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Alexgman1:
NAIRALANDERS, There is this very pretty fair lady who lives nearby and always comes to my house to jist, watch DSTV, sometimes play scrabble & chess. As we attend thesame church.

But she doesnt reject drink or food each time i ask or offer to entertain her. Infact she now enters my kitchen freely.

How do I politely stop or reduce her almost everyday visitation? (because of food).

This pandemic is hitting me hard & its not getting funny.

It is possible that this lady likes you and enjoys your company beyond just the food. So you may want to check her body language to be double sure that this is not the case.

I say this because girls (the pretty ones), from what is common knowledge, would usually have a few reliable options where they could get some food supply and possibly other needs, as long as they are also willing to reciprocate the good gesture, pandemic or not.

But from your writeup, it is possible that you are no longer comfortable with her visits, probably because you are not really benefitting emotionally or physically from this and that is quite understandable.

Therefore, as a way out (if this is what you truly desire and not an amorous liaison), you may want to sit her down and let her know how her visits are making you uncomfortable, especially your fear of becoming amorously entangled or running out of food supply. If she insists, then let her know your terms, and what roles you would want her to play in this.

Being a church member also, any attempt to make her stay away would require a human face. So, you could help her out with some cash and food stuff if this wouldnt be too much for you.

You may also want to reassure her that you habour no ill feeling towards her and try emphasizing that things arent really going so well, hence the need for her to lay low for a little while.

Personally, I have been in sutuations where I didnt have much to eat due to not being paid for an extended period and those were very trying times. I sympathize with her.

Msy we not be found in situstions where poverty and hunger would deprive us of our humanity.

SaAyomikun:
Hi Nairaladers,

I've noticed these acen-like spots on my face since around 5 years ago. Then, I didn't pay much attention cause I was erroneously convinced into believing it was caused by eating too much oil. Well, I cut down my oil consumption totally and those spots remain there.

The shocking part is they exist only around my eyes. The remaining of my face is smooth except around my eyes.

I have used several ointments including Ytacan and Funbact- A, still no difference.

Recently, somebody prescribed an ointment called "RETIN-A" for me but before using it, I wish to seek advice from the good people of this forum.

Please, do I go ahead to buy the RETIN-A or there's a better option?
I need advice, please.

Filiform warts

Seek medical treatment or allow your immune system to defeat it over time

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321345

Stay humble or life will humble you.

just lol at your life if you are not already slaying at 16

My people—infants are their oppressors,
and women rule over them.
O my people, your guides mislead you
and they have swallowed up the course of your paths
Isaiah 3:12

Your brother is displaying neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behaviour. To put simply, he is autistic.

Just show him care and love. Thats all.

Happens to the best of us.

Oluromantic:
When u get the abroad masters finish, is it not money you will also use it to pursue?

Get that 3 million, put it in a bank with high fixed deposit rate. It shd yield about 150k for you every 30 days.150k ×12months in a year =1.8million or abt 1.5million due to unstable economy. In 2 years, you will have an additional 3million making 6million in total. You shd live with ur side hustle all along and not try touch the savings except if the interest is stably high or when necessary

With about 1.5million get a plot of land where people ply often(not necessarily in lagos), begin to build a hall or event center. In abt two years, with the interest on the remaining 4million, you would be renting out ur hall for 200k per event. Imagine renting it out 2ce in a week, that's 400k in a week and 1.6million in a month and in a year that's about 19million

What life is better than that?

You really have no grasp of what you're saying.

Anni3e:
It is what I plan on doing, I am setting aside funds for my kids I would tell him, I hate keeping secrets. At least he won't say I did not inform him.

Insanity

EricBloodAxe:
Guys hustle, save and invest your money. Stop being financial institutions to these broke girls. If you must sleep with a broke girl, hit once, pay and send her packing. Don't invest your emotions on these golddigging, cheap sex giving daughters of jezebel. It will only end in tears.

Words on marble

justine94:
no dictating. ..even b4 this issue came up...I know other guys chat her on fb asking her out saying they want to see her...I know all this. .I dey see am..but I just see it as normal stuff ...I don't own her so I can't say she should not talk to him ...but my question is ..is it right for your gf to still be in conversation with a guy who was giving her reasons to exist her relationship with the aim of asking her out. .which she nearly feel for...

