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There is this one time a friend called to enquire if he could chill at my place for a while . This guy already built a house and sublet one of the rooms so I never expected he was going to overstay. Unfortunately, this dude ended up staying for over a month and still didnt want to leave. He told stories about how he sold his properties, how he gave out his matress and let out all the rooms because he was going to travel, he was duped, blah blah blah.
One day, he misplaced his key and a row broke out when he accused me of hiding it. I watched in calm as this guy mouthed off obscenities, relieved at last that I finally had a good reason to ask him to leave which he did the next morning.

However, his departure would soon serve as a prelude to another doleful turn of events.

We find ourselves in an era where cable ready wise cracks and viral badinage have taken over substantive policy discussions.

Every self respecting Nigerian is distancing himself from Tinubu.

The truth is that Tinubu is facing serious political and home problem and is in dire need of help which he does not deserve. This is why he is running around looking for validation from Northerners, after putting down respected Yoruba leaders.

It is unfortunate that Tinubu messed up a golden opportunity to turn the fortunes of this country by holding Buhari accountable to his promises of providing good governance.

If Tinubu had been faithful to his words, if he had been sincere to his party members and associates, everybody would have been rallying to make sure that he succeeds. But because of his vindictive style of politics, well meaning Yoruba leaders have decided to keep a safe distance from him because nobody wants to associate with a drowning person.

So Tinubu should gather himself and wobble to the battle front where he will be made to face the consequences of his actions and inactions.

Bodmum:
Wasted life, wasted gbola

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Jeon:
I am an ugly woman. Objectively, I really am. Please don't argue with me on this one, I am not overweight, actually in better shape than most women my age, I dress well, I am great with makeup. But last weekend the world just had to remind me that despite all this, people will go out of their way to kick me.
I don't often go clubbing, but Saturday night was a special occasion. A friend was celebrating her 21st, and it was also the weekend after a long week of brutal exams. It felt like a good time to blow off some steam. Because I don't often go clubbing, I really tried this night to look nice. There was an outfit that I had bought a long time ago, but that I'd never worn because it was a little sexier than what I usually wear. A close friend had picked it out for me when we were shopping, and, in that "you go girl" kind of way had urged me to buy it. I did my makeup painstakingly, straightened my hair which always takes forever because my hair is huge, put on that too-sexy-for-me outfit. And when I looked in the mirror I was even surprised at myself. "Wow, is that me? I actually look...nice!"
I showed my friends. They all said I looked great. And they MEANT it too. Like, genuine happy encouragement. I could tell they were sincere and it made me feel so good, like for once I wasn't just masquerading as an attractive girl with fancy makeup and clothes, but that I WAS the attractive girl. I hadn't felt so attractive in ages, Reddit.
When we got to the club, we got a nasty surprise. We had been told that tonight there was no cover charge for girls, and so none of us had brought much cash on our person. Well, our info was wrong. They did indeed ask for a cover. Only one of us 6 girls had cash, and she only had enough to cover two people. When we got to the door and found this out, a group of guys behind us volunteered to help us out. They each forked over a couple of bucks to cover my friends, but not one of them offered to cover me. One by one my friends were let in and they waited on the other side of the door until everyone got through. The guys were doing everything to avoid eye contact with me. They were looking at the ground, the street, pretending to look through their wallets for cash to cover one more girl. It was so painfully obvious that I felt like just going home. Luckily, my friend with the extra cash covered me so I was allowed in.
Well, once we were inside I thought I could just forget about that incident. I had dressed up and come out, to have a good time and relax. So for a while I danced with my friends. It wasn't long before other guys started dancing with us. We kind of paired off slowly, there was a guy whose two buddies had started dancing with other girls and he was left alone. At that point I too had lost track of my friends and was alone. He started dancing with me, but the whole time he seemed really distracted. Not once did he really look at my face, he was kinda looking around the club the whole time, like he was browsing the scene for another, more attractive girl he could bounce to. In less than 10 minutes, he had seen one. He peaced out without a word, and I saw him dancing a few minutes later with a very attractive brunette. The way he acted with her was just SO different than when he had danced with me. He was face to face with her, smiling, dancing enthusiastically.
That made my stomach drop. I went to the bar, found one of my friends who was sitting there with a guy. She introduced us, he bought everyone drinks. After a while I felt like a bit of a third wheel so I went back to the dance floor. Eventually my group of girls regathered together. Everyone had a guy, except for one of them who had a bf at home. So I danced with her, with our friends and their guys near us.
There was a photographer going around the club, taking pictures of the people there. I assume it was for some promo for their website or something. He got to our group, and literally circled us several times, taking several pics from different angles. I was kind of psyched about this, so I did my best to look like I was having a good time, made sure he could snap me at my best. But after a while I realized he wasn't circling us to get our best angles. He was trying to get a frame without ME. If I moved closer to the center of the group, for instance, he would tilt his camera a little the other way. I couldn't believe it until finally, he actually came up to me and asked me to get out of the shot.
I felt so ugly right then. For all the effort I had put into looking and feeling good that night, it seemed like it just didn't matter. So the night ends with me leaving the club. My friend with the bf at home who was dancing with me left with me so I wouldn't be alone. The rest of my girl friends didn't notice what had happened with the photographer, so when they asked me where I was going I just told them I was tired and wanted to go home. And since I wasn't leaving alone, they let me.
So yeah, that's my story from the weekend.
Please be kinder to ugly people, Reddit. Maybe one of the people I met that night will read this post and recognize themselves. I hope so, if only so they can know how behavior they're barely conscious of can affect someone else.

