or decided to cheat will cheat without being detected.

Same way a woman who doesn't want to cheat or decided not to cheat will not cheat even if she's far away in another country.

iLegendd:
Please, I want to beg you in the name to God — we are not the same.

This young man has been on my case for years. Why? Envy. I was charging people 2k on certain a WhatsApp group, but he abused me that no one will pay. The more he sees my success stories and people paying, the more frustrated he got.

At a point, he realized how profitable relationship books were, so he started writing his. He sent me a message on WhatsApp to help him promote his books and take some share, but I declined. Later, he started spamming my WhatsApp with some Chinese links, so I blocked him.

He got angrier and worse in abusing me. At times, he will praise me, other times, he will abuse me. He was on and off.

I wondered the kind of depression he is battling with. He got even more frustrated and started creating threads under his old moniker called Chenzen. He started drafting and formating his posts to look like mine and at the end of his post, he will type "typing..." just as I used to.

He improved his article formatting, punctuation, and spelling just to look like mine. After months of frustratingly parading Nairaland impersonating me, he failed and started chasing a certain teenage girl. One day, she deactivated and he got heartbroken and deactivated too.

After some months, he missed Nairaland and its drama, so he ran back and created different accounts and MadeINChenzen is on of them.

No matter how he tries to type like me, you can easily spot the difference. He uses abbreviation a lot like ur for your. He starts lots of his sentences with lowercase letter, but I don't do that. At times, he punctuates poorly, but other times, he tries.

In fact, he is a fan of me who wanted to be close to me, but the way he approached it made me to restrain him and till today, he has been haunting me for not letting him into my heart.

So, please, don't mix it. If he abuses you tomorrow, you may come back and attack me thinking I was the one.

I'm begging you in the name of God, we are not the same. Some people have abused me of things I don't know of.

See his main deactivated moniker below. That guy needs some psychological help.

He will first of all tell you you're not intelligent and talk down on you.

The next is to envy you when he sees you're progressing.

The third one will be to imitate you to try to have your kind of success and fanbase, but if it doesn't work, he will finally come and crumble you with negativity and more abuse, then use his alternate monikers to attack you from all angles.

Who does that?

Fine then. I believe you brother man.
I checked with @MadeInChenzen2 and the account less than one month old.
Now, let me tell you, you make this whole thing looks suspicious that you are the same out of your responses.

You have been around here a little while, so you should be matured enough.

Now act maturedly by ignoring him entirely and watch his attacks die naturally.

Don't think that you will benefit from his attacks by keeping it alive because on the long run, it will affect you image negatively.

If I'm not mistaken, I have had my share of attacks from the original @ Chenzen before. He's actually a very proud fellow. But he's also smart and intelligent as well.

In my early days here when I was coming up, I use to apply the counter attack method until I found that silent treatment is the best weapon against attackers.

I know you are one of my true fan here, that's why I wasn't happy seeing you in this kind of situation.

I believe you are a real Legend. And there is more to being a real Legend than responding to everybody and anybody.

I'm Cosmic, I therefore send some positive energy to master situations to you.

southniyikaye:
what discord? The op and ilegend abi legend stout is the same person just looking for attention.. The op writes the same way legend stout writes his nonsense

The discord is staged.
But I think is not a good way to run things because it made innocent people to support one, and curse another ignorantly.
Look at how some people are now begging for nothing. And they are begging the same person.
It's bad. Very bad.
I know ilegend to be a hard working person. But I don't expect him to be doing this.

Badboibipo:
You see I'm sited here and I'm just reminiscing on my life in perspective. I am looking at the whole rollercoaster of my reality, trying to figure out how or when I got it all WRONG!
You see when people see potential in you, I mean a quality that makes you stand out from the crowd..a quality that's so glaring that anyone who lays eyes on you gets easily drawn to you. That to me is a very scary thing! I mean it could also be a very beautiful thing but in my case it became scary and now sour. I have two friends, two very attractive Male friends who have very identical realities as mine. They often get complimented about their looks, people gaze at them unerringly in the midst of a crowd, and everyone easily wants to start a conversation with them because at first glance they look like that one person you would love to hang out with daily. Now that is exactly my experience and perhaps why we are all friends because we all see that quality in each other when around each other. But here is the thing, that same quality to me is why we have all become delusional, lazy and very narcissistic in nature. We feel the world revolves around our feats and lack any real desire to become better. We often dream of a life of wealth, fame and adventure while doing almost nothing relevant about it. We all have no skills, talent or dregree. We just dream and because we look like what we dream about naturally we almost get lost in the idea that we are living our dreams each passing day..and yes society do their part in fuelling our delusions of grandeur. I am a fucking loser, a dreamer, a very intelligent and passionate Male who has got his whole life all wrong because he couldn't harness his potential for good.
Now what the Bleep is "potential", I wont bore you with the definition but u can look it up yourself. People often said I have potential, everyone saw something in me..everyone wanted to be around me or have a conversation with me. I got lost in all the attention and did nothing productive with my life, rather I dreamt of a life where I was king! Now look at me, sweating like a goat in my bed and wondering where the hell I got it all wrong at 30 years old. And the funny thing is people still treat me the same but these days I feel too old and wretched to even raise my stupid shoulders high. Bleep me, Bleep my stupid life.

You got it wrong at AMBITION.
That's why you fail to develop your potentials. Fix Ambition and you will find yourself acquiring skills, making plans and taking actions that will help you achieve your set goals.

It is not too late to start all over again.
Get some personal development books to help you awaken the giant in you.

Here are some recommendations from my personal library:

1. Think And Grow Rich -- Napoleon Hill

2. As A Man Thinketh -- James Allen

3. Goals -- Brain Tracy

4. The Science Of Getting Rich -- Wallace D Wattles

5. Laws Of Success -- Napoleon Hill

These books have the potentials to change your life forever.

You can download the PDF via Google

All the best brother

healthserve:
This is a deep thread only deep people can understand

The only people that will understand a thing on this thread are people with same or similar experiences.
This is the story of people who thought they will be somewhere at 30. Only to discover that they are nowhere at 31
So they wondered why they are still in such a state with all their visions potentials?

It is a deep thread no doubt.
But I think the problem is not the potentials.

For me, the real problem is one's level of AMBITION!
Being too ambitious can be very dangerous!