For your mind now, your girl don't have a mind of her own,

What you have described above are the hallmarks of anti-social personality disorder. So, you could either be a psychopath, sociopath or just another self indulgent little priick.

pDudd:
Next tip: I have always been a Nigerian and I will be a Nigerian until I die. I will never burn my brother's cable. Anything that will help me to uplift my brothers, I will do it
So this brings me to the next point. Some of you want to know how to reach these women huh? Simple, use social media. Instagram and Facebook.

My advice to you is to go for the older ones. The ones in their 30s and 40s. The ones in their 50s have no oil left in their tank.

The ones in their 30s are desperate or have given up hope entirely and will pick anything that comes their way. The ones that have given up hope are better to get because they believe that men generally have no interest in them anymore but if you continue to holler them, they will begin to feel young and wanted again. Those ones will waste no time coming to naija to see you.

Also please do not form big boy for any of them. The more broke you are, the better. They just want a companion and someone who will love and be with them. They will take care of you cos they have money. Just tell them the truth and tell them your situation. Many of them have a soft heart and will pity you and want to make your life better just to keep you. So put your big boyism inside your pocket.

The ones that are in their 20s still have plenty of super visco static oil in their tank and won't have time for you. Don't go for those ones. You will just waste your time chasing them up and down on social media. I know they look good in the leggings and bum shorts but dont waste your time. Those ones are after niggas with tattoos and prison records.

High IQ

This is 2020 and a lot of guys probably haven't realized they no longer have the luxury of being picky.

This is what you get when you adopt a puritanical posturing on a hookup app. Deal with it.

autistic traits

For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life.
—Proverbs 6:21 [2]

uninspired07:
What kind of advice is this? Are they not supposed to be a team? Or do I have my understanding of marriage all mixed up cos I am confused with some of the advice I am seeing on this forum.

Op should settle his marital issue in house because we have different kind of people online whose advice will likely not bode well for his marriage.

Supposed you say. ideal and reality are two sides of a coin.

strungup79:
And favour/luck has no part to play? May you not work like an Elephant and eat like an ant.

This is clearly why your wife has turned against you. You are belittling her achievements by attributing it to favour and luck instead of acknowledging the efforts and hard work she actually put in to arrive where she is now.

You seem to also have an entitled mentality by expecting her to be nice to you just because you were nice to her in the past. Unfortunately, most humans aren't designed to function this way. Humans are naturally selfish and would think about self before any other consideration. Its how the specie have survived and thrived over the ages.

Yes you were nice to her but you would agree that there may have been some selfish undertone . I dare say that you were also doing that to satisfy some selfish cravings to own another human being or "my beautiful wife" as your put it.

Again, one would also want to believe that your wife bowed to you while you were lord of the manor. May be its time to also swallow your pride and let her dictate the tune now that she pays the piper.

Clearly, you've had your time in the sun and now that it's her turn to shine, you wouldn't want to be seen as being in her her.

So let go of your siege mentality and try to step up your game or you lay low and let her bask in adulation and fame that her breakthrough has brought on her.

uninspired07:
I keep saying that truth but they hate me for it.

All that red pill stuff won’t work on Nigeria girls. They are immune to it.

Man you must really have very chronic low self esteem if you actually believe only money will get you laid in this shitehole.

No doubt, money is a good thing to have and in some instances, will get you laid much quicker than Usain Bolt can finish a hundred meter race. But there are still tons of jobless but really hot guys who got different classes of hoez beating down barriers to come fvck them, money or no money. So, there must be a little extra something

You also seem to be mixing up red pill with pickup artistry, the later which has been disproved as just a clever ploy or craft to hoodwink desperate cuckolds and get them to part with their money.

For clarity, Red pill is about doing what feels right to you when dealing with the opposite gender, which include not letting any female/male to leech you of your hard earned finances in the name of love.

Red pill is about understanding that girls will lower their guards and fvck you if you're really good looking but will demand compensation, mostly monetary and make you pass through hoops if you're not much of a looker. With this vital knowledge, it would then be up to you to decide what is a fair exchange.

Newcastle 2 - 2 Emptyhad

See the real cream rise to the top.

Skepticus:
Exactly what I would do if I were in OP's shoes.

The girl is not just greedy, she's a whoré and I'll treat her exactly like that.