You just copied a Reddit post and you're passing it on as your personal experience. You couldn't even edit the apart where it is addressing the Reddit community. Is here Reddit? Dumb chik.

TheGidRedpiller:
@Curvinus It takes time for you to fully understand that your sister's husband is on the verge or has already lost his place in his home. You will soon understand that your sister no longer respects him as the husband, forget the perfect family illusion they are pouring out for you and others to see in public, there is already an 80% possibility that your sister is mistreating her husband at home. Understand this fact or you can just ignorantly leave it.

Do you even understand what it means to be a man and a husband in Africa? As a husband in this part where wealth is concentrated mostly in the hands of men, it is your traditional role to bring home the bacon except you want your family to starve to death. Whether you think this is fair or not is a different issue entirely.
So, in this society of ours, a man leaves himself open to scorn when he fails in his responsibility of providing for the family.

Everybody knows how tough it is to survive in this country, hence why many people are delaying marriage and relationship. But when you start one, you shouldnt complain when the billing starts. It is what obtains here except you want to be sent your own way.

Even you as a person, how do you feel when you are unable to provide for your basic needs? Happy?

OP I think you are taking this redpill talk to an extreme and toxic level that may end up consuming you. To put things in perspective, Redpill is not the same as hating women. Its like you've never been cared for by women, hence the bitterness.

Personally, I've benefitted a lot from women so I dont go about bashing them needlessly. However, there are the entitled class of women who want to exploit you without contributing meaningfully to your life. It is this lot that redpill teaches you to avoid.

A lot of women in our society today are bread winners for their families. My own sister has been the one catering for her family since she got married in 2012. Her husband is unemployed and she even tried raising money for him to go into agro business bwhich didnt turn out well. I lent her some money to start up her own business after she got fired working as sales attendant in a pharmacy and today she has opened a business for her husband from the proceeds after repaying part of the loan.

I have a lot of respect for Nigerian women because of what they go through on a daily basis in this weird system we are operating. Nigeria is a known poverty capital. What did you expect that the women will lie down and rot without trying to survive. Men and women are at the receiving end of this harsh economic climate and it's pointless just bashing women endlessly.

A lot of this women, what they want from a man is just commitment that could lead to marriage and once they are in a relationship with you, they do everything within their powers, like washing, cooking, cleaning, sexing and some even spending on you just so you could end up as couples and start a family. But In the end, most men will still leave them for a younger and prettier girl.

I think you are too detached from what is happening in the trenches to make valid contributions on this redpill talk.

Shebi they'll pay him retirement benefits, including the contributory pension. He should look to invest it in something profitable.

@60, hes rather too old to be seeking paid employment.

Fair words butter no parsnips

Probably concealed narcotics

freshalien:
Has Pep won the CL since leaving Barca? He hasn’t even smelt the final of that competition since leaving Barca. There you go, you have your answer.

You might want to cross check your facts.

For the records, Chelsea and Mancity played the last CL finals.

Like your name suggests, it seems you have been hiding under a stone.

