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Monicasque: the way i get bored when people make it seem as if marriage is everything in life

ireneidiva: Its time for me to comment. They said husbands are scarce. 'Husbands' not men. Men are everywhere but 'husbands' are scarce. It is pretty obvious from the all the craps guys on this thread have written and as we can all see, there is no resonable man on this thread and for the fact that a guy sat in his room or office and typed this unbeliveable shit, husbands are really scarce. I really don't understand this generation of guys infact, are this the kind of men we are supposed to marry? Guys suggesting polygamy? Tying four women to one man to satisfy his insatiable lust? Husbands are really scarce. Women pray hard! People putting their numbers and emails here, women are not desperate! We don't need it! We are just trying to say that this generation guys are too messed up to marry!!!

goodheart4God: Somethings couple take for granted, some people are favoured while others arent. I will say the good ones always end up with the bad ones. I can understand what the OP is passing through, that feelings as if u are not wanted or loved will always set it. In my case, I had thought over all the possibilities in this world. Whether hubby really loved me or not, why did he marry me or what. I must tell you I can't get an answer. Tried communication but it is like you are pouring water in the back of the hen. I have come to realise that you only know who you love and you can't determine the extent of their love for you. And you can't force people to love you back because you love them. People marry for different purpose, I married my hubby because I love him but I can't say the reason he married me. Sometimes I feel it is for child bearing and put the home front together, or rather have a wife that cooks your meals and satisfy you in bed. For me the emotional connection has wane gradually, I used to initiate but now I have stopped and we can stay over weeks or close to a month and he won't come and I won't. And when he eventually comes no romantic words, just rub here and there and he expects u to respond. God help us. People advise I pray, but can you really pray when your heart is heavy? @Op take heart keep on talking yours might change and remember to pray also. I honestly feel you pain cos I am in it.

ba_aliyah: Could there be a woman more frigid than my wife? I doubt. Met in school,courted for 10 years.Never initiated sex for once. She never enjoyed sex even seven years in to our marriage but I endured and tried my best. Now she is an expert, initiates and try styles.I bought many books read them together,watch romantic films etc.I also realized I was giving her when she was not ready. Enough has been said here,I believe u will come back to give testimonies. U are lucky there is a forum like this,I handled mine personally and succeeded,I wish u the best.