I wouldn't block her on WhatsApp nor create drama. If she comes around, i won't bother talking about how i met her with my client. I'll just fûck her like a whorè that she is till she gets tired. Seeing her with my client already puts her my friendzone.

It is better to let her go with the bad energy and leave space for a fresh start. Maybe the new guy truly loves her or is more attractive and livelier than the op which makes the op outgunned in the competition.

I'm sure the Op wouldn't also want to be seen as a poor comparison of someone else or being made to compensate financially (maga) in areas where he is deemed to be inadequate, hence the need to move on.

Respect55:
Freedom is really sweet. My silence is the beginning of my onw wrath. She doesn't exist to me anymore

Calm down op cos you're still at the denial phase of grief. maybe you should wait until you are able to make it through the other phases without bothering to contact her or wanting to get back with her, before it could be said that you have truly moved on.

CHoccolaTE:
More and more useless men crawling out of their caves everyday.

No wahala o, men

Your wives will start hustling to feed you and pay houserent but prepare to enter kitchen to cook her favourite food and be ready to share authority with her.

Shikena

You can't eat your cake and have it.

This favourite food you are talking about, are you saying the woman and her kids won't also eat out of it because You make it seem like the woman will just prepare the food for the man alone and the rest of the family will just watch him eat it.

If truth must be rold, it is the stay at home women and their children who get to consume all the favourite food when when its hot and freshest and steaming with delicious aroma, while Daddy only eats whats left when hes back from work, at which point the rest of the family would have all had their fill.

So please say something else because even a hired chef on a much lower maintenance budget can cook this so called favourite food and leave it all in the deep freezer for oga to do as he pleases.

maynation:
Yeah I was foolish but then it was all out of my good heart for real.


He looked to me like a honest innocent man and the only way I felt I could help when he needed it was through the accommodation.

I have learnt many lessons from this, after all nobody wise pass and we still all learn as each day passes by.

Shut the fvck up. You only accepted to help him because you genuinely believed he had a contract. I bet you would have fvcked him too if he really had some money to throw around or if the deal was legit.

lilwetdick:
see them boys here....everything is to beg and scam, if it doesnt work, na to call names...the typical naija men mindset.

first he acted all calm, puttiing the female on pedestals, all the messages from the boy was just lame, full of excuses, would have done so so and so if not that i am so so so and all those lies then after building trust, straight to begging for money for supposed contract, when no money came out straight to calling the female hole and all sort of names, funny he wanted to borrow money from a suppose hoe

i am sure, it is one of those pained nairaland afa male, they stink of scam, always needing women for support their broke ass...the idiot thought he will come to akure to receive some meat but he was showned his room...always keep a scamer in the dog house.

we need more expose from the women about behavior of little boys who call themselves all type of fancy names in this romance section, females need to start to shame these bllod suckers

sometimes, we need to say the truth the way it is. op's interest in the dude peeked the moment she heard about high sounding contracts. I'm sure that's the major reason she decided to accommodate him. Its the typical greed of the Nigerian girls. As soon as they realize you're blessed with some coins, they start to act all clingy and needy like some love sick puppy. If only the lad had some blinks to backup his talks, it would have been a different story altogether.

will it go for N1.2m.

Ibrahim505:
These charges will be indicated on the Treasury Bill certificate.
Commission: 0.125%
Custody Fee: 0.10% per transaction (per investment)
Transaction Fee: N100.00 per transaction (per investment)
VAT: 5% VAT on Commission, Custody Fee and Transaction Fees.

You are right.

Grupo:
Are you sure you know what you are saying? Custodian fee for 6m shouldn't be more than 5k.

I'm very sure of this. The guy showed me the bid on their screen and I saw N18k, and there were other charges as well but they were not part of the 18k. I told him to cancel the bid which he did and tore the paper.

Grupo:
Are you sure you know what you are saying? Custodian fee for 6m shouldn't be more than 5k.

I'm very sure of this. The guy showed me the bid on their screen and I saw N18k, and there were other charges well but much lower than this. I told him to cancel the bid and he did and tore the paper.

I tried to bid for Treasury Bills at Access Bank for their 324 days tenor with a 12 percent discount rate, but their N18,000 custodian fee put me off instantly. The upfront payment was about 620k and the principal is N6m. Is this a good deal?

This is what happens when you watch too much telemundo and not enough real life experience