Once your wife starts earning higher than you, just know it's over, except you're willing to overlook so many things that you ordinarily wouldnt tolerate, including having to constantly walk on egg shells and turn deaf ears to gossips.

I know about a man who was unemployed and the wife worked in the same place as me. Then one day, somebody messaged him about how he didnt have a wife cos the lady was busy philandering in the office. Nigger couldnt even confront his wife but went and reported to his family who later turned the heat on the wife. When I spoke to her about it, she blamed it on the hardship but didnt really seem remorseful.

Another instance was when my former boss told a story about a certain time that he was low on cash and he asked the wife to assist in paying the kids school fees. He said the wife's attitude during that period made him vow never to ask her for any financial favour again.

My other boss who is now retired but whose wife is still a senior staff and even drives flashy cars was also adamant about how a man's respect in the home front was highly dependent on his financial prowess. Although the wife is rich and career oriented, he said majority of the family expenses were borne by him at the time.

Also while growing up, I noticed that many of the women who had government houses allocated to them in the neighbourhood didnt really live together with their husbands even though they had been married before. One practically drove the husband away and warned him never to show his face again.You didnt really need to look hard to understand why.

So based on personal experience and anecdotal evidence, it is safe to surmise that living together with a wife who earns higher than you. is indeed an uphill task and may not be one for a man with a lot of ego.

Irijosa777:
She earned more than me I agreed but don't forget I also gave her money for take care of herself, don't forget I also borrow her money to support her business.
Is not about the money guy, she is finally independent same goes with me. I can bet you that the person that she is currently engaged to doesn't earn more than me.

Okay, maybe the guy the nack am and he don give am belle. Just suck it up and move on.

Better move on. Just six months and you started proposing, introducing and acting like a love sick puppy. It shows you needed her more than she needed you. Abi na her phat salary you been wan chop ni

How an average guy expects to get love from a biitch who earns way more than him in this modern days where hypergamy is the rule is the height of stupidity.

Stop simping fools.

Due to the effects of childbirth which could be a very painful and traumatic experience for women, including other premodial subjugations that are seen today as a debasement of the woman, they have an abundance of the feel good hormone - oestrogen to help them cope with pain.

But the effects of oestrogen also need balancing and this is where bad boys come into play.

Nice guys, on the other hand are doing for women what the oestrogen hormone is already designed to do for them and their actions could trigger an overdose of the feel good effect.

However there is also the other angle of genetics which is also a predominant factor in mate selection. In this regard, good looks are often associated with healthy genes and one would find that the so called bad boys are usually people of superior genetics who women of lower class are ever willing to submit to, regardless of thier behavioural patterns.

In most cases, these bad boys do not really like the inferior women but because they also provide a need for mating as well as other uses of immediate gratification, they allowed to be a part of the harem.

I think the NDIC MD according to this report is trying to allay the fears and concerns of depositors about whether the NDIC has capacity to cover the deposits in all bank accounts up to the tune of 500k.

To this end, the MD said about 99.4 percent of bank accounts have less than 500k in them, meaning that covering these accounts with miserly sums domiciled in them will not constitute any problem for the NDIC.

So, the assertion that 99.4 of bank account holders in this country have less than 500k in their accounts is very correct. It is really a pitiable situation which shows how degradingly poor majority of Nigerians are at the moment.

This why you see many empty houses all over the place mostly in big cities because only the few people who have access to public funds can afford to build these houses, while the vast majority of the people are clustered in slums and outskirts of the city.

It is what you have in Abuja with most people living along the Abuja/Keffi Nasarawa axis while decent accommodations in estates within the city centre, away from the endless traffic gridlocks and absence of basic infrastructures remain empty with no occupants.

Fiscus105:
On nairaland, only few reason out of box, most especially guys, maybe age factor or because nairaland is a faceless forum, but I think you re one of "extreme few individual among males here that speaks the way it's.

None of guys has endeavored to ask, how the girl behave that warranted abuses?

What are the other good thing the guy is good at that endeared him to her?

Even the poster. Who knows, if he can't stand on his feet as a capable guy? Perhaps, that was why he resorted to pampering. Meanwhile, he might be doing that cos it was only where he could convince the girl, since the so called abused guy is superior to him in all fronts.

The last time I checked, pampering alone would not by Pampers and pay bills

Of course your observation is very apt. Why would anyone choose to be nice when they can get away with being mean?

Op, I get that you are trying to cope with the loss of a loved one, but to say women do not know what they wan,t based on this incident alone, is quite overreaching and sounds like sour grapes to me.

I believe women know what they want and in the case of your ex, she has gone back to who she really wants more than she could possibly want you.

It is possible that the guy also tickles her fancy and gives her extreme pleasure in ways that you never inpire. The guy may also have better financial prospects than you at the moment.

I'm just saying that so many factors beyond your control may have played a role in this.

However, if it becomes clear to her that she could never attain her desire of locking down her abusive mate, I expect her to come calling on her second best.

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As far as i'm concerned, monarchies are an ancient relic that has no place in modern society.

See this mumu, as if he too won't tif government funds.

Op your headline is wrong and misleading. Abaribe never said these separatist groups are in the southeast alone.

From the words of Senator Abaribe which is also in quote, “There are more than 30 different separatist organisations, apart from IPOB.

“Why we are having agitations in different parts of Nigeria is that we aren’t able to manage our diversity.”

It is clear from the above that Abaribe never stated these separatists groups are in the south east alone. Rather, he inferred that these groups are spread across the country.

There are the likes of PANDEF, Afenifere the MEND, Ilana Omo Odua and the Jihadi terrorists like ISWAP, Boko Haram, and so many others.

Your heading is a foolish attempt at mischief making.

@Seun, kindly instruct your biased mods to correct the misleading headline.

Made man

According to a report I read earlier about this case, the police had been accused of withdrawing money from Obinna Echiannu's bank account while he was in custody. This prompted the trial Judge to order an investigation and prosecution of those found culpable.

Unfortunately, the trial Judge was satisfied that the police proved a case of armed robbery and murder against Obinna Echianu beyond reasonable doubt.

The judge had also directed that a Sienna car and revolver purportedly recovered from the convict be forfeited to the federal governent, while the handset of the slain Uber driver also found on him be returned to the late driver's family.

The two accused persons had pleaded not guilty to the crime. Nnorom was freed. Obinna wasnt.

Although this remains in the realm of conjecture, it is possible that Obinna may have been roped in by the Slain Uber driver's phone found in his possession, throwing up the possibility of the case of buying a stolen phone.

Consequently, Obinna could also be a victim of miscarriage of justcie.

It is possible he may have found prison life quite unpleasant beyond his endurance and with no hope or belief of ever getting out, he gave in to despair and committed suicide (the later part is doubtful though as most death row prioners will fight to the teeth to stay alive through court appeals).

May his soul rest in peace.
https://naijagists.com/armed-robber-kills-uber-driver-edwin-ali-abuja-death-sentence/

Britfault's law in full play here

Expresswriter:
When a relationship starts on a high note of excitement or when a relationship begins way too fast with both partners always being in each other's world all the time

Chances are that it won't last.

I commend you for not accepting her back.

Never, ever accept a woman who dumped you for another guy.

She's not coming back because she has realised her mistake but because you're a supply to her-- a supply that gives her attention.

Narcissists are fond of displaying this type of trait.

They use people and dump them.

When the people they dump heal and start doing great again, the narcissist will try coming back.

Never accept such people back into your life.

Ignore them.

Ignore her.

Never allow memories of the good times you had with her becloud your reasoning into accepting her.

Those were faked acts.

Narcissist are good at mirroring.

They study you quickly and know so much about you in a short time then they begin to do, say, act the way you'd want them to.

Avoid them. They're actors with an evil heart.

When you look up the definition of narcissism, you would see that almost everbody displays or has the tendency to display the traits mentioned one way or another - grandiose sense of self, fragile ego, preoccupied with thoughts of unimaginable wealth etc. Makes one wonder if the word narcissism isnt being used as substafuge to cover for our own inadequacies and weaknesses.

I say this because reasons abound that could compel a partner to exit or want to exit a relationship - ranging from looks, money problem, boredom, incompatibility, status and so much more.

However, when talking about narcissism, all these factors are often ignored and the entire blame is placed on the narcisistic personality syndrome.

So, I tend to think of narcissism as just word we use as a coping mechanism when our affection is not reciprocated in the way that we might have strongly desired rather than an anti-social personality disorder.

These are just my own thoughts based on personal experience and anecdotal evidence. They are not backed by scientific facts though.

You want to put money into waters?